In this episode, Steve breaks down how it's healthy to feel shame to improve relationships with self and others. He recaps the difference between guilt and shame as well as offers 4 ways to use remorse for healing. He covers two scripture passages and a saint that exemplified this in their life. Check it out and share with a friend!…

Ellen Drews is back to discuss a crucial part of the Full Disclosure process which is the use of a Polygraph. Steve & Ellen break down the reasons for doing a polygraph, the pros and cons of it, 10 common concerns for taking a polygraph, different methods of polygraphs, where to find a polygrapher and what happens after the polygraph. Tune in and r…

Dr. Heidi Hastings joins the show to share what her research showed for men with problematic p0rn usage and the impact that had on religious women in marriage. We also cover her 5 Stages of Betrayal & Self Development model. I pray you find this helpful and will share it with one who could use it. Recommended Books from Dr. Heidi: -In Tandem: Recov…

Special Guest, Brya Hanan, joins the show to breakdown her new book: Befriending Your Inner Child: A Catholic Approach to Healing and Wholeness. We dive into discovering our inner child and drawing near to our inner child. We discuss how Brya has taken these theories and made them Catholic. This important concept helps those struggling with unwante…

Ellen Drews is back to talk with Steve about the Full Disclosure process. A Full Disclosure is a Rite of Truth. They explain what it is, the risks and benefits of a FD as well as diving into the process. Take a listen and if you feel this may be of benefit for your marriage, pray about it and reach out if you would like to work with us. Helpful lin…

In this episode, Steve covers how crucial it is to do the homework in recovery for both the addict and the spouse. He also covers the negative effects when the homework does not get done. He closes with 7 amazing scripture verses related to doing the work. Take a listen and share with someone you know can benefit. St. Zita, pray for us! Helpful lin…

Fr. Rich Conlin is a great priest from Vancouver, Canada. He shares his journey from NCAA D1 golfer to a Catholic priest. He shares with Steve about how his book: 9 Days to Corpus Christi can help an addict in recovery. His book highlights six saints to help us grow in our love for the Lord in the Blessed Sacrament. On the show, we focus on one of …

My dear friend, Mark Denison, has this great quote that "If you're 90% in then you're 100% out." That's the topic for this podcast. We cover how crucial it is to be "All-In" and cover 7 reasons that 100% commitment is needed for successful sobriety and recovery. Helpful links: Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help Book a C…

Christie Walker, the Catholic Sobriety Coach, is back again for a great conversation about faith, addiction recovery and the power of community. We take a look at how our Catholic upbringing intersects with the personal struggles we faced. Through our discussion, we bring forth the idea that recovery is not just an individual success but a collecti…

This saint was addicted to alcohol and underwent a profound conversion. Steve lists 5 ways this saint can help those in recovery find freedom. Tune in to find out which saint this is! Helpful links: Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/…

In this episode, Steve covers the secret weapon in recovery. This special weapon has the ability to keep us on track each and every day. It helps us process our emotions -- which is difficult for many guys . It connects us with others and keeps us out of trouble and helps us learn what to do next time if we got in trouble. Tune in to find out what …

In this episode, Steve covers many reasons group coaching is a helpful remedy in this fight. Listen to the end to find out Steve's favorite reason for group coaching...Hope you enjoy and if you struggle with lust, please reach out! Helpful links: Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call…

In this episode, Ellen Drews joins the show to discuss what betrayal trauma looks like and different ways of healing: what the betrayed spouse can do to heal, what the addict, betraying spouse, can do to heal and how couples can heal together. Don't miss it and please share with someone you think would benefit from hearing this! For a free, complim…

In this episode, Steve covers whether or not we should make New Year's Resolutions and if so, a bunch of thought joggers for what you can start or boost to your personal recovery journey. He also goes over how to make resolutions last throughout the year. This is a link to the workbook referenced to help your wife heal after betrayal: https://www.a…

Dr. Eddie Capparucci joins the show to discuss the Inner Child and how it impacts sexual addiction. He recently revised his book, Going Deeper, and added 3 new kids to the other 9 children discussed. He goes through core emotional triggers and his six-step healing model. His website: https://innerchild-sexaddiction.com/ His email address: edcappa@g…

In this episode, Steve discusses the difference between guilt and shame -- they are not the same. Learn how to use guilt to improve and leave shame behind. Helpful links: Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact Email: steve@catholi…

In this episode, Steve discusses the impact of shame in our lives and helpful ways to overcome the negative emotions associated with shame. Shame is an extremely powerful emotion and getting help for shame is life-changing. Helpful links: Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with St…

In this episode, Steve covers 7 tech tools to quit porn and 9 Bible verses on accountability. For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at: https://www.covenanteyes.com PROMO CODE: CFP Canopy: https://canopy.us Accountable2You: https://accountable2you.com Lead Me Not: https://www.leadmenot.org/ Wisephone: https://techless.com Join Finally Free: ht…

In this episode, Steve has Dan Donaldson on the show. Dan is the VP of Catholic Men's Leadership Alliance where he leads men by doing three things: (1) putting on inspiring events, (2) providing engaging resources and (3) providing leadership coaching through conferences and men's groups. The approach at CMLA: Strengthen the man, strengthen the fam…

In this episode Steve talks with Dr. Christine Bacon, host of the popular show, Breakfast with Bacon. They cover her Standers group and its success, her S.A.C.R.E.D. formula for Super Marriages, saving 1 million marriages, The Sound of Freedom movie, Kevin Wells and the Sisters of Mary as well as hope for the times we're living in. Dr. Christine Ba…

In this episode Steve talks about white-knuckling sobriety. He covers what it is, why it fails and what to do instead. St. Francis de Sales explains that the Evil One will tempt us to be self-reliant when we only need to place our complete reliance on God. Helpful links: Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help Book a Complim…

In this episode, I interview Christie Walker about her addiction to alcohol, her recovery, and her reversion back to the Catholic Faith. Christie shares her story of addiction and her experiences with treatment and AA meetings. We discuss what Christie appreciates about recovery and how she now sees God’s hand and Mary’s intercession in her life. C…

In this episode, my beautiful wife, Cristin and I share some ways we worked together to heal from pornography addiction. We discuss how easy it is to access pornography in today’s culture, how easy it is to be addicted, and to conceal this addiction. We talk through how to approach a spouse if you suspect they are viewing, how to respond if a spous…

In this episode, you will hear my wife, Cristin and I share our story in an interview with Lisa Canning on her podcast a few weeks ago. We discussed what it was like when we were dating, how the disclosure went when pornography was brought to the surface, how we both dealt with that, what the recovery looked like, and what it looks like now. Helpfu…

In this episode, I share how I shared my porn addiction with my wife Cristin, what not to do when you're disclosing your addiction, and why a therapist trained in therapeutic disclosure is so helpful to your marriage. Helpful links: Contact Ellen Drew, International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals Certified Coach: https://ellendrews…

I watched countless talks to help me recover from my porn addiction... and every time, it wouldn't stick. I would relapse, I would fail, I would have to go to confession... ...only to act out again. I remember thinking to myself... but I am doing all the good "Catholic things" you're supposed to do to recover... what is wrong with me? And I realize…

I'm Steve O'Connor, and for over 15 years I was addicted to pornography. In this episode, I share my story of recovery and hope. I'm committed to helping other newly married Catholic men break free from their porn addiction. Join me in the first cohort of my new group coaching experience, Finally Free, beginning April 18, 2023. Reserve your spot at…

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