Follow the (mis)adventures of a single, gay man living in the bible belt. No topic is off limits, especially sex.
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Join J.Nicole, Danyella and Haighlove for their weekly podcast covering the Real on the everyday struggles of being Single, Gay & Married. Bringing you advice, humor, and relatable experiences of the Everyday Black Woman. Tune in to meet the best girlfriends you never had! Produced by DJ Tricey Trice Photos by Haighlove & DJ Tricey Trice
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For 20 years, the Modern Love column has given New York Times readers a glimpse into the complicated love lives of real people. Since its start, the column has evolved into a TV show, three books and a podcast. Each week, host Anna Martin brings you stories and conversations about love in all its glorious permutations, dumb pitfalls and life-changing moments. New episodes every Wednesday. Listen to this podcast in New York Times Audio, our new iOS app for news subscribers. Download now at ny ...
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Inside Pop takes a deep dive inside the week in Pop Culture. Each week the hosts, Amita Patel and Sean David Johnson, bring their knowledge of the entertainment industry along with their diverse viewpoints to cover the stories you need to know about and care about. The duo bring a welcome diversity (they are African American and Indian; Male and Female, Gay and Straight, Married and Single) into the pop culture podcasting landscape.
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Welcome to the J. Nicole podcast, where amazing things happen.
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Allen's annual birthday episode takes a turn to the dark side as he reveals a disturbing event from his past.By AAD
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Myha’la’s Relationship Advice? Get in a Fight.
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On the HBO high finance drama “Industry,” basically everyone serves cruel insults. It’s part of the culture at their bank, Pierpoint. But Myha’la’s character, Harper Stern, goes after friends and enemies with deep, cutting verbal attacks. Myha’la reads a Modern Love essay by a woman with the opposite problem: Laura Pritchett and her husband have av…
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Close Encounters of an Extraterrestrial Kind
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Allen reveals a close encounter event from his childhood that has contributed to his life-long interest in UAPs/UFOs. He takes a look at the probability of life on other planets and the reasons he believes alien civilizations have an interest in us.By AAD
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Gillian Anderson Wants to Hear Your Sexiest Fantasies
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The actor Gillian Anderson (“The X-Files,” “The Fall,” “Sex Education”) has become an advocate for sexual openness, whether through her on-screen personas, launching a libido-boosting soda brand, attending the Golden Globes in a vulva-embroidered dress or through her new book, “Want: Sexual Fantasies by Anonymous,” which showcases the secret fantas…
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An awkward elevator encounter with a homophobic man inspires this week's discussion about married men and the challenges that arise when dating and hooking up with them.By AAD
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Feeling a mid-life crisis coming on, Allen discusses a change in hair color for his beard and ponders what it means to "look old."By AAD
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Masculine and feminine stereotypes reinforced by religious doctrine is the topic for discussion this week. Also, it's hot as hell in Tennessee.By AAD
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A recent traumatic experience of being on an elevator with someone wearing too much cologne leads to this week's discussion of attention-seeking people and how far some people will go to catch someone's eye.By AAD
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While getting ready for Bear Night at the club, Allen struggles with what shirt to wear and muses on a local ordinance forbidding men from going shirtless before he turns his attention to "gay republicans" and bear drama.By AAD
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Allen flashes back to one of his most unusual and hilarious one night stands and other incidents that didn't turn out quite exactly as planned.By AAD
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In response to the lies regarding "the feast of the gods" depiction at the opening ceremony of the summer olympics in Paris, Allen discusses the true agenda of right-wing politicians that exploit religion.By AAD
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These guys that I worked with in a factory
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Allen flashes back to a time when he was innocent and naive which was the same time a lot of the straight guys he worked with were acting totally gay.By AAD
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Feeling a mid-life crisis coming on, Allen contemplates what exactly makes people, including himself, happy.By AAD
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Allen reflects on the presidential pardons for military personnel charged and convicted for being gay. He discusses his own personal fetish when it comes to men in uniform and the efforts he took to keep his gay movie collection hidden from his parents.By AAD
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Allen reveals a surprise that leads to a discussion about an off the wall topic after being inspired by the way someone walked by him.By AAD
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A recent study that revealed the discovery of microplastics in human testicles leads Allen to contemplate the possible effects of plastic in our bodies and how it might be affecting our sex drive which leads Allen to remember a bizarre phone sex incident and ponder incels.By AAD
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Allen reflects on a past incident with a friend that leads him to wonder whether or not most people, including himself, have at least one toxic trait.By AAD
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In celebration of Pride Month Allen discusses what pride means to him and the importance of hate crime laws.By AAD
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Allen ponders what it means to be cool and flashes back to his senior year in high school when for a brief few months the coolest guy was his bestest friend.By AAD
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Thinking about his friends' marriages, Allen wonders if the uncanny similarities all relationships seem to have means that there is a mysterious mathematical formula that could analyze and predict the outcome of relationships. Sharing a personal family story, he discusses the probability that old, archaic southern traditions about marriage lead to …
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Pondering men and their inflated egos, Allen recalls the time when he was driven more by jealousy than physical attraction.By AAD
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Peter Gallagher’s Marriage Advice? Don’t Get Divorced.
