How do we cope with the worst things that have ever happened to us, and the most terrible things we have ever done? Reporting back from the edges of human experience, The F Word Podcast grapples with the thorny topic of forgiveness. Some have forgiven those who've harmed them, others are grappling with forgiving themselves. Not everyone is able to forgive. Not everyone has made complete peace with their past.
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UPDATE: Reckonings is on indefinite hiatus. To pick up where the show left off, follow Stephanie Lepp on Twitter: @stephlepp ABOUT THE SHOW How do we change our hearts and minds? What moves us to shift our political worldviews, transcend extremism, and make other kinds of transformative change? Reckonings is an exploration of how we look in the mirror, and grow from what we see. Stories have included that of a tough-on-crime prosecutor who revolutionized his understanding of our criminal j ...
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Ray Minniecon on the power of apology and why ideas around healing and forgiveness can be problematic for Aboriginal people
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Pastor Ray Minniecon about the history of the Stolen Generations and the continuing pain of Aboriginals in Australia. Ray describes his own childhood on the reserves, his research into the dehumanisation of Aboriginals, and how he continues to help his people share their story, as well come to terms with acts of racism i…
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Mary Foley on faith, forgiveness, and how writing to her daughter’s killer brought her peace of mind
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Mary Foley about the impact that losing her teenage daughter to knife-crime had on her family, and how forgiving the young woman responsible relieved her of a burden she didn’t want to carry.By The Forgiveness Project
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Pardeep Kaleka on finding forgiveness after his father was killed in one of America’s deadliest race-based hate crimes
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Pardeep Kaleka about how in the wake of his father’s murder in a Sikh temple in Winsconsin he found compassion and became a powerful voice against hate crime and violence. Pardeep now works to promote understanding and compassion with his friend Arno Michaelis who is also a guest on The F Word Podcast.…
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Arno Michaelis on rejecting his racist past, and the role of unconditional forgiveness in creating a life after hate
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Arno Michaelis about his time spent in the white power movement and how he transformed his life to become an advocate against hatred and racism. Arno now works to promote understanding and compassion with his friend Pardeep Kaleka who is also a guest on The F Word Podcast. Having both experienced extreme racism, albeit f…
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Jo Berry and Pat Magee on finding healing through understanding in the aftermath of the Brighton bomb
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Marina Cantacuzino talks Jo Berry and Pat Magee about the benefits and complexities of a relationship developed over 20 years. Despite the fact that Pat killed Jo’s father, their story has become a very public conversation and a profound example of reconciliation. Jo is an international speaker, educationist and peace activist. Pat Magee is a forme…
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Gill Hicks on the healing power of the arts and how seeking to understand has aided her recovery
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to author, musician and artist Gill Hicks who narrowly escaped death when she was horrifically and permanently disabled during the terrorist attacks in London in the summer of 2005. She has devoted much of her time since then to deterring anyone from following a path of violent extremism.…
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Wilma Derksen on how forgiving can resuscitate and revive, as well as cause isolation and incite criticism
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Wilma Derksen, author, therapist and advocate for healing justice. Ever since Wilma’s 13-year-old daughter Candace was found bound and murdered in a shed in Winnipeg, Wilma has been on a profound, difficult and circuitous journey of forgiveness and self-healing.By The Forgiveness Project
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Geoff Thompson and Andrea Martinez on forgiveness, self-preservation and surviving sexual assault
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Geoff Thompson and Andrea Martinez – both victims of child sexual abuse. Geoff Thompson is a filmmaker, prolific author and martial artist. Andrea Martinez is an actress, talk show host and young mother. Their connection comes through having had a profound conversation a few years ago when Geoff was able to offer Andrea …
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Figen Murray on how forgiving her son’s killer has preserved her humanity
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Figen Murray about what forgiveness means in the context of losing a child in a terrorist attack. In May 2017 her son, Martyn Hett, was killed at the Ariana Grande concert in Manchester when a radical Islamist detonated a homemade bomb. Since then Figen has become an active campaigner and activist in counter-terrorism.…
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Michael Lapsley on racism, apartheid and when forgiveness requires repentance
