Send us a Text Message. This discussion reminds us of what it takes to shift a paradigm and how difficult it is to get anyone to listen to what we have to say until they can give up their conviction that what we promote can't be done.By Sharon Doty

Send us a Text Message. This episode tells the story of a priest's seduction of young men in the parish where he served and how he was able to accomplish this under the watchful eye of parents and other adults. Sharon's family is a part of this story. She knows everyone involved and has had the opportunity to interview the principal complainant and…

Send us a Text Message. Most people assume that the majority of perpetrators of child sexual abuse are men and while that is accurate, at least 20% of all child sexual abuse is committed by women and almost 80% of the time it is a biological parent - a mother - who is the offender. This episode starts to deal with the unique issues of discovering a…

Send us a Text Message. Many people think that Sex Offender registries and background checks can solve the problem of potentially risky adults. However, that is not the case. They do have their place in the entire process of creating safe environments and in this episode, we talk about what to do with the information from both sources in efforts to…

Send us a Text Message. As today's society seems to focus on everything happening quickly and being handled with velocity, there's a lot of frustration about why child sexual abuse still is not handled. Why are there still predators seducing our children? This podcast reminds us that some societally issues take a long time to accomplish and points …

Send us a Text Message. This episode presents the results of an Australian study that demonstrates that predators the world over are using the same techniques and activities to gain access to our children, to groom them, the parents, and the community. Listen to what they say are the strategies they use to get their way.…

Send us a Text Message. This short conversation reminds us of the reasons for April being name Child Abuse Prevention Month and offers some ways we can call attention to the need for all of us to have our attention on what it takes to keep children safe.By Sharon Doty

Send us a Text Message. This episode includes a discussion of where the "numbers" come from in the conversation for prevention of sexual abuse of children and how these numbers were determined. We also look at how these numbers launched the conversation that child sexual abuse is a societal epidemic and what that can mean for the issue. Listen to s…

Send us a Text Message. This episode reminds us that April is Child Abuse Prevention Month and Blue is the color of prevention. Listen for ideas that you can share with others to draw attention to prevention and ways you can call attention to the issue yourself.By Sharon Doty

Send us a Text Message. In this episode we begin to answer some questions that seem to be universal. They are often in the background of our thinking as we go through the training or listen to the podcasts. We begin by talking about the part/responsibility parents have in preventing child sexual abuse and what, if any, risks there are to children o…

Send us a Text Message. While we all want to think that children are safe the fact is that they are not. This episode looks at how we can take responsibility for making sure that there are safe environments for all children and that we create a world that works for eveyone.By Sharon Doty

Send us a Text Message. In this episode, we being to investigate the world of online solicitation by considering that there are unique aspects of this world. For one, the only tool a predator has is language, so all the potentially risky behaviors are manifested in the way the predator speaks to the child. Recent research has provided us with some …

Send us a Text Message. In this episode there is a discussion of recent research that gives us some insight into the world of young people online. It considers that, although we know that in person social relationship are supportive and important, the fact is that adolescents, particularly those in the LGBTQ+ Community are convinced they are safer …

Send us a Text Message. Challenging the potentially risky behavior of beloved members of the family is the most difficult aspect of Keeping Them Safe. We must be willing to speak up and speak out and model that behavior to our children if we are to expect them to be willing to do the same. In this episode we examine what that looks like in reality.…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode, we consider the labels that society places on all of us at times and how labeling others can impact how we see them, how they see themselves, and how the world relates to them. We consider that leaving off the labels and focusing on the behavior is the way to accomplish our mission.…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode we identify some things to consider during this holiday season when children are excited to visit Santa. How do you make sure that the experience is one of joy and love and magic and protect your child from a potential predator at the same time. You can do that with a few simple steps. Preserve the magic - an…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode, we continue to look at what child molesters can tell us about how they are able to gain access to our children, how they cultivate trusting relationships with us, and how they lure our children into situations and environments that place them at high risk. The practical aspects of what it looks like to keep …

Send us a Text Message. In this episode we take a look at some research from a different source to see how an investigation from a criminal perspective can reinforce and perhaps enhance the value of what we are discovering in this journey. What can offenders tell us about how they work to develop and cultivate relationships that give them access to…

Send us a Text Message. Many organizations have agreements with area schools, organizations, and programs to share facilities. This episode looks at the challenges of ensuring that those outside organizations are complying with the standards you set for your facilities and programs to ensure safety for all concerned.…

Send us a Text Message. This episode speaks to the establishment of actual physical environments that promote safe environments using the context of the guidelines set forth in the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child. Patents, administrators, teachers, volunteers and vendors can gain insight into how to establish policies, procedures, and prac…

Send us a Text Message. This episode intends to dispel any notion that we "know" where to look for potential perpetrators because of who they are. It also deals with new research about female perpetrators and the devastating consequences for our children of our failure to look in their direction for the behaviors we know place children at risk of h…

Send us a Text Message. This episode considers the challenges faced by parents when grandparents, aunts and uncles don't seem to be able to follow the parents' rules or avoid giving gifts without permission. Grandparents and aunts and uncles can see how their unwillingness to pay attention to this warning sign places children at risk of harm from o…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode we continue a discussion of the Potentially Risky Adult behaviors by considering what it looks like in reality when someone "always wants to be alone with children" and how we can stop that from happening.By Sharon Doty

