This channel is dedicated to all those brave fellow 'adult survivors of child sexual abuse'. You are not alone out there, you are believed and supported in finding your voice & handing the shame back to the abusers - where it belongs. Each week I will add another interview with a 'fellow survivor' to help support our community in finding their way to truth and freedom, which only real truth can bring. Please feel free to reach out if you would also like to be a guest on the show. About Me: I ...
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Bay Area native, Charmane is sharing her perspective Through Brown Eyes. Charmane’s world is full of youthfulness, insight, fun and truth. She has created a space to talk about black culture, academia, relationships, health (mental, physical & emotional), entertainment and whatever else. It is important that we educate ourselves so that we can make a greater change in the world around us. A way to educate is through meaningful conversation. In the black community and others, we dont talk abo ...
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Purity If you are a survivor who emerged from a strict religious sect or background, you are not alone. The conditioning around purity, virginity and innocence was intense. The message was clear, purity was everything, anything else was dirty, sinful and evil. As a survivor of abuse, please know your heart and soul was pure, has been pure and is st…
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Meet Heidi Olson Forensic nurse. Business owner. Coffee lover and outdoor enthusiast. Heidi did not feel seen growing up. She was first abused at 2 years of age, and experienced several instances over the years with different abusers. She believes this (in part), occurred because of the ongoing and unresolved intergenerational trauma her parents ex…
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Tips for Supporting Survivors #47: Self-esteem
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Self Esteem When you know your survivor is not feeling good through the way they are behaving or the words they are using, through not validating themselves or putting themselves down, please counteract this, as this gives them an opportunity to make the link between their behaviour and the childhood relationships they had, where they were not valu…
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Meet Allen Goodall He is a Survivor, training to be a peer support worker and runs mens support groups. He experienced sexual abuse beginning at age of 3. He eventually recognised that the fear of public speaking/panic attacks was linked to the abuse as in he was threatened to keep silent in many ways. He now speaks out! You can reach out to Allen …
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Connecting the Dots Making sense of behaviour we use as adults that we know doesn't serve us is hard, but there will be a connection to the past in there. We can often unknowingly replicate our childhood conditioning. The tip is look at the behaviour now that doesn't serve or work for you: Using a therapist, track it back to your childhood. I promi…
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Meet Allen Goodall He is a Survivor, training to be a peer support worker and runs mens support groups. He experienced sexual abuse from the age of 3 and was threatened about ever speaking out. He now does so fully and freely due to the want and desire to end the demons, and to give other men some hope. You can reach out to Allen at allgoodie011@ou…
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Your memories emerging when your child turn the same age you were when the abuse began is much more common than you may imagine. It is also frightening. Triggers are released and it can feel the nightmare is happening all over again. This is even more so when your child is the same gender you are. There is a way through this, have a listen to how i…
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Meet Justine Dean Coach, Mentor, Confidante From the age of 3, Justine experienced many abusers throughout her childhood and teenage years. Her mother seemed unable to support her through this. When Justine was 5 years old and being molested by her 12 year old male neighbour, her mother screamed at her; 'What did you do?' Don't miss this profound i…
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What about me? If you are the child of a narcissistic parent, it would have been almost impossible to be given any space, comfort or protection. There was no room for you as this child. You had to take on another role to have a connection with them. Listen to the full clip to understand where to from here. Go to our website for more information on …
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Meet Justine Dean Coach, Mentor, Confidante Justine experienced many abusers throughout her childhood and adolesence. You can reach out to Justine at Justinedean.com HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rain…
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Tips for Supporting Survivors #46: Healthy Bonds
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Healthy Bonds Your survivor having healthy and transparent relationships is of course, optimum. When this is not so, you will see their behaviour change in order to be accepted. This is a form of toxic bonding: arising from the abuse, and their needs not being met as children. (All you need to do is gently point it out, and let them know you have t…
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Meet John Cardamone He is a Survivor, Educator, and Speaker from Victoria in Melbourne. When he was between 6-7 years old he was abused by a family member. When his son became that age, John became really anxious and concerned about his safety and eventually recognised he was being triggered by his own history of abuse. You can reach John on: https…
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Triggered by children This is very common for parents who are survivors. When our children (of the same sex as us) turn the age we were when the abuse began, the amount of triggering this results in is almost indescribable. Memories start to flood in and become overwhelming. This is vindication and validation of what you went through. Try to protec…
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Meet John Cardamone He is a Survivor, Educator, and Speaker from Victoria in Melbourne. When he was between 6-7 years old he was abused by a family member. When he told his mother, she believed him instantly and from that point on, he was kept safe. Looking back he sees, that his parents were groomed as well You can reach John on: https://www.linke…
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Survivors The real you was unable to withstand the abuse, so the false self stepped up to help, and is what you used to to cope with the trauma.Through your recovery, you will find that one of the biggest challenges is in both finding and reclaiming you. Although it sounds really scary, once done the power behind it will embolden you. Go to our web…