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Actor Peter Gallagher (Sex, Lies, & Videotape and The O.C.) met his wife, Paula Harwood, over forty years ago in college in a stairwell meet-cute. Since then, they’ve maintained a loving marriage and managed to raise a family while navigating the world of show business. We talked to Peter on his 41st wedding anniversary, and he read us the Modern L…
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Allen reveals a "shocking" secret which leads to a discussion about self-identifying labels.By AAD
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Liza Colón-Zayas, of ‘The Bear,’ on Loving Someone Who’s in the Fight of Their Life
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On the Emmy- and Peabody-winning series “The Bear,” Liza Colón-Zayas plays Tina Marrero, a cook at the Chicago restaurant at the center of the story. Tina and her fellow workers are in a constant struggle for the survival of their restaurant, and they fight just as fiercely with one another. Only at rare moments do we see them drop the tough exteri…
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Hearing in news reports about a cosmetic procedure known as vampire facials, Allen takes a look at what the procedure is and ponders the risks people are willing to take to look young.By AAD
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¡Hola Papi!, Does My Grandmother Need to Know I’m Gay?
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John Paul Brammer writes the “¡Hola Papi!” advice column for The Cut at New York magazine, answering questions like, “Why am I dreaming about sex with a man when I’m a lesbian?” Or, “What if my partner judges me for writing smut?” This candor has given John Paul an intimate connection with his readers. However, as today’s episode reveals, he doesn’…
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Allen takes a look back at pop culture in the 1980s and the effect that the Queen of Pop, Madonna, had on gay rights and the fight against AIDS; when top-rated TV shows like Golden Girls and Dynasty addressed gay issues and Phil Donahue hosted a gay marriage ceremony on his daytime talk show.By AAD
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Emily Ratajkowski Can Take Care of Herself, but a Little Help Would Be Nice
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Emily Ratajkowski is doing a balancing act many famously beautiful women have to perform. In her 2021 book “My Body,” she reflects on what it’s been like to build a career based on her public image, and her struggle to control that image in an industry largely run by men. Since getting divorced a few years ago, she’s been thinking a lot about gende…
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A flashing incident at happy hour leads Allen to recall some of the "biggest" men he's ever...met.By AAD
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Laufey, Gen Z’s Pop Jazz Icon, Sings for the Anxious Generation
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Laufey, the 25-year-old singer-songwriter, has risen to prominence by taking the trials of today’s dating world — casual relationships, no labels and seemingly endless swiping on apps — and turning them into timeless love songs. Today, Laufey reads Coco Mellors’s essay, “An Anxious Person Tries to Be Chill,” which is about a woman trying to work th…
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Reacting to a bill to ban marriage between first cousins in Tennessee, Allen feels the need to describe some of the positives of growing up in the country.By AAD
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Why John Magaro of ‘Past Lives’ Could Never Love a Picky Eater
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The actor John Magaro is picky about whom he goes to dinner with. Magaro is an adventurous eater. So whether he’s buying offal from the butcher, making stews from the 1800s or falling in love over a plate of rabbit, he says it’s important to him that the people he shares a meal with are willing to be curious. For Magaro, it’s about more than person…
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Allen takes a stroll down memory lane, recalling his most fun threeways including an awkward and hilarious threeway with a woman.By AAD
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Esther Perel on What the Other Woman Knows
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Over the last two decades, Esther Perel has become a world-famous couples therapist by persistently advocating frank conversations about infidelity, sex and intimacy. Today, Perel reads one of the most provocative Modern Love essays ever published: “What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity,” by Karin Jones. In her 2018 essay, Jones…
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Allen ponders the concepts of masculinity and feminity and addresses closed-minded heterosexuals with their misconceptions of what a "gay lifestyle" really is.By AAD
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The Second Best Way to Get Divorced, According to Maya Hawke
