.19 [divorce] 4 things to pray about + consider before separating from your spouse

Own Your Revival

***This episode discusses divorce as it relates to children along with other adult-themed conversation so please exercise caution listening with young ones nearby.

This episode is a love note from Andy’s heart to yours if you (or someone you love) are staring down the barrel of a possible separation (or divorce) you do not want. Not all faithful Catholics who experience divorce have simply chosen to walk away from the vow as some suggest, but may instead be living with the consequences of the other spouse’s decision to dissolve the marriage. To further complicate the issue, many are silently struggling in marriages to avoid judgement over choosing to stay with the spouse when those close to you discover the depth of the destructiveness. Not knowing where to turn for support, and with the hope of restoring the marriage paramount, can lead to more confusion and isolation. Therefore, think of this episode as a safe place to curl up and be loved on in this broken place. Grab a cup of coffee and curl up in your favorite spot with Andy as she shares four things to consider and pray about to better discern God's will in carrying your cross.

Mentioned on this episode:

[00:08:29] Divorce you don't want.

[00:09:30] Not wanting to be divorced is different than wanting to stay married.

[00:14:30] Fidelity in sacramental marriage.

[00:20:25] Destructive marriages and seeking help.

[00:24:26] Discovering personal likes and dislikes.

[00:28:31] Decree of Nullity.

[00:32:29] Love and boundaries in relationships.

[00:37:02] Breaking generational cycles.

Being Human - Episode 143: Is it wrong to separate from my spouse?

Own Your Revival- Episode 13: [divorce] When do you know it's time to leave?

Additional Resources:

Domestic Violence Support | National Domestic Violence Hotline

When I Call for Help: A Pastoral Response to Domestic Violence Against Women | USCCB

Did Jesus say Adultery is grounds for divorce?

Journal prompts:

What outward signs could you look for in your spouse’s behavior that would reflect he/she is choosing the marriage?

What choices would both honor your vow and allow you to tend to your emotional, physical, spiritual, financial, etc. needs?

What support would help you be more transparent with your spouse about your concerns for the marriage?

How is the way you are addressing the concerns in your marriage (and possible separation/divorce) forming your children’s understanding of relationship?

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