Best There Is An Elephant In The Room Podcasts (2024)

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Sorry For Ghosting You 21:27

9M ago21:27

21:27

Clarity is kind It’s been months since I’ve shared a podcast episode with you. I had to get clear with myself on how I wanted to move forward before I could communicate it clearly to you. Post-sabbatical, I still felt drained and like I had so little to give. I’ve spent a lot of time feeling discouraged by the results of my podcast. But it finally …

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5 Things I’m Currently Loving 22:48

12M ago22:48

22:48

I feel like I start every episode with “this week’s episode, I’m doing things a little differently,” and that’s because I’m really just playing around with what feels good! Since before my sabbatical, I’ve felt lost as to what to share on the podcast. So this week, I decided to do something I thought would be fun (and maybe you’ll think it’s fun to…

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What Kind of Trauma Do You Have? with Kobe Campbell 47:38

1y ago47:38

47:38

This week, we’re doing something a little different and very exciting: Kobe Campbell is guest hosting an episode of The Refined Collective with her husband Kyle (the hosts of The Healing Circle Podcast). In this episode, Kobe will be breaking down the different types of traumas, the nuances of each, and what they can look like in your life. Trauma …

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Does God Want Me To Be Gay? with Mike Maeshiro 1:20:47

1y ago1:20:47

1:20:47

Mike Maeshiro is the founder of Numa, an organization that supports people in deconstruction, spirituality, and faith. Mike is gay, an advocate for the LGBTQ+ community, and a queer theology enthusiast. He is a life coach, speaker and thought leader. In this episode, Mike shares his story of coming out, the beliefs that kept him in the closet for s…

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Doing Mushrooms May Have Saved My Faith 57:38

1y ago57:38

57:38

Language disclaimer: this episode includes explicit language so maybe listen with headphones if you’re around children. As you all know, I took a sabbatical last fall. I needed that time to focus on my own growth and healing without having a microphone in my hand. One thing I knew I wanted to experience during my time away from The Refined Collecti…

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Dear Diary: Why is the Bar Set So Low? with Tutti del Monte 58:38

1y ago58:38

58:38

Language disclaimer: this episode includes explicit language so maybe listen with headphones if you’re around children. You know how when you say something to your best friend it's not as scary as saying it to an audience of thousands of people so you feel free to be completely honest and vulnerable? Well my best friend and I recorded an episode th…

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What A Sabbatical Really Looks Like 55:34

1y ago55:34

55:34

Welcome back to The Refined Collective Podcast! I actually recorded this episode before I recorded last week’s episode, but decided I needed more time to figure out my path forward with the podcast. There’s so much to dive into in this episode. We’re talking about where I’m at, where I’m headed, and how things will look different around here. I hop…

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And We're Back!!! 12:08

1y ago12:08

12:08

It’s been about 5 months since I’ve come to you through your speakers, and I’m back (in a brand new way). This is my fifth year doing the podcast and releasing a podcast episode every week has been exhausting. One of my main goals this year is to foster this community while also embracing this idea of “less is more." What does that mean for the pod…

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A Closed Door Leads to a Greater Yes 46:49

1+ y ago46:49

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This is my final podcast episode of 2022! I can’t believe it! If you want to hear more about my decision to take a 4-month sabbatical from all things The Refined Woman, content creation, and social media, check out this episode. I’ve thought a lot about what I want to share with you in this episode, and what came to mind were 3 things that I’ve bee…

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Life in a Post-Roe World with Dr. Natalie Crawford 56:16

1+ y ago56:16

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Dr. Natalie Crawford is co-founder of Fora Fertility, a boutique fertility practice in Austin, Texas and is board certified in both Obstetrics and Gynecology and Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility (REI). Early on in the pandemic I had her on the podcast to talk about egg freezing: TRC Ep 91: “The Fertility Series: Egg Freezing 101”. Fast fo…

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I’m Taking a Sabbatical + Here’s Why 36:00

1+ y ago36:00

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This is a big episode for me. Punch line first: I am taking a 4-month sabbatical from this podcast and ALL things The Refined Woman related starting September 1st through January 1st. I know you probably have a million questions (and concerns) so this episode is dedicated to explaining why I’ve made this decision, what this time will look like for …

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Navigating Physical Boundaries While You’re Deconstructing with Alessandra Conti 1:05:56

1+ y ago1:05:56

1:05:56

So your whole life you were taught to save sex until marriage from the church. You were taught it was ‘God’s best.’ But now you’re in a massive season of deconstruction. Your faith still matters to you, but it looks nothing like it used to anymore. Who + how do you date during this season? And what about your physical boundaries? What if you don’t …

