Auntie Julia quickly checks in to let you know NTM is hard at work recording new eps for the coming weeks!

No kids, no reason. Has justifying the childfree choice gone too far? Auntie Julia and two of her great friends, Liza Treyger and Lil Frex discuss the apocalypse.

Tommy McNamara, NTM FANATIC, comedian and host of the fabulous podcast, Stand By Your Band, joins Auntie Julia this week to discuss all things Euphoria. SPOILERS ABOUND! The Zendaya-led teen drama may not seem on brand for Not the Mama but it meets all the requirements: Bad parents? Check. Messed up kids? Check. Sensible abortion? Check. Tommy and …

Not The Mama is blessed with the presence of comedian Ashley Hamilton on this week's brand new episode! She and Auntie Julia discuss "The Adventures of Lady No-Kids cartoon as well as Ashley's thoughts on adoption vs pregnancy.

Welcome to Season 2! Officially in our second year of Not The Mama, Auntie Julia and guest Paula Rondon discuss their childfree summer fun. Did you know some people don't LOVE people who don't have kids????

Happy 4th of July! We'll be back next week with new episodes including our first ever live episode! Hope your summers are going amazing! We're working on great new eps and can't wait to continue the NTM journey with all of you! xoxo Happy Summer!

Happy first Anniversary - 2.0 Auntie Julia didn't like her first anniversary ep so she redid it. If you listened already, bless you. This one is more fun. She recaps what she's learned this year and speaks to what she hopes is to come. Proudly Childfree! Come to our first LIVE Not the Mama Show hosted by Audio Loves Company this July 2nd at 7PM in …

“Vasectomies are cool! There’s smoke!” Comedian and dad expert Lauren Vino joins Auntie Julia to discuss the burgeoning male fertility industry and how calling off her engagement helped her take control of her life.

"I'd love to be considered unselfish and Christlike, but as a woman it's nearly impossible." - Jen KirkmanComedian Claire Parker joins Auntie Julia to talk about Jen Kirkman's, "I Can Barely Take Care of Myself." Jen's book really touches on all of the cliches childfree people hear all the time in a funny and at times poignant way. She's a great st…

Auntie Julia is joined by author Rachel Carter to discuss mastering your own story and keeping an open mind as you piece together your life. She shares her thoughts on dating and finding a partner in her 30s but not defining her life's success by her relationship status. As a creator, she values her free time which plays a part of why she hasn't ye…

Auntie Julia recorded an amazing episode with comedian and host of "Dear Nana: Advice from and Idiot" and repeat NTM guest Irene Morales BUT it got DESTROYED somehow. She made a mini ep to try to make up for it but then got a cold out of nowhere. Not her night. She powered through to give some thoughts on all the anti-choice nonsense happening in t…

Vonetta Moses joins Auntie Julia this week to talk about choosing to be childfree even when you've always pictured the romantic fairytale ending for your life. Vonetta got what she wanted without having to give up her full happy ending. She also shares her experience of being childfree in a huge family. Even with nieces, nephews, cousins and god ch…

Comedian and podcast host Katie Boyle joins the pod this week to talk about how to deal with the kid question in a new relationship. We also discuss reproductive rights in Ireland and family dynamics at home. And men’s opinions about women’s bodies? No thanks!

Listener Check In! Auntie Julia shares some previews on what's to come from Not The Mama as well as a request for more ratings on iTunes! Take a second and help us out! She was recently interviewed by Author and Childfree Advocate Tanya Williams for her Childfree Choices program. Watch their chat and join the convo. Julia also plugs the NYTs podcas…

Artist and Educator Damien Davis joins the pod to discuss being happily single and childfree. Damien is currently in residence at the Sugar Hill Children's Museum of Art & Storytelling in Harlem, NYC. His experience working with kids reaffirms his desire to not have children because the work of raising them doesn't fit into his life. We talk about …

Do you ever feel like your answer to the question, "Why don't you want kids?" isn't good enough? Do you feel guilty because you don't like kids? On this week's ep, artist and designer Megan Brown joins the pod to talk about how hard it is to talk about being childfree. We work out some good answers and complain about the typical questions like, "Wh…

Do you worry that being #childfree will mess up your friendships with friends who have kids? Auntie Julia and her first parent guest & bestie Jenny Hoskins chat about their relationship and how it's grown, changed and strengthened along the two different paths they've chosen. They share their perspective on what works for them and how you can confr…

The new ep this week is delayed due to special editing needs. It will be up Friday, April 12!

