Joe delves into the complexities of trauma and its impact on behaviors, emotions, and relationships. He emphasizes the importance of being authentically courageous and vulnerable. Joe shares his expertise and personal experiences to help listeners understand and overcome their struggles. The podcast provides a supportive and empathetic space for individuals to learn, reflect, and take steps towards a more authentic and fulfilling life. For access to all episodes and bonus content, subscribe ...
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EP 0085 - Why We Choose Toxic Relationships
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- Website: https://joeryan.com- Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan- Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/- Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ In the most recent episode of "It's Not You, It's Your Trauma," Joe Ryan delves into toxic relationships. These relationships, …
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- Website: https://joeryan.com- Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan- Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/- Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ Anger and hate are both related to unmet needs. When we feel angry, it's because we want something that we're not getting. And …
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- Website: https://joeryan.com- Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan- Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/- Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ If you grew up in a family system that was shame-based, you may feel weighed down by shame. Shame shields us from pain and negl…
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- Website: https://joeryan.com- Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan- Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/- Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ Many of us are emotionally stuck at a point where we feel that our self-worth is completely dependent on our mother's love and …
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- Website: https://joeryan.com- Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan- Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/- Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ Have you ever had a moment that felt like a key turning in a lock, opening doors to rooms within yourself you didn't know exist…
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- Website: https://joeryan.com - Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan - Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/ - Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ The terrible two in children is a vital step in their emotional development. It is a psychological birth that starts separat…
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- Website: https://joeryan.com - Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan - Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/ - Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ After a long hiatus, Joe is back with a new perspective, insight, and positivity that he is ready to share! Deciding to focus on ge…
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- Website: https://joeryan.com - Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan - Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/ - Submit A Question https://joeryan.com/ask/ - Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ Family System Revisited builds off the Family Shame Episode (Episode 69), in which J…
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- Website: https://joeryan.com - Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan - Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/ - Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ “Making the Right Choice” directly solves issues you currently experience in your own life with a simple message… "You Can’t Do This Work Alone" In this…
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Can I Recover On My Own? Joe Ryan is a Certified Peer Support Specialist who knows trauma because he’s lived it and learned to live beyond it. Joe has been on a lifelong journey to overcome trauma, shame, and the demons that plagued him from early in life. Joe is turning his mission outward, helping others conquer their traumatic experiences throug…
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Joe Ryan is a Certified Peer Support Specialist who knows trauma because he’s lived it and learned to live beyond it. Joe has been on a lifelong journey to overcome trauma, shame, and the demons that plagued him from early in life. Joe is turning his mission outward, helping others conquer their traumatic experiences through his podcast (“It’s Not …
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EP 0070 - Sitting With Uncomfortable Feelings
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Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ Submit A Question https://joeryan.com/ask/ How do we sit with our pain? How do we learn to grieve loss, innocence, self-respect, and pride…all while learning to empower ourselves to live our daily lives? In this episode, Joe discusses how we need to treat the pain we feel every day the same w…
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A new episode will be out in a few days. Until then, you can listen to my interview on the Adult Child Podcast. In the interview, we discuss navigating dating with CPTSD, attraction vs. attachment, the importance of developing an unshakable sense of self., setting boundaries with family members, and the importance of sitting with our feelings.Liste…
