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NOTICE: AlisaCoaches.com is currently under construction. For now, visitors to the site are being directed to this page. Though no articles are published here, you will have access to all "Heart and Soul" podcasts. ----------------------- My name is Alisa. I am a life coach, relationship counselor. Over the past decade, I have worked with hundreds of clients from various countries and from different walks of life. My passion is helping clients to live their best lives possible; helping them ...
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A Positive Message About Addiction Recovery
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Addiction recovery takes a lot of hard work. It takes focus, blood, sweat, teachers, and consistency. However. It is important for those who struggle with sex, p*rn, and masturbation addictions to understand that sexual addiction recovery does not always have to be so negative. In today's episode of Heart and Soul. I shine a light on the positive s…
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Men who struggle with addictions of a sexual nature usually do not understand that they are running from something. Identifying your fears and gaining an understanding of how those fears control you are one of the foundational steps that can lead to sexual addiction recovery.By AlisaCoaches
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Addiction Recovery: Be In It For The Long Haul
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When attempting to get assistance for a sexual addiction, many times the sex addict approaches this part of the journey as if there is a quick fix. There is not a quick fix for sexual addiction. Sliding down the rabbit hole of addiction is a lot easier than climbing one's way out of that hole. Climbing out of the rabbit hole is going to take time, …
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The concept of NoFap is a healthy one - helping men to stop their masturbation addiction habits. However, it creates an environment for the addict that can be detrimental, mentally and emotionally. Today, I will talk about NoFap, while also commenting on some of the recent posts in the NoFap Subreddit.…
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Pornography Addiction: The Road to Recovery
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Many men approach sex addiction recovery haphazardly. Understanding what the journey to recovery looks like is helpful so that you can be patient with yourself and so that you can be forgiving with yourself. Going cold turkey does not work when it comes to sex, p*rn, and/or masturbation treatment. What works may come as a surprise to the sexual add…
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There is much more to being a man than having an erection. How did you get the erection? What do you want to do with the erection now that you have it? What are you going to do once your erection is gone? Societies around the globe have long taught men that being a man lies in the simple fact that he has a penis, and the narrative goes on to teach …
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Addictions of a sexual nature are mentally, emotionally, and spiritually taxing on the individual who is trying to break free from their hold. The process is very much like being at war with oneself. In order to keep the momentum going, you have to remind yourself of what you are fighting for. Remind yourself of what you are trading in for immediat…
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How NOT To Ask For Help With A Sexual Addiction
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Addictions of a sexual nature are very difficult to work through. If you are taking steps to get help, make sure that you are not sending mixed signals, and make sure that you are not acting in a manner that is contrary to addiction recovery. In today's show, I'm going to walk listeners through an email exchange that I received from a man who claim…
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I have often said that p*rn is not necessarily a bad thing. However, watching p*rn is not a victimless activity for men. Because of the way that men are wired (which is sexually), watching changes p*rn everything about who you are. So, the man becomes the victim. Watching p*rn shapes the way that he sees himself, the way that he sees women, and the…
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How Sex, P*rn, and Masturbation Addicts Are Made
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Growing numbers of men are struggling with sex, p*rn, and masturbation addictions these days. The key to working through a sexual addiction is not in stopping the behavior. The behavior is just a manifestation of what is broken; it serves as evidence that an individual is hurting. The real key to working through one's addiction is to understand mor…
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One of the most common reasons that sex addicts find themselves on the losing side of their battle with sex addiction is because they no longer acknowledge that things can get better. Hope is powerful because it helps a person to endure the more challenging parts of their journey. It helps the individual to not give up. For, giving up is like embra…
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Addiction, in any form, is a parasite. The thing to remember about a parasite is that it is never finished with its host. Ever. As long as that host is able to sustain life for itself, while also sustaining life for the parasite, the parasite will continue using the host. The parasite’s work is only done when the host is dead. It is only at that ti…
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The dash represents the life actually lived. It represents the hopes and dreams, the love, the tears, the laughter. It also represents the disappointments, the despair, those times when the individual was absolutely shaken to his core, those times when the individual experienced the most glorious moments of his life. The dash represents that which …
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Men cheat for many reasons. Actually, both men and women cheat for many reasons. However, Mistress Alisa's speciality is in working with men. And, in this program, she takes a direct approacch to addressing many of the issues that men face while trying to heal broken relationships, due to infidelity. The steps provided in this segment are sure to y…
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What goes on in the mind of a submissive male? Mistress Alisa is the "submissive whisperer" and She can crack the code. In this podcast, She points out 5 struggles that submissive men face in the lifestyle and in life, in general. She gives tips for working through these challenges and for coming out on the other side of them. This podcast is also …
