Best Curtis Herbert Podcasts (2024)

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125 | Perfection in Connection 22:53

3d ago22:53

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We can be tempted to think of religion as a personal project of seeking holiness. That’s our age of individualism breaking everything down to me: my role, my task, my burden, my initiative. In this age of individualism and atomization, we can easily forget the importance of seeking connection with other people, nature, and our own inner lights. Yet…

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124 | Hello, Confidence Energy, great to see ya here! 26:34

8d ago26:34

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Confidence energy. When you remove fears that are useless and put some trust into the process (remember that episode?), confidence energy can start to show up. Decide to choose it. It’s about the power you have to create the change - you believe that YOU have the power to create the change. It’s the CRUCIAL difference. It does not look at the probl…

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123 | Fearlessness to release useless fears and choose from purpose 19:25

18d ago19:25

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Fear is natural. It's a natural emotion. [00:14:10] Why, then, do we have this emphasis on fearlessness? There are things that naturally come up in life that are always going to give rise to fear. And In those situations, probably what's needed is courage. The courage to act in the face of feeling fear and doing the right thing. Fearlessness is dif…

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122 | Authenticity is crucial to your life 25:12

25d ago25:12

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God made you. So live your life. It’s YOUR job. If you are living a version of your life only because it’s the version that someone else thinks is what you should do, you will feel it in your bones. It will sap your power, meaning that sense of agency that creates energy to live your life. Authenticity looks like Acting from your core; doing/saying…

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121 | Cultivate serenity and power using the discipline of trusting the process 23:32

1M ago23:32

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So often, we're looking ahead. We're looking to the future. We're waiting until something happens or until we get to the next place, or to the next milestone. Or we're worried and anxious about what might happen in the future. That’s living in the future and not living in the present where we're meant to be. Our power is in the present and it is wh…

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120 | The discipline of conscious choice 28:30

1M ago28:30

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We often think we are making choices, but really it’s our past, our worries and fears, our habits, our trigger behaviors, or our doubts that are making the choices for us. We are hijacked by our past without us even realizing it. Because when we make choices, we are always filtering them through our past experiences. What we learn from those experi…

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119 | Awareness and Examen 23:26

2M ago23:26

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Awareness is a discipline, meaning a kind of excellence that you could cultivate, that shows up in a few different contexts. Awareness is the ability to know “what is”. It’s the ability to discern what’s actually happening from your mind’s interpretation of what’s happening. In a sense, it means being present versus seeing a situation from the past…

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118 | Discipline of Serene Acceptance 24:05

2M ago24:05

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Serene acceptance is radical acceptance. It sets the stage for our most powerful action and divine cooperation. There’s nothing passive, woe-is-me, or giving up when we practice serene acceptance. It shifts us immediately to see what might be possible. What you are resisting about life? When you are busy rejecting, resenting, resisting, or glumly r…

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117 | When you know what Discipline ACTUALLY is, you know you love it! 22:37

2M ago22:37

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Our modern ideas about discipline are deeply impoverished relative to the days of the fathers of the church. When we think of discipline, we think about a general disciplining the troops, the principal dishing out punishment, or the need to persevere to complete a hard task. Yet these are only one part of discipline. Jesus invites us to be his disc…

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116 | What about MY HOPE now? 24:40

2M ago24:40

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Boy! It’s hard to hope! The challenges of the present age overwhelm us, and we worry, we fear, we become discouraged and defeated. As Christians, we grasp onto the cosmic hope of Christ and struggle to make it our own. Hope itself is a contradiction, a stance in the midst of uncertainty, and a refusal to avoid the tension of being human. We strive …

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115 | Easter HOPE that reaches out to all creation 25:33

2M ago25:33

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Our hope is too small. Scripture reveals a hope that embraces all of creation cosmically reordered and recreated as an interlocking of a new heaven and new earth. We are so individualistic, so atomized in our culture, that we can hardly even understand what we read in the New Testament when it comes to hope. Remember Romans 8 where all of creation …

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114 | Hop up to greatness of heart: Magnanimity 23:58

3M ago23:58

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“I’m gonna answer the call. I am willing to use my gifts. I am going to choose my greater potential.” Magnanimity is the greatness of the heart. It is fundamentally conceived in terms of vocation and stewardship: it is a response to God’s call, and willingness to use his gifts. As Aquinas says: “Magnanimity makes us deem ourselves worthy of great t…

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113 | Easter Attitude: Get Hopped Up on Appreciation and Gratitude 23:28

3M ago23:28

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Gratitude kicks off a cycle of positivity in your relationships because it engenders the same response from other people. We all need to remind ourselves of the good things we have because our lovely brains have a big negativity bias that will take over unless we actively resist negativity. Easter is a season to embrace new hope, and to look at the…