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Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ Submit A Question https://joeryan.com/ask/ Grief…dealing with heartbreak and loss. Most of us have grieved the loss of a loved one… a pet loss, a friend, a parent, or a romantic relationship. The process doesn't have a timeline, and all five stages are not linear, yet they are all intertwined…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ Why is happiness so elusive for some? Why do we always feel like we are “on guard”? This episode covers the process Joe has had to practice to make himself feel comfortable and in search of any sense of joy. How do you get to this place when you have had so much trauma and have lived with your “gua…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ Do you find yourself watching what everybody else is doing or how they were feeling? What their anger level or resentment level may be? Are they overwhelmed or feeling peaceful? Is this a safe time or is it a fearful time? Is your inner safety based on the people around you? If so, you may have exp…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ How do we reach a point of truly being able to love? How do we get past the fears we have built up that wall off the ability to feel safe and be able to share ourselves with people, especially with that “special one” when that time eventually arrives? In this episode, Joe shares his innermost fears…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ Release the Pain is a discussion based on a highly controversial Instagram post Joe made that stated ‘the fear you feel in your body is not happening now, it’s fear from your past that has been trapped inside of you”….Go back and re-experience the fear to release it”. The reaction from some readers…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. In this episode, Joe really opens up…dealing with powerful issues surrounding ones’ authenticity and not pretending to be something you are by creating an image of himself that he needed to “survive”. Learn how to accept what comes in and out of your li…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/For access to all episodes and bonus content.An Unstuck Story is a powerful confession of Joes’ dramatic struggle to come to grips with his inability to do what his soul cries out for, not what is expected of him as a father, friend, son, and ex-husband. This episode deals with how to condition your…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/For access to all episode and bonus content. Your Job Has Been To Manage Your Emotional Well Being, Keeping Yourself Emotionally Safe. What Happens When You Have Resolved Most Of Your Past Hurt And Betrayal. You Become Emotional Unemployed. Now A Different Kind Of Emotional Work Begins; Soul Buildin…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/For access to all episode and bonus content. Love Is Extending Yourself To Somebody Else, Putting The Relationship Ahead Of Individual Fears, And Becoming Emotionally Vulnerable For The Greater Good. You Can't Have Real Love Without Being Vulnerable - Website: https://joeryan.com - Instagram: https:…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episode and bonus content. Holidays with family transport us back in emotional time to childhood and bring us back into the role we need to play. Use this time to see what your role is and how you pretend to be loved and accepted, to slowly dismantle the false self to become a mor…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/For access to all episode and bonus content. Shame keeps us isolated and living in fear of being exposed. To dismantle shame, we must enter our shame and not run and hide from it. We come out of hiding by exposing ourselves to ourselves. Once we start owning our shame, we fear being seen less, feel …
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/For access to all episode and bonus content. Most of us never left home emotionally; we have stayed loyal to our family system by staying in our false self role, by abandoning our authentic self. We were molded into the role by being conditioned through shaming, anger, and fear. We learned how to ad…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episode and bonus content. The inner child gets stuck emotionally at the age that the abuse happened. We internalized the abuse and have carried it as our responsibility, and we have shamed ourselves for it ever since. We have mirrored our experience as not being valued, loved, or…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to this episode and bonus content. In this episode, Joe talks about the self-conscious, shame-based feelings that he constantly faces and how he has learned to deal with them without mood altering. This episode delves deep into the protective actions one takes to hide feelings of shame a…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. What is below all those layers you have built up? What are you hiding down there? What is your secret? Uncovering your secret is an emotional process that can't be forced, it requires patience. There are things in our path that only time can move. While…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. How do we recover from our traumatic experiences? When does the feeling of shame enter into the equation? What is the "pain of shame," and how should we deal with it? In this episode, learn how to deal with these emotional pains...and the dull ache that…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to this episode and bonus content. In this episode, Joe talks about how to deal with anger and not being afraid of being angry or having people being angry at you. Avoid feeling like you have to be a "people pleaser" to avoid people getting angry with you! Learn to set boundaries and not…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. In this episode, Joe dives into the topic of feelings, thoughts, and self-pity. See how emotions take you over and how you should just let thoughts just "be." Learn how self-pity can actually be a good thing in your grieving process. Find out how going …