Lane Pieschel makes his triumphant return to the pod to talk about the best Childfree show of all time, Seinfeld. We discuss the greatness of Elaine and how wonderful it is to watch a show with no children on it. We also chat about what shows we were or weren't allowed to watch as kids. Are you sponge worthy?…

In today's new ep, comedian and Teenies foster mom, Maria Wojciechowski joins us to chat about how important mental health care is for all of us and how where we're from can also shape how we were raised. Maria is from Alabama and Auntie Julia is from the northeast. They discuss the differences and similarities about their childhoods and how that s…

DON'T TURN UP THE VOLUME! The intro sound was messed up but the vocals are PERFECT! We're almost to the sweet spot! NEW in our Instagram Story! ;)"I won't be devastated or hollow but being childless is not always a choice or a curse. Sometimes, it is something else." - Roxane Gay reminds us that just because some of us celebrate the choice to be ch…

Childfree pioneer and author of February's Not The Mama Book Club selection, "Confessions of a Childfree Woman," Marcia Drut-Davis joins Auntie Julia to discuss her book and life. In 1974, in front of millions of 60 Minutes viewers, Marcia and her then husband confessed to his parents their desires to not have children. Facing death threats and job…

On our very special Valentine's Day episode, Auntie Julia is joined by comedian and actor Drew Anderson to talk about all types of love - friendship, family, romantic, and self love. They talk about setting priorities, parceling out the time you invest in others and what really matters. They also talk about loving their nieces and nephews and how k…

"We're probably over thinking it." - Liz Jansen, Auntie Julia's friend from college, joins the pod this week to discuss the process of figuring out if she wants to be a parent and all of the considerations she and her partner are going through. Financial, religious, personal, and political reasons motivate the choice to have children. Is there such…

"How can I make money off of not-parenthood?? Tell me that!" Marketing pro Elissa Reiling joins Auntie Julia to share her experiences as a not-mom in the city. They discuss life after divorce, maintaining friendships with parents and the suburbanization of NYC. A long rant about strollers on the subway during rush hour ensues. They also talk about …

"My womb has always been empty, but my life is full." - Jeanne SaferListener Maxine Sims joins Auntie Julia all the way from the UK to discuss the first selection of the Not The Mama Book Club, "Selfish, Shallow and Self Absorbed - Sixteen Writers on the Decision Not to Have Kids" by Meghan Daum.They talk about main themes threaded throughout all o…

Do babies have to destroy friendships? No! Auntie Julia is joined by her new friend and mom-2-B Kara Klenk to discuss building the bridge between those of us who choose to be childfree and those who choose to become parents. If you accept yourself, it's much easier to accept others even when their choices are different than yours. It's easier said …

Auntie Julia checks in with a short News & Views episode to talk about the "falling" American birthrate and the nonsense that happened after the March for Life in DC. We'll be back with a full episode on Thursday! Keep reading Selfish, Shallow and Self Absorbed for the Not the Mama Bookclub too!

Special Romance Episode! Lane Pieschel, Auntie Julia's famed boyfriend/partner/not-husband joins the pod this week to confirm that he is not being manipulated against procreation. They chat about their relationship and how they came to the decision to not have kids. They discuss family pressures and influence and assert themselves as partners in th…

Auntie Julia rings in the New Year with a discussion about what she thinks defines a family and our culture's obsession with procreation. She talks about the term "pronatalism" and how it's not always a positive effect to center society around blood relations. She reads a bit from a NYTimes Modern Love column about a man who has fathered over a doz…

Fresh off of witnessing the birth of her niece, comedian Marcia Belsky joins Auntie Julia to discuss the state of women's health care and why it matters to women even if you don't have to have kids. They have too much bubbly and have a conversation about the state of feminism and the volume of Julia's laugh. It's the last guest episode of 2018 so c…

Burlesque performer, dancer and sword swallower extraordinaire Gin Minsky joins Auntie Julia to discuss fearless love while being childfree. Gin shares her experiences of dating and moving on from partners who want kids. She now seeks out relationships with people who don't want to be parents but even that can't guarantee minds won't change. It can…

Special Crossover Episode! Film Critics Bronwyn Isaac and Jourdain Searles of the Bad Romance podcast join Auntie Julia to discuss the fabulous movie "Obvious Child" staring Jenny Slate. One of the first and only movies to portray the choice to have an abortion without trauma, this is the perfect film to examine pop culture's handling of parenthood…

Auntie Julia is joined by Luisa Díez to discuss self realization and how we fulfill our own potentials. Luisa shares her own journey of self discovery and how she and her mom, who have lead very different lives, have come to a better understanding. They also talk about being "old" feminists and how this isn't necessarily bad but can be annoying. "M…

