This is the podcast for "too much" moms who feel like they are failing at motherhood and don't want to fail anymore. Your hosts, Stacey Hutson and Stephanie Sprenger, two ADHD moms of four girls ages 4-18, most definitely don't have it all figured out. But we know one thing for sure: understanding our brains is the key to enjoying our motherhood, and our SELVES again. Here, we are brutally honest about our ADHD motherhoods (the missed Spirit Weeks, the mountains of laundry, the nostalgia for ...
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#110: One Mom's Story of Living With Anxiety and ADHD
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ADHD, high functioning anxiety and perfectionist-based procrastination go together like peanut butter, jelly and banana. We’re former hard-working, top-of our class, good girls who masked our high functioning anxiety our whole lives, and then we became mothers, and the masks are falling apart. They are WORN OUT. And we just can’t keep them together…
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#109: What Taylor Swift Has To Do With Women's Voices, Women's Rage, and Women's Community
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Steph reviews the new Taylor Swift album, The Tortured Poets Department. But this episode isn't really about music or being a Swiftie—it's about women's voices, rage, community, and connection. Steph had a few viral posts that brought up a LOT of issues—namely, why do women sometimes tear each other down? We talk about the "therapy" of Taylor Swift…
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#108: When The ADHD Mom Loses Her Fun and How To Get It Back
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I used to be fun—what happened?" In this Stace and Steph episode, we explore what happens when an ADHD mom feels like she lost her fun. ADHD women are before we had kids—we want to reclaim some of the fun of our 20s and 30s that we lost. We all go through an inevitable unwilding and rewilding of ourselves, and as a mom of older kids, Steph gives us…
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#107: How To Organize and Declutter Your Home When You Have ADHD
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Guess what? We found a professional organizer who has ADHD. This episode is all about how to actually get our homes -- and our lives -- in a place that makes our minds feel more at peace. But we're not doing it with the typical organizing advice. Because, as you likely already know, that doesn't work for the ADHD brain. Today, Esmeralda Simonelli, …
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Saving My Daughter From Heartbreak: A Story From The Live Stage Show About Motherhood
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When you’re a mom, and you surround yourselves with moms telling their motherhood stories, baring their souls, laughing, crying, and being brutally honest, it is a powerful thing. Listen To Your Mother is a national series of live storytelling shows where local writers share their original pieces about motherhood. And today, Steph brings you the pi…
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#105: Tracy Otsuka Teaches Women How To Own Their ADHD: Part 2
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We begin part two with this doozy: Tracy Otsuka shares that she never struggled with motherhood. Why? Her husband served as her executive functioning, and they split tasks based on what they were both good at. Revolutionary, huh? In this episode... Tracy gives us the most beautiful reality check about what it really means to be a "good mom." It's a…
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104: How To Actually Unwrap & Use The Organizational Tools You Buy For Your Home (For The ADHD Mom)
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Organization Graveyard: The place where all the organizational tools you buy from Amazon, Target, and The Container Store go to die. They are unwrapped, unused, and riddled with guilt, a constant reminder that you are a spacey, unorganized ADHD mom. Not. Anymore. Stacey takes you through -- step by step -- how to actually tackle the graveyard. How …
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#103: Tracy Otsuka Teaches Women How To Own Their ADHD: Part 1
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In Part I of our conversation with the incomparable Tracy Otsuka, we share the story of how we came to find her, and introduce her podcast and incredible book to our listeners. We discuss Tracy's superpowers as a woman with ADHD, and how her story may be unlike other ADHD women because of her confidence and comfort level with being "different." The…
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102: How To Put Laundry Away For The ADHD Mom
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This Tedious Task of the Week is putting the laundry away—we hate doing this! Steph shares her step-by-step guide to pouring out the laundry basket, sorting the clothes, and getting it put away in a less soul-crushing way. We are all about making dreaded household care tasks less painful, so let's tackle it together! Here's the Cliff's Notes: Steph…
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#101: This Therapist Joins Mental Health With Spirituality (i.e. Woo + Therapy for the ADHD Mom)
