On Monday, I suggested your husband might be blind to something that drives you crazy. Today another male blind spot, this one sexual. I’ve had a number of guys complain that their wife had a lot of sex with a lot of guys when she was single, but she rarely has sex with him. Others complain that she did oral sex or some other sex act with other men…

Bronnie Ware has spent years in “palliative care” – meaning she works with those who know they are dying. Her article Regrets of the Dying is very interesting reading, and I highly suggest you check it out. I’m encouraged by Bronnie saying many people make significant changes in their last days and weeks. We think we can’t change, or can’t change m…

Today is a guest post about blended families – a topic that has been requested. One of my favorite expressions is one I’ve heard from various people, but it always makes me smile. I heard it again recently from a coach who was teaching people about how to become a professional speaker, and he said, “It’s simple, but it’s not easy.” That’s how I fee…

Men have a habit of “protecting” their wives from truth they feel she cannot handle. I have had men tell me this straight out: “She couldn’t handle it, so I keep it from her.” Sure, some of these men are hiding their own sins or failings, but this isn’t always the case. Men keep things from their wives out of love, or at least they see it as love. …

Most men pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that they hurry past it. ~ Søren Kierkegaard Wow, that’s so true! Sex would be an obvious place to apply this, but it’s not the only one. We rush through a good meal. We glance at a sunset as we hurry to do whatever. We cram our vacation so full we can’t stop to enjoy any of the great things we do…

Yesterday was Mother’s Day. Let’s talk about single mothers. That wasn’t a thing when the Bible was written. Had it been, I have no doubt they would have been listed with widows and orphans as people we need to care for. It’s easy to tell ourselves these women and children aren’t our problem. But Jesus wouldn’t do that. It’s tempting to ask why the…

Does your husband seem blind to something that drives you crazy? Lights left on, drawers left ajar, or something in the kitchen put up in the wrong place? This is human nature. We naturally notice different things. Some of us are more observant than others. Because of our past or our jobs, we may be hyperaware of things most folks ignore. Our perso…

This is a by request post about male sex drive declining with age. All men will experience this, but to varying degrees. Many men with high drives when they are young will have a higher drive than their peers for life. But there are exceptions. General health is an issue, and some men just lose their drive faster. Testosterone can be a factor, as i…

I’ve had plenty of men ask me how long it should take for their wife to reach orgasm, but I haven’t had a single one complain that it takes her too long. Men want their wife to enjoy sex, and they will do whatever it takes to make that happen: including speeding a great deal of time. On the other hand, Lori and I have heard plenty of women worry th…

Is it the big things or little things in life that most determine our happiness? According to How to Dodge Buyer’s Remorse, a blog post with some good sources listed, it’s the little things. “In other words happiness comes from the small pleasures in life. By the same token it’s the little hassles that are most apt to get us down.” This many seem c…

I did a post for the Generous Husband entitled More Non-Sexual = More Sexual. The post was based on the results of a survey asking women about the non-sexual touch they would like from their husband, and how such touch might affect them. The bottom line is most women think more non-sexual touch would improve both their desire for and their enjoymen…

Over on Quora, a fellow said the following to me: Blacks and women are treated equally and some laws even treat them better than your average white male. Give me an example of where they are not treated at least as well as the general population. If you’re black or female, you know how wrong he is. You have experience being treated as less, and you…