Auntie Julia goes solo to share her story about how she left her Evangelical Christian upbringing and managed to maintain her relationships with friends and family. She talks about how this was an important step for her to open her life up to her true wants and needs. It wasn't always easy but sharing this story is a valuable part of building this …

Families have hopes and dreams for us that don't always align with the hopes and dreams we have for ourselves. Comedian Lili Michelle joins us this week to talk about the pressures we face when we don't live up to familial or cultural expectations. How do we navigate feelings of love for our families and friends while living our own lives? Lili's f…

Why don't people take young women seriously? Especially when they are speaking about the decisions they've made for their own lives? Artist Paula Rondon joins Auntie Julia this week to discuss this phenomenon and learning about how to trust ourselves no matter our ages. She also talks about her relationships with her family, friends and boyfriend a…

Sometimes the best way to find out that you want to remain childfree is to spend time with children. Former back-up nanny and comedian Liza Treyger joins Auntie Julia to talk about their pasts as child-care providers. They've both been babysitters, camp counselors and of course, aunts so they do have some experience around kids yet have always know…

What would you do if the life path you were on was changed by tragedy? Adventurer Sarah Gill joins Auntie Julia to talk about love, loss, grief and resilience after the death of her husband Mark. Sarah has redirected her career, home, personal and child life plans and shares a story that listeners will be inspired by! We chat about evolving and gro…

Rapper Lil Frex joins Auntie Julia on the pod this week to experience a pregnancy scare in real time, wanting kids as fantasy vs. reality, their sex ed experiences and whether or not you can get knocked up on your period. Frex is open to testing this out but Julia of course, is not. At the end of the ep we play "It Goes On" from her latest mixtape,…

"You will do what you want to do with your life," said the doctor who performed Gloria Steinem's illegal abortion when she was 22. She went on to become one of the most important feminists of the 20th century and is not a mother. Today, Auntie Julia flies solo to share her thoughts on the value of not moms and what we have to contribute to the worl…

About: WARNING: Auntie Julia's laugh is out of control this ep, protect your buds! (She did edit it though to even out the volume) The wildly talented Alex Drake is here, finally!!! We talk about dads vs moms - as caregivers, who kids like more, dad bods and wtf even IS a mom bod?? Important, #spoileralert for the plot of the movie, "The Intern." A…

Thank you listeners!! We're reviving our News + Views segment with today's special appreciation episode! Auntie Julia reads some great reviews from iTunes, addresses some sound concerns and talks about improvements to come! We wouldn't have a pod without you! She also minimally addresses this Kava-HELL-NAW business and reminds everyone to register …

Comedian Shalewa Sharpe joins Auntie Julia to discuss her moment with Chadwick Boseman, not wanting motherhood but supporting mom friends, progressive pro-lifers responsibility to shut down anti-choicers, and the required martyrdom of motherhood. They also chat about race in regards to parenting and the responsibility of all white people to dismant…

Have you considered freezing your eggs? Comedian and writer Farah Brook chats this week about what it's like to know for sure you want to be a mom. Farah has decided to freeze her eggs now so when she's ready for kids she has more options. She and Auntie Julia talk the cost, science and emotional and physical experience of taking this step.…

Comedian Irene Morales joins Auntie Julia this week to chat about how heritage and family history can impact our decision to become parents. Irene shares stories about her family life growing up in Miami, Florida with a Cuban mom, a Paraguayan dad and a brother who is on the Autism spectrum. Auntie Julia is also sick of introvert memes on the inter…

Entrepreneur Leah Weinberg joins Auntie Julia this week to chat about not wanting kids and knowing it! They discuss making space for career ambition, friendship with other not-parents and also just not liking kids all that much. They get to the bottom of the eternal question - "What do women DO without children?" A lot, actually!…

You can decide to be undecided! This week, comedian and actress Molly Ruben Long joins Auntie Julia to declare her indecision about parenthood, marriage and other grown up questions. They also get to the bottom of Auntie Julia's aggressive personal stance against marriage which may inadvertently have swayed Molly's decision on that front. Luckily, …

Melissa Stokoski, comedian and Sex and the City scholar, joins auntie Julia this week to discuss how women without children were represented on the iconic television show. One of the first series to present storylines about abortion, infertility, and choosing to be childfree, Melissa and Auntie Julia dissect scenes and episodes that Not The Mama li…

TW: Child Abuse, Sexual Abuse Auntie Julia and comedian and storyteller Melody Kamali chat together this week about heavier topics. Melody discusses her indecision about parenthood based on past experiences and having a partner who knows she wants to be a mom. They talk about parents, their childhoods and how people need to share stories to help ra…