#41 Are People Shoulding All Over You with Speaker, Author, leader Lisa Edwards Hutcherson

Be The Wolf

Ever feel like there’s nothing “obviously” wrong with your job, but by the end of the work-week you end up exhausted and feeling bad about yourself?

You worked hard and gave it your all. You followed the rules and did everything you were “supposed” to.

But you still felt like it was not enough.

When it comes to career (and life) there are a lot of people standing on their soapboxes preaching what you “should” and “should not” do.

Your friends say you should stand up for yourself and tell people to back off.

Your boss tells you that you shouldn’t take what your coworker says personally.

And HR has come up with a list of things you should not say. And if you say them there will be consequences.

There’s a big problem with all these “shoulds.” They come with the hidden implication that you’re “bad” if you don’t do what others say you “should” do.

It’s like when a dog gets into the trash. And then you drag it over to the mess, stick its nose in it, and tell it that it’s bad. After enough of this “teaching,” the dog stops getting into the trash to avoid getting in trouble.

But this is not teaching. What’s really happening is that the dog becomes scared. It doesn’t like it when you tell it that it’s bad. And it learns that it must obey in order for you to accept, love, and feed it.

We train dogs this way because they don’t have to cognitive understanding that humans do. They don’t have the capacity to “understand” why they “shouldn’t” get into the trash. So instead of teaching, we bully and shame them into submission.

The problem is, many people, bosses, coworkers, and even leaders will treat you like a dog. They tell you what you “should” do and make you feel bad if you don’t do it.

It’s so common that EVERYONE does it sometimes. And most people have NO IDEA they’re doing it.

Getting “should” all over often leaves people feeling bad about themselves. And when you don’t feel good about yourself, it’s hard to do your best work. It’s hard to thrive in your job and career. It’s hard to thrive in life.

As a career empowerment coach, I know how important it is to empower people to be their best selves without “shoulding” them into it.

And this is why I am so excited to talk with speaker-author-leader Lisa Hutcherson on my podcast. People know her as the “Velvet Brick”, due to her soft yet effective way of teaching people how to be a better version of themselves. When people do better because they WANT to, the effect ripples, and lasting change becomes possible.

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Lisa’s bio:

Lisa Hutcherson has spent the last 28 years growing and developing winning teams across the US in financial services, voluntary benefits, retail, and other dynamic sales organizations. Lisa has served on many executive committees including health underwriting, business, community development and ministry. She is a builder of organizations, people and is a master networker.

Blazing a trail to change mindsets, stereo types, and limited thinking regarding women in leadership, business and Evangelical circles she has led with intentionality to create bridges of reconciliation concerning race and culture. People know her as the “Velvet Brick”, due to her soft yet effective way of making a difference and impacting lives. Lisa is a John Maxwell certified speaker, coach and trainer. She lives her life on purpose and intentionally seeks out opportunities to serve and add value to others.

Lisa enjoys hot yoga, meditation, traveling and visiting her favorite client the S.P.A agency (spa). In addition, she loves leading worship, reading, writing short stories and poetry. Today she is an author that has contributed to California Broker Magazine and Benefit Pro Magazine. Today she is in the end zone of writing her first book and training manual on how she has climbed, broken through, and thrived amongst the walls that have been presented in her life both personally and in business. Most of all, how you too can overcome the walls in your life.