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Welcome to Part 2 of Jeanie Dean's interview. She is an Expert Witness | Safeguarding Safety Risk Expert | Trauma Informed Investigator and specialist interviewer and Trainer | Managing Director at Safeguarding Solutions Australia. The impact of her abuse began a healing journey leading into researching why sex offenders do what they do.This became…
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The real me How we had to adapt to survive our child sexual abuse and who we became as a result is not necessarily who we 'really' are. Perhaps still lurking within is that 'false' self. You may recognise that, in those situations that are especially challenging, where you default back to that small child and agree or give way. There is hope to cha…
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From Melbourne Australia, a warm welcome to Jeanie Dean, who is an Expert Witness | Safeguarding Safety Risk Expert | Trauma Informed Investigator and specialist interviewer and Trainer | Managing Director at Safeguarding Solutions Australia. She grew up in a family of violence, and was sexually abused at the age of 15 by someone known to the famil…
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Tips for Supporting Survivors #45: Encouragement
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Encouragement Your survivor may feel weary and down at times about their history of child sexual abuse. Though expected and normal, they may need some encouragement at times. An effective way is to come up with 3 things that would help lift and shift their mood thereby giving them something else to focus on. Go to our website (see below) for more i…
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Luke Wiersma Meet this brave Survivor who runs Leaderboard Meetings for Survivors of child sexual abuse. Luke was abused by an older woman as a teenager, and used drugs and alcohol as a way to cope. Eventually he got fed up with drinking and passing out everyday, so began using advocacy as a way to out of the vicious cycle. You can contact Luke thr…
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Self Advocacy Is one way of having your own back and looking after you The three components to this are: to understand what your needs are, to know what might help to support to those needs. and lastly to be able to communicate those needs. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coachin…
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We're Taking A Break. Here's Why... | Ep. 61
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This was a bittersweet episode to record... But we wanted to bring you into our real, raw, still-in-progress process "behind the curtain" on why we're taking a break, when we're planning to be back, as well as what we're excited about next and share with y'all in the meantime! Follow us on Instagram: https://instagram.com/withthetrans Join our emai…
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Luke Wiersma Meet this brave Survivor who runs Leaderboard Meetings for Survivors of child sexual abuse. Luke was abused by an older woman when he was a teenager, he was manipulated and controlled and began using drugs as a way to cope. The abuse continued until he was 18 years of age, at which time she considered him to be too old. You can contact…
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Survivors As it wasn't safe to use your voice as a child, it can feel very important to you to use it today. Honour that within you, there is a part of you that wants to, No, needs to be heard. This will always be a subliminal desire whether you know it or not. This is also a crucial and non negotiable part of the healing process. Go to our website…
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When You Don't Get What You Pray For - Pain, Anxiety, Unanswered Prayers with Joe Oh | Ep. 60
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How do you navigate unexplained trials and unimaginable tragedy... while still trusting and following God? Today we're joined by our friend Joe Oh, who is a Performance Coach, Speaker, and Educator for a very personal, vulnerable, and heartfelt conversation. Join us for both tears and laughter as we dive deep into: How generational inheritance impa…
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Brinn Langdale continued... Therapist. Speaker. Writer Abused by her brother 2 and a half years older than her, from 4 till age 15, Brinn was 18 before the truth finally came out. Her mother chose to support her brother over her, partly due to his heroin addiction. As a result, Brinn felt less supported. You can reach Brinn through the wholistic ap…
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Leading a double life As children who were being abused, we still had to go to school, play sport and carry on as though everything was fine. No one could know what was going on, so in essence we were leading a secret or double life. As adults this can sometimes still be present, in us. Please check in with yourself by responding to this question: …
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A Vulnerable Convo on Generational Trauma, Finding Your Calling as Asian Americans - John Chen | Ep. 59
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It's not every day you see two grown Asian American men unpack their generational trauma. Today, we're joined by John Chen, Founder & President at ABOUND Education and Life Coach, as he and Alex dive deep into a raw, vulnerable, and insightful conversation (and a mini impromptu LIVE coaching session) about their experiences, struggles, and lessons …
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Meet Brinn Langdale Therapist. Speaker. Writer Abused by her brother 2 and a half years older than her, she had thought they were best friends. The abuse began when she was 4 years old and continued till she was 15. The disclosure at age 18, was to change her life and that of her whole family. You can reach Brinn through the wholistic approach to h…
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Tips for Supporting Survivors #44: Holding the space
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Holding the Space This is about you. When supporting survivors we can end up depleted or overwhelmed or even fed up. That's okay, and to be expected. Allow yourself to have some space for you, a bit of time away or some self care. EG, Playing footy, doing an art class. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as you're feeling refreshed and repleted. …
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From STRESSED Corporate Workaholic to RELAXED Pregnant Entrepreneur (TESTIMONY) | Ep. 58
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Meet Neil Milton - Part 2 GM of Child Safe Australia, and founder of the Table Talk Project. Neil was abused by an older child at his school, which carried on from 10 to 13 years of age. He never felt he had a voice growing up, and eventually realised, later in life, that he always chose work which reflected 'looking to have his voice heard'. Don't…