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Did you ever imagine a day where you could go to your therapist office, and pull out the tarot cards? Today, we’re talking to holistic therapist, yogi, meditation teacher and author, Chris McDonald. "Tarot friendly" is literally on her about page. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't take her seriously. By the end of today’s episode, you will unders…
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#100: The Little Things ADHD Moms Can Do For Their Tomorrow Self Today
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What is one thing you can do for your tomorrow self today? The answer to this question will give you all the material you need to create love notes for yourself, i.e. beautiful gestures throughout the house to help ease that scattered ADHD brain of yours. We’re going to talk about: How the book “Mindful Loving” by Henry Grayson changed the way Stac…
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#99 A Psychologist Explains How The ADHD Mom Can Advocate For Herself: Part 2
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In part 2 of our discussion with Dr. Rebecca Richey, we talk about the impact of going undiagnosed, whether by chance or by choice. We focus on treatment options, including medication and holistic options, and Dr. Richey explains how individualized treatment can be for women with ADHD, and that a multi-modal approach works best. Dr. Richey explains…
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8 Spiritual Woo Woo Practices For The ADHD Mom
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In this episode, we cover: We went viral last week with a reel about 1990s Gifted and Talented Girls with ADHD, anxiety, perfectionism who are "now immersed in a spiritual journey," and it must have struck a nerve—today we are exploring the connection between women who have ADHD and are into all things spiritual and woo. We wonder if the creative, …
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A Psychologist Explains How The ADHD Mom Can Advocate For Herself: Part 1
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In this episode, we cover: The diagnosis process can be fraught. Dr. Richey says that you do NOT need a diagnosis to start giving yourself love and compassion. You don't need a label to understand yourself. The DSM is very limited, and is inadequate when it comes to diagnosing women and girls as well as the BIPOC community. Dr. Richey breaks down t…
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Clearing Storage & Memory In Your Computer For The ADHD Mom
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Stace and Steph have a dirty secret—their computers' storage and memory are AWFUL. Do you have a "thing" like this that makes you feel embarrassed, ashamed, and overwhelmed? Something that feels like a weight on you but you can't seem to make yourself address it? Steph decided to clean up her computer's storage over the weekend—here's how she did i…
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An ADHD Professional Explains Why Motherhood Is Such A Struggle For Women With ADHD: Part 2
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In this episode, we cover: What internalized values have contributed to women with ADHD feeling like a failure, and how do we shake off cultural beliefs and gender roles that we do not subscribe to? ADHD moms have interest-wired brains: We talk about the impact of having our interests align with our children's and how much easier it is to connect w…
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Today, we're going to spend 10 minutes talking about ADHD and losing it. As in, your temper and your mind. In this quickie episode, we're going to cover: How ADHD and losing your temper are related What Leah Barnes mentioned in the previous episode: "I was struggling to begin with, but now, instead of keeping track of my own life, I've also got to …
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An ADHD Professional Explains Why Motherhood Is Such A Struggle For Women With ADHD: Part 1
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Steph and I are more than ready to talk about ADHD for moms with a professional. Welcome Leah Barnes, licensed clinical mental health counselor with a specialty in ADHD for adults. We ask her EVERYTHING about ADHD in women and ADHD in motherhood. Here's what we cover: The phenomenon of moms realizing they have ADHD after getting their kids diagnose…
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BONUS: How To Clean Your Fridge For The ADHD Mom
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Steph tackles her chaotic fridge in today's Tedious Task of the Week episode. Step 1: Throw out the questionable stuff—no guilt, just toss it! Step 2: Remove leftovers you know you aren't going to eat and put the containers on the counter. Step 3: Take out trashy items your kids left in there (or you did, oops) like cardboard packaging and half-con…
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I Am An ADHD Mom: What Do I Do Now? (The Best Resources & Recommendations Inside)
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ADHD meds—what it's supposed to feel like, how it's going for Steph, and the challenges of getting meds right now. Our favorite books on ADHD—especially for women—and the things we love about them. Applying the ADHD filter to our lives and our motherhood feels embarrassing at times, like it's all we can talk about. But the integration, healing, and…
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BONUS: How To Match Socks For The ADHD Mom
