In the past we've talked about feeling competitive with a meta especially when playing the "compare" game. But in this weeks episode we take it from a different angle! Have you ever felt in competition with your PARTNER? Maybe it's who earns more money or who has more partners but sometimes it happens. We discuss some ways to recognize it and tips …

Monsuta takes the reigns and flies solo for this week's discussion. This week is answering questions from the TYPO phone, from first dates to breakups. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps n…

We will be off this week. Taking a vacation this week. Sorry and thank you! Love you!By I Love Poly

Being at a place today where our relationship is stable and healthy and we feel pretty confident in our relationship skills its easy to forget some of the struggles and difficult feelings that came up in the early days. The anxiety around dating a new person when you already have a partner. Or the fear around sex with someone new. So many speed bum…

Today we have a question from an anonymous TYPO Phone caller which we felt could be a whole episode on its own. What's the first thing that comes to mind when someone mentions they're a swinger? It's often times some 60s or 70s house key party. And while we love a good house party... this doesn't quite capture the full essence of swinging. We want …

Many of us grew up being told and believing that in order for things to be "fair" they needed to be equal. For those who are perhaps a little younger this reminds me of those participation trophies. However, as we've grown up, we've realized that not everyone needs the same things in life. While one person might need the validation of a participati…

Building an intimate relationship often needs all parties involved to show some level of intimacy. To open up and let others in is being vulnerable but in order to do that there needs to be things like trust and acceptance which happen to be key factors in building intimacy. So in this episode we visit how vulnerability and intimacy go hand in hand…

Back to the TYPO Phone! This week we have some questions ranging from why so many people struggle with kitchen table poly, a question around a partner breaking their "rules", one about pet names for partners and we have a great discussion on all things in between. No matter where you are starting on your polyamory journey we all have questions, big…

Have you ever been hanging out for a game night with a group of friends and the question comes up..."so you have a girlfriend AND a boyfriend, how does that work?" Or maybe it's the holiday season and you want to discuss bringing multiple partners over to meet the family. Or maybe it's even a stranger in the park watching an ethical triad raise and…

Thinking back over the years there have been many times where a new meta is entering the picture and all those insecurities pop up which then creates this "perfect" image in our head of who our meta is. "Oh they have a better job than I do so they must be better." "They are skinnier than I am therefore a better partner.". These thoughts of ours cau…

Have you ever told a friend or family member that you're polyamorous and they spit back some misconception or myth they heard about what that means? Maybe you're newly interested in this lifestyle and have come across some of these myths in your online reading. However you stumbled across these we thought we would give our take on them. And if you'…

Self sabotage is the topic this week and it's something we've probably all experienced at some point, even if we weren't aware of it in the moment. Why do we do it? How can we stop doing it? We cover all that and more! If you're enjoying the show please share it with a friend! Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" butto…

Well it's been quite the week over here in TYPO land. Monsuta lost his job and Bella is wrapping up her first week on her preop liquid diet! There's a lot going on and this week we discuss how to support your partner(s) during the big and small changes that happen in life. How to show support and how to ask for support all while plans could change …

We tackle a little Q & A from the listeners today all centered around your partner spending time with their other partners. How do you spend your alone time? How do you handle intimacy or a meta's privacy? Do you have questions you want our help with? Leave us a voicemail or text us at (209) 536-8976! Please help us help others by hitting that "fol…

Ear ducks, dating, gaming and miniatures and a little light hearted chat this week with Monsuta and Bella! You never know where you'll end up with this episode. Join us for some much needed laughs and awkward dating questions as we step back from the heavy personal development theme for a moment. Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" …

Have you ever sat back and were really mindful about how your body physically feels your emotions? Thought work has become a huge part of our daily lives over the last year or so and we wanted to take this opportunity to talk a little bit about how your thoughts create your feelings which cause an action which give you a result leading to your beli…

If you've been around the polyam community for any length of time you've heard people say "communication is key" or "you wont be successful without communication". Well there's more to it than just communicating and that includes actually understanding and processing what your partner is telling you. They can tell you all day long what they want or…

