Join me every week for REAL conversations about the ups, downs and sideways of navigating life with aging parents. We focus on mindset, education and collaboration through a willingness to discuss raw stories and all the sticky topics. Cultural pressure? Financial problems? Family dynamics? Fascinating!! No judgement here. No shoulds. Just a bunch of people figuring this out together. About the host: I am a recovering perfect daughter, elective roommate of my 90 year old grandmother, and a r ...
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Marie: Navigating the public cringe factor
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Welcome! In this episode, we dive into the complexities of maintaining relationships with aging parents. Our guest, Marie, discusses her challenges with her aging mother, who has exhibited concerning cognitive and behavioral changes after retirement. We explore the difficulties of setting boundaries, managing inappropriate public behavior, and stri…
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Welcome! In this episode I unpack my way of explaining "slow" grief, as opposed to fast grief, and how this can manifest in life, what to do about it and how it may be beneficial! AI Show Notes: In this episode, Rebecca Tapia dives into the concept of 'slow grief' experienced with aging parents, contrasting it with the more familiar 'fast grief.' S…
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David: Roommates with your wife's grandma?
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Welcome! In this episode I FINALLY talk to my own husband, David, about his point of view during our years living with the aging parent, Nana. AI Show Notes: In this episode, host Rebecca Tapia talks with her husband David about their 20-year marriage, raising children, and the rewarding yet challenging experience of having Rebecca's grandmother (N…
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Solo Podcast: Caring for an emotional billionaire
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Welcome! In this episode I get super emo and talk about my concept of "emotional billionaires". Yes I just made that up but it works! AI Summary LOL: Real Conversations about Aging Parents: The Emotional Wealth of an Aging Parent In this heartfelt episode of Real Conversations about Aging Parents, host Rebecca Tapia discusses the concept of 'emotio…
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Solo Podcast: Dealing with Debbie (or Don) Downer
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Welcome! Do you have friction or resistance to spending time with a person who is negative? In this EXTRA SPICY episode I give you my take on dealing with debbie (or don) downers, some practical advice, and a fiery point of view (take it or leave it). Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take w…
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Solo Podcast: Ok, let's talk Biden as an "aging parent"
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Welcome! In this episode we don't shy away from contemporary topics. Let's talk about Biden and all the rumors swirling about his cognitive function... sounds like fun to me!! AI says this is the summary: In this episode, host Rebecca Tapia takes a brief break from her saga series to provide an update on her grandmother's health and talk about a mo…
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Live Updates: My "aging parent" saga part 4 of ?
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Welcome! In this episode I talk about the transition to skilled nursing facility... AI summary: **Grandmother's Health Journey**: - Initial fall and subsequent hospitalization in ICU. - Progression through medical floor, acute rehab, and a skilled nursing and rehab facility. - Challenges faced in each setting, with a shift from high-intensity hospi…
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Live Updates: My "aging parent" saga Part 3 of ?
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Welcome! And so it continues - the Acute Rehab Phase. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice My course "unSandwiched" is now LIVE If you a…
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Live Updates: My "aging parent" saga part 2 of ?
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Welcome! And the story continues, live! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice My course "unSandwiched" is now LIVE If you are finding val…
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Live Updates: My "aging parent" goes to the hospital Part 1 of ?
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Welcome! In this episode I talk about a new development - Nana falling and going to the hospital. I am sharing raw and live information about my own experience with an aging parent! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informatio…
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Solo Podcast: 5 points of "no return" in aging
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Welcome! WOW, SIXTY EPISODES AND STILL GOING! In this episode, we discusses crucial topics around elder care, particularly those moments that signify irreversible changes or 'points of no return.' These include incontinence, moving into assisted living, cognitive decline, giving up driving, and the loss of physical abilities. We discuss importance …
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Solo Podcast: How "Frasier" normalized life with aging parents
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Welcome! In this episode I take a deeper look at my favorite tv show, "Frasier". Let's see what AI thinks this episode is about... The Impact of 'Frasier' on Multi-generational Living & Cultural Norms In this episode of 'Real Conversations About Aging Parents,' host Rebecca Tapia delves into the influence of popular culture on societal norms, with …
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Solo Podcast: Why grandma is not coming to graduation
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Welcome! In this episode we review social paticipation barriers for aging parents. We discuss barriers and trouble shooting for participating in social or celebration events such as graduations, weddings, etc. TIPS: 1) Notice participation issues 2) Get curious - ask questions 3) Get creative in working around barriers 4) Practice and repeat! Cavea…
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Duo Podcast: Resentment!! (special guest Rene)
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Welcome! In this episode we explore another emotion - RESENTMENT! Where does it come from? How does it feel? What does it represent? I have my ORIGINAL podcast guest, Rene, to dive deep and unpack the emotion in all its (terrible) glory. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well…
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Welcome! In this episode we deep dive a POSITIVE emotion, the fabulous concept of gratitude. We talk about various versions of gratitude, how it shows up with aging parents, and a few caveats in using the super power of gratitude. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for yo…
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Aaron: Juggling career + 4 teens + 4 aging parents
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Welcome! In this episode we visit again (see Episode 51) with Aaron Murphy of ForeverHome about the personal side of his aging-in-place passion. He and his wife have a blended family with four teenagers and four aging parents, one with advancing dementia. Let's talk about. I love this no-nonsense conversation - please enjoy! If you want to reach ou…
