In this episode, we explore the DEAL framework Jay Shetty outlined in a recent podcast, "The 1 Toxic Mistake That's Damaging Your Relationships & The 4 Steps To Never Repeat it Again." It's an easy to remember acronym that is surprisingly effective when you encounter a relationship (big or small) and you continue to struggle with how it makes you f…

We continue from our last episode (be sure to listen to episode #47 first) to provide 2 questions we'd ask to really know someone. We encourage you to ask these questions to yourself and to those whom you'd like to know more about what makes them tick and to ultimately strengthen your bond. We hope these questions spark a deeper dialog.…

If you could only ask 2 questions to really know someone, what would they be? In this episode, we each ask 1 question (2 total) to each other and share our reason behind the question and our responses. What 2 questions would you ask? Try these questions with those close to you or with someone you want to know a bit better.…

In this episode, we ask the question, "what would you tell your 15-year-old self?" We all know hindsight is 2020, but the mind of a 15-year-old is much different than that of an adult. What would you say and is that something you can share with the current youth? We hope this question and our responses inspire a discussion with those around you.…

In this episode, we explore the question: What did you used to do that worked, but you stopped doing? This question has so many layers because it prompts you to remember some of your strengths, but also assess why decided (consciously or unconsciously) to give up on them and whether it's worth revisiting. We figured we would answer this questions o…

Last week we discuss the importance of why black lives matter and how this deserves the utmost attention. In this continuation, we discuss the results of the situation that occurred last week and start exploring the mindset shift that is required to move forward, and that will be required to drive actionable change.…

The recent killing of George Floyd has sparked an outrage on social and racial injustice to African Americans. Protests (rightly so) have erupted all over the world to express frustration and call for change. In this episode, we dive into a specific example that involves a common debate between "Black Lives Matter" and a common response of "All Liv…

Right now we are facing a lot of struggles and they seem to stack one on top of the other. In this episode, we discuss one major cause and effect from all this and question why other places or situations get it right. Is there something we can learn from others? Is there something we can do now, more than ever, to rebuild trust?…

In a prior episode (#38), we look on the bright side for the positive changes that have occurred as a result of COVID-19's impact. This is a very subjective thing and in this episode we discuss what changes (good or bad) will continue for you? This is most likely a moving target for many, but there may be some changes that you welcome and look forw…

The United States is reopening, some states more quickly than others. But how do you feel about that? When will you head out? In this episode, we discuss our personal views and try to explore what we will go back to and what we may have to do differently going forward. We hope our conversation can help you on your reentry.…

In cooking there's a french expression, "mise en place" which translates to everything in its place. The idea is before you cook your meal, you do all your prep. Well in this episode, we discuss how you may feel stuck because you are unable to prep and things feel unorganized, disheveled and unknown. This can lead to resistance or worse, shutdown. …

The coronavirus continues to take a major toll on the world resulting in more doom and gloom news, but in this episode we want to try and look on the bright side. What positives are you seeing personally or professionally? Challenges in any form can create change and we hope the positive we see is something you're noticing too.…

It's unclear when COVID-19 will slow its impact, which means we are going to endure sheltering in place a while longer. Staying at home for an hour, day or even a week is typically manageable. However, when this extends to weeks with family members around and little to no alone time, you can quickly lose your cool and lash out to those loved ones i…

As COVID-19 continues to spread across the globe and impact every aspect of life, we use this episode to discuss how we feel this pandemic will continue to play out and the affect it will have on business, school, the economy and more. We can only hope for the best and continue to look for the positives, but it will be interesting to see in a few m…

As our new reality begins to set in, we discuss how you can start to handle the stresses, emotions and changes that the COVID-19 pandemic brings especially while stuck at home. This is not easy. But is there a silver lining? We discuss 3 strategies to consider to keep yourself sane, identify how you're really feeling and keep an open mind for some …

The coronavirus (aka COVID-19) has become a global pandemic with daily updates that seem unreal. How you respond is very personal. You may feel scared or confident or panicked or immune or indifferent...but how we respond will impact everyone around you and in this episode we discuss ways to think about that approach. We are not doctors or authorit…

