Renowned relationship therapists, Doug Jensen and Dr. Talia Jackson explore the ins and outs of relationships in the new podcast, We’re Not Fine. Exploring relationship boundaries beyond dating, the podcast will also examine relationships with our community, friends, family, marriage and even within oneself. No topic is off limits and our audience is encouraged to submit their own questions to challenge the team and their guests. https://werenotfine.com Instagram: @werenotfinepod Twitter:@we ...
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Your partner is not psychic, so you do need to tell them what you need.
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In this fifth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia discuss how to disappointment-proof yourself and accept the truth that your needs are not as obvious as you think they are. And your partner is not psychic, as much as you wish they were. And even though you might be better than your average bear at anticipating an…
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Give your Partner the Benefit of the Doubt, or Pigeon Hole them into the Role you least Want Them
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In this fourth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we talk about “giving the benefit of the doubt” even if it’s hard. Yes Yes, the best predictor of future behavior might be past behavior, but giving the benefit of the doubt allows yo…
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“Harmony” or “Authenticity”? What makes you feel most connected in your love relationship?
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In this third of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we talk about where each of us lies on the continuum of authenticity vs harmony in our love relationships. We tend to give our partner what we most desire. Those valuing “authenticity”…
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Don’t Drop the Rope! How to Love Better Ep.2
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In this second of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we urge you to stay in the discomfort of having a loving but tough conversation with your partner. “Don’t Drop the Rope” speaks to the idea that when our nervous system is short-circu…
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If You Don’t Do Your Work, Everyone Around You Will Have To | How to Love Better Ep.1
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In this first of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we focus on “If you don’t do your your work, everyone around you will have to”. The idea is that the benefit of doing your work, owning your past, your trauma, your triggers, your unme…
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A Couple’s Bumpy Journey through IVF, Post-Partum Depression/Psychosis and now Menopause, Pt 2 of 2. LIVE recording at the Rogue Buddha Gallery
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Dr Talia & Doug welcome you to Part 2 of our two-part series recorded LIVE at the Rogue Buddha! Have you ever wondered why any woman in your life has had unexplainable mood swings, insomnia, irritability, rage, physical discomfort, irrational reactivity, anxiety, and/or depression? Well friends, buckle your seatbelts & grab a glass. If you, dear li…
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A Couple’s Bumpy Journey through IVF, Post-Partum Depression/Psychosis and now Menopause, Pt 1 of 2. LIVE recording at the Rogue Buddha Gallery
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Dr Talia & Doug welcome you to Part 1 of our two-part series recorded LIVE at the Rogue Buddha! Have you ever wondered why any woman in your life has had unexplainable mood swings, insomnia, irritability, rage, physical discomfort, irrational reactivity, anxiety, and/or depression? Well friends, buckle your seatbelts & grab a glass. If you, dear li…
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Divorced? It’s never too late to find the next love of your life!
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Divorce is not the end, and it definitely does not need to be a black ominous mark in your life story. In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia dive into Love After Divorce! Many of us get married young in our 20s with hearts full of hope and sporting a fresh pair of rose colored glasses. We live footloose and fancy free, no responsibilities, no real pro…
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What you don't realize about ADHD in relationships - featuring executive ADHD Coach Elle O’Flaherty
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Dear WNF listener, if you have listened to our show, you will know that ADHD is a topic so near to our hearts we wanted to find just the right person with just the right knowledge base and approach to do this complex and relevant topic justice. In this episode, we hear from federal attorney and trade negotiator turned founder of Interlace Solutions…
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Are there scenarios in which a potential love or sex interest could be a platonic friend? Mayyyyyyyyyybe, but unlikely. In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia look at this question from many angles, and we want our listeners to chime in! Do you agree that it is nearly impossible? Have you had experiences of successful platonic relationships that have r…
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Ultimatum Mailbag Episode - We're Not Fine Podcast
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In this classic Mailbag Episode Dr Talia and Doug tackle two tough but relatable relationship issues. In the first, Amy gives Jake an ultimatum; either he quits his dangerous air courier job in Alaska after he lost two of his best friends doing the same dangerous job, or she leaves. But this career is his soul filling passion. What to do? And in th…
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Finding Your Way after Catastrophic Loss featuring Dr Kim Harms
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In this LIVE recorded episode, Doug and Dr Talia have a conversation with Kim Harms, DDS about her journey through multiple catastrophic losses in her life; the resilience and grace with which she came out of the darkest grief pit, as well as the incredible wisdom and advice she gives to other survivors of painful losses of loved ones. She lost bot…
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Want to be less angry at your loved ones? Boundaries 101