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Today is our very first episode and our series that we were calling big tedious task of the week. Big Tedious Task = The really seemingly menial, tedious little things that every other mom seems to have no issue with, but you feel like it's equivalent to climbing Mount Everest. One of the challenges with ADHD or a neuro divergent brain, is that it …
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When You Finally See Yourself Clearly: An ADHD Story (With Inspiration from Alice in Wonderland)
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It can feel vulnerable and uncomfortable when you learn something major about yourself and it's all you want to talk about—like, for example, a brand new ADHD diagnosis. Looking back at your life through a new lens is an important part of integration and healing. Steph has always been a huge fan of Alice in Wonderland, and shares her lightbulb mome…
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How To Get Tested For ADHD And The Ways In Which It Could Change Your Life
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Welcome back to the ADHD in Motherhood Series. It's been a ride. Today, we cover: The process to getting an ADHD evaluation can be tricky, which sort of feels like a sick joke when you're already struggling to complete tasks you don't like. Be prepared to feel big feelings after your diagnosis: anything ranging from grief to relief. You may experie…
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The Things That You're Good At Because You're An ADHD Mom
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Let's talk about the positive qualities about women with ADHD—because, yes, we have our own superpowers! We had a major breakthrough about our "Remember her?" moments when we are longing for our pre-mom selves: Of course we miss the person we used to be before all the things we struggled with became magnified. Motherhood + ADHD can wreak havoc on s…
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This Is For The Moms Who Feel Like They Are Failing At Motherhood
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**TO JOIN US AT THE NEW MOON VIRTUAL RETREAT, CLICK HERE: https://www.motherplusser.com/new-moon-retreat** We are so excited to share the first episode in a 5-part series for moms who basically feel like they suck at this whole motherhood thing. Stace and Steph look at motherhood through the lens of ADHD; getting a diagnosis opened Steph's eyes to …
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How To Create A New Moon Ritual For Yourself To Do Every Month (With Mother + Astrological Intuitive)
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Stace and Steph welcome Jamie DeLuccio, astrological intuitive, yogi, and women's circle facilitator, back to the podcast for a follow-up episode. As always, we are all about permission on this podcast! Understanding your birth chart and how astrology can impact your life is the ultimate permission slip to understand and accept who you are. Jamie t…
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In this mini episode, find out what we learned from Parent Coach Cindy Shuster in our virtual workshop, It's Good For Kids To Help. Cindy reminds us to be kind and gentle with ourselves first and foremost—give yourself a break! We learn the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, and why extrinsic doesn't really work. Cindy shares he…
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Flying Under The Radar of ADHD Because You're A Smart "Good Girl"
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Moving beyond the stereotypes: ADHD can show up very differently in women/girls than in men and boys. Steph shares what it felt like to be a sensitive daydreamer in school, a "good girl" who got good grades and flew under the radar because her symptoms were all internalized. Do you feel like you've had a "secret" your whole life, that maybe there w…
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Screen time: Some of us hate it, some of us rely on it, some of us feel guilty and confused, but almost all moms have BIG feelings about screen time. It's a slippery slope—Stacey shares how her zero tolerance screen time went from the occasional TV show to weekend cartoon marathons and iPads in the car. Steph's kids are older, and she shares a comp…
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It's All On Me: Moms Talk Failure To Delegate In Their Houshold
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**SIGN UP FOR THE PARENT WORKSHOP HERE: https://www.motherplusser.com/parent-workshop** In this episode, we cover: Stace and Steph confess that they are total Montessori Failures—after trying to empower our kids' independence when they were toddlers, things aren't going so well these days. It feels impossible as parents to commit to a "chore plan" …
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Holiday Magic For Moms: The Antidote To Holiday Stress & Disappointment
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** Download the Self-Indulgent Season Inspiration List FREE: https://www.motherplusser.com/Self-Indulgent-Season ** In this episode, we cover: •Holiday magic fades fast as mothers, despite our big daydreams that it will be extra magical when we make our favorite childhood holiday moments happen for our own kids. •When holiday disasters befall us, e…
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Are You A Main Character Mom? Don't Be Embarrassed. So Are We.
