A podcast that explores sex, joy, trauma and healing. And just about everything in between. Ranging from informal chats to slightly more formal I NEVER KNEW THAT interviews. Tend Your Garden aims to explore all the things that could impact on how you have sex and how you feel about the sex you are having.
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An American, a Canadian, and an Irish woman walk into a living room, hit record, and start talking about all the things "nice girls" are not supposed to say in polite conversation. We're not nice girls, we're That Kind of Girl, and it's time we stopped sealing our lips. Hey! It's Caitlin Cook (the American one), Niki Davis (the Canadian one), and Róisín Nic Ghearailt (the Irish one). We're your hosts of That Kind of Girl, the anti-shaming podcast where we openly discuss that which is still t ...
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Sex In The Brain: Celibacy and Sensual Healing
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First an apology, I didn't post last month because my laptop charger is broken so that's a whole ordeal to be honest. But! This episode marks the first of the mini-series, sex in the brain. And what better way to kick it off then to record an epidsode about celibacy. Celibacy has been a hugely important element of my sex life. I also reflect on som…
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Hello!! Happy June! Happy Pride! I couldn't not do a little pride episode! In this mini-sode I introduce a new topic I'll be exploring over the upcoming episodes. It's called sex in the brain and it looks at how the biggest sexual organ in our bodies is our brain! I also briefly gush over Heartstopper. Because it's too cute.…
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Sophie, we miss you so much and we love you. You were a force of nature. Xxx Please donate to We Exist https://www.weexist.co.uk/
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HELLO!!! It's been 5 months since we last spoke. This is a little deep dive into why I took an unexpected 5 month break from podcasting. I'm in a new relationship, I had a breakdown, I'm in a band. We go on a whistlestop tour of what happened. Mostly I just missed you all, I missed talking about all this stuff. Season Two of TYG is going to be all …
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(BI)sexual anxiety a solo episode with Róisín Nic Ghearailt
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JESUS CHRIST I really made you wait for this one. I'm sorry, but being honest it just frightened the life out of me and I had to fully re-record it. Which truly fits in with the motif of this week, sometimes things take longer than expected and its ok and its important to be gentle with yourself. This is an incredibly heartfelt episode and if you a…
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Friend versus fuck zone with Róisín Nolan
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This was a hiiiighly requested episode and honestly a fascinating conversation amongst two Róisíns. Róisín Nolan, an incredible collagist, joins me to pop off about being constantly fucked zoned by the straight men in her life. And just to clarify we are not talking about honest, open communication we are talking about DM slides, late night booty c…
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I know I say this every week but this episode is glorious. The one and only Sian Conway joins me to chat neurodivergency in the queer community, the mental health issues that come with not knowing you have ADHD, what exactly does it mean to be queer coded and Sian's very special place in my own bisexual awakening. I also throw in a little bisexual …
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Honoring your needs and the power of thirst traps with Amy Clarkin
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This episode was everything I needed right now. Myself and the glorious Amy Clarkin sat down to chat about navigating dating with chronic conditions. As you all know I am NEWLY dating again so this felt like a cold glass of water on a hot day. Amy who is my first guest who was originally a fan of the podcast sent me some of her writing on the theme…
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Polyamory, jealousy and communication with Eadie McCarthy
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TEND YOUR GARDEN TURNS TWENTY OOOOOONNNNNEEEEEE!! I can't believe we're here already. What a journey this has been. To celebrate we've got the incredible Eadie McCarthy on to discuss polyamory. She talks about how growing up on a new-age traveller site influenced her understanding of family, what she learnt through looking back on her old journals …
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Fake doms, frenzies and learning your limits with Aoife Murray
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This week the incredible Aoife Murray returns to chat about fake doms and why that term can help and harm the BDSM community, mental health and learning our limits. This conversation felt so necessary to talk about considering so many people are on their way to getting vaccinated and the chance for a frenzy seems hiiiiigh. Truly I've learnt so much…
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The art of seduction, sexting and friendship with Niki Davis Fainbloom
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DISCLAIMER: there were so many techinal difficulties with this one so please bear with me and the slightly dicey editing. But aaaaaaawwwwww this episode is a tonic for the soul. Myself and one of my favourite people in the world, Niki sex educator and friend extraordinaire, chat about sexual exploration, sexting and dating. We literally spend the w…
