40: Breastfeeding Manners - what to do with demanding older babies, toddlers & preschoolers
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The shirt-pulling, screaming, and demands to breastfeed have gotten to the point that you find yourself dreading them before your toddler has even thought about breastfeeding again.
When they do, inevitably "ask" to breastfeed, the fear of reinforcing all of their bad behaviors reverberates through your body as you quickly try to decide if you will hold the boundary; or give in to their demands this time.
...and the guilt that comes from the fact that they "act" so poorly can be crushing. Did you cause this behavior with your bad parenting? Will they end up as disrespectful teenagers? Will the choices you make today define their character as adults?
Man - the pressure that mounts in those moments is crushing!
But what if there is another way?
In this final podcast episode of season 1 of Start to Stop Toddler Breastfeeding I break down:
- What respectful behaviour is and isn't
- The truth about the magic words: "Please" & "Thank You"
- Rewards, punishments & reinforcing behaviours
- How to support your child in the moment
- How to raise an empathetic, respectful human who has integrity
- How to support YOURSELF in the moment
Looking for the episodes I mentioned at the beginning to re-listen to during the holidays?
- Episode 25: 5 Ways to Navigate Judgment & Social Pressure While Extended Breastfeeding
- Episode 23: Cavities, Teething & Toddler Biting While Nursing
- Episode 20: Breastfeeding A Sick Toddler: (Why, How & What to do when they are well again)
- Episode 13: Milk Supply - maintaining, upping & drying up after the first year
- Picky Eating & Breastfeeding with Krystyn Parks
References:
Harvard Making Caring Common Project
Want to learn more from me?
Watch my free, instant access workshop:
Designing Your Pathway to Toddler Breastfeeding Mastery
Grab your free guide to say "No" to the feed while still saying "yes" to the need at www.ownyourparentingstory.com/guide
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Chapters
1. 40: Breastfeeding Manners - what to do with demanding older babies, toddlers & preschoolers (00:00:00)
2. Holiday Episode Recommendations (00:02:22)
3. Respect & disrespect (00:05:21)
4. Please & Thank You (00:11:42)
5. Punishments & Rewards (00:18:29)
6. Their needs in the moment (00:27:31)
7. Modeling empathy & respect (00:31:03)
8. Take care of YOURSELF (00:37:21)
9. Episode Recap (00:40:23)
10. Sign off (00:41:45)
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