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112 | Get your Easter heart hoppin’ with Awe and Wonder 24:38

3M ago24:38

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You weeded the garden in Lent. Now it’s time to plant some seedlings. Try out something new. Reconnect with your experience of awe to open your heart up to something new. God always has something new for you. Something just for you. You were busy cleaning your house in Lent. Now the Holy Spirit is here and waiting to engage you in new ways. Awe is …

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111 | Lord’s Prayer: Forgiveness and Deliverance 16:12

3M ago16:12

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When we read the Lord’s Prayer with the understanding that it’s a prayer for the Kingdom of God now and forever, we can grasp how “forgive us our debts” is a reflection on how the Kingdom of God operates. It’s a kingdom where forgiveness is offered and received. We are all reconciled with God and each other. That’s why we are the people of peace: w…

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110 | The Lord’s Prayer: What are we praying for? 22:53

4M ago22:53

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Teach us, Lord, how to pray. And we got this remarkable prayer that’s so very short. How can it be called a summary of the Gospels? The key is to understand how to pray it with the end in mind. Remember that life tip that says “Begin with the End in Mind”? When we keep the end in mind, then the petitions make more sense. “Hallowed be Thy name” can …

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109 | The Lord’s Prayer: Hope for God’s Future 20:54

4M ago20:54

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The Lord’s Prayer is the most perfect Christian prayer, and in this episode, we discuss creating the right mindset for this beautiful prayer. Watch out! We’ll be tackling big scary things like ‘eschatology’, ‘eschatological dualism’, and ‘2-stage eschatology’–but only to find out they’re not so scary after all. We don’t know exactly what God’s futu…

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108 | The Lord’s Prayer: Opening up to its graces 20:11

4M ago20:11

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From the earliest days of Christianity, people recognized there was something very important and special about being given the words of the Lord’s Prayer. Peter Chrysologus was teaching it to some newly baptized Christians and he said: “The angels stand in awe at what you are going to hear today.” I think to the modern Christian, the kind of praise…

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107 | Marriage: Blossom in Midlife 27:59

4M ago27:59

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SHARPen up your marriage! We have some high-level tips for you. S is Shared Vision or Story. H is healing in your marriage. A is attend to the marriage bond. R is the R-word, you know what it is: Relationship! Brush up on your R skills! Be a better friend. P is for personal growth. Gotta grow. When you grow, you will bring new energy to the relatio…

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106 | Marriage: How to ask for what you want 27:51

5M ago27:51

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Husbands really, really want to please their wives. C’mon, I mean, St. Paul even warns us about it! Laura Doyle wants wives to believe it and lean into it by telling their husbands what would please them. The trick is to do so without being demanding or unpleasant. Listen in for this how-to marriage tip! Referenced Materials Laura Doyle, The Empowe…

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105 | Marriage: See the bid? Now turn towards. 16:43

5M ago16:43

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Much of what is taught about having a great marriage is not very helpful, according to marriage guru John Gottman. He says one of the biggest keys is to learn how to cultivate a deep friendship. He writes, “I rarely see small moments of connection in the tapes of couples who later divorce or report their marriage has permanently soured”. Cultivate …

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104 | Marriage: Maps and Five Levels of Sharing 26:37

5M ago26:37

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Our “maps” of who we “know” our husband or wife can get outdated. We have assumptions about them that are not true anymore. We could ask better questions: curious, open-ended questions that are gentle and inquisitive. We give you some good ideas about how to ask those questions. We also discuss the five levels of sharing. It’s surprising how seldom…

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103 | Five Reasons Goals are Not Accomplished 27:48

5M ago27:48

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If you are struggling with your goals, we offer you five common reasons that goals are not accomplished. One of them is that our goal does not require taking measurable actions, so we don’t know if we are executing our plan. For example, if you have a goal to improve a certain relationship, that could be a wonderful intention but it does not requir…

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102 | Four requirements for change 28:02

5M ago28:02

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We often lack what’s needed to actually make changes. In other words, we often have a goal and do not realize we are not ready to chase that goal. So we are not successful in creating the change. I think all of us have experienced that!! It’s not as easy as “just deciding” to do “it.” Karen shares the four requirements for change. The first one is …

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101 | Find your Goals: Do what you are meant to do! 22:22

6M ago22:22

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Today’s episode is an EXERCISE to create great goals for yourself. Jump in and try it! As we practice the virtue of living in the moment (episode 101) we might wonder: Am I doing what I’m meant to do at this time? Having great GOALS helps with this question. What if you had great, inspiring goals? A strong direction? Often our goals are a glorified…

