How can gratitude help you through hard times

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Whether it is a large or small event, here are some additional questions to ask yourself: What lessons did the experience teach me? Can I find ways to be thankful for what happened to me now even though I was not at the time it happened? What ability did the experience draw out of me that surprised me? How am I now more the person I want to be because of it? Have my negative feelings about the experience limited or prevented my ability to feel gratitude in the time since it occurred? Has the experience removed a personal obstacle that previously prevented me from feeling grateful? Remember, your goal is not to relive the experience but rather to get a new perspective on it. Simply rehearsing an upsetting event makes us feel worse about it. That is why catharsis has rarely been effective. Emotional venting without accompanying insight does not produce change. No amount of writing about the event will help unless you are able to take a fresh, redemptive perspective on it. This is an advantage that grateful people have—and it is a skill that anyone can learn.