Stowe talks is a podcast series designed to support people going through a relationship breakdown and all the challenges this brings. When a family breaks down, it brings with it a huge range of emotional, practical and legal complications. Going through it is tough, but making some simple changes to how you approach it can help. Asking and seeking support from others is a great first step.And, this is where this podcast series can help, giving you access to expert advice from some of the be ...
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Episode 40: Are you in a relationship with a narcissist?
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Narcissism has become a popular buzzword. But despite the interest, there are many myths that undermine the complexity and destructive impact of this personality disorder. We were delighted to be joined again by Dr Supriya McKenna, one of the leading experts in the field of narcissism, to discuss how you can tell if you are in a relationship with a…
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Episode 39: The realities of high-net-worth divorce
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High-net-worth divorce brings its own unique challenges, especially around understanding, valuing and dividing complex earning structures, assets and pensions, often with international elements. In this episode, Ceri Griffiths a chartered financial planner specialising in supporting women divorcing high earners shares her advice on how to navigate …
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Episode 38: The first things to do when getting a divorce
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You may have made the decision, or had it made for you, but however you arrived at the moment, facing a divorce can be daunting So what should you do first? In this episode, family lawyers and hosts Matt & Liza share their tips on the most important things to do and consider before getting a divorce. 00:00 Introductions 01:00 The different scenario…
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Episode 37 Should I stay, or should I go?
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It is normal to face challenges in a relationship, but what happens when one, or both people, completely disconnects and thoughts turn to leaving? How do you know the right time to end a relationship? In this episode, divorce coach Dr. Sue Palmer-Conn joined us to discuss the challenging question of whether to stay or go, including common stress po…
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Episode 36: How to introduce a new partner to the kids
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Introducing a new partner to your kids can be complicated, and requires careful thought and planning to get it right. So we asked parenting and relationship coach Nichole Farrow to join us to share her advice on how to introduce a new partner, including: Fostering good communication with the other parent The importance of a gradual introduction - b…
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Episode 35: School holiday planning for separated parents
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School holidays can be difficult to juggle for any parents, but for those separated and co-parenting, it can bring a whole host of additional issues. In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza were joined by The Divorce & Separation Coach, Chloe O. to look at the best way to plan the holidays as a separated parent. Take a listen as they explore the challen…
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Episode 34: Who gets the house in a divorce?
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The family home can often be the most emotive element of a divorce. Steeped in memories, many ex-couples face the difficult decision about what to do with the house, in the short and long term. In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza deep dive into all things property and divorce including: 00:35 Why is the family home so important? 01:56 The legal owne…
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Episode 33: Prenups, postnups and petnups
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No longer the preserve of the ultra- wealthy, prenups, postnups and petnups are on the rise. But what are they, what can they cover, and do they stand up in court? Take a listen as Matt & Liza dive into nuptial agreements, the advantages, the challenges, and the laws surrounding them. Along with when and how they are useful, especially for people m…
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Episode 32: Recognising and dealing with economic abuse
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A staggering 95% of survivors of domestic abuse experience economic abuse, leaving them isolated, trapped, dependent and confused. So, we asked Tamsin Caine, a Chartered Financial Planner from Smart Divorce, to join us to look at how to recognise the signs of economic abuse and what you can do about it. A financial specialist in advising people goi…
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Episode 31: How does surrogacy work in the UK?
