Daily 1% x 219: Owning YOU

The Davina Podcast

Bubble braids.

Until two weeks ago I had never worn them.

I was a little afraid of them.

Several years ago, someone I respect suggested I was wearing braids to keep people from taking me seriously…to soften my intense personality.

I don’t think she was wrong.

I stopped wearing two braids.

Not because she told me to but because I wanted to experiment…

See if there was some truth to her theory.

I started paying attention to allowing my intensity without apology.

I didn’t return to the two braids.

Mainly, because I didn’t think I needed them anymore.

Her suggestion DID help me to own who I was.

I no longer try to soften my strength, intensity, passion.

Several months ago, someone suggested I try bubble braids.

I didn’t know what they were.

I looked them up and immediately thought:

I can’t wear those. It will be me trying to hide my intensity.

So what made me decide to try them?

I decided I’ve come a long way.

Wearing bubble braids would feel different because I’m different than I was all those years ago.

Now, I feel stunning and fierce.

Now, I don’t feel like I’m sending a mixed message of “please like me even though I can be really intense and passionate.”

Now, I love me when I look in the mirror.

I see the woman I am now, and I think:

You are intense fiery awesomeness. I love you!

Evolution is amazing.

I’m not saying we do or don’t do things according to what other people may or may not think of us.

In fact, I’m saying the opposite.

Coming to know and love yourself opens up to you all the rules you may have been believing and not realizing.

I hadn’t realized that I was trying to make my intense self more palatable for other people with my cute braids.

That awareness allowed me to begin to embrace my intensity without trying to soften it with cuteness through braids.

Now, I can fully own these bubble braids in all my fierceness without believing I need them to help people to like me.

Understanding and loving yourself on entirely new levels and in completely new ways is mind blowing too s super powerful.

Getting to show up in your life more on fire and beautiful and passionate and real than you ever have in your life is incredibly sexy.

I LOVE IT!

I wouldn’t be here without the coaching I’ve received over the years.

Nearly everywhere I go, people respond to me without being able to stop themselves.

Last night at dinner I walked into a restaurant and a woman there gasped the moment she saw me.

She said: Oh my goodness! Look at you!! I love your hair!!

She kept saying effusive things all the way to our seats.

Another woman came to our table and did the same thing.

I used to be embarrassed about standing out but…

Longed for it at the same time.

Now, I’m showing up for myself.

Not expecting anyone to adore me but me.

I’m the process, it’s changed the way I am with people and the way they are with me, in the best ways.

This can happen for you, too.

Coaching helps you to love and adore yourself…

YOUR strengths, YOUR goodness, YOUR flaws, YOUR darkness AND your light, YOUR humanness,

The parts you think are ugly and the parts you hope have beauty in them.

You see your judgements toward yourself and you understand them and then eventually…you let them go.

You see yourself differently, with more love and honor and respect and compassion than you ever have before.

All those years ago I would think: I’m good! I like myself. I’m not mean to myself. I’m a strong woman.

I wasn’t wrong.

I also didn’t realize what it could look like to take all of that belief (and all

of the underlying insecurity I was afraid people might see) and become the woman I am now.

If you’re wanting more for yourself…

You’re ready for coaching.

I know exactly how to help you.

The big surprise with figuring out how to love yourself more is…

You become even more open to increased love and less judgement toward others.

It’s a win for everyone.

Ready for more of your own awesomeness in your life?

Let’s do this! Sign up for your free consultation here: https://calendly.com/davinafear/discovery-call-60-minutes