RECLAIM is a podcast where I examine, interrogate and reclaim pop psychology, self-help and wellness ideas. There are a lot of ideas out there on how to live your best life. It can be hard to know what conflicting advice to follow. I am Thais Sky and I am here to add context and nuance to the conversation so you can discern what will work best for you in living the life you want. I am sometimes joined by incredible guests who offer a vast array of expertise and wisdom in the realms of psycho ...
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Ep. 211 Reclaiming What Is Hard: Anger
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There are a lot of difficult parts of being human, and all of those things tend to revolve around feelings that arise within us that are hard to tolerate. Feelings that we have never been taught to feel. Feelings that we have been told are bad. Feelings that now, when they arise, overwhelms, paralyzes and collapses us. In this new series on RECLAIM…
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There are a lot of difficult parts of being human, and all of those things tend to revolve around feelings that arise within us that are hard to tolerate. Feelings that we have never been taught to feel. Feelings that we have been told are bad. Feelings that now, when they arise, overwhelms, paralyzes and collapses us. In this new series on RECLAIM…
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Ep. 209 Reclaiming Therapy Speak with Jacquelyn Tenaglia, LMHC
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In this episode of RECLAIM, I interview psychotherapist Jacquelyn Tenaglia about the impact therapy speak has on individuals who are trying to find information on social media. As psychology terms and ideas permeate society, we are invited to think about ways in which it may be causing harm. Together we explore different ways you may want to add nu…
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Ep. 208 Reclaiming Your Voice with Michelle M. May, LPC
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In this first interview of season six, I am thrilled to welcome psychotherapist and author, Michelle M. May, to the podcast. In this episode, we explore the nuances of what it means to trust ourselves, how to navigate our inner critic, why we may lie to ourselves, and what are some ways we can connect more deeply with ourselves. To grab the show no…
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Hi there! Welcome to season six of RECLAIM. I am kicking off this season with an exploration of acceptance and self-acceptance. We often hear that this is a core tenet of happiness, to be able to accept ourselves and accept life as it is. But how? And why? In this episode I break down different ideas surrounding acceptance so you can figure out how…
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Ep. 206 When Things Come To An End, What Falls Apart
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In this episode I want to start to open a conversation with you all about what may get stirred up for us when we know that something is coming to an end. What does it mean for us when we know an ending is coming? And what may we learn about ourselves as we try to navigate endings differently? To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/20…
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Ep. 205 Can You Be Too Smart For Therapy?
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In this episode I want to explore this idea of being too smart or too self-aware to make use of therapy. What may be going on for us when we find ourselves grappling with this? And what happens when we understand someone so deeply we struggle to have feelings about it? It seems it’s time to dig into the concept of intellectualization. To grab the s…
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Ep. 204 Why Gratitude Can Be So Hard and What To Do About It
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As we enter the new year, we may have recommitted to our gratitude practices. It makes sense that if we want to cultivate more gratitude, then it starts with making more time to get in touch with what we are grateful for. But I have different thoughts on ways to cultivate more gratitude in our lives that goes beyond lists. Enjoy! To grab the show n…
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Ep. 203 2023 Reflections and Thoughts for Entering the New Year
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Hello everyone and welcome to the new year! In this episode of RECLAIM I share three big takeaways that I am carrying with me into the new year and some thoughts for how to think about new years resolutions. Enjoy! To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/203. If you like what you heard, it would mean the world to me if you took a mome…
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Ep. 202 Inner Child Healing: The Best Modality or Toxic Self-Help?