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Experts Opine: Spaces that carry you with Eryn Oruncak
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Welcome! In this episode I have a special guest, Eryn Oruncak, who walks us through her approach to interior design including how she integrates form, function and lighting. Eryn founded Elan Design in 2016 offering services for interior design and fine art. She has completed the Science in Design certification and has a lot to share with you today…
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Solo Podcast: Live to 125?!? Understanding life expectancy
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Welcome! In this episode I take a closer look at factors influencing life expectancy. There's actually some science to it! Whether you are a mega-planner and want more information or just curious about the potential changes in life expectancy, tune in! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take …
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Welcome! In this episode I run down various ways to collaborate with the healthcare team, specifically five tips: How to ask questions Executive management How to be present Being realistic Self care At the end of the day - you want everyone pulling in the same direction right? Tune in! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" …
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Experts Opine: ForeverHome with Architect Aaron Murphy
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Welcome! In this episode we have distinguished guest Aaron Murphy of ForeverHome© and ADM Architecture near Seattle, WA. We discuss and dissect the current state of affairs for residential design - then dream about a future with a more comprehensive, person centered approach that actually creates spaces that perform well over a lifetime. Looking to…
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Solo Podcast: *FIFTY* episodes - why we should normalize this topic
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Welcome! In this episode I review my top reasons for creating and continuing the podcast itself: Normalizing, educating, and allowing for more connection during chaos. If you have thoughts to share or want to be on the podcast, please email me at story@rebeccatapiamd.com Thank you! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allow…
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Welcome! In this episode we take another deep dive into a highly relevant concept... uncertainty! What are some forms of uncertainty? How does our brain deal with it? What is the relevance to managing life with aging parents? Where do you fit on the "spectrum" of handling uncertainty? Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" al…
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Experts Opine: All things Medicare with Niki Feret
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Welcome! In this episode we dissect Medicare A, B, C and D, the various timelines to be aware of including the overall pros/cons of each option. Where do you start? What do you consider? What if you move? We have all the things here! Would you like to be in touch with Niki Feret of Chicagoland Medicare? https://chicagolandmedicare.com/ Caveats: Thi…
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Welcome! In this episode I dissect the different factors at play in a decision to leave home and enter a senior living community. We review different scenarios, considerations and real life examples. This is not an easy topic - but one where thinking ahead does a lot of heavy lifting! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" al…
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Welcome! In this episode we visit again with Jaylenn (episode 6) about her healing process since our initial conversation last year. We talk about the questions she has asked herself, the new conclusions she has drawn, and practical tips to get through one of the most difficult periods of life. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "s…
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Welcome! In this episode we a deep dive to understand different types of falls, causes of the anxiety around falls, and how to prevent them. Extra Resources: CDC Checklist: https://www.cdc.gov/steadi/pdf/check_for_safety_brochure-a.pdf Medications and falls: https://ncfallsprevention.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Medication-Fact-Sheet_FINAL_508-1.…
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Stephen T: Part 2 of 2; Dad goes from healthy to hospice in 6 months, 1300 miles away
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Welcome! In this episode we have the second half of the conversation from last week with Stephen T, only child and currently helping his father out of state. We talk about quality of life, making hard decisions, and how to honor someone in a difficult situation. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curio…
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Stephen T: Part 1 of 2; Dad goes from healthy to hospice in 6 months, 1300 miles away
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Welcome! This is episode 1 of 2 of my real time conversation with a coworker, Stephen, who is actively managing an aging parent in a different state who is experiencing a rapid cognitive decline. Make sure to stay tuned for Part 2 of 2 next week! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what w…
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Pass the Mic: Throwback interview about Multigenerational Design with Kricia Palmer, MD
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Welcome! In this episode I am replaying a portion of an interview I completed about a year ago with Physician turned Interior Designer, Dr. Kricia Palmer. At this point I had no idea I would start my own podcast, but felt eager to start sharing my own points of view on the topic. Enjoy! Check out Kricia's work here: https://www.housecallsforphysici…
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Solo Podcast: Quick overview of rehab options
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Welcome! In this episode I take a 30,000ft view of the various inpatient and outpatient rehab options following a hospital stay. This is not a deep dive but just enough to get by in a pinch! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for i…
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Welcome! In this episode I take a deep dive into the concept "enough", according to whom? And how is this decided? How does this influence our own relationships and neural pathways? Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informatio…
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Cathron: Geographically distant but right in the middle
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Welcome! In this episode we talk about helping to support an aging parent who lives 100s of miles away, all the ups and downs, the "on call" scenarios. We also review a very tough decision to enter a care home and dissect the feelings/reactions when we are trying our best but not "enough". Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "should…
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Experts Opine: Health as an asset with David Stewart
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Welcome! Happy New Year! In this episode I interview David Stewart, Founder and CEO of Ageist and fellow podcaster of "The SuperAge Podcast". We discuss aspects of health, how it's never to late to get in the game, and the importance of self-care. You can find out more about your own approach to aging by taking the Ageist Quiz. Caveats: This is a j…
