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Concrete DIY Data on how to be a great Dad, how Moms can be empowering and how together they can have a fabulous family. As a father, husband and marriage & family therapist I have done a lot research on how to be empowered dad. So much of the parenting information is for mothers. This podcast and www.FullFrontalFatherhood.com is directed towards the challenging & amazing life of fatherhood. There is also lots of information for Moms, because to be the best Dads we can be, we need your help. ...
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Sexism & Parenting. Protect Your Girls & Boys.
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The Problem We all have powerful ideas about how men and women should be, how boys should be and how girls should be. Unfortunately, these ideas cause us to raise our kids in limited ways that affect their whole lives. While girls are often told they can’t be politicians, boys are often told they can’t be dancers. We all know that this isn’t true a…
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Raising a teenager is inherently crazy-making. If you look at a teenager on some psychological tests, they will actually score as psychotic! A healthy teenager’s emotional intensity and fluctuations actually mirror a crazy person’s. The complete rewiring of the brain that occurs throughout the teenage years leads to a lot of emotional sensitivity a…
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Top 5 Most Important Things Parents Should Do
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Today I want to cut to the chase and give you the five most important things that you should do as a parent. #5 Our Attention (at least for a few minutes!) Number five is to give your kids some regular, undivided attention. I know this can be difficult on top of our already busy schedules, but what I am talking about is simply 10 minutes at a time.…
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Having a well behaved child obviously makes parenthood a lot easier. Today I want to give you the top five things that you can do and not do to have a well behaved child. Let me start by exploring what I mean by “well behaved.” A healthy child needs to rebel against us, protest our boundaries, insult our character, and even say things that make us …
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Screens & Kids – A Radical Vision of Balance
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Obviously, it is really tempting to want to give our phones and tablets to our kids because it gives them the perfect babysitter. They are completely taken care of and we can go on and have our adult conversations and do what we need to do. Parenting is so hard that we need breaks and so sometimes we have to do it, but in my cost benefit analysis, …
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Today I want to cut to the chase and give you the top 5 worst things that we as parents do all the time. #5: Saying “Good Job” We say “good job” to our kids all the time and research has actually shown that this is quite detrimental. What we should be doing is telling them that we see what they are doing. If they make a beautiful picture just say, …
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The days or week prior to our women having their menstrual cycles can be extremely hard on them and us. Unfortunately, if we do not know how to navigate that time, we can make it much worse. If we have a few simple tools, however, we can make it a lot better. Women’s hormones shift radically during this time of the month and as a result, they have …
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When our little girls grow into women and start to bleed, it is an amazing moment in their lives. Unfortunately, few of us fathers know what to do in this precious moment. A lot of us back away thinking we should leave it to the women. This can lead to long term detrimental effects upon our daughters. If we know how to be the father they need, we c…
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Talking to our kids about sex is more important than most of us realize. As parents, we are the best chance them developing a healthy sexuality. If we do it poorly, it can literally lead to a life of bad sex. If we do it well, we can support them to be empowered in their sexuality and decrease the chance of them having horrible and even abusive sex…
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As us men can barely imagine, birthing a baby is a profoundly intense experience. If a woman is disconnected from her body, then she is more likely to have a difficult birth. If on the other hand, a woman is in the zone, in her body and feeling good in herself, then she is likely to inhabit that moment with grace and relaxation. Feeling emotionally…
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I know this sounds like an infomercial trying to sell you knives, but what I want to tell you today is actually quite real. There is one thing that you can do that will help you return to your pre-pregnancy weight, save as much as $1,000 and help your child to be happier in the world. It is actually a truly radical idea that a small number of paren…
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Learning to talk to our partners about difficult subjects is crucial to having a relationship that thrives, particularly when it is comes to conflicts. Unfortunately, few of us know how to resolve a fight in a way that actually leads to healing and increased intimacy. So today I want to tell you about one thing you can do with your partner that for…
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Date nights are a wonderful idea, but the reality is that they often leave us disappointed. We come from work. We are tired. We eat food and perhaps have a drink. Which makes us even more tired. We sit and talk about the kids. Maybe once you get home you have sex, but it really isn’t enough to feed the relationship in the way that we need in order …
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If you are reading this you probably know how challenging relationships are. They require us to have a team that can function through all the intense difficulties of having kids and going through life. Few of us are taught how to foster that type of teamwork and all too often the team fails in the face of those stresses. Even though divorce is a ho…