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In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug talk boundaries with Dr Catherine Cleveland. Boundaries really get a bad rap. We think of them as entitled, cold, rejecting, and whiny. Well, the joke is on us. The fewer boundaries we have with our loved ones, the more those relationships are fraught with irritation, resentment and even bubbling rage. "They shoul…
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Hey listeners, this is We're Not Fine with a quick update. We're taking a break this week to celebrate the holiday. We'll be back next week with more great content. Enjoy your holiday, and thanks for understanding! We’re Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting…
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WE DID IT! Our 100th Episode Reflections and Team Secrets
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WNF Family, we did it! And we couldn’t have done it without you! Our 100th episode marks two years of growth, amazing connections, brilliant guests, so many great topics hi-lighting the interplay between mental health and relationships, new learnings and much wisdom imparted. Join us as we reflect on our 2 years, share BTS drama, bumps and bruises …
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In this episode, Dr. Talia Jackson and Doug Jensen discuss the five main personality traits: openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. The characteristics of each trait and how they manifest in individuals are explored. The hosts emphasize that these traits exist on a continuum and that there is no good or bad trait…
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Dating with Daddy Issues feat. Matchmaker Melissa Rogers
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Today’s topic is Dating with Daddy Issues in honor of Father’s Day. Here’s to all of the amazing dad’s out there who are showing up for their children with interest, affection, tenderness and consistency. You are changing worlds and preventing attachment issues. We applaud you! Today’s episode focuses on the wounds we carry with us when we have unm…
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How Facing His Anxiety & OCD Ultimately Set News Anchor Bryan Piatt Free
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In this live recorded episode, Dr Talia and Doug have a chance to talk to the beloved former news anchor on KARE 11 Sunrise, Bryan Piatt. He started experiencing symptoms of Anxiety and OCD from an early age with no understanding of what was happening to him. The disparity between his perfect external presentation and his quiet internal suffering g…
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Mismatched Libido; Can't meet your partner's needs?
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In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia respond to real life couples struggling with mismatched libidos that are negatively impacting their relationships . One writer is breaking off an eight year relationship because they can’t meet their partner’s sexual needs and feels insecure and constantly pressured to give more than they are able to give…
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Is your sex drive disparity causing problems in your relationship?
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In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug tackle one of the most common relationship problems; mismatched sex drives. In many couples, there is one individual with a more robust libido, who feels enough burning desire for intimacy that they are the default initiator, often creating a pursuer and distancer dynamic, leaving one member of the couple feeling…
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Couple’s Therapy 101: Divorce! Couples’ Therapists look for these 11 signs...
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In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia share their 50 years of combined experience in the couples’ therapy room. Being married is hard, even if you’re married to someone fabulous. What are the signs that there are some dealbreaker red flags brewing in your marriage? Resentments building that can’t be undone, trusts broken that can’t be repaired, diffe…
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Healing the Mother Wound; A We’re Not Fine Mother’s Day Episode with Gao Motsemme
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Meet Gao Motsemme, a Botswana born current resident of Germany, and mother of three from a long ancestral lineage of gifted intuitive healers. In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug sit with Gao as she takes us on her complex and unexpected mothering journey while needing to face her own mother wounds. “Why doesn’t my mother love me?” and “What is a mo…
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Too early for divorce? Too late for therapy? Where is the line?
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In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia hear from two people completely fed up with their spouse and ready for a divorce, but we feel that their decisions might be premature! We share the ingredients necessary to determine whether or not it’s time to throw in the towel. Is there willingness on both sides to work through this issue? If so, divor…
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Bad Dates, Red Flags, and other Cautionary Tales
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You know the saying that when you wear rose colored glasses, red flags just look like flags? Well, in this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug respond to listener voice notes about first date horror stories. These stories are full of cringe, red flags, and lewd tales of hook-ups and dates that have gone horribly wrong. Prepare yourself with a bowl of popco…
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Give up the ghost. The reason they ghosted you is...
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In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia respond to two mailbags, both from people that explain why they have ghosted someone they cared about. And once you get inside the minds of the ghoster, you will see why they are disappearing, even if you could have sworn there was a connection and chemistry. Why oh why didn’t they just tell you the truth? It will…
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Your friend hurt you, is your friendship salvageable or do you need to move on?
