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Do you wish you had a caring guide to accompany you in the darkness of grief? You are not alone. Receive comforting, practical wisdom each week as grief coach and author Shelby Forsythia answers anonymous letters from people facing death, divorce, diagnosis, and other major life transitions. It’s possible to live a good life after devastating loss. This is your way forward.
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Hello, I am a marital therapist, communications trainer and author. I have thirty-five years helping couples and individuals make better relationships. I have written twenty-plus self-help books which include the international best-sellers ‘I love you but I’m not in love with you’ and ‘How can I ever trust you again?’ My books have been translated into twenty languages. I trained with RELATE the UK’s largest counselling charity. Perhaps it has been turning sixty but I have become interested ...
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A recently bereaved father thought he would feel more after the death of his young son. Is he an emotionless monster? Or is something deeper going on? … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/free-workshop S…
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The Meaningful Life Classic Episode: TRACEY COX on Great Sex After 50 No-one would deny sex is important to a meaningful life, but what that looks like changes as we age. In this first episode of The Meaningful Life, international sex therapist and Daily Mail columnist Tracey Cox discusses her book Great Sex Starts at 50: How to Age-Proof Your Libi…
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After the sudden deaths of her cousin and uncle, a grieving niece wonders how she can bring her 70-something aunt happiness and joy in the final years of her life. … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/fr…
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Grief is a painful and confusing journey. Often, the culture encourages us to “move on”, squashing our grief down so that those around us are comfortable. This week Andrew talks to author and grief coach Shelby Forsythia. They discuss: Whether grief can turn “toxic” Coping with other people’s responses Living with grief as your companion Creating g…
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After his adoptive father's death, a grieving son struggled with drugs and alcohol. Now that he's sober, he wonders if his father would be ashamed or proud. … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/free-work…
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Are you successful in the eyes of family and friends, but still feel empty and a little lost? Is there a nagging voice telling you that your life could have been bigger? Dr Esther Zeledon had scaled the heights of career success as a scientist and international diplomat, but suffered from a strong sense that things weren’t right. She left behind a …
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Ever since the death of their grandmother, a grieving listener keeps getting sick. … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/free-workshop Submit your anonymous letter for Dear Grief Guide: https://www.shelby…
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Grandparents love to spoil their grandchildren and make them happy, whereas as a parent, you take your responsibility for your children’s health and wellbeing seriously. This, together with different experiences of what childhood means, can be a recipe for anxiety and conflict. In this episode, parenting expert Sue Atkins talks with Andrew about ho…
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After her father's death, a grieving woman is frustrated by her partner's distant, unsupportive behavior. … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/free-workshop Get a year of text message grief support for l…
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Parents like to feel they are independent individuals making their own decisions, but in reality parenting is hugely influenced by our own experiences of childhood. In this classic early episode, Andrew and therapist and author Philippa Perry talk about how we are “links in a chain", and why it is important for parents to recognise that and ensure …
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A grieving twin wonders how to celebrate the birthday he shared with his brother who died. … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/free-workshop Submit your anonymous letter for Dear Grief Guide: https://ww…
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Each month, 20% of us embark on a new diet. Sadly, 95% of all diets prove unsuccessful. According to psychologist and author Dr Pam Spurr, emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is to blame. This week Andrew and Pam discuss the ways emotional eating is culturally ingrained, other strategies to self-soothe and how you can develop a more holis…
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A letter-writer wonders how to maintain focus and motivation while navigating divorce and the sudden death of a dear friend. … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/free-workshop Submit your anonymous lette…
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As a child, were you made to feel like your feelings didn’t matter, while your parents’ feelings loomed large? Were your boundaries repeatedly crossed? Were you emotionally neglected? If so, you may have been raised by emotionally immature parents. In this episode Andrew talks to TikTok's popular healing transformation coach Dr. Kai Tai Kevin Qiu, …
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After the suicide of their mother, a listener struggles to move through numbness and shock and begin to feel their emotions. … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/free-workshop Submit your anonymous lette…
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Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse in which a gaslighter undermines and controls another person by deflecting, twisting, and denying their reality. Gaslighting leaves victims second-guessing themselves, unable to make decisions and destabilised by constant shifts in reality. In this week’s episode, Andrew talks to author and psycho…
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A grieving woman whose mother died is struggling to show emotion, especially around her adult daughter. … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/free-workshop Submit your anonymous letter for Dear Grief Guid…