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There is so much talk in the media about the importance of fathers and so much research that has shown that if we are an engaged father, our children are far more likely to be happy, successful and have satisfying relationships. It is really clear that we are important, but why are we important? What is it that we provide to a child that is so valu…
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2 Steps to End Erectile Dysfunction without Viagra
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There are so many crazy ideas out there about who we as men are supposed to be and even more distorted ideas about how we are supposed to be sexually. At the same time, there is an amazing number of us that are really suffering when it comes to having sex. We are suffering because we cannot get it up or we come too soon or we simply don’t find plea…
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Do you feel like second class citizens in your own home? So often as men we feel disempowered and controlled by our partners. We don’t feel like an equal partner, but rather some lesser parent that is constantly nagged and told what to do. It is a horrible experience to feel this in our own homes. It makes family life really unpleasant and often le…
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As you may know, I talk a lot about how to create a balanced family. A home where the man is empowered to take care of the children so the woman is not so overwhelmed, and is not having to nag him to get involved. As a result, their relationship can thrive and the whole family can be a happier place. One key component to having that situation go we…
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Postpartum Depression – How Dads Can Really Help
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Postpartum depression is a horrible aspect of having a baby, and unfortunately, far too many women find themselves in this situation. As a father, it can be really difficult. We can feel powerless, frustrated and even mad at our partners. We can end up resenting having a child and it can be extremely overwhelming. Fortunately there are a number of …
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There are a lot of things to be said about the commonplace of pornography on the internet and in our society. But there is one really clear horrific effect of porn, and that is what happens when our kids find it on the internet. As a psychotherapist, I cannot tell you how many people, especially men, I help that are addicted to pornography. Even if…
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Our sex lives really take a beating when we have our first child. If we do not respond constructively to this, our relationships can crumble in the face of not having this opportunity to connect with our partners. Sex is our way to play. It is our way to connect. It is our way to love each other. Without it, particularly as men, we do not have a lo…
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Becoming a new father is one of life’s most amazing experiences, but so often we can be floored by it, and it can devastate our relationship. Like any great challenge, it all depends upon how prepared we are. Here are five things that will enable you and your family to thrive in the intensity of having a new baby and really enjoy the wonder of the …
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There is a dark side to having a child that can be very painful. During the pregnancy and the birth, we often feel profoundly close to our partners. But then the baby comes and our wife’s attention quickly turns almost entirely towards the baby. We can so easily feel replaced, unloved and even resenting our own child. It can be quite hard on our re…
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There is so much chatter about why men are unable to feel and express our emotions. And so many misconceptions about what happens for us. The reality is that men feel a huge array of sensations. Science has even shown that we experience feelings more intensely than women, but we often do not feel safe, nor have the place to share our feelings. We d…
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Gay men often make better dads than straight guys, not because they are inherently better at it, but because their situation forces them to parent far more conscientiously. As dads in heterosexual relationships, we have strong societal norms and thus easily fall into ruts where we hand over the parenting responsibilities to the mom and whilst we st…
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Today I would like talk to the moms about how you can have a family that thrives. As I discussed in our main video, Why Families Struggle, the imbalance in families is causing a huge amount of unnecessary suffering. So often, you moms are left overburdened with too much of the responsibility, while we dads are left disempowered and disengaged from …
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Every man can easily be a fantastic father. But there is one really important key to being that dad, that too many men don’t know. As a result, too many families struggle unnecessarily in an imbalanced system in which no one is getting their needs met. Fortunately, this one key is quite clear and thus something that you can easily do day in and day…
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Having a family in this modern day and age is a remarkably tough experience. So often we find ourselves overwhelmed, stressed, fighting with our kids, fighting with our partner and not experiencing the love and joy that family life can be. In all too many situations, the relationship ends in a divorce before the kid’s even a few years old. And for …
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Getting your wife or girlfriend pregnant can obviously be a very joyful, sinful, fun experience or it can be a nightmare. When it gets to be nightmarish, it can really take your whole family down. So often when there are fertility issues, the woman can become deeply distressed and we men often leave them to fix the problem. This imbalance is anothe…
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Women’s feelings can cause a lot of disturbance in our relationships. Men’s feelings do too, but the prominence of women’s feelings is something I want to start with, because it’s men’s inability to respond in a way that’s helpful that often leads to unnecessary issues in their relationship. The answer is quite simple as to what you can do to provi…
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