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Surrogacy is a wonderful way for people to build their family outside traditional norms, but it comes with legal complexities that often surprise people. In this episode, Matt & Liza were delighted to welcome Andrew Powell, one of the country’s leading children's law barristers from 4PB, who specialises in surrogacy law, to explore how surrogacy wo…
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Episode 30: Supporting male survivors of domestic abuse
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One in 6-7 men is a domestic abuse survivor*, but only half of male victims (49%) fail to tell anyone they are a victim. Stigma, fear, shame, misinformation and societal pressures all contribute to men suffering in silence and not reporting their perpetrator. In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza were joined by Tom Nash, aka Mr Divorce Coach, a specia…
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Episode 29: Supporting teenagers through divorce
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Divorce and separation can be difficult for any child, but supporting teenagers through it can bring a host of different issues. In this episode, Matt & Liza were joined by one of the UK's leading relationship and family coaches, Nichole Farrow, as she shared her advice on how to support teenagers, including the best way to tell them, how to avoid …
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Episode 28: How to prepare for your financial settlement in divorce
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Reaching a financial settlement in divorce requires people to gather a wealth of information and paperwork, so they have a clear picture of their finances and the evidence required to complete the 30-page plus daunting Form E. In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza offer practical advice to help people prepare, including where to start, what the proces…
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Episode 27: Creating financial wellbeing following separation
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In this episode, we welcomed Jodie Phelps, a leading Financial Planner, about the importance of, and how to achieve financial wellbeing following a divorce or separation. We begin our chat exploring what lies beneath financial well-being, the importance of understanding your relationship with money, managing your mindset, and identifying and learni…
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Episode 26: The unique challenges of a relationship break down in the LGBTQIA+ community
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In this episode, Matt & Liza were thrilled to be joined by award-winning comedian and creator of global hit podcast and book The Breakup Monologues, Rosie Wilby, to look at the unique challenges faced by the LGBTQIA+ community during a relationship breakdown. Rosie shares her passion for understanding the impact of heart break, before exploring mon…
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In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza explore the rising popularity of DIY divorces, how and when they work well, and the common dangers and pitfalls. They explain what a DIY divorce is, the current online process, and the difficulties that can arise from the implications of not completing the paperwork correctly in the beginning. They then turn to th…
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Episode 24: Parenting alongside a narcissist Dr Supriya McKenna - Part two
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In the second part of this episode, Dr Supriya McKenna, a highly experienced specialist narcissism expert, continues to share her advice and practical tools and techniques for people trying to parent alongside a narcissist. (You can access the first part of this episode here.) We pick the conversation back up as she explores the role of parallel pa…
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Episode 23: Parenting alongside a narcissist with Dr Supriya McKenna - Part one
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In the first of this two-parter episode, Matt and Liza were delighted to be joined again by Dr Supriya McKenna, a highly experienced specialist narcissism expert, as she shares her advice and practical tools and techniques for people trying to parent alongside a narcissist. Building on our previous conversations (see links below to listen if you’ve…
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Episode 22 What rights do cohabiting couples have?
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In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza explore the myth of common-law marriage and the reality of legal rights for cohabiting couples, who are now the fastest growing family type in the UK. They talk through the minimal legal rights of cohabiting couples compared to their married counterparts, and how to deal with issues around property and child maint…
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Episode 21 Domestic abuse - how can a family lawyer help?
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In this episode, Matt & Liza look at the role a family lawyer can play to help survivors of domestic abuse, the injunction orders available, and the impact of domestic abuse on financial settlements and making arrangements for children in a divorce case. They walk through the role of the two injunction orders available: non-molestation and an occup…
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Episode 20 Rebuilding your life after narcissistic abuse
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In this episode, Matt and Liza were delighted to welcome back Dr Supriya McKenna, a highly experienced specialist narcissism expert, as she shares her advice and practical tools and techniques for people rebuilding their lives after narcissistic abuse. Building on the conversation in our episode in Season 1 (see below to listen if you’ve not alread…
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In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza talk to dating coach and matchmaker Laura Buckley from Secret Alchemy to explore all things dating after divorce. Laura talks about how to get into the mindset of dating again, the red flags to look out for (love bombing being key), the importance of knowing your boundaries and what you want, not just what you don…
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Episode 18 How mediation can help you separate
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In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza talk to Sushma Kotecha from Holistic Family Mediation & Coaching to look at how mediation can help couples work together to have a more dignified and amicable separation. Sushma talks about what mediation is, how it works, the process, what a MIAM is, and how it helps separating couples work through their issues, …
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Episode 17 Budgeting solo during a cost-of-living crisis
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In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza talk to Certified Money Coach, Fanny Snaith, on how to best manage the drop from two salaries to one following a separation during a cost of living crisis. Fanny talks about the emotional responses we all have to money, the 8 different money types, and how understanding your relationship with money can help you un…
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Episode 16 Supporting children through divorce
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In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza talk to Sue Atkins, a leading Parenting Expert, author of Divorce Journal for Kids, and Broadcaster, to look at how to best support children through all the changes that divorce brings. Sue talks about the best way to tell children you are separating, whatever their age, the importance of listening and communicati…