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Young men are being attracted to the lure of addiction at younger and younger ages these days. The impact that can have on a 20-year-old is massive. By the time the young man understands that he is addicted, every aspect of his life has been impacted by his obsession with p--o--r--nography. Mistress Alisa weighs-in on the issue. For more informatio…
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When you know your truth and you live it, then nothing and no one can stand in your way. On the journey to wholeness and healing, many who seek recovery find themselves stuck in a rutt because they live their lives like victims. They have given their power and have therefore relinquished their own ability to be strong for themselves. Thinking like …
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On a daily basis, sex addicts face extremely negative feelings like: judgment, guilt, shame, embarrassment, self-doubt, and even self-hatred. They wonder how to break free from addiction in order to be the people they have always wanted to be, and in order to live the lives that they have always wanted to live. When faced with all the unhealthy beh…
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Mistress Alisa receives several messages of inquiry from men who identify as Dominant. In this segment, she explains why she has, thus far, refused to work with such individuals. This is the story of Mistress Alisa and the "dominant" male who inspired this segment. It is also an invitation for any truly Dominant males in the lifestyle to reach out …
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This podcast was inspired by yet another real-life situation. Mistress Alisa talks about the patterns that a specific client has found himself in for over 2 decades. She uses this case study to help shine a light on the decisions and behaviors that keep people going in cycles that they claim they want to break out of. If you find yourself in the mi…
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In this segment, Mistress Alisa helps addicts to understand what to expect from counselors, as well as what addicts need to be able to expect from themselves. Addicts are required to work for their own freedom. The truth is that no one can "fix" you. This is your journey and others can support you, at best. But there is no one who can "fix" you or …
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Secrets have consistently been one of the biggest issues that keep My clients from walking in freedom and from walking in their truth. Secrets, lies, manipulations, deceptions. They all belong to the same family of untruths. We are more aware of direct deceptions, however, and not as much attention is placed on the dangers of keepingsecrets. How to…
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There are so many definitions of what a Dominatrix is and is not. Mistress Alisa challenges the status quo and introduces personal insights into what a healthy version of a Domme looks like. Mistress Alisa has made a name for herself in BDSM as a Dominatrix who helps Her clients to peace in the lifestyle. Her clients embrace and live their personal…
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The importance of "letting go" cannot be underestimated - both in life and in BDSM. Mistress Alisa explains what it means to let go, and for the first time She publicly recounts a precautionary tale of what happened when She was in a relationship with a wolf in sub's clothing. She explains how in letting go, She was able to find Her truth and move …
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I received an email request today. On the surface, the message may seem simplistic in nature, but underneath the surface, the message is full of complexity. In this podcast, I delve into an answer that will shed light on what it takes to start to work one's way out of sexual addiction. The original email message: "Hello Mistress, I am a married man…
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One of the most important things for a sex addict to be able to do is to identify when the voice of his addiction is speaking, as opposed to the voice of his truth. Determining which voice is speaking is a game-changer in the life of an addict. In this scenario the addict becomes accountable and he becomes empowered. Which voice does he want to lis…
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Sex addicts as well as those who love them are oftentimes overwhelmed by the challenges that face addicts on the journey to recovery. It can be difficult to know what is going on in the mind of a sex addict, especially when he has become so accustomed to checking out mentally and emotionally that he, himself, is not fully aware of where he is on hi…
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How To Know If You Are Ready For BDSM Counseling
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If you struggle with , sex, or masturbation addictions, you may have considered getting counseling. This podcast will help you to know if you are, in fact, ready for that counseling. What does it take to receive support for addictions of a sexual nature? What frame of mind should one be in to receive said support? Though an unlicensed professional,…
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Men seek assistance for sexual addiction everyday. They want to understand how they became addicted. They want to know if they can be helped, and if so, how? I received a question today that moved Me. After answering the individual's question, I decided to turn our interraction into a podcast. I hope that this will help someone. The question: "Hell…
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Have you ever thought about what constitutes a submissive male? Mistress Alisa reviews a couple of profiles of online submissive males. She points out the good and the bad of each profile, and gives Her opinion on why each selected individual is or is not a true submissive male (sub). Mistress Alisa also helps subs to understand what they may be do…
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This podcast is inspired by an instagram post that acknowledges the power of receiving a good orgasm, but that also places value in such things as receiving emotional support, and on receiving support for one's personal growth and development. Mistress Alisa talks about having a holistic approach to BDSM, when there is such an overwhelming focus on…
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Do you know how to choose a good Dominatrix to serve? Mistress Alisa reviews a couple of profiles of online Dominatrices. She points out the good and the bad of each profile, and gives Her opinion on why each selected Domme is or is not a true Dominatrix. Mistress Alisa also helps subs to understand what to look for when they are looking for a true…
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Let's take a closer look at what BDSM Counseling is, what it is not, and why it exists. When I decided to transition from Dominatrix to kink-friendly counselor, I struggled with finding an effective way to describe to clients the service that I was offering. Finally, the term "BDSM Counseling" came to mind, and over the past few years it has stuck.…