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Sex and pornography addiction is on the rise. It can affect young and old, rich and poor, male and female. Those who are in the grip of this type of addiction struggle to create and maintain "real-life" relationships, and their partners may experience feelings of grief and betrayal. In this episode Andrew talks with psychotherapist Dr Paula Hall ab…
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After the death of her mother, a grieving woman wonders if she's allowed to be happy again. … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/free-workshop Submit your anonymous letter for Dear Grief Guide: https://w…
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An anxious attachment style is very common, and can lead to chaotic and unsuccessful relationships. Research suggests that anxious types are more prone to insecurity, jealousy, codependency, and other behaviours that get in the way of finding and sustaining love. In this episode psychotherapist Jessica Baum talks with Andrew about identifying and u…
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A man mourning the death of his wife yearns to be the person he used to be while also struggling with who loss is forcing him to become. … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/free-workshop Submit your ano…
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People-pleasing is an ultimately futile and self-defeating approach to life. If we focus on making everyone else happy, we can end up frustrated, confused and resentful. Ironically, in trying to be “Mr Nice Guy”, people-pleasers often end up driven into behaviour that is anything but nice. This week Andrew talks to therapist and author Dr Robert Gl…
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Ever since the sudden death of their best friend, a letter-writer is constantly thinking about who will die next. … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/free-workshop Submit your anonymous letter for Dear …
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If our partner really loved us, wouldn’t everything be a lot easier? If they were “the one”, surely we wouldn’t be losing our minds over towels dropped on the bathroom floor? In this episode marital therapist Dr Cheryl Fraser joins Andrew to discuss the destructive myth of the soulmate. According to Cheryl, there is no such thing as a soulmate. Whe…
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Six months after their grandmother's death, a listener's friends seem to be pulling away. They want to know if they should be more clear with their needs or find new friends to share their grief with. … Get $10 off a year of grief support text messages from Help Texts: https://helptexts.com/shelbyforsythia Ready to find your way after devastating l…
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Good therapy changes lives: people stop worrying as much, they make better decisions, they are kinder to themselves and their loved ones, they achieve more at work, they can control their anger, they are able to stop destructive habits, they form loving relationships. This week therapists Graham Johnston and Matt Wotton talk to Andrew about their n…
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As the one year anniversary of their best friend's death approaches, a grieving graduate student worries that no one will honor her memory with them. … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/free-workshop Su…
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How can we live with loss? What can we do when death shakes to the core our comfortable belief that life is predictable, the world is just, and people are reliable? This week Dr Robert A. Neimeyer of the Portland Institute for Loss and Transition joins Andrew to discuss the work of grief. Andrew and Robert discuss the task of rebuilding meaning in …
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A young letter-writer feel disconnected from her best friend because she isn't receiving signs and symbols from her friend after her death. … Ready to find your way after devastating loss? Check out my FREE workshop: Grow Through Grief: 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Stuck and Start Moving Forward: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/free-workshop Submit your …
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Have you allowed yourself to explore your sexual fantasies, or do they feel like dark territory that is off-limits? Have you explored them with your partner? This week I talk to Jungian psychotherapist Dr Douglas Thomas about his new book, The Deep Psychology of BDSM and Kink. We cover: Why it’s so hard to talk about your fantasies with your partne…
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After the sudden, back-to-back deaths of her mother and brother, a listener wonders how to grieve both of them at once. ... Join Life After Loss Academy, my online course + community that helps you move forward after devastating loss: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/life-after-loss-academy Submit your anonymous letter for Dear Grief Guide: https://…
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If you were raised in a sad, chaotic home, you will unsurprisingly experience difficulties in your adult relationships. If your parents were cold and distant and discouraged the expression of emotions, you’ll be equally ill-prepared for successful relationships or effective parenting. This week Andrew talks to Dr Samantha Rodman Whiten (also known …
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A newly bereaved sibling wonders whether life will ever feel good or carefree again. … Join Life After Loss Academy, my online course + community that helps you move forward after devastating loss: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/life-after-loss-academy Submit your anonymous letter for Dear Grief Guide: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/dear-grief-gu…
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Estrangement from adult children can be one of the most disorienting and painful experiences of a parent's life. This week, Andrew talks to Dr Joshua Coleman, the author of Rules of Estrangement. They discuss: Why estrangement has become so common Why estrangement isn’t a one-sided story of parents who got what they deserved or overly entitled adul…
