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Midlife. The in-between years when you're no longer young but you're not old yet either. It's that time in your story when you're crying all the way home from leaving your kid at college. Or crumpling up your high school reunion invite because life has not turned out at all in the way you said it would. You're waking up in the middle of the night wracked with financial worry. You're going through a divorce or grieving your spouse or wondering who that man is across the table as you haven't r ...
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It’s now, in midlife, that the last thought on your mind is to be “resilient and courageous”. Ever feel like you're teetering on a high wire, blindfolded, with the world watching below? One minute, you're conquering life's great balancing act, and the next - whoosh - you're in free fall. I get it. The midlife rollercoaster is not for the faint of h…
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Midlife is a time when you start to ask, "Who am I now? What's next?" Change is, for women, inevitable. It's easy to lose your courage and stop believing in yourself. Challenges are everywhere and you wonder if you have what it takes to actually make it through in one piece. The answer is YES YOU CAN! Enter the "Beautiful Warrior". Who is she? A be…
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Are you wondering what the secret is to finding your passion - it seems that everyone expects you to know but maybe you're confused about the whole idea and wondering if it's something that is really going to matter? Discovering your personal mission, your life's purpose is like finding your compass in the forest. It doesn't eliminate the trees, bu…
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Many of us by midlife are afraid to make decisions because we’re afraid the past equals the future. The amazing news about life is this: the past does NOT equal the future. Every phase is a new canvas. And you hold the paintbrush in your hand. THIS is when decide: Beautiful Warrior of Shrinking Violet? Your Beautiful Warrior is YOU taking charge. Y…
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Someone calls you 'fat'. Someone says your work isn't up the standards of the company and to do it again. Someone says your work is wonderful and to be sure that same level of quality shows up on the next project. Someone tells you that your son may have cancer. Someone tells you that your mom is going to need extra care and you're the only sibling…
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Have you ever downplayed your own work because it wasn't as good as someone else's? Or changed your mind about submitting something, cooking something, doing something because you believed what you could give wasn't very good? These are symptoms of the "I am not enough" way of life. And it's this thinking that will cause you to become smaller and s…
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WHAT IF Midlife were actually a Call To Adventure? The only way you hear that Call is to connect to that very quiet place deep inside of you. That's where you'll find your heart. This is a powerful place. A place from which you can learn to be yourself...shut out the noise of what everyone else thinks you should be, tells you to be. The Call challe…
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Ever walk into a crowded room and feel all alone? There is nothing like feeling as if you are in the wrong place. Don't belong. Are not wanted somewhere. WE ALL FEEL IT. And, for women, midlife can magnify this because so many places where they felt at home and needed are shifting. Changing. So how do we handle this? How do we make that vital decis…
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Your heart is the most beautiful thing about you. And in that beautiful heart, you'll find every need that shows you how to find your passion and purpose. The 2nd need of your heart is SIGNIFICANCE. To know and value who I am. In this podcast I'm talking about YOU, a potential Woman on a Mission. And, because of that, you are a potential Beautiful …
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"I'm good with life as long as it never changes and doesn't give me any surprises." Don't you wish you could have this level of control? Sometimes we think that, if we did, we would feel safe and certain. Wait a minute! Is that really how we want to live our lives? We're talking about that question in this podcast. Is safe and careful over-rated? E…
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CARTOON: A midlife woman was telling her doctor - “I need a big belly. You can’t fit this much charm and personality into a small package.” There you go - the positive spin on it. However, it also kind of makes me want to crawl under my blankets and never come out because I don’t want a big belly and I don’t want to rationalize it away. Do you thin…
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Two choices when you come to the crossroads called "Midlife". We all go through it. No one escapes it because, well, Midlife is simply the 'middle' of your life. I totally feel your desire to escape it. And we all get two choices: 1. Sit down. Stare at the closed door behind us for the rest of your life. Imagine all the things you had back there an…
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From a post on Pinterest talking about midlife women: "You know you're getting old when you get butt jiggle, bingo wing flap and boob wobble when you brush your teeth"... It made me laugh right out loud because I had just been noticing my bingo wing flaps in the mirror when I was brushing my teeth. It's just like, "Oh my goodness, that skin just lo…
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There you stand. On the edge of a chasm. You're somewhere in your 40's and there's not much left for you here on this side. Below you see a whole river of loss running between two rocky walls. You feel that loss. Loss of a house filled with noisy kids and schedules to keep running. Loss of your energy and muscle tone because midlife changes are cat…
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The BOMBS are the big things that happen that absolutely blow up your life. They happened in the past and they will keep happening... it's impossible to predict. Literally, it's as if you were walking down a sidewalk and a bomb went off just a few feet away from you. The shock wave leaves you reeling - "Wait a minute, this is not what I was expecti…
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The woman you "were" - the one in the past - comes with you everywhere all the time. You hear her voice, you feel her touch, you regret a lot of how she was. And wish she would have made different decisions. But what about the strength she brings you? YES! She brings you strength. This aging gracefully thing has to include making peace with the wom…