Welcome to our B&B episode! No, not bed and breakfast....baggage and boundaries! If you're a human adult, you've got baggage! Join the club, it's nothing to hide or be ashamed of and actually the more open and honest you can be about your history and baggage the more likely your partner is to understand you and where you come from. In this episode …

Have you ever sat down and reflected internally to really examine what your wants and needs are when it comes to relationships? Sure we understand a need as necessary for survival and a want is just an enhancement but how does that relate to relationships? Bella and Monsuta talk about just that for this special episode that just so happens to relea…

Continuing this season of personal development we jump into a conversation around ego, the good and bad! Do you have some experience with your ego getting in the way? Tell us about it, give us some feedback, or reach out and say hi! Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review o…

Our season of personal development begins with a discussion around figuring out who you are! What is your self identity? Where do you even start to have that internal conversation? Hopefully whats worked for us can help you too, give us some feedback or reach out and say hi! Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button …

Coming up on the end of January 2021 Monsuta and Bella took some time to really plan out some goals. After the year we just survived its tough to imagine planning out anything for this unknown future. But they aren't about to let that fear of the unknown cause life to pause. They don't want to lose another year of life ... so with that said instead…

Bella and Monsuta race to the TYPO Phone to answer distress calls! Listen in as these caped crusaders rush to aid others! Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Mo…

What a strange and crazy year 2020 has been but we survived. Along the way we made some changes in our lives, we helped out some people in need, built stronger closer bonds with family, and found ourselves binge watching some interesting tv shows. In our first podcast episode of 2021 we get into a bit of catch up and discuss how life has been going…

Monsuta and Bella are sitting outside of TYPO HQ on the tail end of 2020, thinking and talking about the year we are leaving behind and looking to what the new year hopes are. You also get to meet Dozer, the neighbor dog.By I Love Poly

Bella and Monsuta are slated to return with new topics and new energy! Keep us on your mind because you're on ours!By I Love Poly

You've heard that old cliche, the only constant in the universe is change. Today, we discuss change and how it affects us and our relationships. We tackle that concept of how change is bad and how, even in the toughest change, the idea of bad change is mostly a myth. We go over aspects of change, how we perceive it, and how to work through it in th…

Today and always, we stand with the people of America and across the globe against racism and look forward to the change created as a result of these protests in hopes for a better, more equitable tomorrow for all of humanity. #blacklivesmatter We had a chance recently to sit down and watch Louis Theroux's: Altered States - Season 1 and happen to k…

We took a trip north to visit the Semiahmoo Resort, next to Canada and had a great trip we want to share with you. While there, we encountered a few instances which caused anxiety which we had to process so we decided to discuss this topic with you this week. Come talk with us this week about how to identify, get a handle on, and support someone th…

#ilovepoly3D Last week, we covered a weekly polycule check-in with our KTT. This week, we take our partner check-in to a deeper level for some serious relationship mindfulness. We talk you through our worksheet for a regular deep dive discussion on each of your relationships. This 3D worksheet is intended for partner to partner discussion but works…

#ilovepolyKTT Our relationships do best when we are checking in regularly with our partners, and that doesn't mean just asking "hey are things good with us?" because that can be blind siding and unnerving for the unsuspecting partner. We are talking about doing the sort of weekly check-in that takes a little more effort and forethought. We want to …

The world is still in a tumultuous state and there's a lot of tough in our lives. It can become super easy to let the bad take over and for us to fall into that pit of negativity, it's easy to become the negativity we are being subjected to on a daily basis. It's this negative influence which sometimes drives us to become stressed or frustrated, to…

Self isolation and quarantining are happening everywhere and many relationships are finding new challenges or changes in dynamics. This is a strange time for the world. Polyamory in particular, is experiencing quite the shift in how relationships are maintained and how we can creatively work through unexpected problems. Starting with this episode, …

Self isolation and quarantining are happening everywhere and many relationships are finding new challenges or changes in dynamics. This is a strange time for the world. Polyamory in particular, is experiencing quite the shift in how relationships are maintained and how we can creatively work through unexpected problems. Starting with this episode, …