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Kat Spills the Tea: The One that Got Away 50:21

1+ y ago50:21

50:21

I put a question box on IG stories for you to submit any and all questions about me for me to answer on the podcast and y’all did NOT hold back! These questions got deeply personal and I’m diving into all of it with you today. Am I in therapy? Will I ever abandon dating apps? Do I have a "one that got away"? Let's get into it. Get 20% off when you …

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He Said / She Said: Who Should Pay for the First Date Though? with Shaun Galanos 1:07:52

2y ago1:07:52

1:07:52

Guess who's back!? Shaun Galanos from The Love Drive! He is a love coach who teaches communication and intimacy skills! He is probably one of my top 5 favorite people to follow on Instagram— once you see his reels you’ll know why. The first time he was a guest on the podcast, we spoke about cheating, ghosting, finances, and sex. This week, we’re di…

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Sex Ed 101: (Spoiler Alert) Sex Isn’t Like the Movies with Dr. Celeste Holbrook 59:39

2y ago59:39

59:39

Our favorite sexologist is back! Dr. Celeste Holbrook is here again this week to answer some of your sex ed questions. We talk about everything from the basics of understanding your anatomy to the complicated feelings that may arise if you want to introduce sex toys into your partnered sex. Get started now with 25% off a premium subscription by dow…

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The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex with Sheila Wray Gregoire 56:50

2y ago56:50

56:50

I am so thrilled to be back sharing podcast episodes with you after my 4-week break. And I’m even more thrilled to be talking (again) with Sheila Wray Gregoire, the author of The Great Sex Rescue and The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex. She was on the podcast last year (listen to it here) and she left us with a cliff hanger and I am glad to be divin…

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Ask Kat: How to Be an LGBTQ+ Ally, Interfaith Relationships, and Bridgerton 47:26

2y ago47:26

47:26

Welcome back to another Ask Kat episode! If you’re new here, I answer questions on IG stories every Monday but it’s so hard to answer them in 15 seconds! So I created a podcast series where I can give more in depth answers to your nuanced questions. You can listen to the first Ask Kat episode here. This time around, I’m talking all things Bridgerto…

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My Egg Freezing Experience 47:32

2y ago47:32

47:32

If I did things ‘God’s way’, wouldn’t God bless me with the partner + kids I have always longed for? It never occurred to me to learn what other options were available to me. It felt heart breaking to even begin to research my fertility options at age 34—because it felt like an admission of being in a place that I never wanted to be in: single + ch…

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Meditation for Gratitude 14:12

2y ago14:12

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For mental health May–I did something new! I created three meditation podcast episodes under 10 minutes! If you missed the first two, check them out: Meditation for burnout (listen here). Meditation for anxiety by Jackie Viramontez (listen here). Now, I’ll be leading you through meditation for gratitude. Use code REFINED for 20% off sitewide at Smi…

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Meditation for Anxiety with Jackie Viramontez 14:12

2y ago14:12

14:12

I would love to offer you a few meditations and prayers that have been a lifeline for me over the past few years. The next three episodes of TRC will be guided meditations. First up was meditation for burnout (listen here). This week, my friend Jackie Viramontez will be guiding us through a meditation for anxiety. Use code REFINED for 20% off sitew…

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When You Feel BURNED OUT 11:21

2y ago11:21

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How do you seek God when you don’t know if you believe the way you used to? How do you move forward in your faith when it feels like it’s in shambles? How do you experience God outside of Sunday church? I’m no expert, but I would love to offer you a few meditations and prayers that have been a lifeline for me over the past few years. The next three…

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Deconstruction Part III: What Would Jesus Do? 46:19

2y ago46:19

46:19

This is Part III of a series on deconstruction. In Part I, we ask “What exactly is deconstruction + how do I know if I’m experiencing it?” In Part II, we ask “Can I completely deconstruct my faith and still be a Christian?” This week, we’ll be asking “What would Jesus do? How then shall we live?” Reflection Questions: What has your relationship to …

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Deconstruction Part II: Am I Still a Christian? 29:02

2y ago29:02

29:02

This is Part II of a series on deconstruction— if you missed Part I, go ahead and listen to that here. In Part I, we ask what exactly is deconstruction + how do I know if I’m experiencing it, and the resources that have helped me in my own process. Today, we’ll be moving through the question “Can I completely deconstruct my faith and still be a Chr…

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Deconstruction Part I: What Is It + How Do I Know I’m Experiencing It? 33:58