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In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug talk to Minneapolis based, friendship-focused writer and podcaster, Nina Badzin. Your friend hurt you badly. Until now you have never needed to have a difficult conversation about your friendship, but if you don’t, the friendship won’t survive. What do you do? To determine whether your friendship is salvageable, t…
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My late wife’s sister tried sleeping with me...
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In this episode Dr Talia and Doug look at two very relatable issues. In the first mailbag, a young father grieves his wife while his wife’s sister, who has been the greatest supporter to him and his kids, tried to sleep with him a month after his wife’s passing. And he hates the way he reacted. And in the second mailbag, a young man says he’s incre…
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Mailbag episode! “I gave myself a total makeover with zero results in the dating department.”
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In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia tackle two heartfelt mailbags. In the first letter, a gentleman who has had no luck with women feels he did everything he could to revamp his look; fitness, wardrobe and haircut, check… but is still having no luck in the dating department. All of his friends tell him he just hasn’t met the right person but he is …
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Not the Man I Used to Be; Getting to Know Yourself Again After a Brain Aneurism with Guest Andrew Davie
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In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia talk to Andrew Davie, a true Renaissance man. He is an author of crime fiction novellas, short stories and memoirs about dating, managing OCD and recovering from his brain aneurysm. He is also a fellow podcaster as the cohost of happy hour with Heather. Join us for this fascinating conversation as Andrew shares hi…
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Loneliness is the Silent Killer and the here is the Antidote; LIVE episode with guest Anna Bonavita
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Loneliness is a global health crisis. In this episode Dr Talia and Doug have a moving conversation with Anna Bonavita, a former physicist with a passion for culture, cuisine, and the natural environment. While grieving her beloved husband, and in the depths of loneliness and despair, she found comfort and community at a communal table in Italy and …
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Hook Up Horror Stories & Deviant Diaries with guest Demi Wylde
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In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk to author and sex educator, Demi Wilde about hook up horror stories (Talia won worst story! Woot woot!) We discuss stigma, down low online exploration of sexuality, which apps produce which kind of connections, all the kinks and fetishes, and pitfalls and dangers of modern dating! As you can imagine, the mid…
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When I’m Sorry isn't enough; 5 ways to deepen your apology after an affair with guest Dr. Deb Miller
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In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug have a lively conversation with Dr. Deb about how to deepen your apology after an affair. We explore the lack of resources available to the cheater, as most therapy, books and videos are geared towards helping the betrayed heal. Dr. Deb Miller's book More Than Sorry: 5 Steps to Deepen Your Apology After You Have …
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Where did your joy and passion go? What to do when apathy overcomes you
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In this episode Doug and Dr Talia tackle the scariest of all emotions; the contagious, heavy, and unmotivated wave of apathy. How to know if it’s a bad day or a bad decade, and how to infuse joy, motivation and passion back into your life. We’ve got your back! We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shop Instagr…
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Tantric Loving in the Suburbs with our guest Hannah Spanke; Somatic, Sexology, and Tantra Coach
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In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug speak with the enigmatic Hannah Spanke, who shares with us her rocky road from a toxic family into stripping and sex work by the age of 16. She wanted agency over her sexuality and thought of pursuing sex work as a sexual entrepreneur but ended up in a dark scary place ready to face her truth. And here she is, a t…
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Anger gets a bad rap; how to manage, regulate and express your anger in an adaptive way
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Fight, flight or freeze; what is your go to coping strategy? In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia tackle Anger vs Rage. We talk about our family of origin as the source of how we learn to regulate and express our emotions, and we teach you practical tips to express yourself without pushing people away. Don’t swallow it down, because rage turned inwar…
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Birth, Death and Everything in Between with Sister Doulas Sarah Longacre and Wendy Longacre-Brown
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In this second live recording of our We’re Not Fine, Dr Talia and Doug dive deep into the experience of letting others in to the most vulnerable moments in our lives with Birth Doula Sarah Longacre and End of Life Doula Wendy Longacre-Brown. What if we did birth and death differently? What if we invited in skilled and compassionate navigators to be…
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Jealousy is not a good look for you
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In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk to Shanenn Bryant, host of the podcast Top Self, Jealousy and Insecurity expert and coach, and leader of the Facebook group Jealousy Junkies. We dive into how insecure attachment develops into unhealthy behavior patterns that threaten to destroy your relationships. Shanenn shares with us how to differentiate…
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Division of labor; the most relatable relationship woe of our modern day.