In this episode, we dive deep into that parenting moment when you feel helpless and unable to soothe a child. This can be difficult, discouraging extremely frustrating especially when your child wants the other parent (i.e. mom). So how can you as parents approach this situation to be more supportive to each other and ultimately find a way that giv…

Continuing from last week's podcast, we want to look at the other end of the spectrum of the "Self Love" scale. We find the definition can vary from Self Hate, Narcissism, Fear, etc. but the underlying feelings can stem from the same place. We hope to shine some more light on this topic and help you think about where you stand today and how you can…

In this episode, we explore Self Love and through that exploration uncover some interesting facts about our past that influenced and continues to shape how we apply self love in our day to day. There's no perfect definition of self love, it's quite personal, but we hope you enjoy how we define it and how it can help you on your journey.…

Recently I was asked if getting married means being compliant...it was an interesting question that got me thinking a lot about how long term relationships are viewed and often the butt of many jokes. In this episode, we explore what C word is required in a marriage or long term relationship, that being compromise. We hope our discussion helps you …

Being a father and working professional is not always easy. You find yourself wondering if you're spending too little time with your family OR are you not being ambitious enough. In this episode, we discuss how this topic affects us and how we are working through it. There is no right or wrong choice, but it's an important topic to reflect on as it…

There's something important about being comfortable being uncomfortable. It may seem unorthodox, but in these moments we start to change and grow if we can push through the "new territory." However, sometimes doubt, comparisons and inadequate feelings arise, so today we discuss how to think differently about these opportunities to grow.…

Happy New Year! We hope you're excited for this new year and decade. In this episode, we share some personal and professional goals we've set for 2020 and beyond. Remember, goals help you stay on track, but the real learning is in the journey, not the destination.

As parents, we want the best for our kids. But how do you set them up for success? What is the right approach and balance, so that they are ready but also challenged? In this episode, we discuss real life situations with our kids and our learnings thus far.

We can't believe this is our 25th episode! It's been amazing to share our thoughts with you on how to be a more empathetic man in life. In this episode, we reflect on some key takeaways we've gathered and bring up some old episodes worth revisiting. Enjoy and happy holidays!

In this episode, we go deep into a situation that includes your baby and your in-laws. Your in-laws are the grandparents of your kids and this delicate situation can quickly spiral inside out if not approached with the right mindset and framework. Our hope is to share some lessons we've learned that can help you on your journey with these important…

Baby's here! Woohoo...now what?!?! In this episode, we share our tactical and practical advice to help you through the first 3-6 months with baby. From your mindset, baby soothing, food, sleep and more, we hope you can walk away with tips you can implement today to help survive and thrive with baby.

When you first start a relationship, you typically find many shared interests. They keep the relationship exciting and aligned. Through those shared interests, you determine what shared values you both possess. And it's those shared values that create the foundation for a long lasting relationship. But what happens when some or many of your interes…

In this episode, we discuss when challenges arise how you may feel like the you only have 2 choices, when in reality others are available. It's not always easy to see past false choices, so we discuss strategies to keep an open mind and ultimately learn from the journey, vs rushing to the destination.…

In this episode we discuss the concept of the growth mindset from professor of psychology, Carol Dweck. She explains the key differences between a fixed vs growth mindset, and we discuss how this can be applied to how you parent and ultimately how influence the mindset of your child. The great news is it's never too late to adopt a growth mindset a…

Have you ever been cut off? How did that make you feel? Now imagine if you're just a child and face small issues like this or larger issues like witnessing your parents fight? These moments all make an impact on our feelings and emotions. We can't control others, but we can control how we process the moment and react. In this episode we discuss thi…

Being a parent is challenging, but being a stay at home parent is a whole other level. In this episode, we are thrilled to have 2 guests: Neda Hillyer and Shiela Groefsema to discuss the question should a parent stay at home? We realize many don't have a choice and must work; however if you're wrestling with this question, we share multiple perspec…

Having your first child is a wonderful experience full of emotion, mystery and joy. There's no silver bullet when it comes to parenting advice, especially with number 1. However, in this episode, we discuss 6 pieces of advice we think will help you on your journey and will help you focus on what that matters most: You, Your Spouse/Partner, and Your…