Send us a Text Message. In this episode the need for reinvention of prevention efforts throughout the child welfare system is discussed including references to a presentation by Dr. Jerry Milner, former Associate Director of The Children’s Bureau and Acting Commissioner of the US. Government’s Administration for Children, Youth and Families. Dr. Mi…

Send us a Text Message. Dr. Maggie Ingram, Health Scientist, from the CDC’s National Center for Injury Prevention and Control and Division of Violence Prevention’s Child Abuse, Neglect, and Adversity Team joins us to talk about a topic that can sometimes be uncomfortable or hard to discuss: problematic sexual behavior among children. In this podcas…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode, Sharon answers several of the questions that have repeatedly been asked of her over the last 25 years as she has presented programs to adults around the country. Among the questions are those that identify the different types of predators that molest our children, why the children feel guilty when they are v…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode we look at the ways that predators in our environments groom us so that they are free to gain access to our children in secluded areas. Consider that there are effective ways that potential predators manipulate us into giving them free reign with our children and until we recognize those ways of being and act…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode we explore how we, as responsible, caring, alert adults can make a difference by simply bringing our already exceptional abilities to notice what's happening around us to the summer adventures we have with the children in our lives. We know how to pay attention and take note of the things that are happening a…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode we talk about how difficult it is to realize the nature and scope of the issue and how important it is to deal with our strongly held beliefs as if they are myths. Looking at reality regarding child sexual abuse it the only way we can create an environment where children are safe from predators.…

Send us a Text Message. We all need to realize the scope of the problem of child sexual abuse in our society. We need to consider how harmful it is to keep quiet or to talk ourselves out of speaking up. In this episode, we confront the truly human reaction to the need to speak up and protect others and how we must garner the courage to take action.…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode, Ronni Roni, a Keeping Them Safe facilitator talks about how she is reaching out to parents and providing them with the tools to stop predators in their tracks at the same time their children are being empowered to stand up for themselves. Doing both at the same time really expands the power of prevention.…

Send us a Text Message. This episode addresses some of the hurdles that adults face when considering whether to communicate a concern about another adult or how to do it in a way that reduces the risk of a bad reaction. We all have concerns about these issues when there is something we know we need to speak up about. Where children are concerned th…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode we discuss the similarities and differences between the grooming of a child for sexual abuse and the grooming for a child who is the victim of human trafficking. Many people often collapse the two issues - again in order to put the issue at arm's length and keep it away from them and their family. However, th…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode we talk about one of the behavioral warning signs that is most difficult to identify and address - too much touching. What is "too much" touching? Are we not supposed to touch other people's children at all? How do we know when we are acting in a way that nurtures a child's well being and when our actions are…

Send us a Text Message. What is a gift? We think that is an easy question, but this episode challenges us to look at what we call a "gift" and see whether it is really a "gift" so that we can teach our children the difference. We and they need to be able to tell the difference between something that is truly a "gift" and something that look like, s…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode, Sharon answers some of your questions about predators. Who are they? Are they all pedophiles? What's the difference? What about strangers who abduct, molest, and often kill children? Are all predators male - or at least most of them?By Sharon Doty

Send us a Text Message. In this episode, Sharon shares with us some hints about the ways that grooming is accomplished using techniques such as bribery, flattery, jealousy, and anger. You will have an opportunity to look at the ways that you use these techniques to gain what you want and begin to see how a predator goes further in order to manipula…

Send us a Text Message. LaChez English, from the Oklahoma State Health Department provides all of us with Everyday actions we can take to prevent child abuse and neglect. This episode is presented in service of April as Child Abuse Prevention Month.By Sharon Doty

Send us a Text Message. In this episode, Robyn Sears of the Oklahoma Child Guidance Center shares many simple ways that we can make a difference in our community and support families as part of a month long concentrated focus on prevention of child abuse. Take the time to learn how you can bring a new eye to situations that you encounter every day …

Send us a Text Message. This Interview with the Creative Director of the VIRTUS Protecting God's Children program addresses the challenges faced by a program that started to implement this new paradigm more than 20 years ago in the U. S. Roman Catholic Church. Crispin talks about the successes and the hurdles that have impacted the program's object…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode, we engage in a conversation with Erica Frazier, a child guidance counselor committed to shifting the paradigm. Erica talks about the need for parents and other responsible adults to learn about these potentially risky behaviors and begin to intervene and stop possible grooming from proceeding.…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode we talk about how predators continue to cultivate a relationship with children that leaves out the parents by operating in ways that ignore the parents' rules and cultivate an environment of secrecy. In addition, parents are encouraged to have conversations with their children that thwart secrecy and open the…

Send us a Text Message. In this episode we begin to consider the grooming process that predators employ to gain access to and trap children in their web of sexual abuse. We also being to look at the first of the potentially risky behaviors adults exhibit that indicate possible grooming and how we can interrupt and intervene when we see those behavi…

Send us a Text Message. In this first episode, we will be outlining what Keeping Them Safe is all about. We are committed to ending child sexual abuse by educating adults about the potentially risky behaviors exhibited by other adults in the environment and how they place children at risk. In this episode, we talk about why we are inviting all adul…

Send us a Text Message. Join us as we work to shift the paradigm of child sexual abuse prevention and give parents and other caring adults the knowledge and power they need to protect children from predators. We will be identifying the risky adult behaviors that a part of the grooming process and finding ways to interrupt the behaviors and protect …