Are you new to the kink scene and thinking about how to draw the line between your kink and vanilla life? Are you an experienced kinkster concerned about how your kink or sexual life could affect your work, future career or family? Are you wondering who and what to trust with your wallet name or your credit card?
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Episode 26: Deanonymization - How little does it take to identify you
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Are you worried about your online privacy? If so, you won’t want to miss the next Keeping Secret with Vir Cotto. Vir will be talking about de-anonymization. De-anonymization is the act of unmasking someone’s identity based on “anonymous” or unrelated data online. In this talk, Vir will be showing you just how little information it takes to identify…
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Episode 25: Spring Cleaning Privacy Cleanups
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Spring is quickly approaching, and with it, Spring Cleaning. On the next Keeping Secrets, we’ll be discussing Spring Cleaning Your Accounts. You’ll learn about how old accounts can come back to haunt you, how to quickly find them, deal with them, and how to generally keep your kink life separate from your vanilla life.…
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Episode 24: How Not To Get Overwhelmed About Your Privacy
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It’s easy to feel hopeless when working with your privacy. We’ll talk about the best strategies to stay on track without getting overworked or overwhelmed.By Vir Cotto
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Episode 23: Keeping Your Documents Private
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Your Documents reveal a lot about you. Collaborating online is normal in our vanilla world, but in kink, we need to think about how to best collaborate online without giving away our vanilla identity.By Vir Cotto
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Episode 22: Kink and Privacy: Where to Start
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In this webinar, we’ll talk about how to start safeguarding your privacy in the scene, how to separate what’s important and how to create a plan that you can stick to.By Vir Cotto
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After the US Supreme Court has reversed its decision regarding Roe v Wade, arguing that there is no intrinsic right to reproductive health privacy in the US, what do we need to know, as kinksters and also as people. We’ll be talking about how the decision impacts our individual rights, practical and immediate privacy steps you need to take, and tip…
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With kink conventions under way again, how do we maintain our privacy while attending? What are the essentials we need to remember at conventions? What should we be on the look out for and how should we safeguard ourselves?By Vir Cotto
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Episode 19: Revenge Porn, Outing and Doxxing
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With kink conventions under way again, how do we maintain our privacy while attending? What are the essentials we need to remember at conventions? What should we be on the look out for and how should we safeguard ourselves?By Vir Cotto
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What does the law say about BDSM? What are your rights around privacy with the police? Or if you travel internationally, around borders? What are some strategies around being truthful and keeping your privacy when confronted by law enforcement? And what should you do if you are questioned or arrested? On May 5th, Vir will be sitting down with @Mean…
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Episode 17: Keeping Your Privates Private with Secure Instant Messengers
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When you send an intimate text, you want to be sure it gets to its intended recipient, but you also don’t want it go to to anyone else. On April 7th, Vir will be discussing instant messengers, and how to select and one that will keep your private communication private!By Vir Cotto
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How do we know if a website, an app or a service is good for us? When we buy food at the supermarket, we look at the labels to know if it’s healthy or not. We can see the number of calories a food has, its ingredients, whether or not it’s organic, free range, vegan, dairy free, gluten free, etc. In the next Keeping Secrets, Vir will share how to re…
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Episode 15: Privacy in Dating & Love
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The only thing better than being kinky is having somene to share your kink with, but being kinky and dating can be challenging. Besides the normal dating challenges, kinksters experience a host of challenges when trying to date, in both the vanilla and kink world. On Feburary 3rd, we’ll be sitting down with @NookieNotes, the founder of Dating Kinky…
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Vir will be talking about how best to make use of FetLife for your connections and education, while also protecting your vanilla privacy.By Vir Cotto
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Episode 13: Nonmonogamy & Your Privacy
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So, you’ve opened up? Or maybe you’re exploring nonmonogamy. What are the challenges you might face with your alternative relationships styles, and how could you handle them to protect yourself and others?By Vir Cotto
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Let’s go back to basics with (Re)Joining the Scene. We’ll cover the basics everyone needs to know when they first enter the BDSM community, as well as some tips for old timers and organizers on how to be welcoming to newcomers as well as those of us coming out of hibernation.By Vir Cotto
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Episode 11: Privacy and the Police (with special guest Lorenzo)
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What do you if you’re stopped on the road with a trunk full of rope and knives? What’s the best way to get yourself out of a difficult situation with a law enforcement officer?By Vir Cotto
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Summers come with sunshine and cold drinks by the beach. You’ve already gotten yourself into your summer clothes, so now is the perfect time for a Digital Detox. What’s a Digital Detox? It’s a time to reduce or eliminate online stressors as well as washing away your digital footprints.By Vir Cotto
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Episode 9: Shopping Safely While Kinky
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Do you need to keep your kink life and public life separate? Do you have a job or family that wouldn't understand your lifestyle? Do you worry about what might happen if people found out about your lifestyle? Join us on the first Thursday of the month to discuss kink, privacy, good online and offline security and more…
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Episode 8: Browsing Through Browsers Pt2 - Settings and Plugins
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What are the best settings and plugns to use to protect your web browsing? On the next Keeping Secrets with Vir Cotto, Vir will go show you exactly what to set to make your web browser more secure, more private and more safe. Do you need to keep your kink life and public life separate? Do you have a job or family that wouldn't understand your lifes…
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Episode 7: Privacy and Sex Work, featuring special guest Jessie Sage!
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On the next Keeping Secrets, Vir will be interviewing Jessie Sage is a Pittsburgh based independent content creator, sex worker, and phone sex operator. She’s also a writer and the co-founder and managing editor of Peepshow Media. We’ll be discussing the unique privacy issues around sex work, safety, public policy, and what we as kinksters can lear…
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Episode 6: The Most Foolish Things to Do as a Kinkster Online
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Learn these simple, easy ways that you can easily hurt your privacy or anonymity online and off as a kinkster. This webinar is for all experience levels, from curious newbies to experienced kinksters. No April Fooling!By Vir Cotto
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Episode 5: Browsing Through Browsers
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In the next Keeping Secrets, we'll take a look at the current crop of web browsers and discuss their similarities, their differences, and what you need to know about them. We'll also discuss privacy enhancing plugins and settings you can use to make your web browsing experience even more secure!By Vir Cotto
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What kinds of steps can we take to ensure that our account logins are safe, both in our kink and non-kink lives. We'll discuss password managers, two-factor authentication, and even how new passwordless authentication tokens can make the web safer and easier to use! We explore keeping your logins safe on the next episode of Keeping Secrets with Vir…
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Episode 3: VPN, Browsers, Tor and More!
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What about web browsers? Can they protect our privacy? Chrome or Firefox? Safari or Brave? What about Opera?! And what about Tor?! Join us for a night of straight talk about choosing a browser and selecting a VPN, browsers, and Tor, on the next edition of Keeping Secrets with Vir Cotto!By Vir Cotto
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Episode 2: Utilizing A Second Phone
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In the next Keeping Secrets, a webinar series hosted by Dating Kinky and @NookieNotes, we'll discuss options for a second phone, the difference between hard phones and virtual phones, phones that respect your privacy and the five things a kinkster should never do with their phone! Please join us on December 3rd for the live show, or listen later as…
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Episode 1: Attending or Hosting an Event with Privacy in Mind
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As an organizer, can you host a kink event on the web without compromising the privacy of your attendees? What are your obligations and what can you do to ensure your in online events are as safe as your in person events? We explore the privacy of online events on the debut episode of Keeping Secrets with Vir Cotto.…
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