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Mega sexuality, transformation and dating with Mx Bel Morrigan
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This week we are joined by the incredible Mx Bel Morrigan who is so fearless and vulnerable that they took my breath away. I couldn't get over how open they were about everything. We discussed them exploring their sexuality with sex workers, coming into their queerness and non-binary identity and so, so much more. I laughed so much this episode. We…
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Racism, sexism and heteronormativity in sex education with Indira Toussaint
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WE ARE BACK IN BUSINES BAAAAAAABY. It's been a minute. In fact its been a full week longer than I'd hoped it'd be. But we're here, I'm queer, (Indira making TYG history told me that how she identifies is none of my business. Iconique) get over it. Indira Toussaint posted on IG a few months ago looking for candidates to interview for her dissertatio…
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Hello! I'm moving countries which is hectic yet fun. There will be no episode release this week or next week depending on when my equipment gets to the UK! Thank you so much for all your support, it means the world to me. Róisín XxBy Róisín
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Bisexuality and the Performance of Gender in Collaboration with Dani Wijesinghe
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The incredible Dani Wijesinghe joins me today to discuss how gender is performed, the beauty of alter egos and how gender can be constructed in opposition, as in I don't want to be like that so instead I'll be like this. Dani is bisexual too so we chat about why its the most realistic sexuality and how are sexuality is informed by our gender and th…
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In memory of the incredible Sophie Gwen Williams
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I have no words except that my heart is broken that you're gone but I am so glad that I knew you even if it was cut so short. If you can please donate to We Exist Details of Sophie's vigil in London are available on their page.By Róisín
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Pedestal feminism, art, queerness and activism with Karen Miano
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Give a warm welcome to Karen Miano co-creator of Origins Eile a space made for and by Black queer people in Ireland. Karen and I discuss the perils of pedestal feminism, why its vitally important to not only ask Black people about racism and the difference between intentional versus safe spaces. We also stan Emma Dabiri. Karen chats about the cult …
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Orientalism, porn, dating and even more political awakenings with Désirée Fong
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The one and only Désirée Fong joined me to chat about her re-imagining of Orientalism, a concept coined by Edward Said. She is so incredibly eloquent I could barely stop myself from shouting GET THIS WOMAN A PODCAST throughout our interview. Desiree spoke with heart-wrenching vulnerability about how Orientalism and the oppressive system of othering…
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Fuck diet culture, embracing body neutrality and healing with Meghan Gileece
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There is a LOT of talk at the moment about getting our bodies 'back' before lockdown is lifted. This episode is exactly what you need if you are stuck in that loop right now. You body never went anywhere, it was there the whole time. Meghan Gilleece (@meggilleece) joins me to chat about body neutrality, how body positivity has been co-opted, OCD an…
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Slut-shaming, purity culture, and the joys of masturbation with Shawna of Sex Siopa.
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Buckle in love bugs, this one is a wiiiiild ride. Shawna, the owner of Sex Siopa Ireland's premier Feminist sex shop joins me to chat being the 'slutty' child in a religious family, the joys of masturbation and the sinister impact of abstinence only education. This episode was so filled with joy and laughter, it's perfect for the longer, sunnier da…
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It's more than just sex with Nenna Joiner of Feelmore
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THIS EPISODE IS EVERYTHING. I was so, so nervous recording it because Nenna is my first guest who I literally just cold-called and invited on to chat but they were such a gracious and interesting guest I needn't have worried. "It's more than just sex" is Feelmore's tag line. Feelmore is an iconic sex shop in Oakland California with another shop in …
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The Evolution of Sexuality with Dearbhaile Casey, PhD
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HERE WE GO AGGGGGAAAAIIIINNNNN! The wonderful Dearbhaile Casey came on to TYG just to tell me that bisexuals are scientifically irrelevant. No I'm joking, (not about the bisexuals being scientifically irrelevant that's unfortunately deadly serious) she actually came on to talk to me about the Venn diagram of science and sexuality. She discussed the…
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TEND YOUR GARDEN MINI-BREAK. Hello angels, I've doing a load of recording and planning this week and I've got a good bit going on in my life so I'm taking a mini-break. Enjoy this shortie about my views on hope and some things you could do to help 'Tend Your Garden' I'll be back next week with an incredible episode about the evolution of sexuality!…
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Intersectional Feminism, Direct Provision and Unlearning Heterosexuality with Senita Appiakorang