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100 | Your invaluable skill of Living in the Present Moment 27:00

6M ago27:00

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Living in the present moment is a habit to help us reach for interior peace and integrate our lives. God is never early, He’s never late, He’s always right on time. God’s grace is found in the present moment. If you are in the present, as Jaques Philippe says, you “entrust the past to the mercy of God and trust the future to His providence, doing j…

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99 | Putting trust in time 22:44

6M ago22:44

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Listen to catch some new thoughts about the way you think about time! The modern mind thinks of time as a commodity. As a tool or a resource. There’s a limited amount of it. We have a lot of sayings that reflect this viewpoint, such as “time is money.” Or “living on borrowed time,” or “it’s about time.” But time is more than another object we use. …

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98 | Merry Christmas and the New Creation 23:15

6M ago23:15

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Christ is born to be King! He IS King, now. Merry Christmas! That makes us agents of the New Creation because Christ has already started the New Creation. Paul talks about this a lot. God wants to dwell with man and will bring heaven down to earth and they will exist together in the new creation; think of the New Jerusalem descending in Revelations…

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97 | You are a Citizen of Heaven Now in the New Creation 26:17

7M ago26:17

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You are a citizen of Heaven - did you know that? Paul wrote that in Philippians 3. What does that mean about my situation? Paul’s listeners in Philippi would have instantly connected that idea to being a citizen of Rome because having Roman citizenship was so important. Philippi was a colony. Roman citizens there were agents and emissaries of Roman…

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96 | Advent: Find the seven signs of glory in the gospel of John 28:07

7M ago28:07

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Happy Advent, my friends. We are getting ready to re-celebrate that first Christmas. Sometimes I get the impression that people think Jesus came to earth so that we could go to heaven. But if you think about salvation history, it runs in the other direction. It's always God wanting to come and dwell in his creation with his people. God walked in th…

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95 | Advent; Jesus as temple, a powerful lens for Christmas meaning 20:54

7M ago20:54

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There’s a theme that you may not be aware of that runs through the entirety of scripture from the distantly ancient text of Genesis to the merely ancient text of Revelation. You’ve heard of this idea but may not be aware of how it is an organizing principle for understanding Scripture. It’s a theme explicitly present in the ancient books of Genesis…

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94 | It’s Advent, So why are we talking about the creation story in the book of Genesis? 26:23

7M ago26:23

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The creation account in Genesis is not understood by modern people. It’s very unlikely that you have ever heard a correct account of what it means. As modern people, we have pretty much missed every important point in it. We have read all of our modern preconceptions into it and created pointless controversies about it. Listen to the podcast if you…

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93 | Reframe in life to get a superior angle 27:36

8M ago27:36

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Reframing is the art of looking at a situation, thought, or belief and finding a different perspective that is also TRUE and MORE HELPFUL. We often lock in on the first interpretation of a situation that comes to us. But we can usually step back and see there are OTHER things that are also true about a situation and these other things can give us a…

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92 | Say No to the habit of speaking an “IS” identity 19:17

8M ago19:17

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We have an excellent and very doable language challenge for you this week! We discuss E-Prime, which is a way of using English without any forms of the verb “to be”. That means without any words like these: is, be, been, were, is, am, was, will be, am, are. We think there is one situation where avoiding the “is” and “am” serves you particularly wel…

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91 | Language: Speak Your Week Positively 23:51

8M ago23:51

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Your unconscious mind is always listening to what you have to say and will work to make things turn out the way you say. Do you like achievement? Accomplishing things? Improving? Then using positivity in your language is a big help for you! LISTEN to yourself this week. You might be surprised by what you hear. We discuss the possibilities and some …

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90 | I’m Baaaack!! Boomerang kids. Now what? 29:30

8M ago29:30

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“Hey, Mom, I’m moving back home!” What do we need to think about if and when that conversation starts? Our first thoughts may be to ask ourselves: How can I help? A better question might be: Is this course of action helping my young adult child move to independence? Create an agreement with your young adult before they move in. Agree WHEN they are …

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89 | Your Young Adult: The Critical Art of Validating 26:16

9M ago26:16

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How can you be HEARD? How can you HELP when they don’t want to hear you? If you want her to hear you, then you must hear her first. Do you want him to see your perspective? You must see his perspective first. Being SEEN and HEARD is important to any relationship that has depth and vitality. When you are speaking with your young adults, and pretty m…

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88 | Your Young Adult: Collaborating 22:57

9M ago22:57

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We want to avoid giving unsolicited advice and comments whenever possible. How is that possible when we have conflicts? Or we are the landlord or banker and we have to spell out some requirements? COLLABORATING with your young adults during their transition to independence helps shift the relationship to a life-long, loving, adult, relationship. Sh…