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Welcome! In this episode I take a deep dive into the emotion of GUILT. How does this impact our own experience, and how does it relate to aging parents? Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not …
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Stephen A.: When your best "isn't enough"
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Welcome! In this episode we have a heavy discussion of a complicated family situation across the Atlantic. We discuss family fractures, guilt, end of life care and how to carry on. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for information…
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Welcome! In this episode we explore the concept of "ageism".... and we have a special guest at the end =) Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical …
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Experts Opine: Improvisational Aging in Place with OT Cathron Sterling
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Welcome! In this episode I talk to Occupational Therapist and Aging in Place Specialist Cathron Sterling. She has some wild stories about the creativity required when there are space or financial constraints for aging in place. She shares tips and tricks of the trade for you to ponder. You will hear from Cathron again in a future episode as we talk…
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Solo Podcast: Dissecting "Willing and Able" support
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Welcome! In this episode we take a deeper look at the terms "willing" and "able". What does it mean to be "able" to take care of someone else? What does it mean to be "willing"? What are the various combinations of those terms, and what are the implications? Let's talk about transitions home, life after rehab, and the physician perspective. Caveats…
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SPECIAL EPISODE: Nana, *THE* Aging Parent
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Welcome! Oh Boy. This is the big one. This is an in-depth interview of my own Grandmother, my inspiration for all things Aging Parents. We deep dive her history, her views of growing older, aging in place, and end of life. She is a wonderful human and I'm excited to share her with our audience today. Have a blessed Thanksgiving! Caveats: This is a …
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Edla: How to create connection amidst physical/cognitive decline
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Welcome! In this episode we walk through an aging parent journey with a unique perspective.... what if we interviewed a mental health professional who has been through this? And what if she has tons of great info and tips to share? Can't wait for you to listen to this interview with Edla Prevette!! Find more about Edla's project, "One-Eighty: When …
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Experts Opine: Storykeeping with Clinton Haby
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Welcome! Boy do we have a fun one today, I chat with an old friend and fellow entrepreneur Mr. Clinton Haby. He has crafted his own brand around the art of extracting stories and compiling them into priceless high quality legacy films. We discuss the "ethical will", end of life reflections, and tips on how to engage loved ones this upcoming holiday…
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Jackie: When you feel numb or indifferent
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Welcome! In this episode I talk to Jackie (my Mom) again, focusing on her strained and difficult relationship with her father and how that played out in his final years. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes…
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Experts Opine: Self Compassion with Dr. Nissa Keyashian
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Welcome! What a treat we have for your. In this episode we talk to psychiatrist Dr. Keyashian about the true meaning of self compassion, how to practice this as it relates to supporting yourself and aging parents. More information on Dr. Keyashian can be found here: https://amindfulmd.com/ And she has a retreat coming up, more info here: https://co…
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Solo Podcast: 5 Design tips for Aging in Place
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Welcome! In this episode we discuss my fantastic weekend spent with top interior designers... next we take a deep dive into 5 areas of design with some practical tips on aging in place. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for inform…
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Brittany: When you worry BEFORE your parents do
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Welcome! In this episode we look at the other end of the spectrum. What if you are the hyper-prepared or hyper-responsible type and you are the one more worried than anyone else? How do you approach your parents? How do you navigate these difficult topics? Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity T…
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Pass the Mic: Celebrating 25 episodes podcast Q&A!
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Welcome! In this episode I pass the mic to Liz as we discuss the podcast itself, how it's meant to connect with others and where we are heading in the future. Want to be a guest? contact me at story@rebeccatapiamd.com Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the …
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Craig: When your parents are larger than life
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Welcome! In this episode we talk to Craig about his Midwestern upbringing with his "mountain" of a Dad and "strongest person ever" Mom to learn more about how they are navigating this current chapter of health issues and aging. We talk about balancing responsiblities with a sibling, dealing with incontinence, and what boundaries are in place. Thank…
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Solo Podcast: Grab your pumpkin spice, a new take on "seasons"
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Welcome! In this episode I share a quick story from a podcast listener then take a deep dive into the concept of seasons throughout life, ups and downs, and how to use our brains to better engage in the here and now by being clear about the coming and going of seasons in our lifetime. Send me a story!! story@rebeccatapiamd.com Caveats: This is a ju…
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Solo Podcast: How to Acknowledge the Zero Sum Game in Life
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Welcome! In this episode I borrow from a recent presentation I was invited to create for the "Demystifying Inflammation Summit", a free three day online event next week. I talk extensively about the concept of a "zero sum game" and how it applies to our finite resources of time, attention, money and health. This is a concept borrowed from my course…
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Experts Opine: Elder Law Attorney Lisa Powers
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Welcome! In this episode I have the exciting opportunity to pick the brain of an Elder Law attorney, and turns out she is super nice and ready to answer all the questions! This is jam-packed with great lessons and insights, and I'll be sure to do a Part 2 in the future. Please enjoy and have those tough conversations! Find more about Lisa here: htt…
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