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How Do I Love Myself?? We get to this place a lot of times in our life where we are focusing so much on how to live a good life. How do we do this? How do we get love? How do we get the body we want? How do I become a person who is happy? How do I be a good mom? How do I be a good wife? How? How? How? "How" is not the question - "Who" is the questi…
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Remember the giggling? As a little girl, remember breathing in the fun in life in whatever moment you were living? Life was an adventure every minute, right? Princesses, Knights... imagining doing whatever came into yours and your friend's heads. Then something happened. As we grew, older, life took place, right? Bombs went off scaring you to death…
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Bombs drop on you. Boulders flatten you, dropping out of nowhere. Someone throws a rock at you - fast! Ouch! It stings. It leaves a mark. LIFE HAPPENS. What you do next is the MOST IMPORTANT DECISION YOU WILL EVER MAKE IN THIS LIFE. Who will you be? Will you crumble, give up, shrink away because it's all just too hard? Or will you stand up again. R…
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You laugh. You cry. You shout. You encourage. You love. You hate. You are a woman and you feel. That's natural. And beautiful! Mastering your emotions means you start to understand them. Is that even possible? THE KEY to Aging Beautifully is to master these things we call "emotions". Yes - it's all part discovering how to love yourself. And everyth…
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Are you struggling with who see when you look in the mirror right now? Are you disappointed at how your life is turning out? 50 plus already and you feel this pressure to hurry up or you're going to miss out on making your life what you want it to be. Maybe you're not even sure what that looks like. You've lost sight of what you wanted. Ready to JU…
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"Should she go for her dream of being a doctor even when her 50th birthday party had come and gone?" She decided, "Yes". She was going to go for it. And so she did. Dreams are not always "just dreams" - they are also callings. Answering their call will light up your life in ways you can't even imagine. Even in this last quarter. This week we're tal…
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This is about the day my boob went rouge. Yes. Seriously. One of those humiliating moments in life that you either transform into a traumatic event or make into a funny story. Sometimes one of the many 'parts' of us end up being something we don't enjoy very much. More like we 'put up' with it because we haven't much choice. Body parts may fall int…
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SEASON 2 of S.O.F.T. & Strong starts off with some surprising advice. LIE ABOUT YOUR AGE! Lying about your age is somewhat frowned upon, I know...but what if there is a time when it works IN YOUR FAVOR (and I'm not referring to getting into those places we would have liked to when we were underage). In this podcast I show you what I discovered abou…
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I've seen it happen way too many times in way too many women's lives as they get older. They become defensive. They become very strong on the outside thinking that that is going to defend them on the inside. And the result is that they just come across as being domineering, controlling, angry, but really what's happening is that they're scared on t…
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I want you to imagine a bridge, a beautiful bridge, the best in your imagination that you can come up with. Is it in a park? Is it in a garden? And you're standing there at the beginning of this beautiful bridge. Your bridge, your design. This is about your life. Now I want you to start walking. Imagine walking over that bridge. And you're seeing a…
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Two of the most important words you will ever say in your life is, "I am...". The most important sentences you will ever speak in your life start with those words. "I am...". You're so many things. And the most important thing, the strongest thing that you need to build up in your life is your IDENTITY. "I am" identifies who you are. Once you know …
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Aging beautifully takes being YOU - relaxing into who you are, who you were meant to be. But how DO you overcome FEAR and step into being a confident, beautiful woman who makes her own decisions, believes in herself and follows after her heart? The 2nd part of our Story from the last episode reveals 4 things that the heroine, Much Afraid, learned a…
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Her name was "Much Afraid". Scared of what was ahead. Scared of not being loved by the people close to her. Scared to step out on her own. She didn't want love that hurt in any way. She didn't want Sorrow. She didn't want Suffering. All she wanted was that good life. To reach the top of the mountain, the "High Places". To be free. To find that swee…
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Love yourself and others with the same zest you feel when you approach a bowl of jellybeans. Jellybeans may not be able to fill up the cavern of need inside that we each have to be loved but, in this episode, we talk about what WILL fill that cavern. And it will light you up. Remember: You are a heart walking on a Path call "life". You get to decid…
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We fear that the magic starts disappearing along with our dreams after we hit the 50 marker in life. And magic - the wonder, the beauty, the miracles - is one of those things that makes life worth living. Could it be that losing the magic is what makes us feel as if we're aging? Hear a story about a miracle that transformed the heart of one women f…
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CELEBRATING EPISODE #50!! Your word... how do you describe yourself? Are you in the naughty word group? Or the generic "nice" group? Some of us label ourselves pretty harshly. A Christmas ad I saw recently touched my heart. What it suggested was that, for some kids who are fighting illness or long term traumas at the most festive time of year, thei…
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Are you Brave Enough to embrace the cellulite? Did you know that women start worrying about aging in their 30's? If you live into your 90's, that's a LONG TIME to deal with the signs of a body naturally doing its thing. But you can become one of the Brave ones. A member of the Secret Inner Hero Society who stand tall and wear a sparkly crown becaus…