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Inner child work is a popular self-help tool that is often touted as the end all be all tool for healing. As someone who has personally benefitted from inner child work, I wanted to record an episode where I break down what it is, what is useful about it, and why it is a very limited tool. Enjoy! To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcas…
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Ep. 201 Therapy Speak and What Happens In Psychotherapy
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With therapy speak on the rise, I wanted to bring my thoughts on what is happening both culturally and personally that may be lending itself to this phenomenon. I explore the role of language in our healing, what therapy speak and other jargon ideas may be doing to our relationships, and how it all ties to what happens in psychotherapy. Enjoy! To g…
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Ep. 200 Exploring Borderline with Meredith Redding
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Borderline personality disorder is a commonly misunderstood diagnosis that has historically been used to devalue a women’s emotional life. In this episode I am delighted to have Meredith Redding back on the podcast to explore this complicated topic including its origins, the psychoanalytic perspective of borderline traits, and how we can use this d…
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Let’s talk about grief. The kind that stays with you. The kind that doesn’t seem to move no matter how much time it has been. The kind that feels like it changed something that is too difficult to bear. When does grief turn into a different type of despair? And what can we do about it? To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/199. If y…
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The world is full of information on how to make whatever specific changes we want to make in our lives. And yet sometimes we find ourselves knowing what to do, but not doing it. In this episode I want to break down various reasons for why change may be hard and how we can relate to change differently. Enjoy! To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSk…
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Ep. 197 Learning how to Receive Validation
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Let’s talk about what it means to become better at receiving. This is a topic that is popular in the manifestation world, and I want to bring a more relational lens to helping us understand why we have a hard time letting good things in, and what we can do about it. If you struggle with letting in compliments or feeling abundant, this episode may b…
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Ep. 196 Exploring Narcissism with Meredith Redding
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Our society is currently grappling with an intense fascination with narcissism. It feels like in some ways it is everywhere, with thousands if not millions of articles, social media posts, and books being written about the topic. The word is used so much that we have in many ways lost sight of its original purpose. If everything is narcissism, is a…
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Ep. 195 Authenticity in the Coaching Industry with Rachel LaForce
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In this rich conversation with comedian and coach, Rachel LaForce, we dive into various topics including what it means to be seen, the wellness industrial complex, how to be authentic in the coaching industry, and what it means to take ourselves seriously and not seriously as we navigate the complexities of being human. To grab the show notes inclu…
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In this episode I explore the ways in which we all grapple on some level to the deep fear that we are broken, monstrous and inherently bad, and how we can hold our goodness while being overwhelmed with shame. I answer a listener question this topic and share my own journey with my badness. Enjoy! To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcas…
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Ep. 193 Bringing Yourself Into The Dark Spaces with Dr. Crystal Menzies
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In this engaging conversation with Dr. Crystal Menzies, we explore a variety of topics including food and body struggles, self-reliance, breaking old patterns, and more. Dr. Crystal’s vulnerability and strengths show through as she shares the passion behind her work and the ways we can become more free. Enjoy! To grab the show notes including all t…
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Ep. 192 Relational Stuckness with Jordan Dann
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I am honored to have Jordan Dann, trauma-informed psychoanalytic, somatic therapist, author, and teacher, on the podcast where we explore how to navigate relational stuckness, the importance of frustration in our healing, why we are addicted to having the answer, and the potency of individuation. To grab the show notes including all the information…
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Ep. 191 A Guide To New Year's Resolutions + 2022 Reflections
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Happy 2023! In this episode I break down some of my major thoughts about setting new year’s resolutions including why many of them fail and what we can do about it. I also share some of my biggest learnings of 2022 and how it has shaped my understanding of myself and of life. Enjoy! To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/191. If you …
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Ep. 190 Q&A with Thaís - answering listeners questions about worth!