Self isolation and quarantining are happening everywhere and many relationships are finding new challenges or changes in dynamics. This is a strange time for the world. Polyamory in particular, is experiencing quite the shift in how relationships are maintained and how we can creatively work through unexpected problems. Starting with this episode, …

Basic human connection. We all want it, we all need it, how do we get it...in this day of the coronavirus and social distancing? Bella and Monsuta talk about how to get creative to be with friends, see some familiar faces, and hear some friendly voices. Even more than that, the discussion goes into how to date without breaking self quarantine. Talk…

In this discussion, we approach ethical non-monogamy from the viewpoint of a couple wanting to open their relationship. We mentioned we would provide links to resources for those new to and coming into polyamory so here's a list for you: The books: More Than Two Opening Up The Ethical Slut The Smart Girl's Guide To Polyamory The Jealousy Workbook A…

This episode is not only about polyamory through generations but features a special guest, DJ. DJ is Monsuta's eldest daughter and also a mother of two. She shares her experiences as a child of a practicing nonmonogamist and how it has affected both her view on relationships as well as how it has helped shape her own life. She even allows us the op…

These are scary and strange times between a fear of catching or passing along a virus to stress and anxiety about being quarantined in your home on lock down without work to pay bills. We wanted to reach out to our polyam fam and tell you that you aren't alone. We are here. Bella is scared, Monsuta is prepared and always her rock and we will get th…

Emotional Intelligence is the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. This week Bella and Monsuta have a conversation about how we can improve our emotional intelligence skills to be better in our relationships at managing our own emotions and recognizin…

What makes a relationship "successful"? How do you measure the success of any of your relationships? Most of us never sit down to consider these things and then when a relationship ends we feel like it "failed", but did it really? I mean do you have great memories? Did you learn a lot from each other? Did you walk away with a great friend? Was the …

Have you ever felt like you didn't seem to be polyamorous enough? Do you feel like you have to "prove your poly" in order to be accepted? Do you come across as monogamous or have you been out of the poly scene for a while and are feeling like you have a hard time stepping back in? Maybe your family and friends just talk about your lifestyle as a ph…

Sex and polyamory... they aren't always connected yet often times when someone finds out you're polyam their first thought is "oh so you have tons of orgies?!" and while that might be something you're into it isn't the default just because you're polyamorous. A healthy sex life, for people choosing to have sex as part of their dynamic, is a great w…

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There are so many "C" words we love and talk about...communication, community, cooperation, etc. but what we wanted to focus on the most in this episode are competition, comparison, compersion, and compassion. What do each of these mean and how do they affect our relationships? Bella and Monsuta cover some tips and tricks and what's worked and not …

Valentine's Day, a day of love. Isn't every day a day full of love when you're polyamorous? Some of us don't like being told by a holiday when we should love someone. Others take the day as an extra special reminder to appreciate those we love. However you look at it we all have to manage our relationships a bit differently when it comes to this ti…

Monsuta has raised three children to adulthood and has three grandchildren. He has been open about polyamory to his children early on. Lili is a mom of younger children and is navigating through poly parenting post divorce. Bella has never had children of her own but has come into relationships where her partners have children. We use our combined …

Monsuta has raised three children to adulthood and has three grandchildren. He has been open about polyamory to his children early on. Lili is a mom of younger children and is navigating through poly parenting post divorce. Bella has never had children of her own but has come into relationships where her partners have children. We use our combined …

We've had such a roller coaster ride in our first year of bringing Talk Your Poly off to our listeners and we are so glad to have taken the time to do this show! In this episode, we do a year-in-review to reflect on where we've been and take the time to discuss how we've grown because of this poly-podcast journey. We don't just point out favorite e…

Monsuta shares some saucy details of his birthday party, including some sexy nude oil wrestling. He shares his experience with an intimate gift created by loved ones. Bella explains how she came up with the ideas for this event and how she brought it all together. All of these scandalous and sordid stories lead directly into the topic of discussion…