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Are you a Main Character Mommy? Don't be embarrassed—so are we. Can we ditch the narrative that quirky, charismatic moms have something wrong with them? Even in this age of feminism and female empowerment, we are resistant to the idea that a mom can and should be the main character. The one line in the Barbie movie that Stace and Steph can't stand—…
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The Mother Daughter Journey Part 2: How To Find Connection With Our Daughters Again As They Grow Up
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**To sign up for the Emerging Writer's Workshop, click here!** Deb shares her opinion on the biggest obstacle in mother-daughter relationships right now, and it's probably not what you think. Grief is a huge part of our journey with our daughters—letting go is hard, and even when you have a secure relationship with your daughter, your influence in …
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The Mother Daughter Journey Part 1: What Happens To Our Relationship When They Turn 9?
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**To sign up for the emerging writers workshop, click here: https://www.motherplusser.com/writing-workshop ** In this episode, we cover: As parents, we can't help but project "our stuff" onto our children: Deb talks about "conscious adulting," in which we show up responsible for who we are and invite our children to learn how to be exactly who they…
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Cycle Sync With Me! Part 2: Follicular Phase
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Welcome back to the Cycle Sync with me series. Today, we're going to discuss what comes AFTER your period: The Follicular Phase. Most of us haven't spent a lot of time understanding what is happening during this phase of our cycles. But it's actually a pretty beautiful, uplifting time. It's really your body taking a fresh start. In this episode, we…
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I'm Not A Real Writer/Artist/Creative: The Excuses We Tell Ourselves To Not Do The Things We Love To Do
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Impostor syndrome for creatives is a real thing—today we approach it through the angle of writing, and our tendency to say, "I'm not a real writer." What pulls you to feel the need to write/create/sing/paint? Many of us do these things because we simply feel like we have to, like there is something inside that needs to get out—it's a catharsis. We …
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When Was The Last Time You Asked Yourself: Do I Like My Days?
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We learned that our retreat attendees' goals weren't as specific and project-oriented as we imagined—most of them wanted to reassess their day-to-day routines and priorities to make themselves feel better and happier. Zooming in to the small details of your day rather than zooming out to the big picture/pie in the sky goals can be intuitive and hea…
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Parenting Insecurities and a Maternal Identity Crisis: A Super Mom Road Trip Story
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In today's solo episode, Steph shares an update on her memoir and reads an excerpt. When you're a nostalgia junkie, saying goodbye to your childhood home can be rough—Steph dragged her young kids on a 25-hour pilgrimage to the midwest nine years ago to see her old house one last time. Being a solo parent is a ripe opportunity to confront one's pare…
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I Didn’t Realize I Was This Depleted: Why You Need To Fill Up On You-Time Regularly
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Stace and Steph share the "secret sauce" we've learned from our experiences working with women during our two September events. We discuss the power of intentional connection with women who want to "go there" with each other and get real—and how the effort leaves you feeling filled up instead of depleted. You can't plan for the unique alchemy that …
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Cycle Synch With Me! Part 1: Menstrual Cycle
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Come cycle synch with Stacey in this four-part series, all about why and how we can cater our lifestyle choices to what time of the month it is. In Part 1, she discusses the menstrual phase of cycle synching. She talks about: Why we should see our period as a beautiful sign to slow down our bodies and embrace the “lazy” What she eats to keep her bo…
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People-Pleasing, Disclaiming, & Qualifying: Why Do Women Feel The Need To Diminish Their Stories?