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In this episode I am answering two questions I have received from RECLAIM listeners. One of them is why do we feel we want more than others want us? And the other is why is it that I have a hard time seeing my own patterns? I also explore my understanding of human psychology and how to heal from the worthiness wound. Enjoy! To grab the show notes g…
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Ep. 189 Answering Your Questions About Worthy Women Rise
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I have received many questions over the years about my signature group program Worthy Women Rise. As we near the doors closing for this cohort of the program, I thought I would do an instagram live where I answer all of your questions. This is a recording of that live. To learn more about the program and apply go to www.worthywomenrise.com. To grab…
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Ep. 188 Co-Dependency + The Worthiness Wound
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I think many of us identify with the language of co-dependency as a useful way to understand how the worthiness wound plays out in relationships. In this episode I want to break down how I understand the connection, why I struggle with the label “co-dependency” and how I understand the healing of relational dynamics. To grab the show notes go to ww…
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There is a lot of, often conflicting, information out there about worthiness, and how to tend to feelings of inadequacy or too much-ness. It can be hard to parse out. In this episode I break down some of the common ideas we hear about worth and offer my opinions on what is useful and what may not be when it comes to healing the worthiness wound. En…
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When we feel we are “too much” for the people in our lives, we often feel this debilitating sense that we are not allowed to be all of who we are. This painful, constricting feeling can be difficult to navigate. In this episode I break down what it really means when we say we feel we are “too much” and how we can begin to think about this internal …
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Ep. 185 The Worthiness Wound: Reexplained
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I haven’t offered a podcast episode strictly on the worthiness wound® since 2019 so I thought I would take some time to break down this concept as well as how I envision healing taking place. Enjoy! To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/185. If you like what you heard, it would mean the world to me if you took a moment to leave a re…
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Ep. 184 Boundaries As People Pleasers with Hailey Magee
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In this dynamic conversation with Hailey Magee, we explore what it means to not lose ourselves in relationships, how to navigate hurting people when we set boundaries, and the key to breaking relational patterns. Enjoy! To grab the show notes including all the information on today’s guest, go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/184. If you like what you he…
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Ep. 182 Why do we feel unsafe in safe relationships?
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While it can be understandable why we may feel unsafe in certain relationships, it can be much harder to understand why we feel unsafe in relationships that are safe, loving and supportive. In this episode I want to explore some reasons for this as well as how to think about safety in relationships so you can start to feel comfortable in the relati…
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Ep. 183 Mental Health and Tech with Dr. Emily Anhalt
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In this season premiere, I am honored to have Emily Anhalt, psychologist and co-founder of Coa, a gym for mental health. Together we explore mental health, how therapy works, the impact of technology on our mental health, and the ways we can take care of ourselves now so we can prevent more mental pain later. To grab the show notes including all th…
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Ep. 181 How To Hold The Despair Of Our Times
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For the season finale of season four, I explore some thoughts on how we can hold the despair that may arise for us during these trying times. I will be back with season five in a couple months! To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/181. If you like what you heard, it would mean the world to me if you took a moment to leave a review …
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Ep. 180 Embodiment and Healing with Elisabeth Lilja
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In this podcast interview with psychotherapist and yoga teacher, Elisabeth Lilja, we get into the complexities of embodiment healing, including its limitations. In this episode we also explore safety in relationships and trauma work. In the end, we are gifted with Elisabeth’s lovely guided meditation as she walks us into ourselves. Enjoy! To grab t…
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Ep. 179 Ethical Considerations For The Coaching Industry
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I want to talk about the coaching industry and ways we can further create an ethical industry grounded in what works. In this episode I share some ethical considerations that I believe every coach should grapple with and explore if they want to create a sustainable long-term business. To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/179. If yo…
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Ep. 178 Consent Culture with Marcia Baczynski
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I am thrilled to have Marcia back on the podcast to talk about the complexities and nuance of consent culture. The caricature we see on the media of consent is often stiff, black and white, and devoid of passion and intimacy. In this episode, Marcia and I talk about how consent culture is really about deepening pleasure and increasing connection. E…
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Ep. 177 When Is It Time To End Therapy?