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In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug take on a listener mailbag about division of labor in a household. Who does more? Why are they resentful? What exactly is invisible labor? Why does one person naturally step up while the other waits for the “honey-do” list? Inquiring minds want to know! We have so much to say, per usual, and let us give you the ti…
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Becoming Kiki; The Freedom of Being Who You Are & The Power of Making Meaning of Your Pain
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In this episode, Kiki Joy Latham shares with us her incredible journey through physical and emotional abuse in her family of origin, betrayal after betrayal, from abandonment and heartbreak to the most profound love story. Not just with her partner, Jodi, but with herself. Kiki found herself/himself, and loves herself/himself with not just acceptan…
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Slow Productivity is this New Year’s Revolutionary Approach to Success with guest Dr Kate Henry
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In this episode Doug and Dr Talia speak with Dr Kate Henry about Slow Productivity; a holistic, sustainable and well-being oriented approach to success. Who knew that was even possible? WNF family, this approach is for you if you are burnt out, exhausted, think of yourself as unmotivated, lazy, or if you struggle with chronic health issues. This ap…
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Why oh why do my New Year’s Resolutions Fizzle Out? Strategies for outsmarting the hidden obstacles
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In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia take on New Year’s Resolutions. Why do so many of us struggle to keep our commitments to ourselves? Why is will power not enough? We tell you all the secrets to setting yourselves up for success and teach you science backed strategies to make your resolutions stick! We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the …
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What is happiness and where can you find some?
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In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia Jackson discuss the concept of happiness; the hedonic treadmill, dopamine chasing, whether it is an absence of pain or existence of fulfillment, and we answer the question you have asked yourself “Can money buy happiness?” We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shop Instagram:…
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Narcissism and the Enneagram With guest Dr Sterlin Mosley
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In this bonus episode, Dr Talia Jackson and Dr Sterlin Mosley talk about narcissism as it relates to the enneagram. We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shop Instagram: @werenotfinepod Doug Jensen Profile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/ Email: contact@werenotfine.com IG: douglasljensen Twitter: dougjensen4…
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Two Parts! Dr Talia on Boosting Emotional Intelligence & Doug's Complicated Familial Grief
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In Part One of our Two Part Guest Spot episode, Dr Talia shares her Summit from the Unlock Your Child’s Full Potential podcast with Billy Ivanova, and breaks down how to foster an emotionally intelligent home. Dr Talia also gives practical tips about boosting your own emotional intelligence and that of your children. In Part Two of this episode, Do…
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Deep Dive into Narcissism With guest Dr Sterlin Mosley- Bread Crumbing, Love Bombing and Gaslighting
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In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug can’t get enough of Professor and Narcissism researcher and author, Dr Sterlin Mosley. Be enlightened, shocked and validate. You will not believe all of the nooks and crannies of the narcissistic experience, nature vs nurture, and that’s not all… learn to spot signature narcissist moves you might not have recogniz…
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Managing Holiday Stress even if your family is perfect, you have lots of money, and live in sunshine
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In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia tackle the most common stressors of the season with humor and one or two harsh slaps of seasonal realism. We offer some suggestions about creating your new holiday traditions. HAPPY HOLIDAYS, WNF Family! We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shop Instagram: @werenotfinepod Do…
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A Turkey Day PSA; To Accept That You Are a Disappointment is the first step towards Thanksgiving Joy
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In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug respond to some Thanksgiving mail bags. Whether the holidays are a time of great heart warming joy and anticipation for you , or dread, loneliness and obligation, we embrace you and want to share it with you. Gobble Gobble, WNF Family! We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/sh…
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Truth Empowered Relationships with guests Heather and Marshall
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In this episode Dr Talia and Doug have a conversation with Heather and Marshall, a couple that met in an unexpected online connection and show us how they are working on their individual traumas together in real time. Discussion of abuse from about the 10 to 20 minute mark for those that want to skip. They touch on imposter syndrome, parenting, int…
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Whose fault is this break up? It’s yours.
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In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia ask the controversial question “Does it always take two to tango” in every relationship, every problem, every fight, every break up? And the answer is a resounding YES… but with one big caveat. Tune in to hear our mail bag episode and if you are watching on YouTube, check out our new lighting. We are feeling ourse…
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Challenging the stigma of mental health in the skilled trades with Lia Lamella on The Sparky Life
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In this episode, we speak with Lia Lamella, previous guest (see our 07/25/23 episode), talented electrician and thought leader, who is single handedly changing the culture in and around the skilled trades. In this collaborative episode we elevate the conversation around the stigma of mental health, the narratives around the stereotypes both genders…
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