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Being a woman writing memoir is scary and can bring up fears that writing about your own life is self-absorbed or navel-gazing. Why do so many women feel the need to apologize for their work or offer disclaimers that diminish the value of their stories? Mother-plussers can be a bundle of contradictions: Steph describes herself as unapologetically a…
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How Does A Type B Mother + Entrepreneur Keep Her Sh*t Together To Run A Business?
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In this episode, Stacey gets the honor of interviewing one of her business mentors, Allie Casazza. She is a #1 best-selling author, a podcast chart topper, and thought leader when it comes to minimalism -- not just in your home, but in your life. Today, we talk motherhood + business. We cover: The power of changing your mind in your life and in bus…
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Ditch Self-improvement And Information Overload: Try This Instead
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In this episode... Stace and Steph share our obsession with the word "container," and why we think it's exactly what women need right now. Moms are always giving and giving, and we we do have downtime, we often bombard ourselves with new information and trying to "better" ourselves, which isn't always what we need. Sometimes when we over-consume, w…
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Steph Went Back In Time To Before She Was A Mom
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The Mother Plus Mini* Retreat is HERE!!! An afternoon away from your kids that is so life-giving, it feels like a weekend retreat. Get in on it here: https://www.motherplusser.com/offers/3AL55MUq *We're talking 4.5 hours away. You can take 4.5 hours. In this episode: Steph shares the balance of writing the "inner story" and "outer story" of her mem…
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Our Favorite Rituals, Places, and Practices That Can Help You Feel More Connected To Yourself
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What, exactly, does "woo-woo" mean? Stacey reads us the official Merriam-Webster and Steph shares her take. Steph shares why she thinks people seek out these kinds of experiences, rituals, and practices: to feel more connected to ourselves, and to feel more connected to something greater than ourselves. Why do people hate this stuff so much? We exp…
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Carve Out A Sliver of Time For Yourself This September
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Hey Mom Friend - Need some time alone? (But with other women) Exhausted after a summer of giving and giving and giving to your kids? Can’t stop thinking about that class you want to take or that idea you want to work on or that book you want to write? Carve out a sliver of time for yourself this September at the Mother + Mini Retreat. Stace and Ste…
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"It's Not Ladies Night:" This Mother + Stand Up Comedian Talks Sexism In The Comedy Industry
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In this episode, we cover: "And then I took a stand-up class and it changed my whole life." Find out how Zoe Rogers went from actress to SAHM to thriving stand-up comic. When Zoe began performing stand-up comedy, she noticed a glaringly obvious lack of women: "How am I supposed to get good at this if I can't get booked?" "Can't we all just fall apa…
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To All The Women Who Say I'm Sorry Too Much: This One Is For You
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Question: What is the one thing that women do A LOT that kills their confidence? The answer to this question is so compelling, so relatable, that since answering this question, I have talked about it on stage in front of over 500 people, and gone viral-ish on Instagram for speaking on the subject matter. And finally, today, I get to bring it to you…
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How To Not Lose Your Damn Mind This Summer Break
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In this episode, we cover: Buckle up—it's summer vacation. Regardless of whether you're staying home with kids, juggle working at home with kids home from school, or are a full-time working mom, the transition to summer brings undeniable challenges. But don't despair! We have ideas to help. But it will take just a tiny bit of organization and plann…
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Our Best Conversation About Postpartum Depression and Mental Health For Moms
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Suzanne is a former actor and Miss Arab USA turned writer. Her personal experience with postpartum depression and anxiety left her feeling alone and confused. In her book Post Pardon Me, she addresses the dark thoughts that so many mothers have but are too scared to say out loud. She's thrilled to get this book into the hands of mothers who may be …
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