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I often get asked my thoughts on when is it time to end therapy from friends who struggle to know if they are feeling the way they should be feeling in therapy. In this episode I share my thoughts on how to know when it’s time to end therapy from the perspective of different modalities as well as how to navigate termination depending on the length …
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Ep. 176 A Conversation on Fatness with Vinny Welsby
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It was a real pleasure to have a conversation with Fierce Fatty Vinny Welsby on how to navigate fat phobia and be in relationship with people who are grappling with their relationship with their bodies. We also discuss love is blind and body neutrality. Enjoy! To grab the show notes including all the information on today’s guest, go to www.ThaisSky…
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Ep. 175 Healing Chronic Pain with Anna Holtzman
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According to the CDC, in 2019, 20.4% of adults had chronic pain and 7.4% of adults had chronic pain that frequently limited life or work activities (referred to as high impact chronic pain) in the past 3 months. I am delighted to have a conversation with therapist and chronic pain expert, Anna Holtzman, about how to understand and tend to chronic p…
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There are a lot of conversations on the internet right now about the nervous system so I thought I would share my thoughts on what role nervous system regulation plays in our healing and its limitations. Enjoy! To grab the show notes including all the information on today’s guest, go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/174. If you like what you heard, it w…
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Ep. 173 New Chapters and The Art of Psychotherapy
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I am so excited to share with you that I am officially taking on new psychotherapy patients! I thought I would commemorate this moment by sharing a bit about my own journey of finding a therapist, what I mean when I say the art of psychotherapy, and how to find our way to fullness. To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/173. If you l…
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This episode is a dedicated episode to exploring the ways the worthiness wound shows up in our dating and intimate relationships. I share my thoughts on how relational templates carry into adulthood and how you can think about relationships that can lead to greater intimacy and love. Enjoy! To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/172.…
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Let’s think together about now to navigate overwhelm. In this episode I share some thoughts about the origins of overwhelm, how it may be connected to themes of helplessness and dependence, and what meaning we can make if overwhelm keeps showing up in our lives. Enjoy! To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/171. If you like what you …
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Ep. 170 Pleasure and Intimacy with Dawn Serra
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In this playful and potent conversation with pleasure expert, Dawn Serra, we explore the intricacies of intimacy and sex. This conversation is often considered taboo which is why we tend to struggle and reject the amount of pleasure we could experience. Dawn and I talk about the hard stuff and offer ideas and thoughts on how to discover deeper conn…
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I often use the words “wound” and “healing” but don’t often talk about what they mean. So on this episode I share my thoughts behind the language as well as its limitations. I also explore whether healing is narcissistic, what exactly healing looks like, and where to begin on your healing journey. To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podca…
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Lisa Olivera is a potent yet gentle force in the world, with her kind words and her sweet energy, she reminds all of us of the healing powers of acceptance. I am thrilled to have her on the podcast this week to share her experience of motherhood, writing a book, building a large instagram following, and putting her work out in the world. Enjoy! To …
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Ep. 167 Healing Developmental Trauma with Iris McAlpin
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In this conversation with Iris McAlpin, we explore the complexities of developmental trauma including how do you know if you have developmental trauma, how it may be showing up in your life, and how to begin to heal this tender space. To grab the show notes including all the information on today’s guest, go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/167. If you l…
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Ep. 166 Loneliness + Self Trust with Thaís Sky
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Happy 2022! As we continue to experience greater amounts of isolation due to the pandemic, I thought I would give some thoughts on the source of loneliness, how it connects to self-trust, and how we can use this knowledge to help us cultivate deeper relationship with self and others. To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast/166. If you…
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In this final episode of 2021, I thought I would share with you three of the big lessons I learned this past year including my thoughts on why it’s hard to change, a critical part of inner child work that is often missing, and what is underlying our competitive nature. I also talk about what I have learned from my year long experience of Worthy Wom…
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Ep. 164 Parentified Children And Why It's Hard To Get Support
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As someone who has struggled with trusting other people and leaning on others, I wanted to record this episode to talk about what may be going on internally so that we can make sense of this phenomenon. In this episode I explore what it means to be a parentified child and what it really means to allow other people to help us. To grab the show notes…
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Ep. 163 The Art of Depth Coaching Part 6 with Thais Sky
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In this series, I explore the ins and outs of deepening your skillset as a depth coach. In this episode I have the honor of sharing with you a recording of one of my weekly mentorship calls. You will get a sense of what happens in the group mastermind including conversations around pushing versus allowing, how to market yourself when it’s so person…
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Ep. 162 The Art of Depth Coaching Part 5 with Thais Sky
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In this series, I explore the ins and outs of deepening your skillset as a depth coach. In this episode I share my thoughts on where coaches are most likely to cause harm, and how to navigate inevitable ruptures that happen in the coaching relationship {and how you ruptures aren’t a bad thing!}. To grab the show notes go to www.ThaisSky.com/podcast…
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