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If the relationships in your life are bound by the glue of dysfunction, and you decide that you want to move out of the dysfunctional space, it is only a matter of time before the people in your life start to take notice. And chances are that the ones closest to you - you know, the ones that connected with you because of the dysfunction - are not g…
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Holiday seasons are known for being joyous occasions, but they can be excruciatingly painful for individuals who find themselves isolated because of their past actions. And the same actions that led to isolation can, ironically, seem compelling to an individual who finds himself in the depths of despair. Add a holiday season to this mix and things …
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During this brief podcast, Mistress Alisa issues a much-needed public service announcement to the BDSM community, and to those who may be interested in becoming involved. Drawing from a recent encounter with a potential submissive, Mistress Alisa briefly touches on the toxi situation that the client created and what her take on the situation was. T…
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Confessions of a Submissive Man: FrankS #1
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FrankS joins Mistress Alisa in an open talk about the implications of depression on sexual addiction. Tune in to hear this true submissive speak about finding himself obsessed with kink, and the methods that he is using to walk into a healthier space. Mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually, he is healing and he has some insights to share t…
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Confessions of a Submissive Man: MarkX #1
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MarkX has been a BDSM Counseling client of Mistress Alisa's for close to a year and a half. Mistress Alisa and Mark begin this interview in the middle of a "heated" discussion in which Mark's ability to trust and to truly submit are called into question. Moving forward in the interview, Mark discusses the issues that he experienced with addiction a…
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In the world of addiction, the addict becomes so consumed with what he wants that, it is only after he gets what he wants and grows bored with it, that he even begins to consider what he actually needs. Addiction recovery has a lot to do with acknowledging what one actually needs and committing to those needs. Do you need for your penis to orgasm s…
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Confessions of a Submissive Man: BrianR #1
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BrianR has been in submissive training with Mistress Alisa for just a little bit under a month. However, his progress has been impressive. So impressive, in fact, that Mistress Alisa decided to have him on the show to share intimate details about his journey, thus far. During this interview, Brian has been teased and denied, on and off, over the co…
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Men have conversations with their penises all the time, but most of the time they have no idea what they are even doing. And because they are unaware of the fact that there is, in fact, an on-going dialogue going on with their penises, they would be surprised to find out that a great deal of the conversation is one-sided. The dick tells them what t…
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In her very first "story time segment," Mistress Alisa shares details of how one of her clients threw away months of hard work, all because he assigned too high of a value to a blowjob. Learning to create a safe place in which you and your partner are able to flourish together is tricky enough as it is. But when one's sexual mindset has been condit…
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SamS has been on a year-long BDSM journey with Mistress Alisa - a journey in which She is the Dominant female who directs his path and one in which he is the submissive male who learns to submit. He opens up about the ups and downs of his relationship with Her during that time. Sam speaks frankly about his feelings and the lessons that he has learn…
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The BDSM lifestyle can be quite compelling, and yet it can also be pretty intimidating. It can be harmful and yet it can be fulfilling. It can stunt one's emotional and sexual self, and yet it can free those very same parts of a person. Mistress Alisa gives an overview of 5 things to do before becoming involved in the lifestyle. Whether you are int…
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Mistress Alisa explores the differences between submission and co-dependency. It is not uncommon in the BDSM lifestyle to run across individuals who try to sell co-dependency as submission. It is a problematic practice, at least. And, in most extreme cases, it can actually be dangerous. In this episode of Heart and Soul, she offers sound advice to,…
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Mistress Alisa, a professional Dominatrix and BDSM Counselor comes to the rescue. This is an introduction to the radio show that will answer your burning questions about BDSM, and revolutionize the way that people see BDSM, addiction, and relationships. For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com…
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In the face of seeing an increase in the number of religious leaders battling with sex, , and masturbation addictions, Alisa has decided that it is time to speak up on the issue. She touches on the trends of hiding behind religious rituals and titles, of doing the right things for the wrong reasons, and of investing more heavily in creating the app…
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On the journey to addiction recovery, knowing one’s passion in life, and embracing it, is crucial. The working definition of passion in these podcast has nothing to do with sex or eroticism. Instead, it has to do with one’s truth, one’s calling, one’s destiny, one’s purpose. For, it is impossible to simply stop an addictive pattern and to move forw…
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Working through addiction takes an immense amount of focus. Learn to listen to the voice of your truth; to make that voice more important than the voice of addiction. For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.comBy AlisaCoaches
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The pitfalls of are almost too numerous to count, but Mistress Alisa lays out some of the most detrimental of them all. She also includes some helpful advice for finding your light at the end of the tunnel. For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.comBy AlisaCoaches
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