Challenging the "Grandparent Entitlement" Mindset with Rosalba Fontanez {Re-Release} - Ep 39

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In this re-released episode, guest Rosalba Fontanez is challenging parents to love their children without expectation of grandchildren. As the mother of a childfree person herself (the host of this program!), she knows a little bit about the pressure to have kids and the toxicity of the mindset that grandparents are entitled to grandchildren.
Rosalba offers sage advice and alternative options to parents who hassle their own kids for grandkids. Her overarching theme is that everyone has their own purpose and mission, and not everyone is meant to be a parent. But once people recognize that their own children's purpose and mission can include many other fulfilling possibilities, and isn't only limited to bearing more children, they then allow space for so much more.
Rosalba reflects on her own experience as a grandmother to her stepson's kids, emphasizing that it is not necessary to have biological grandchildren to experience the joy of grandparenting. She encourages parents feeling victimized by their children not giving them grandchildren to focus on themselves, serve their communities, and be a grandparent figure to those who need it—including less-fortunate children and house pets.
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After listening to this episode, you'll have a better understanding of:
- why the toxic mindset of entitlement to grandchildren needs to be abolished
- how it's not necessary to have grandchildren to feel fulfilled or have unconditional love in your life, and instead consider volunteering or spending time with other children
- that people who choose not to have children shouldn't feel pressured or victimized by others' expectations
If you've ever been bingoed by your own parents (or grandparents) , you might want to share this episode with them. Because maybe hearing it from one of their own peers might help them understand why being childfree is so important to you.
More about Rosalba:

As a hypnotherapist and shamanic healer for over 20 years, Rosalba helps people heal their own trauma (both new and generational) to lead healthier lives.

Find her online at:

• Instagram | Facebook
• Healing with Andean Medicine website
• Book a session and more services

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Chapters

1. Challenging the "Grandparent Entitlement" Mindset with Rosalba Fontanez {Re-Release} - Ep 39 (00:00:00)

2. What’s it like to have a child who is childfree? (00:06:37)

3. What were your expectations as a mother about becoming a grandmother? (00:06:51)

4. How do you navigate loving your children the same when one has children and the other doesn’t? From attention to how you leave things to them in your will. (00:11:33)

5. Does she have any advice for people with unsupportive parents, if there’s anything we can say to help them understand? (00:14:24)

6. How would she manage a situation with a parent who is upset because they had a vision of retiring and looking after the grandchildren and now it’s not going to happen? (00:18:39)

7. What her non-grandparent life looks like (00:23:25)

8. Rosalba's response to bingos (00:24:12)