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Father Michael Lapsley, an Anglican priest, social justice activist and founder of the Institute for Healing of Memories in Cape Town. In 1990 at the height of the apartheid repression, Fr Michael received a letter bomb in the post in which he lost both his hands and one eye. He has been on a healing journey ever since.…
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Azim Khamisa on grieving, his spiritual practice and the importance of asking for forgiveness
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Azim Khamisa who founded the Tariq Khamisa Foundation after his only son, Tariq, was shot and killed while delivering pizzas in San Diego in 1995. Tariq’s killer, Tony Hicks, was 14-years-old at the time and has only recently been released from prison. Azim has spent the past 25 years talking about forgiveness and tirele…
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Letlapa Mphahlele on prejudice, apartheid and the burden of being forgiven
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Letlapa Mphahlele about his role in the struggle against apartheid and how he came to meet the mother of one of his victims. Ginn Fourie's daughter was killed in 1993 at a massacre in a Cape Town bar. Nine years later she met Letlapa, the former Director of Operations for the Azanian People's Liberation Army, who had ord…
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Kia Scherr on traumatic loss and grief as a spiritual practice
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Kia Scherr whose husband and 13-year-old daughter were both victims of the 2008 Mumbai terror attacks. Kia is the co-founder of One Life Alliance, a charity she set up as a response to the attacks.By The Forgiveness Project
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For the last episode of Reckonings, none other than: Donald Trump. This episode is part of Deep Reckonings — a series of explicitly-marked deepfake videos that imagine Mark Zuckerberg, Brett Kavanaugh, and other public figures having a reckoning. Here, an imaginary Donald Trump concedes the 2020 election. Watch the video and access the transcript: …
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Paul Kohler on how a brutal attack in his own home changed the course of his life
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Paul Kohler whose story hit the headlines in 2014 when four men broke into his London home leaving him with severe facial injuries. His wife and daughter were also in the house at the time of the attack and later all three met one of the offenders through restorative justice to try and have their questions answered.…
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Lis Cashin on guilt, shame and self-forgiveness
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Lis Cashin who as a child caused a fatal accident which cast an irreversible shadow over her life. Marina talks to her about trauma, self-forgiveness and finding meaning in pain.By The Forgiveness Project
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Zak Ebrahim on the meaning of forgiveness in relation to extremist ideologies
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Zak Ebrahim. When Zak was seven, his father shot and killed the founder of the Jewish Defence League, Rabbi Meir Kahane and later was convicted for his role in the 1993 bombing of the World Trade Center. Zak’s story is one of transforming his past and learning to reject bigotry and hate.…
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Jacob Dunne on meeting the mother of the man he killed
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Jacob Dunne who aged 18 was convicted of manslaughter for killing a man with a single punch. This episode tells the story of Jacob’s gradual rehabilitation and the vital role played by the parents of the man he killed – James Hodgkinson.By The Forgiveness Project
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Joan Scourfield on facing the man who killed her son
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Joan Scourfield, the mother of James who in 2011 was killed when a young man called, Jacob Dunne, threw a fatal punch in an unprovoked attack in Nottingham, England. A few years later Joan and her then husband David came face-to-face with Jacob in a restorative justice meeting. In Episode 4 of The F Word Podcast Marina g…
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Bjørn Ihler on the power of personal storytelling, violent extremism and why it’s important not to dehumanize terrorists
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to 29-year-old Bjørn Ihler, a writer, filmmaker and ‘peace activist’ from Norway. Bjørn is a survivor of the attack on Utøya Island in July 2011 when far-right extremist Anders Breivik killed 69 people and injured many more. Bjørn’s expertise lies in countering extremist narratives, as well as deconstructing their propagand…
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Stephanie Cassatly on rage and the gift of remorse
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Marina Cantacuzino talks to Stephanie Cassatly, a writer, teacher, mother and wife from Florida. When Stephanie was 18, her mother was shot and killed in a convenience store robbery in New Orleans, changing every preconceived notion she had about the world and what it meant to feel safe.By The Forgiveness Project
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The F Word is a new podcast series that examines the complex, messy, gripping subject of forgiveness. In each episode Marina Cantacuzino, a journalist and founder of The Forgiveness Project, talks to a guest who despite having experienced great pain or trauma in their life has found a way through. Launching 30th September 2020...…
