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Free Self-Love PDF: https://lifeisloveschool.krtra.com/t/fS5TorkWjNXc Connect with fellow survivors: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool For many people, breaking the people-pleasing pattern and setting boundaries poses a unique challenge during the holidays. If you were taught that your value lies in how much you do for others, then setting limits …

Free Self-Love PDF: https://lifeisloveschool.krtra.com/t/fS5TorkWjNXc Connect with fellow survivors: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool The wild world of dating can be a tricky one to navigate. After all, "How to Date" is not a skill they teach you in school, but dating well is essential to your ability to find and keep a great partner. You might h…

Free Self-Love PDF: https://lifeisloveschool.krtra.com/t/fS5TorkWjNXc Connect with fellow survivors: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool It isn't always clear when to leave a relationship. How do you know if your partnership can be fixed, or is beyond repair? Of course, emotional and physical abuse are always signs to leave a relationship. But outsi…

Free Self-Love PDF: https://lifeisloveschool.krtra.com/t/fS5TorkWjNXc Connect with fellow survivors: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool In today's episode, I interview Autumn, TRIBE founding member, mom of four sons, ICU nurse manager, and one of the most courageous, inspiring, and growth-minded people I know. Autumn and her siblings were forcibly …

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool If you’re constantly worrying about your partners, feel like they don’t like you as much as you like them, want to see them 24/7, need constant reassurance from them, then you’re probably anxiously attached. Relationships can be rough for the anxiously attac…

Connect with fellow survivors and access healing resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool A form of emotional abuse common to many toxic family systems is gaslighting. Experiencing gaslighting in any relationship is damaging, but the effects can be even more devastating when coming from a parent and the gaslighting happened when you were littl…

Connect with fellow survivors and access healing resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Have you ever wanted to take a risk, whether that's in your love life, your career, or moving to a new place, but fear of failure holds you back from taking that first step? Children and adults who have experienced childhood trauma have a lower ability to…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool We often think that our friends and family should have our back, but sometimes they are the ones that pour a bucket of cold water down our heads. In this episode, I answer a question about how to handle the criticism of other people, including those closest …

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool The dismissive-avoidant is one of the most misunderstood attachment styles. A dismissive-avoidant often show up in relationships as someone who: Prefers keeping the connection on the surface-level Focuses on sexual intimacy but avoids emotional closeness Run…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Freud coined the term “repetition compulsion” to describe the puzzling phenomenon where an abuse victim repeatedly puts themselves in situations that replicate the distress they experienced in an earlier life. This might look like: You were physically abused…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool In this episode, I continue from the last episode (Listen to Part I) and cover additional tips for how to date smart so you find a great partner and prevent the common traps that suck survivors into abusive relationships. --- Support this podcast: https://po…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool People who suffered childhood abuse tend to do one of two things as adults: isolate to avoid getting hurt again, or turn to toxic individuals who remind them of their abusive caretakers. Revictimization, the phenomenon where childhood abuse survivors tend to…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Have you ever been in a toxic or even outright abusive relationship but find it next to impossible to leave? A part of you that knows the relationship is unhealthy and wreaking havoc on your mental health. Still, the idea of leaving is terrifying, maybe even…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool When something bad happens, do you automatically think it's your fault? Many childhood trauma survivors tend to default to self-blame. When you were little, developmentally, you could not see beyond yourself and understand that your caregivers could not meet…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool This is a follow up to part I: https://anchor.fm/life-is-love-school/episodes/Why-People-Dont-Recognize-They-Were-Abused-in-Childhood-Part-I-e148i15/a-a4969gp --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/life-is-love-school/support…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Do you tell yourself: I don't need anyone. I can do everything myself. If I let people in, they will hurt me. If you suffered abuse at the hands of people you once trusted, feeling that you have your back to the wall and you cannot trust anyone again is a co…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool It takes the average childhood abuse victim 24 years to reveal their trauma history, even though disclosure is often the key to recovery. Some survivors choose to keep silent to avoid potential stigma, but others are not consciously aware that they suffered …

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Have you ever counseled a friend who is obviously in an abusive relationship but they don't seem to recognize it? To an outsider, it can be baffling why someone chooses to stay in an abusive relationship when all the evidence is there that they should leave.…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Over-apologizing is when you have the habit of saying "I'm sorry" when you don't need to. Here are some examples: You approach the receptionists at your doctor's office by saying, "I'm sorry to bother you. I have a question." Your partner makes an inappropri…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool People often spend a lot of time talking about red flags and how to spot a toxic relationship, but there is a lot less discussion about what constitutes a healthy relationship. In this episode, I share 7 signs that signal you are in a healthy relationship. K…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Do you ever wonder if there's a link between Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and attachment styles? When people think about NPD, they think of someone like a Don Draper — A person with an inflated sense of self that comes off as arrogant, entitled, a…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Do you feel insecure in relationships? Have you acted out because of your overwhelming insecurity? Are you worried that your protest behavior (acting clinging, jealous, upset) is pushing your partner away? If you answer YES to these questions, you may have a…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Do you know what kills the most dreams? It’s not lack of education, money, preparation, but our internal resistance. The more we want something, the stronger the resistance inside of us fights back. Sometimes it just feels better (and easier) to self-sabotag…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Do you work for an unreasonable boss? Do you wish that you are better at saying no so you’re not always overwhelmed? Do you want to feel more peace but struggle with the how? If so, this episode is for you. Stress Management coach Lolita Guarin (http://www.b…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Midlife is when many people start to wonder if they are on the right path. This question could feel unsettling, even scary. After all, by midlife, most of us have invested a few decades in our chosen line of work, and starting afresh seems daunting. Statisti…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool The sign of a healthy relationship isn't that two people never fight. In fact, it's often a sign of problems. Either the couple suppresses their emotions, which leads to mounting resentment, or one or both partners are indifferent toward their relationship a…

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool As a follow-up to the previous episode, which covers signs 1 through 15, in this episode, I cover 16 through 30 of the common signs that you suffered childhood trauma. If you think you are uniquely broken from the abuse, I want you to know that you are not. …

Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool In the USA, nearly 700,000 children are abused in U.S each year. Unfortunately, trauma leaves a legacy; research by the CDC shows that trauma survivors are more likely to die by suicide, suffer chronic mental and physical illness, have a shortened life span,…