85: Is Consent Black and White? (Maybe Not!) with Sarah Casper

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Joining me today is Sarah (pronounced SAH-rah) Casper, Consent Educator and the founder of Comprehensive Consent. We connected over a recent TikTok about sexual coercion, sexual assault, and consent, which, as you can imagine, prompted very strong reactions. There is a new social space around the whole idea of consent, even to the point that new terminology is being created, as with the term “enthusiastic consent.” With the overall goal of education and empowerment, Sarah and I tackle this very nuanced topic in today’s show. Join us!

Show Highlights:

● Consent is full of black, white, and LOTS of gray areas.

● The truth: “Consent is not simple, and the same rules don’t apply across all contexts.”

● Understanding the difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire and the opt-in model vs. the opt-out model

● Common questions Sarah is asked about people’s experiences

● Everyone deserves care, all feelings are valid, and your feelings don’t have to be labeled.

● Not all assault is sexual coercion, and not all sexual coercion is assault.

● Sexual ethics is much more than consent.

● Watch out for red flags in a partner wanting to “check all the boxes” for consent.

Resources and Links:

Connect with Sarah Casper and Comprehensive Consent: Website, Instagram, and TikTok

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