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. When The Pain Of Avoiding Your Past Becomes Greater Than Facing It, The Journey Begins. Strap In; It's Going To Be A Long Hard, Tough Road. But At The End Of It, There Are Great Rewards - Website: https://joeryan.com - Instagram: https://instagram.com/j…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. Humiliation; being exposed before you're ready to be exposed. Humiliation brings a vast wave of powerful, uncontrollable emotion that can lead us into a shame spiral and emotional paralysis. I guarded against humiliation at every moment, in everything I…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. We internalized happiness and success based on what society tells us it should be, not based on our internal moral compass. Our sole purpose has become to portray the image of an illusion that does not exist. Conform and be accepted or be authentic and …
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. Today I Answer Your Questions. We Cover Fitting In Vs. Belonging To Self, Sitting With The Feelings Vs. Feeling Sorry For Yourself, And How Do I Reveal My Trauma In New Relationships. - Website: https://joeryan.com - Instagram: https://instagram.com/joe…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. Emotional Separation Involves Unbonding and Grieving, Where the Process of Growth and Transformation Meet Loss. The Disengaging of Patterns and Roles That Have Held You Emotionally Captive to Beliefs That Were Never Your Own We were never taught healthy…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. Blind Spots Cause Unknown, Uncontrollable Reactions, And Behaviors We Are Are Unable To Recognize As A Way Of Protecting Us Subconsciously From The Feelings Of Pain The blind spot is in place to sidestep doing the original pain work by avoiding the feel…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. Living without pain can feel more frightening than living with it. The struggle became a part of our identity, and we don't know who we are without it. We are uncomfortable feeling comfortable and run to fill that space with something familiar, welcome …
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. There are so many different layers to this work. As we learn how to peel away layers of defensiveness, layers of protection, layers of hiding, and layers of fear. As we peel away the layers, the closer to the shame we get. The pain gets stored away insi…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. It is not a child's responsibility to fill a parent's needs. When parents bring a child into this world, it is the parents' responsibility to fill the child up with its basic narcissistic needs. To give the child a foundation of self-love to build upon.…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. The judgment that we had felt, the pressure and the demands to become what somebody else needed us to be so that they didn't feel anything uncomfortable, they didn't feel judgment any ridicule any self-doubt. Becoming what they needed us to be so that t…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. We deal with many sigmas, and suicide is very close to the top of the list. There are few open discussions about it, which makes those who have the thoughts feel more alone and ashamed for having them. This episode deals with suicide, suicidal thoughts,…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. What is the payoff in doing all this original pain work, going into your pain, trauma, and darkness? Is there a payoff? Yeah, there is. We do this work in layers. We take what's disturbing the peace within us and start to look at that first. We slowly p…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. Original pain work is the most challenging work you're ever going to do. You can read as many books as you want. You can listen to as many audiobooks, you can listen to as many podcasts, over and over on an endless loop, it is comforting, it does feel g…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. We Stay stuck by numbing out. We have found ways to live our life where we avoid any resistance or bad feelings. We are stuck in limbo complaining about others. All that energy and time wasted could be better well spent owing up to who you are and how y…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. As children, our survival our life depended on our source figures, the people who raised us. We instinctively knew that we are helpless without them, and without them, we would die. We learn quickly the difference between things we do that anger and ups…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. It's a little past midnight, and I'm sitting here alone, looking out the window to the vast emptiness that is out there. This quarantine has not discomforted me in the way of anxiety and fear. I'm not sure why a complete calmness came over me. Perhaps i…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. When you change who you are within a family system, and you no longer play the role you were born into, you're taking a mirror and holding it up to everybody in that system. Holding up this mirror forces them to see themselves outside of their role, out…
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. Learned helplessness is a condition where a person suffers from a sense of feeling powerless. It usually comes from a traumatic event or series of traumatic events or persistent failure to succeed. It's one of the biggest underlying causes of depression…
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EP 0007 - Internal validation , Owning All Of You
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Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ For access to all episodes and bonus content. Drew from The Anxious Truth and I was sitting around testing out his new Podcast gear. In the testing, we got into a conversation about part of the recovery process. There were a few gems that came out in the discussion, so I decided to put it out as it…
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