A healthy lifestyle from a Christian perspective with marriage and family counselor Olen Baker.
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We are all individuals and that characteristic tends to divide us, rather than bring us closer together. Is that something you have experienced? Try this. Allow family members to be their own person and accept them for just that. If you do, they will also accept you. Simple, huh?By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Connectedness, acceptance, and love. You cannot achieve this unless you put others first, always, and yourself, second, always. There is no one more important than the OTHER PERSON. Think about that.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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God would ask us to "think before we speak". How true, as well chosen words and responses lead to beneficial conversation and peaceful solutions. Think about that.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Sure, we all have our opinions and beliefs. Instead of finding the great divide, focus on the beautiful bridge. Yes, it does exist in every family, even yours.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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We all have experienced jealuosly at times. It's a natural part of our lives. Understanding is the key. Putting others first and allowing them to be who they are is the solution.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Accept reality and consequences as your first baby steps. Then, allow God to help you get to where you must be.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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You know what, sibling rivalry exists, in every family. Rivalry exists in the workplace, in every day life. God knows how to help us nulify discord with harmony. Have a talk with God for further instructions.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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First, we are all flawed. That's our design. We are also given choices and those choices work in our favor when they are following what God wants us to do. That, in a nutshell, is maturity.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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We all have lapses in judgement and those poor judments always lead to disappointment. God is your single most powerful source for moving away from disappointment.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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The quick answer...yes. IF you follow that with a conversation with God. Disappointment hurts. God can help you heal. It's true.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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A lack of maturity equates to failure in a long-term relationship. God is a perfect place to start that conversation. Try it. It works.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Love, joy and peace. Did you know that's what God want's us to discover, experience and enjoy in life. Surprised?By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Ever hear the term, "grow up". Here's how it works. Sacrifice, suffer a bit and have an attitude that tomorrow will be better because today, you learned a lesson. Ouch, but necessary.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Success in a relationship is not always easy. It requires both of you to share similar values and a focused vision on the future. Communication is at the key of making that happen.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Relationships are a mix of mutual values. That means listening first and then gently telling how you feel. Respect always comes first.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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How Can I Build Compatibility in my Relationship?
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Compatibility has to be nurtured, the same way you would care for a child. Gentle, loving, consistent acts will help you get there.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Perfect compatibility is not a requirement for a strong relationship. Communication is an essential element for building it.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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The perfect soul mate. Yeah, right. Not so easy to find, is it?By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Commitment solidifies compatibility by pledging long-term security. Not always easy, but always necessary.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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How Can I Find Peace and Unity in a Relationship?
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Not many want discord in a relationship. Not even you. But when discord exists, life can be tougher than is should be. Are you in a compatible relationship?By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Compatibility is synonymous with harmony and unity. That formula works well in any relationship. So, how about you?By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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It's easy to be critical. Not so easy to be correct. God can help you with that conversation.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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When criticism is paired with wisdom and insight it has a much better chance of creating change for the better. We are flawed, we sometimes fail, but when we are given proper direction, we become better in God's eyes.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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It's important to accept feedback when and where you have fallen short. We are human. We sometimes fail. It's also important to apologize so we can move forward with a clean heart. Not always easy, but always necessary.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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God tells us to model his grace and mercy in place of being critical or cynical. Be careful how you live. It has lasting effects.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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How Does God Want Me to Deal with Criticism?
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Sure, you'll respond with anger and doubt about the person giving you criticism and eventually you might realize that the messenger was wrong. but the message was right. Talk to God and discover how to move in a better direction.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Corrections should always come in love, not hate. We are better off when we can clearly understand the value of change. It's never easy but if we are the recipient of criticism, step back, talk to God, and discover a better resolve.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Ask God for the wisdom, courage, and strength to accept it. God has designed guidelines for each of us to walk on the bettter side of life. Sometimes that means that you have to change your path. Accept it and reap the benefits of change.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Criticism is a negative attack on someone else and it never generates a positive result. Turn to God to discover a better way to address your anxiety and hurtful behavior. God will show you how.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Isn't a conversation better than a fight? Talk through problems and base that conversation on what God would say. That's where you begin.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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God did not design you to have a critical attitude. That behavior diminishes as you see yourself, and others, as precious in God's sight.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Simple, or maybe not so simple for you. Turn to God and ask him to send help, today.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Criticism transforms into emotional abuse over time. Turn to God, first to center your belief in self. Through Him, find a path that supports healing.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Inferiority is something we all face at times. Long term inferiority can lead to a dangerous place.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Proverbs 4 says, Be careful how you think: your life is shaped by your thoughts. Lies will take you to a deeper place of infereiority. God can help you out with the truth of His word. He knows you. He can help.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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The greater the feeling of inferiority, the more violent the emotional confrontation. That's a quote from psychologist Alfred Adler. God gives each of us the power to change by facing the truth. Until we do that, the darkness of violence will grow. It's time to have that conversation with God.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Self-deception is a lie. Failure to communicate the whole truth, is a lie. We are all guilty. God knows each of us and he also knows how to move us beyond the lie. Trust him to do that in your life, today.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Violence changes a family from a place of security and safety to one of fear and anxiety. Violence is all around us. The good news is that God replaces a violence through faith. Rather than look to ramp up a bad situation, go instead to God for direction and healing.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Violence demonstrates a deeper level of powerlessness. The Bible says it is better to be patient than powerful. We are not immune to acts of violence. That's why it's important to first, stop in your tracks and spend a moment with God. It works every time.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Bullying, especially in school has become a top news item. Emotional abuse unfortunately happens all around us. And when we're the target, it's sometimes feels like it's impossible to get help. The good news is that God is there with you. Just reach out and ask Him to help. He will.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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God cannot be embarrassed or made to feel ashamed by what has happened to you. He is able to bring to a place of safety, resolution, and healing. For you, and anyone who has suffered sexual abuse. Time to have a conversation?By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Homes are supposed to be a secure place to live and grow. Too many times, homes are the source of the darker side of life. The good news is that God lives within you. In a home that us under attack, God is there. Just reach out to Him.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Tension and stress affect everyone, no matter economics, social status, or profession. HOW we handle tension is an important part of surviving those days when nothing is going right. The good news, God is there with you. Start the conversation and move away from the stress.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Trauma can create a feeling of detachment, which is a sympton of continuing stress. God understands us and He also knows how to bring us back, closer to Him, and closer to healing. He is the way.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Trauma is a delayed response to a significant life event. We are all at some time in our lives, exposed to trauma. Trust God to keep His promises for you when life's sorrows and grief surfaces.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Conflict is what it is. How conflict is managed is the solution. Avoiding conflict is not the way. God has a solution for you.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Anxiety creates a fight or flight reaction. God has the power to help you clear your conscience. Without his help, you are only amping up those issues. Take a moment to have a conversation with God and begin to move away from conflict in peace.By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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Your very worst day is one that God believes can be turned around. When you activate faith in your life, worst days will still come. But with faith, you now have the power to overcome them. Amazing, isn't it?By Olen C. Baker MDiv, LPC
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