2y ago33:58

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This week, we’re stepping into a series on deconstruction. I avoided talking about this in depth on the podcast before, because I am no expert. When I polled my Instagram audience, 76% said they are currently deconstructing. And everyone’s experiences within deconstruction have been extremely varied. How do I know if I’m experiencing deconstruction…

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I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet with Shauna Niequist 1:01:10

2y ago1:01:10

1:01:10

I am completely fangirling over today’s podcast guest— I have read all of her books over the years and I can’t wait for you to get to know her. Shauna Niequist is the NYT Bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, Present Over Perfect, and I Guess I Haven’t Learned That. Today, we’re talking about trusting your gut fee…

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Sex Ed 101: Vibrators, Positions + Oral… OH MY! with Dr. Celeste Holbrook 1:02:53

2y ago1:02:53

1:02:53

Our favorite sexologist, Dr. Celeste Holbrook, is back on the podcast to give you some more sex education! As many of you know, I spent a lot of time coming to terms with the shame I felt around my sexual desire. Since I grew up in purity culture, I didn’t receive a proper sex education. And because I didn’t get a proper sex education, I found myse…

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He Said/She Said: Submission with Manwell Reyes 1:12:01

2y ago1:12:01

1:12:01

In episode 170 of TRC, Manwell Reyes said “I love strong women but they come with a lot of pride and you’re gonna have to argue them into submission.” To say I was uncomfortable with that comment is a wild understatement. We didn't have time to unpack it during that episode, so I brought Manwell back to talk about it in full context. We take a deep…

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Dear Diary: Am I a Good Kisser? with Tutti del Monte 48:30

2y ago48:30

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This week my bestie, Tutti del Monte, is returning for another Dear Diary episode. This time, instead of spending the full episode reading old diary entries, we’re chatting about things we chat about in real life: how to know if you’re a bad kisser and how we define sex differently. Plus, we talk about if I’m still waiting for marriage to have sex …

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Ask Kat: Tithing During Deconstruction? Faith Compatibility in Dating + More 55:43

2y ago55:43

55:43

Welcome back to the Ask Kat series! It’s basically like my Mentor Monday IG story series (which you can keep up with here), but this is the first time where you get to send in an audio file of your questions and I answer them live on air! If you want to submit your question for the next Ask Kat episode, go to speakpipe.com/trc. Hosted on Acast. See…

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Leaving the Church to Find Jesus 59:29

2y ago59:29

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I’m really nervous for you to listen to this episode. This week, I’m sharing my story of how and why I kinda accidentally left the church during the pandemic, and why I haven’t chosen to go back. I share with you what I have learned and am learning from my separation from the church, why I believe God is really with me in this place, the 3 main rea…

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Real Talk: Dating Non-Christians 43:06

2y ago43:06

43:06

Every week on IG stories, I do “Mentor Mondays”. Recently, I answered a question about dating non-Christians and it just didn’t feel complete. Mainly because I only have 15 seconds on IG stories to answer very nuanced topics. So in this episode, I’ll be unpacking the much debated and talked about topic of Christians dating non-Christians (plus my o…

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Churchless: Searching for My Place Outside of Church 28:38

2y ago28:38

28:38

I woke up on a Sunday morning feeling waves of grief from my recent heartbreak. I feel lonely. It’s hard making friends in general, let alone during a pandemic, after a cross country move, and while you’re not going to church. I knew that church had been a source of community for me, but it wasn’t until I left that I began to understand just how mu…

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Letting Go vs. Giving Up 35:38

2y ago35:38

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Something that has been on my mind a lot lately is the idea of letting go versus giving up. And based on the number of DMs I received when I shared about this on IG stories, it seems it’s been on a lot of your minds too. So…what is the difference between letting go and giving up, and why does it matter? Beducated is offering TRC listeners a 24 hour…

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$7/Day to a 6-Figure Book Deal: Part III 1:17:04

2y ago1:17:04

1:17:04

In the past two episodes, I shared how I made $7/day after college living out of a van working for a non-profit. Then I found my way to photography and ultimately built a 6-figure photography business. From there I talk about how my little fashion blog turned into The Refined Woman and this podcast. And so today, I am sharing the final part of my c…

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$7/Day to a 6-Figure Book Deal: Part II 52:12

2y ago52:12

52:12

Last week, I shared on the podcast how I made $7/day after college living out of a van working for a non-profit. Then I found my way to photography and ultimately built a 6-figure photography business. But as you know, that’s only part of my career journey. Along the way, I also started The Refined Woman and created this podcast, The Refined Collec…