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I am enough We struggle with this, because what was taken from us among other things was: pride, self-love and feelings of self worth. What arose instead was a feeling of deep lack, as in 'I am not enough'. But please note: You were always enough, You always have been enough. You are still enough. Go to our website (see below) for more information …
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Is Your "SELFLESSNESS" Actually Self-NEGLECT? Warning Signs & Practical Tips | Ep. 57
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Meet Neil Milton - Part 1 GM of Child Safe Australia, and founder of the Table Talk Project. Neil was abused by an older child at his school, which carried on from 10 to 13 years of age. When it first began, he told his mother what was happening, but because she responded with 'they were just experimenting', Neil felt he had no option but to accept…
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Dilworth Exposé Meet Neil harding who is leading the class action against Dilworth school for the deliberate and planned sexual abuse of boys in their care. Self described as father, grandfather, Dilworth survivor, Chiropractor, crusader for justice accountability and a safer world, finalist NZ Herald “Heroes for 2023”, Neil has been trying for 6 y…
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Confessions Of A Christian Female Corporate Executive with Peggy Bodde (SVP, 25 Years) | Ep. 56
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🚨⌛ Get the FOUNDERS' BONUS for Rhythms of Grace 🌊 Unlock LASTING FREEDOM from chronic work stress, overwhelm, & anxiety to thrive from a place of sustained PEACE, PURPOSE, & JOY! Join our transformative 12-week cohort-based group coaching program + signature course, with the loving accountability + support from us as your coaches + a consistent coh…
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Survivors If for any reason you carry guilt about what happened to you, you are not alone, we were all conditioned to feel this. Whichever way you were groomed into thinking it was your fault, was done with one goal in mind, to have you carry the responsibility so they didn't have to. Their intent was to make sure you held that load, and as a child…
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"Do We Need Therapy If GOD Can Heal?" | Therapy, Anxiety, & Faith with Christian Therapist Dr. Courtney Miller | Ep. 55
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Tess Gonzales - Part 2 Christian. Survivor. Advocate. Tess suffered incest at the hands of her mother, who drugged her. She was eventually abused by her brother as well. Throughout her childhood, she felt unable to fit in. She was close to her grandmother, and found that volunteering at a local rest home was key in helping her to navigate her way t…
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For survivors everywhere, we can sometimes we feel we don't fit in with others, in part because our experience was very different to theirs, and trying to explain it is challenging. This was also true of us as children, and is to be expected. If you are struggling with this and it's feeling big, maybe consider that: 'In the not fitting in you are t…
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"I Can't FEEL God... What Do I Do?" with Reigha Tencer | Ep. 54
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Meet Tess Gonzales - Part 1 Christian. Survivor. Advocate. Tess not only suffered prolonged Incest by mother but was drugged throughout as well. Her brother, 41/2 years older than her, was also abused by her mother. Unfortunately he then chose to sexually abuse Tess ensuring home was never a safe place for her. Watching this story will not leave yo…
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Tips for Supporting Survivors #43: It's not their fault
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Its' not their fault The survivor in your life, may still feel its their fault, that somehow they caused the abuse to occur. Although to you , it may seem unusual they feel that, please understand: as children they were conditioned to believe they were wrong, and actually caused it. They didn't have ability to understand they were being lied to and…
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The TRUTH About Being Christian Podcasters (Celebrating 1 YEAR!) - Asian American Voices, People's Opinions, True Success | Ep. 53
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[🎁 Don't miss our CELEBRATION GIVEAWAYS below!] This week we're celebrating our 1-YEAR PODVERSARY!!! 🎉 It's hard to believe that a year's flown by since we first launched this podcast... since then, God's used this platform to impact literally thousands of people in ways we can't even see, support and amplify tons of incredible guests, and taught a…
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Meet Scott Beard at NZ Police He is a Detective Inspector with the New Zealand Police, leading several teams including: the child protection team, the child exploitation team, the child sex offender management team and the adult sexual assault team in Auckland city. His insights and knowledge help support survivors and children everywhere within NZ…
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Meet Mike Chapman - Part 2 From the age of 3, he was abused by his father and then trafficked to others. Through research and dedication Mike was able to find a 12 step group which he found helpful, as well as using the arts which access right brain neural pathways. Dealing with shame and guilt were some big challenges for him as is common in most …
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It's not your fault! For some survivors, they still carry a feeling that what happened to them was their fault. No! It was never your fault. The adult who abused you knew exactly how to groom you: threaten, bribe, manipulate and target. The fault 100% belongs to them. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if…
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Anxious At Work (Or Life)? Use These 3 Secret Strategies That People DON'T Tell You... | Ep. 52
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Struggling with chronic anxiety and stress at work? Whether it's being buried under never-ending workloads, looming deadlines, or constant indecision, most of us are NOT strangers to anxiety at work... Join us as we dive into three POWERFUL strategies (that are usually overlooked) to combat workplace stress and anxiety HEAD-ON. We hope these practi…
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Meet Mike Chapman - Part 1 From the age of 3, he was abused by his father who had other victims as well. His mother had never wanted children, his father convinced her to, and up until Mike was 8 the abuse continued. Mike believes he was conceived for this father's purpose of abuse, until he aged out, at which point his father left the family. You …
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