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Senita Appiakorang truly, truly brought so much to this episode. As you can tell from the title we covered a lot and we absolutely went there. Senita does a podcast called Points Of Intersection which made her the ideal guest to discuss Intersectional Feminism and all its nuances. She revealed how Europe was not the opulent utopia it was made out t…
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Decolonising Gender, Political Awakenings and Queerness with Gillian Ang
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Oooooooofffff this conversation with the wonderful Gillian Ang truly left me with so much to think about. They discuss decolonising gender, colonialism and navigating their identity as a queer, Malaysian-Chinese person. We also discussed the vital importance of communication, particularly if you are struggling with your sexuality. They were raw and…
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Modern Whore: Street Harassment, Self-Love and Eczema with Andrea Werhun
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The magnificent Andrea Werhun or weener woman author of Modern Whore joins me this week to have a timely discussion about street harassment, whorephobia, the politics of shame and iconic mothers. If you have a chronic condition that is being aggravated by this GLOBAL PANDEMIC we are currently in this is the episode for you. Myself and Andrea go in …
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BDSM, Kinks and Consent with Aoife Murray
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ONE MONTH ANNIVERSARY SPECIAL. Aoife Murray is (in her own words) here to corrupt you. And corrupt me she did. Aoife joined me to chat BDSM 101, chains, whips and self-care tips. She encouraged me to do the bdsmtest.org before we chatted and its results were enlightening (do it!) In our sprawling and glorious chat we covered why vanilla isn't an in…
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The Joys of Activism, Pole-Dancing, Sensuality and Radical Acceptance with @beanie_the_jet of Filthy Friday
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What a joy it was to have Beanie (@beanie_the_jet) on the show. I am a huge fan of her work and I basically spent this whole episode trying (and failing) to not totally fangirl. If you haven't followed Filthy Friday this is exactly what you need in your life. Beanie is not only a self-described Filth Queen she is also a joyful and seemingly tireles…
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Healing through art, activism and sex with Sophie Williams of We Exist
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This episode is a wiiiild ride so buckle in. Sophie Williams co-founder of We Exist takes my breath away with how raw and honest and hilarious she is. We explore the stages of trauma, how geography shapes our experiences, healing through art and the transformative power of good sex. She always shares the beautiful (and bloody) tale of how herself a…
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Sexual Awakenings, Bisexuality and Religion with Charlotte Greenstock
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Where DIDN'T we go this episode. Charlotte Greenstock, trapeze artist and stripper extraordinaire, takes us through how she went from being the (self-described) religious weird kid and trying to pray the gay away to realising she was bisexual. With incredible vulnerability she discusses parental slut-shaming, reckoning with her chronic shame and fi…
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A quickie- Sex Positivity versus Sex Neutrality
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CLASS IS IN SESSION. Welcome to Terminology Tuesday where I, your humble host Róisín, explore certain themes more in depth. This week it's sex positivity versus sex neutrality. I outline why I identify as sex neutral, my issues with sex positivity and how to change your life for good (plot twist its more tortoise than hare) Don't forget to follow T…
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Introducing Miss Bloom our resident sex educator
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LET'S GIVE A WARM WELCOME TO OUR RESIDENT SEX EDUCATOR. This episode is such a dream. Myself and Niki AKA Miss Bloom discuss how her journey to becoming a sex educator, the importance of platonic soulmates, how she was the first person to ever tell me that healing was an option as well as her hilarious and heartwarming first experience of masturbat…
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Meet your host....me! Róisín Nic Ghearailt. This episode truly has my heart and soul in it and I hope that you enjoy it. Tend Your Garden has officially launched and I couldn't be more excited. In this episode I talk about growing up religiously, chronic shame, healing, my own journey with sexual trauma and finding joy in bisexuality. Find us on In…
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Sadly, we're parting ways. In this final episode, we (Caitlin Cook, Niki Davis, and Róisín Nic Ghearailt) discuss how to be better people, what our next steps are, and what we've learned from this podcast. Caitlin has new music and comedy coming out, a new podcast she's working on, and a packed tour schedule; Niki is writing a bi-weekly sex advice …
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What's the etiquette for sex, dating, and relationships in today's modern world? To ghost or not to ghost? How is that third date rule still a thing? In this eighteenth episode, we (Caitlin Cook, Niki Davis, and Róisín Nic Ghearailt) felt compelled to talk about our own experiences with etiquette, deal breakers, scheduling dates, using labels, meet…
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