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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast is hosted by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.,, LMFT, specializing in the narcissistic personality, She offers in-depth information about the origins and psychodynamics of the narcissistic personality and strategies and practices for those psychologically and emotionally abused by narcissistic personalities through her global podcasts (The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast) her books:: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist and Freeing Yourself from the Narci ...
 
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Growing up as the child of a narcissistic parent is one of the most difficult and complex life histories a child can experience. The psychopathology of the narcissist is deep and daunting. As a baby and young child you were subjected to the full force of the narcissistic personality. Quoting from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist…
 
If you were traumatized as a child, growing up in a narcissistic family, you were often in a state of distress, hypervigilance, chronic anxiety. Your sympathetic nervous system, the fight or flight mode was over-worked. You could not let down and become relaxed. Growing up you were constantly on edge. You were raised by narcissists who could not be…
 
Today we are surrounded by narcissistic personalities, some of them high level: those individuals who are financially and socially successful. Many are exceedingly charming and easily psychologically magnetize people to them. Their identities are defined by their obsession with climbing to the top professionally, monetarily and socially. Nothing el…
 
You made a secret deal with yourself. If you keep giving the high level narcissist a pass on his/her lying by omission and commission he will stay with you---you will not be abandoned! It is very difficult reveal to ourselves that we have been so desperate to have gone against our own well being. The fear of abandonment is overwhelming for many ind…
 
You watch them make their entrances at prestigious private events---their overall "look" is impeccable. There are no flaws anywhere that you would discover even with an illumination device. You ask yourself: "How could anyone be that perfect?" Attention to detail is over the top. Like a perfect film set there is nothing out of place ever. Everythin…
 
Many of them go unnoticed at social events, appearing to be self effacing with a low grade ego. Meet the covert narcissist---that individual who is a narcissistic personality without the elaborate persona. They fool a lot of people with their practiced pseudo empathy and fake humility. Covert narcissists are highly competitive, manipulative, intens…
 
Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: "The narcissist lives in a world of his making, dominated by inflated illusions of self-importance. His version of reality bears no resemblance to the truth...the narcissist believes that everything flows from him. High level narcissists who have achieved greatly through their…
 
As much as you have studied, analyzed and experienced the high level narcissist, the unbounded heights of their grand delusions of self are astounding. Watching them perform is both riveting and appalling. The high level narcissist builds his/her delusions over time, starting with the earliest years, particularly if he is the golden child. If you a…
 
Quoting from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist: "In the parasympathetic some individuals hear words of healing insight. Others see rich beautiful colors...As you experience the parasympathetic consistently you internalize this experience as part of your real self." (Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist -Linda Martinez-Lewi…
 
Married to and partnered with a high level narcissist, you are constantly trapped in their psychological quicksand. Like gravity you are drawn back to them In the beginning they stood out as charming, delightful, desirable. You were attracted to the high level's extraordinary self confidence. You felt the power of this force of magnetic personality…
 
The small child inside the empath needs and is entitled to special attention. Here are some of the ways that you activate kindness, appreciation and understanding. You become calmer, stronger and increase your physical, mental and psychological stamina as well as moving into the restorative parasympathetic body/mind systems. Get comfortable when yo…
 
As a child you were the peacemaker, child servant, invisible child, the quiet one in your family. As a child you didn't fit in with your family. They had an image of themselves that was developed and highly polished, especially if you had a narcissistic parent or narcissistic mother and father. Everything had to be perfect at all times including th…
 
Empaths are high ly perceptive, exquisitely sensitive individuals. They are attuned to their external and internal environments. Tehy feel deeply and are often misunderstood by spouses, family members and the world at large. Empaths who are married or partnered with high level narcissists have a particularly difficult journey. In this situation wit…
 
Quotes from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist: "Creativity is occurring every moment, whether we are awakening, asleep or dreaming. It is a transpersonal experience that redeems us from our life histories." ""Imagination is our creative engine. Like a sense of humor imagination is unique to each person, our creative DNA. "Encoura…
 
Empaths are often informal. They don't have a retinue of followers or adorers, those that do their bidding. There are certain qualities that empaths possess. They are sensitive to their external and internal environments and have been this way since babyhood. Empaths have very keen perceptions. Empaths tend to savor their solitude; these times offe…
 
Lying for the narcissist is as predictable and natural as the sun rising i the East. High level narcissists lie through commission and omission and by intricate combinations of the two. They pile one lie on top of the other with great "skill" and insouciance. Remember, narcissists unlike you and me do not have a fully developed conscience. High lev…
 
A beast of burden is defined as an animal who caries heavy loads or must do very hard work. High level narcissists often put their children, spouses, ex-spouses, family members in the role of servants. The high level narcissist is imperious. He/she is the ruler in every relationship. Children of narcissists are at the mercy, whim, impulse, psychopa…
 
Predatory narcissists are beautifully packaged, have great social skills, charisma, mirror you and make you feel special. Sequence of predatory narcissists in controlling you: Engage you and show great interest in you, very friendly. Activate the relationship Exploit you completely - taking your time, energy, your creative gifts, making constant de…
 
High level narcissists are dissemblers, filled with patterns of deceit and corruption. They conceal the truth from you at every turn. As the partner, spouse or child of a high level narcissist, you can only expect lies and purposeful obfuscations from these individuals. Some of the things that the high level takes from you: Your inner peace and sen…
 
The beginnings of trust occur very early in a child's life. The baby, especially the empath, senses whether he/she can depend on his/her mother or father to feel safe, secure, valued, psychologically grounded. With a narcissistic mother you treaded lightly, always waiting for her to blow like a bubbling volcano. You took on the burden of your paren…
 
Some days empaths don't get much done. They are criticized for not being productive. Empaths are unique in their high sensitivity and keen perceptions and intuitions. Empaths are considered very strange by most people. Empaths go through periods of insomnia and sometimes it's chronic. If you can't sleep, rest and be patient with yourself. Practice …
 
High level narcissists spend their days exploiting others. This is their style and their deep need to take advantage of every relationship: spouses, partners, ex-spouses, children. When you are partnered with a high level narcissist this individual interferes with the expression of your individuality and creativity. 1. You become part of the Image …
 
The word "desolation" is from the French going back hundreds of years. It means a state of emptiness or destruction. Growing up with a narcissistic parent(s) you suffered from the beginning. Some of you sensed there was something wrong and frightening about your family. Some children of narcissistic parents wonder if they were switched at birth. Of…
 
The high level narcissist is a restless human being. He/she is always seeking narcissistic supplies--those psychological foods that he must have in order to keep his ego sense of self fully inflated.... Those who marry high level narcissists are unaware of their cunning and secrecy. You have been betrayed too many times and treated with disrespect-…
 
High level narcissists cause multiple psychological and emotional traumas in the lives of others, particularly their spouses, ex-spouses, children, in-laws. Always on the hunt for narcissistic supplies which includes a feverish search for people they can exploit, the high level can deleteriously affect a wide swath of people including close family …
 
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