There's a term in sales called "discovery" which is the act of asking questions to better understand your buyer, so that you can provide them the right solution. Well...this technique can work will in your relationship when done the right way with sincerity. In this episode, we talk about why it's important to do a bit of discovery up front and som…

In this episode, we discuss intentions vs intentionality. We believe so many of us have good intentions, but is that good enough? Intentionality is the execution of those good intentions and if not done right, with empathy and thoughtfulness, all those good intentions are lost. Join us as we explore this topic further and come up with some tips you…

Our very own Nimesh had their 2nd child (congrats!) and because we know this changes the game substantially, we wanted to discuss a framework to approach discipline. In the book, "The Whole-Brain Child" - the authors talk about 2 ideas: "Connect and Redirect" and "Name it to Tame it" - in this episode we discuss how you can apply these techniques t…

What makes you happy? How did you get to that place of happiness? In this episode, we reverse engineer happiness...we look at how we feel and what was involved to get there. By better understanding the components to your happiness, you'll have a better chance of repeating this feeling of joy over and over again.…

You propose to your spouse, but you often marry their family. In this episode, we discuss the relationship of the in-law and how you may want to reframe your thinking about them. We go deep into a very sensitive situation...the delivery room...but come out with a fresh perspective that can improve the way you live your family life.…

Famed child psychiatrist Dr. Daniel Amen created a fun acronym, ANT, which stands for Automatic Negative Thoughts. In this episode, we talk about how you can handle negative thoughts your kids may have and the simple framework Dr. Amen made that can also help you as an adult. Don't let the ANTs steal your happiness.…

How do you stop a bad day from getting worse? The answer is gratitude. In this episode, we explore where does your "unhappiness" come from and what are some practical ways to handle those bad moments. Finally, we share a powerful 4-word question that you can use at the beginning and/or end of your day to proactively set you up for a more joyful lif…

There's an old saying...you are what you eat. And in this episode we discuss how being a great man, husband or father requires a lot of energy and a steady temperament. Nimesh and Sati with do an informal Q&A to discuss how what you eat can affect how you feel and behave. Be sure to stick to the end to get 3 actionable takeaways you can try this we…

In this episode we discuss indecision and how to approach it in a way that can prevent resentment. An "easy going" person can sometimes harbor resentment if they feel like their voice is never heard. That can quickly snowball into something larger and explode at a later time. We hope our discussion can help you approach this common occurrence in a …

Before you listen to this episode, be sure to listen to the prior episode with Dr. Marilyn Powers for context. Self-empathy is a powerful way to discover your subconscious programming. But once you head down this rabbit hole, how do you come out with actionable steps to move forward. Join Nimesh and Sati as they discuss their learnings with real ex…

We are so excited to have our first guest, Dr. Marilyn Powers, on The Empathetic Man. Marilyn is an author, speaker, consultant, and the owner of MPowers, Ltd. She earned her Ph.D. in Psychology and Religion. In this episode, she reminds us of the right way to be empathetic and how empathy can be given externally with others AND internally with our…

Empathy is not easy. It requires practice and it requires feedback. In this episode, we discuss the importance of finding a person or persons who can guide you on your journey and the importance of being open to feedback you receive.

An empathetic man shows empathy, right? Before you can become empathetic, let's first discuss what it means, why it's so foundational and what you can start doing today to demonstrate more empathy.

As men, we often like to quickly solve problems. However, have you ever considered how that may affect the other person? In this episode, we discuss how that can come off as dismissive, how that can hurt your relationship, and how you can be more empathetic in your response.

Were you acknowledged as a child? Acknowledgement can help validate your actions, motivate your drive and empower you to do great things. In this episode we discuss how we were acknowledged growing up and how we apply this with others. At the end, we share some tips and a 3 step framework you can start using today.…

Do you ever wonder how your relationship with your dad affects the way you father your child? Is quantity of time or quality of time more important to you? In this episode, we discuss a bit of our childhood, how we specifically interacted with our dads, and how we approach quantity vs quality time with our parenting.…