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If Brett Kavanaugh, Alex Jones, and Mark Zuckerberg had a crisis of conscience, what would they say? Reckonings presents Deep Reckonings — a project that uses deepfakes to take Reckonings in a *fictional* direction, and imagine public figures having a reckoning. Watch the full series and learn more about the project: deepreckonings.com This is the …
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How do we cover the communications of a president who lies, especially when those lies can be fatal? The traditional rituals of journalism don't really work with a president who doesn't tell the truth, and so, what can we do instead? Reckonings presents Infinite Lunchbox on the topic of how to tackle Trump's lies — aka *post-truth jujitsu*. NOTE: I…
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How do we change our hearts and minds? What moves us to shift our political worldviews, transcend extremism, and make other kinds of transformative change? That's the $64 million dollar question that gave birth to Reckonings. And that's the question I explore with lessons learned *from* Reckonings -- in this bonus episode with Inflection Point's La…
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#26 || Biden, #MeToo, and Growing in Public
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Joe Biden stands accused of sexual assault. And the Democratic Party leadership, which had been loud in its support for #MeToo, is suddenly……..silent. But, is it possible to support Biden's candidacy without abandoning #MeToo? Can we take Tara Reade's allegation seriously while deeming Biden a worthy candidate for president?? In this bonus episode …
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He built Facebook’s business model. Then he went on to become the President of Pinterest. And then he realized: he was addicted to his phone. And later: he was complicit in his own — and all of our — addictive relationships with technology. How does an architect of Facebook’s business model grapple with the impact of what he built? What is he doing…
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#24 || How to turn a monster into an apologist
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'In writing this apology, I moved him from monster to apologist…and in doing that, he lost power over me.' That's Eve Ensler, talking about her recent *masterpiece* of a book, The Apology. In it, she imagines the apology her father never gave her for the abuse he inflicted on her as a child. It echoes the imaginary Pope in Reckonings episode #22 — …
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Let's take a quick peek behind the curtain on a few things, including the question: where is Reckonings going?By Stephanie Lepp
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#23 || An uncommon conversation about clergy sex abuse
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She was sexually abused by her Catholic school teacher, a former nun. As a young priest, he sexually abused boys in his parish. Buckle your seat belts for an *uncommon conversation* about clergy sex abuse. Enormous gratitude to the National Association of Community and Restorative Justice (https://nacrj.org), and to The Gilead Project (https://gile…
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#22 || An imaginary reckoning with Pope Francis
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If the Pope had a reckoning, what would it sound like? And then after you listen.....if you're curious *why* this was made, go to episode #23.5 and scroll to 01:18 for an explanation.By Stephanie Lepp
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#21 || A survivor and her perpetrator find justice
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Sameer met Anwen freshman year. He was into her, and they started seeing each other. Then one night, after a fraternity party, Sameer convinced Anwen to come home with him — which is when he coerced her into sexual activity. Their senior year, Anwen invited Sameer into a process of restorative justice. This story features *both* Anwen and Sameer, t…
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Alternative facts. Fake news. How are journalists grappling with this moment?? Dive into one journalist’s reckoning with truth.By Stephanie Lepp, Lewis Wallace
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'Behind The Mic' is a series of short pieces I produce periodically, to bring you behind the microphone and reveal a bit of what’s going on back here. This time, I’m pulling the curtain on three things: a new creative adventure, the *kinds* of change Reckonings is interested in, and how to bring you more stories more often.…
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#19 || How will we become majestic elephants?
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‘I could have been a left-wing guerrilla in Columbia. Whatever would have grabbed me at the right time, I was ready for.’ What ended up grabbing Frank was neo-Nazism. What ended up grabbing Jesse was jihadi extremism. What do we see when we look beyond ideology? This episode was produced with generous support from the Gen Next Foundation (www.genne…
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#18 || The defection of a Roger Ailes warrior
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"Very earlier on, Roger called me Ailes Junior. He told my dad, 'I've never met anyone more like me than Joe.'" As the protégé of Fox News chairman Roger Ailes, Joe Lindsley was closer to the man who built Fox News than any Fox executive. He helped write Ailes' speeches, sat next to him at executive meetings, and went to church with his family on S…
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