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$7/Day to a 6-Figure Book Deal: Part I 55:44

2y ago55:44

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Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!! I saw a meme that said “I didn’t realize 2020 was gonna be a trilogy” which I thought was hilarious, but I also thought NO I don’t want to embrace that. I am on the evidence hunt for a year of celebra…

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Tears, Fears + Searching for Vision with Johan Martinez-Khalilian 1:20:43

2+ y ago1:20:43

1:20:43

I feel like I ended 2021 crawling to the finish line. (Anyone else?) I felt completely burnt out, so I did a few things: I took the last month off and I hired a business coach. It honestly has felt like therapy. I decided to record our first session and share it with you. I got real, I also got defensive at times, I cried, and reached some real bre…

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I Kinda Suck at Dating: A 2021 Reflection 1:01:59

2+ y ago1:01:59

1:01:59

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!! It’s here: the final episode of 2021. Last years final episode was about how dating has changed in 2020. (You can listen to that episode here.) I have felt recently exactly what the title says: that I…

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Church + S*x: How Did We Get It So Wrong? with Sheila Wray Gregoire 1:05:04

2+ y ago1:05:04

1:05:04

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!! Trigger warning: We are going to be talking about some adult topics. If you have young ears around, put on some headphones or listen later on. We will also be talking about sexual assault and abusive …

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How to Get Real Results From Online Dating with Kait Warman 56:33

2+ y ago56:33

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Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!! This episode is all about how to get real results from online dating, which is something I’m really interested in talking about right now because personally I have felt burnt out from online dating. I…

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Is S*xual Compatibility a Myth? with Jaiya and Ian 1:08:20

2+ y ago1:08:20

1:08:20

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!! If you have watched Gwyneth Paltrow’s Netflix show “S*x, Love & Goop,” then you may recognize today’s podcast guests: Jaiya and Ian! Jaiya is an award-winning somatic s*xologist and creator of The Ero…

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Dear Diary: Excerpts from my Middle School Journal with Tutti del Monte 58:22

2+ y ago58:22

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Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!! Today’s guest is my best friend, Sara del Monte, or “Tutti” if you follow her on Instagram. She was on the podcast years ago talking about how to confront unexpected change where she shared all about …

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Friendship Breakups with Andi Andrew 55:23

2+ y ago55:23

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Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!! Andi Andrew is the author of She Is Free, Fake or Follower, and her newest book which is coming out October 2021, Friendship–It's Complicated. I am so excited to be talking with her about friendship b…

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Ask Kat: Dating While Deconstructing, Botox, Legalism + More... 47:40

2+ y ago47:40

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If you follow me on Instagram, you know I do Mentor Mondays where you can ask me anything and I answer on IG stories, but it’s so hard to answer such complex questions in 15-second bursts! So this week, I am tackling some of the questions you sent me on Instagram. I would love to do more of these episodes, so if you want to submit your questions fo…

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Is It the Holy Spirit or My Trauma? with Kobe Campbell 52:22

2+ y ago52:22

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Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!! For most of my life, I’ve felt like I have this sixth sense where I can read people and atmospheres really well. When I became a Christian, I figured this was the spiritual gift of discernment. Over t…

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The Eyes of Tammy Faye with Jonathan Merritt 54:40

2+ y ago54:40

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Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!! I recently saw the movie The Eyes of Tammy Faye and quickly went down a rabbit hole of all things surrounding the infamous televangelist Tammy Faye Bakker. I knew I wanted to talk about this (and I di…

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Lessons From My Therapist with Kat Harris 28:27

2+ y ago28:27

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Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!! “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” - Philippians 4: 6 (NIV) If you are a regular listener, you know th…

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He Said/She Said: Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? with Manwell Reyes 1:07:05

2+ y ago1:07:05

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Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!! Is it true that ‘once a cheater, always a cheater?’ How does our faith collide with infidelity? Is cheating an unforgivable sin? I am doing a 3-part podcast series with Manwell Reyes called He Said/Sh…

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He Said/She Said: Sex/Life with Manwell Reyes 1:01:18

2+ y ago1:01:18

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Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!! I am doing a 3-part podcast series with Manwell Reyes called He Said/She Said where we dive into some deep topics and approach them from our different perspectives. Last week we spoke about double sta…

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He Said/She Said: Double Standards with Manwell Reyes 1:10:57

2+ y ago1:10:57

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Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!! Manwell Reyes is no stranger to The Refined Collective. He was on the podcast earlier this year (along with the other hosts of the Nights at the Round Table Podcast) and we talked about deconstruction…

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