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87 | Relating to Your Young Adult: Do’s and Don’ts 22:14

9M ago22:14

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We discuss some of the biggest DO’s and DON’Ts for managing our relationships with our young adults. What’s the best way to give advice? Our young adults generally don’t want to hear it. They’ve had plenty of it from us in the past. We also discuss how our young adults really hate receiving or perceiving, judgment from their parents. We can carry a…

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86 | Your Young Adult: The Big Goal to Never Lose Sight Of 26:01

9M ago26:01

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There’s a huge goal to never lose sight of when relating to your young adult! Our expectations of them can conflict with that goal. It’s human nature to focus on what’s NOT happening and to be impatient for what we think SHOULD be happening. We have expectations rooted in our own personal history. Let’s bear in mind that the culture is not what it …

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85 | Self Compassion Yes How Why Now 22:27

9M ago22:27

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Join us as we take a quick break to remember the helpfulness of self-compassion practice, why it’s important that you use this skill now, what it is, and how much we want it as part of our spiritual life. Self-compassion is a skill and a habit. What does that remind you of?? A virtue! Yes, a habitual and firm disposition to do the good. In this ins…

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84 | Interview: Unvarnished Faith with Bill Yoh 31:02

10M ago31:02

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Bill Yoh shares how a love of neighbor lit up his life with the fire of the Holy Spirit and inspired him to live a simple, strong, unvarnished faith in a straightforward and consistent way. We were delighted to speak with him as he shared his experiences, from the dumpsters of Nicaragua to the boardroom of one of the largest privately held US compa…

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83 | Slay the Giant Killer Duty Robot II 18:29

10M ago18:29

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How do you know if you have a Giant Killer Duty Robot looking over your shoulder? Dominican Fr. Servais Pinckaers continues to help us see the robot AND tells us what moral theory used to look like before that robot swept down like a terminator from Skynet and displaced the teachings of Augustine, Thomas Aquinas, and the church fathers. It turns ou…

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82 | Slay the Giant Killer Duty Robot I 22:05

10M ago22:05

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Move over, Goliath, we got a Giant Killer Duty Robot to slay here. Good thing we are getting lots of help from Dominican Fr. Servais Pinckaers, who wrote a lot of the encyclical Veritatis Splendor and the Catechism of the Catholic Church with John Paul II. Servais calls the robot “Moral Obligation Theory.” He traces its roots back to the 15th and 1…

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81 | Scripture never tells you to be perfect 21:01

10M ago21:01

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End your bad habit of “perfect” with us! End it today. “Be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect is what it says in Matthew 5:48,” right? After all, PERFECT is an English word that we know very well. If it’s perfect then it’s flawless, without defects, and does not make mistakes. That’s modern English. But the word used in Scripture does not m…

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80 | Me, My, and Your Perfectionism 23:42

11M ago23:42

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Amanda is a young lady described in a recently published book reviewed in the August 23, 20023 Wall Street Journal. She’s had perfectionism drilled into her, Barbie-style, and she’s internalized it. “Self-directed” perfectionism is the perfectionism that’s directed at yourself; it’s what we normally think of as perfectionism. Amanda has hit all her…

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79 | Barbie and you are perfectionists 23:59

11M ago23:59

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Barbie, the movie, has something to say about perfectionism. Remember that monologue by Gloria? Gloria was super frustrated with the contradicting and insatiable messages directed to her as a woman that required her to be perfect and to be judged inadequate whenever she fell short. It resonated with many, many women. Perfectionism messages are cons…

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78 | Don’t take it Personally 23:21

11M ago23:21

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We take things personally because it cuts to our survival instinct. What’s at stake, in our brains, isn’t “do I get the topping on the ice cream?”; it’s “ Do I get to eat today?” Our brains are always looking for threats. We quickly interpret what people say or do as being directed at “me.” If you are trying to bring that virtuous, charitable, wise…

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77 | Rumination - It’s a trap! 27:23

11M ago27:23

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Ruminating undermines you. We can quickly move from necessary self-reflection into repetitive negative thought patterns that get in the way of growth and problem-solving. Midlifers love to chew on their mistakes and keep turning things over and over. And over and over. Rumination isn’t solving your problems. It's not bringing health and new growth.…

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76 | Thought traps: Tricky Shoulds 27:51

12M ago27:51

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Are you ‘shoulding’ on yourself? (Don’t lie! We all do it) And it’s easy for those tricky ‘shoulds’ and ‘shouldn’ts” to start defining your emotions and behaviors. I should get up earlier. I should work out. I should get more sleep. I shouldn’t complain so much. I shouldn’t be upset. And what about what others should or shouldn’t do or be? Find out…

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