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A grieving daughter can't shake the feeling that her dad is still alive. … Join Life After Loss Academy, my online course + community that helps you move forward after devastating loss: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/life-after-loss-academy Submit your anonymous letter for Dear Grief Guide: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/dear-grief-guide-podcast-…
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Could the ancient wisdom of Taoism help us with the emotional challenges of modern life? Author and Taoist priest Greg Ripley believes that a little-known 6th-century Taoist text called the Bai Yao Lu (Statutes of the Hundred Remedies) offers some profound answers. In this episode, Greg and Andrew discuss some of the Hundred Remedies, and how they …
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A series of pregnancy losses leaves a listener exhausted and depleted, wondering if it's worth it to "get back on the horse" and keep trying. ... Join Life After Loss Academy, my online course + community that helps you move forward after devastating loss: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/life-after-loss-academy Submit your anonymous letter for Dear…
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For many women, intense caring and nurturing relationships cause their inner fire to dim, leaving them feeling they have lost themselves. Author and Jungian analyst Lisa Marchiano’s new book is called The Vital Spark: Reclaim Your Outlaw Energies and Find Your Feminine Fire. Lisa wrote the book to help women “break free from the conditioning that h…
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After a life-changing diagnosis, a letter-writer wants his friend to stop treating him like a project to be fixed or a puzzle to be solved. … Join Life After Loss Academy, my online course + community that helps you move forward after devastating loss: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/life-after-loss-academy Submit your anonymous letter for Dear Gri…
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Menopause is a seismic transition for women, and for their partners. The physical and emotional changes it brings will undoubtedly reverberate into a couple’s sex life. Irish therapist Beth Wallace believes that this transition can be an opportunity rather than an ending. While decreases in hormones definitely impact women’s bodies in some detrimen…
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A woman discovers she's grieving a strange sort of loss—a dream that she never anticipated having to let go of. … Join Life After Loss Academy, my online course + community that helps you move forward after devastating loss: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/life-after-loss-academy Submit your anonymous letter for Dear Grief Guide: https://www.shelby…
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If you’ve suffered serious trauma, you may well be feeling confused by the sudden ubiquity of the term. The concept of trauma is having its cultural moment in the sun, and seems to be constantly under discussion on social media. This week, Andrew speaks to Jeremy Fox, a therapist and trauma specialist, about: How to define trauma Different types of…
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I’m excited to launch my new online course for couples: My Best Relationship Tools. This week, I talk with my friend and podcast engineer, Michael Dooney, about how the course can make a difference in your relationship. We discuss: Why couples struggle to communicate How to stop using failing strategies New ways of approaching conflict How to liste…
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A listener is terrified that the passage of time will make them forget their aunt and cousin who died suddenly. … Join Life After Loss Academy, my online course + community that helps you move forward after devastating loss: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/life-after-loss-academy Submit your anonymous letter for Dear Grief Guide: https://www.shelby…
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Each and every one of us is awesome in some way - but, we are also human. Author, speaker and entrepreneur Nataly Kogan wrote her Awesome Human Journal to help people learn to honour their humanity, whilst also strengthening their emotional fitness. In this episode, Andrew and Nataly discuss how to: Edit your thoughts and quiet your inner critic Sa…
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After the death of his dog, a letter-writer struggles under the heavy weight of grief. … Join Life After Loss Academy, my online course + community that helps you move forward after devastating loss: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/life-after-loss-academy Submit your anonymous letter for Dear Grief Guide: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/dear-grief-…
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Hopes, dreams and goals stretch far into the future, but intentions are about the present. Setting intentions means translating your goals into small steps you can achieve right now. Intentionality offers you a roadmap for progress and personal growth. In this episode Andrew talks with therapist Erin Vandermore about what it means to set intentions…
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A woman grieving a miscarriage feels deserted by friends and family who have moved on and gone back to their normal lives. … Join Life After Loss Academy, my online course + community that helps you move forward after devastating loss: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/life-after-loss-academy Submit your anonymous letter for Dear Grief Guide: https:/…
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More than one third of adults suffer from insomnia or some other kind of sleep disorder. Left unaddressed, lack of sleep can lead to debilitated health, lowered resilience, and decreased performance in all aspects of life. Psychologist, author and spiritual teacher Philip Carr-Gomm’s latest book is The Gift of the Night. The book combines an extens…
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A letter-writer doesn’t want to attend his grandfather’s celebration of life. … Join Life After Loss Academy, my online course + community that helps you move forward after devastating loss: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/life-after-loss-academy Submit your anonymous letter for Dear Grief Guide: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/dear-grief-guide-pod…
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