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I love my mom - but, you know, your mom always seems "older" to you. You always think of her as WAY ahead of you in age and stage of life. When you realize that you're starting to look like her...let's just say it gives you "pause". But that's not the only thing we FEAR as we age. Sometimes life is filled with surprises and hard things that make us…
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How can we be FEARLESS AFTER 50? Maya Angelou was a model for us. From a life that could have easily defined her "Not Enough", she rose above and stood "Brave Enough" to be herself, to be her best and to walk her Path with courage as a woman thankful for the blessings. This woman has a "Phenomenal" Story. She was brutally honest with her world abou…
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A woman with a heart of gold. A man who asked for her heart. A marriage she thought was made in heaven. But then a nightmare worse than any of us can imagine...while she worked at bringing him home to live with her, she discovered that he was expecting a child with someone else and married her, as well! This is Lea's Brave Story. How she walked the…
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"I can't... He'll never fall for me." "It's too late... I hate being naked!" "I'm too old...can't teach an old dog new tricks." SAY WHAT? If these Stories are true for you, then WHAT is that hiding in your beautiful heart? And WHY are you hiding it when you have so much love to give? You will NEVER attract a great love when you're hiding your heart…
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Is this YOU? "I'm not brave! I act like I'm brave. I try to talk brave. But I know I'm not..." You and nearly every other woman on this planet. ESPECIALLY if you're moving on past your 40's and 50's and up the age line. Did you know that MOST women shrink back from life the older they get? In today's episode you are going to hear about how I took a…
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You are lovely - inside and out. Lord knows, you're trying to be brave by getting out there and dating. But you're asking yourself...Where are all the good guys? The ones who want a commitment - not just a fling? Why is it that every time it seems as if the chemistry is working, it just fizzles out? Is it me? Is it them? Is it that I just haven't m…
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Ever said, "I will never trust ANY man ever again..."? Yup - me, too. I've said that. But let's think about this. What's the fallout of making a decision like that? You tie the whole world of LOVE to one relationship - or a few relationships that didn't work out. You end up alone. Shut down. And in a pretty dreary place. Look how much magic you cou…
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What if...it's not out there? What IF love is not in the cards for me? In this podcast we are going to address this FEAR and how, if you are becoming Brave in your life, you are going to attract love. Confidence in who you are creates a confidence in who you are AS A WOMAN IN LOVE. 5 Steps to growing and nurturing the woman that are who lives in SU…
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Wonder Woman? Excuse me? I'm way beyond 50, flabby and far from being able to fly...so you're asking way too much. Not asking you to LOOK like Wonder Woman.. . I'm asking you if you SEE yourself as someone who's like Wonder Woman? What do you think? Could you? How you see yourself is how you come across - in life AND on a date. In this episode, I'm…
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The scariest thing about dating is making that FINAL decision..."Yes. I will spend the rest of my life with you." Right? I this episode we talk about what it takes to, who you need to be, HOW to be as sure as you can be that your "Chooser" isn't broken. Make these Courage Pillars you foundation: Pillar of Courage #1: Know your WHY. You want to be o…
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To be brave...is to take action even when you're scared. To be brave...is to believe even in love even when you've moved the age needle past 50 and even when you've been hurt. To be brave...is to hold a picture of the life you want just ahead while putting the steps in place to make it happen. Focusing there...living here. To be brave...is to love.…
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Stop and think - If you could have any love that you could dream up, what would it look like? What's the #1 thing that stands between you and that exact life? What's stopping you? Enter the Fiery FEAR Dragon. Broken love leaves you shattered. And can drain you of all your hope. Especially if you're a woman who is pushing into her 50's, 60's, 70's. …
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The greatest thing you can ever know is Over the Moon, Never Leave Me Love. Beyond 50? Dating...again? R.E.L.A.X.! Part 5 Podcast - "X" is for "Excellence". Own your SOFT power. Discover how to take the most beautiful parts of you out on a date - and win the guy. Moving back toward love after divorce is scary. Add being beyond 50 and it's downright…
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The last thing you want is to feel "invisible" again. As if you're not seen. You're not heard. And your opinion doesn't matter. And, let's face it, when you've been divorced, it's most likely one of the reasons you ended up there. But - you have worked through the hurt of it. You are rebuilding a life you're proud of. You don't want to give up on l…
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Does this sound like you? ...Exciting. Fun. Mesmerizing. Beautiful. No? Hmmm - good news! She's in there! She's just hiding. And she's your Super Girl. In this Podcast, I put this out for your thoughts...Maybe your Super Girl is being dis-empowered by a chunk of Kryptonite that is blocking your way to Over The Moon, Never Leave Me love. We all have…
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Dating after divorce can be nerve-wracking. More so, if you're beyond 50. Nervous, Self-conscious. Rusty... How do we do this?? R.E.L.A.X. Breathe. Let your Sparkle out. That's the key. This is the 2nd in a 5 Part Masterclass on learning to R.E.L.A.X. Into Love Again. You've got this! Join me as I offer some wonderful insights I discovered from the…
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Part 1 in a 5 part Masterclass: How To R.E.L.A.X. and Invite Love In The 'R' in R.E.L.A.X. is to Receive. Being strong on the inside begins to build up your ability to Receive. The R.E.LA.X. Method of Loving comes from that place. It's Strength in Action helping you to put your true self out there into the world. Into relationships of every kind. I…
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