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Episode 15 Understanding and dealing with tech abuse
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In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza are joined by Emma Pickering, Senior Operations Manager at Refuge, as they look at technology assisted abuse, what it is, how to spot and how you stop it. Emma explains what technology assisted abuse is, the signs, and the various tools used by perpetrators, including everyday devices such as ring doorbells, mobil…
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Episode 14 Where do I start? A beginner's guide to divorce
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In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza share their advice on where to start if you are thinking of ending your relationship, it has ended, or your partner has told you they want a divorce. A beginner’s guide to divorce, they explain the importance of getting legal advice early, the divorce process (step-by-step), the pitfalls of kitchen table settlemen…
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Episode 13 Representing yourself in the family court
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In the second part of our series on the family court, hosts Matt & Liza offer their advice for anyone facing the family court without legal representation (litigant in person). They explain how family court processes work, tips on how to prepare, the names of each judge and protocols for each stage, what to expect from each hearing, and the expecte…
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Episode 12: The role of the family court with Matt & Liza
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In the first of a two part series, Matt and Liza share their experiences of the family court system and how it can be a useful process for people in certain circumstances who cannot reach an agreement otherwise. They also discuss the limitations of the system, funding issues, court delays, top tips for dealing with court, when it does, and when it …
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Episode 11 Dealing with post-separation abuse with Caron Kipping
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In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Caron Kipping, an independent domestic abuse advocate and divorce coach specialising in domestic abuse recovery, to look at how to deal with post-separation abuse. Caron explains what post-separation abuse is, the impact it has on people, building the right support team, the power of reframing, and how t…
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Episode 10 Handling fear and uncertainty with Claire Macklin
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In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by divorce coach, NLP Master Practitioner and author of Break up: from Crisis to Confidence, Claire Macklin (nee Black) as they look at how to handle fear and uncertainty through your relationship breakdown and beyond. Claire shares her experience of divorce, and tips and tools to help you cope with the ove…
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Episode 9 Dealing with conflict about Christmas
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In this festive themed episode, Matt and Liza look at the options available for separated couples struggling to sort out arrangements for Christmas. In what can be a tricky time of year for separated couples, they share their advice on the importance of communication and the use of tools such as child-focused mediation, arbitration, and in some cas…
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Episode 8 Overcoming loneliness after separation with Tosh Brittan
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In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Divorce Coach and Founder of Divorce Goddess Coaching, Tosh Brittan, as they talk about loneliness and how to overcome it following a relationship breakdown. Tosh explains how loneliness can easily sneak up on people, the difference between married lonely and divorce lonely, how embracing loneliness can …
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Episode 7 Understanding pensions in divorce with Ceri Griffiths
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In this episode of Stowe talks, Matt and Liza are joined by specialist divorce financial planner Ceri Griffiths of Willowbrook Lifestyle Planning, as they look at the importance of pensions and how to deal with them in a divorce settlement. Ceri shares her knowledge of the different types of pensions, how to value a pension, the role of an actuary …
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Episode 6: Surviving economic abuse with Rosie Lyon
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In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Rosie Lyon, an Executive Assistant and divorce coach, public speaker and campaigner for survivors of economic and domestic abuse. Rosie shares her personal story of being in an abusive relationship that led to the repossession of her home through no-fault of her own, and how this has impacted her life an…
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How to spot a toxic relationship and leave one with Sara Davison
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In this episode of Stowe talks, Matt and Liza are joined by Sara Davison, one of the UK’s leading divorce coaches and NLP Master Practitioner, as she talks through her advice on how to spot a toxic relationship and leave one Sara shares her deep knowledge of what a toxic relationship is, how to recognise the red flags of abusive behaviour, includin…
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Dealing with a relationship breakdown during menopause with Dr Sue Palmer-Conn
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In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Dr Sue Palmer-Conn, a leading UK Certified Divorce Specialist and Chartered Psychologist, as they explore the challenges faced by women if their relationship breaks down during the menopausal years. Sue shares her own personal experience, having divorced at 50, and her expertise in supporting women throu…
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Taking control of your finances on separation and beyond with Lottie Kent
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In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Lottie Kent, founder and owner of True Financial Design, as they look at the importance of understanding your financial situation and making plans that meet your immediate and long-term needs following a divorce or separation. Lottie explains the importance of financial knowledge, managing expectations, …
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Divorcing or separating from a narcissist with Dr Supriya McKenna
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In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Dr Supriya McKenna, a highly experienced Specialist Narcissism expert, as she shares her deep understanding of narcissism, along with tools and techniques for people undergoing a divorce or separation from narcissistic individuals. Supriya discusses the traits of a narcissist, how to identify them, how t…
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How to co-parent calmly and navigate the challenges of blended families with Tom Nash
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In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Tom Nash, an internationally certified Life, Divorce & Business Coach, as he shares his advice on how to become a successful co-parent after separation and navigate the challenges of a blended family. Following his own marital breakdown, Tom shares his personal journey from going through the family court…
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