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When Maya Hawke’s famous parents got divorced, she was just a little kid trying to navigate their newly separate worlds. Paparazzi aside, Maya’s experience of shuttling between two homes was still more common than the arrangement described in the essay Maya reads: “Our Kinder, Gentler, Nobody-Moves-Out Divorce,” by Jordana Jacobs. By staying under …
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Remembering certain awkward"facials" lead Allen to a discussion about the fear of being judged, the spread of rumors and the strangeness of the online phenomenon known as catfishing.By AAD
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Penn Badgley has made a career out of playing deeply troubled characters. From his role as Joe Goldberg on the Netflix series “You” to Dan Humphrey on “Gossip Girl,” Badgley has shown many times over how obsession and delusion can destroy love. In his personal life, though, Badgley says he’s not doing too much brooding. He’s a father and a stepfath…
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With the first hints of spring in the air, Allen discusses the joys of summer including the art of cruising and the positives and negatives of a condition known in the bible belt as swamp ass.By AAD
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The chef Samin Nosrat lives by the idea that food is love. Her Netflix series, “Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat,” and the James Beard Award-winning cookbook that inspired it, were about using food to build community and forge connections. Since then, all of her creative projects and collaborations have focused on inspiring people to cook, and eat, with their…
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Inspired by a documentary, Allen discusses how we all attempt to manipulate our image and people's perceptions of us.By AAD
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Brittany Howard Sings Through the Pangs of New Love
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Brittany Howard, the five-time Grammy Award-winning singer, makes vibrant, dynamic music about love. As the frontwoman of the band Alabama Shakes, she was celebrated for the power and emotionality of her voice. When she began her solo career in 2019 with “Jaime,” an album named after and dedicated to her older sister, who died at 13, Howard reveale…
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Allen recalls a time in the "old south" when even a rumor of being gay could destroy your life.By AAD
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Novelist Celeste Ng on the Big Power of Little Things
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Before Celeste Ng became a best-selling author, she had a side hustle selling miniatures on eBay — dollhouse-size recreations of food were her specialty. Even after the publication of “Little Fires Everywhere,” “Everything I Never Told You,” and, most recently, “Our Missing Hearts,” Celeste still makes tiny things — now, as a hobby. She’s come to r…
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Allen reflects on incidents that dramatically altered the direction of his life and ponders the notion of what his life would be like had he made different decisions.By AAD
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When Daniel Jones started the Modern Love column in 2004, he opened the call for submissions and hoped the idea would catch on. Twenty years later, over a thousand Modern Love essays have been published in The New York Times, and the column is a trove of real-life love stories. Dan has put so much of himself into editing the column over the years, …
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Modern Love at the Movies: Our Favorite Oscar-Worthy Love Stories
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The New York Times’s film critic Alissa Wilkinson has a theory about movies: They’re all about relationships. No matter how big the action, the suspense and tension we experience when watching a film is often really about the feelings between the characters. But romantic relationships often fall back on old tropes, like the long-suffering wife of a…
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An outraged Allen once again climbs up on his soap box to address several newsworthy issues affecting the gay community in the bible belt. Tennessee republicans are pushing another anti-LGBTQ bill targeting the pride flag in public schools while attacking transgender students who want to participate in school athletics. The Department of Justice su…
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A Politics Reporter Walks Into a Singles Mixer
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The New York Times political reporter Astead Herndon went speed dating in a swing state to ask daters fun questions like: How early do you tell a prospective date whether you lean red or blue? When do you talk about your stances on issues like abortion or gender equality? It’s hard enough to find someone you click with. Then add election-year tensi…
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Dave Finch reads his Modern Love essay, “On the Path to Empathy, Some Forks in the Road." To hear our conversation with Dave, listen to the episode: “Un-Marry Me!”By The New York Times
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