Jimmy Hinton, a minister, and his mother, Clara Hinton, reported Jimmy's father when a victim reported to them that she'd been abused. Sadly, this is rare. Churches typically defend and protect abusers. This show is dedicated to the millions of survivors who have been mistreated or not believed by the church. Jimmy and Clara wish to bring hope to survivors and shift the current culture in the churches that are perpetuating abuse.
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Hey listeners! After over half a decade of podcasting, we've decided to make some big changes in life. We'll be making a big shift in our focus, so tune in to hear what we'll be up to and why we decided to wind the podcast down. We're so grateful to everyone who has listened to us for the past five years. Thank you isn't adequate to show our apprec…
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Episode 248 | Sifting Through Mental Illness and Scams
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Trauma has a very difficult effect on survivors. Unfortunately there are scammers too. We have to distinguish between people who suffer with mental illness and people who are scammers. The former need us to point them to good resources and the latter need blocked. Sometimes it's very difficult to distinguish. In this episode we use real examples. J…
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Episode 247| Whistleblower Exposes ICC "Cult" That Ignored Abuse for Decades
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Meet Chele Roland, the whistleblower who exposed the International Churches of Christ for decades of abuse cover-ups. After podcasting about her own abuse on WhaTheFlok podcast, Chele began getting all kinds of messages from survivors of abuse from the International Churches of Christ. The ICOC/ICC, known as "The Boston Movement," put a huge emphas…
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Episode 246 | Lives Are Spared Because of You Listeners!
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A little over a month ago we had an episode on helping our friend in Haiti purchase a motorcycle so that he could deliver food, water, and medicine to desperate people. Not only did we meet our goal, but we actually surpassed it with enough money to purchase more food and medicine. In a world with lots of bad news, we wanted to share some good. We …
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Episode 245 | Change Your Attitude Change Your Outcome
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We saw a recent video by Steve Harvey about the importance of stopping negative self-talk. It was so powerful, and we wanted to share how important it is to have a proper attitude to change the outcome of our lives. Our talk, both negative and positive, really can determine the direction our lives will take. Steve Harvey Video: https://youtu.be/yWD…
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Episode 244 | What To Do About Non-Reportable Instances of Abuse
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Not everything is reportable when it comes to abuse. So many people feel stuck because they don't know what to do when they cannot report to police. Should you tell anyone? Who should you tell? What do you tell them? Find out in this episode. Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and…
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Episode 243| People Defending James MacDonald
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James MacDonald was recently arrested for felony charges of assault by means likely to produce great bodily injury. MacDonald beat up a 59 year old woman and sent her to the hospital when there was a small fender bender. People have been defending Mr. MadDonald, saying that he was framed, he's innocent until proven guilty, and that we need to focus…
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Edpisode 242| Dalai Lama's Pathetic Apology
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Why in the world did the Dalai Lama ask a young boy to suck his tongue? The fact that this was called out so publicly is a great sign that people are fed up with people acting creepy toward our young children. In this episode we talk about the extremely inappropriate comment, including kissing the boy on the lips, followed by a very weak apology. T…
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There's one theme that runs thick among all survivors - loss. And it's not just survivors of abuse. So many millions of people have lost so much. Death is also something that we all will have to face, both among loved ones and we have to face the reality that we ourselves will die, guaranteed. Grief reaches us in tons of different ways and often we…
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Episode 240 | Beware of Self Proclaimed Experts
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We're really don't like the term "expert" anymore. Writing a book, taking a course, or holding a certificate or political office doesn't necessarily make someone an expert. There are lots of people in every field who claim to be experts but they lack credibility. Credibility is far superior to claiming expertise, especially when it comes to trauma.…
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Episode 239 | Do I Need To Immediately Forgive My Abuser?
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Most often survivors are told to immediately forgive their abuser yet no demands are placed on the abuser. Survivors are told that this is the only way they can receive healing. We long for the day when justice is sought FIRST, then people talk about forgiveness. In the end, what keeps us all safe from abusers is when some form of justice keeps the…
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You won't want to miss this story of our good friend in Haiti who needs our help. It's incredible how things come full circle and that someone we met over a decade ago has made such an impact on us. We're helping raise money for our good friend Julien for transportation so he can deliver food and medicine to people in his community. If you'd like t…
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Episode 237 | Surprising Stats About Prisoners In the US
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Very often we are contacted about churches that invite sex offenders into their worship services. We also are asked what the chances are of getting a conviction when abuse is reported. We found some recent statistics on prisons in the US and, to be honest, we were a little surprised. There is a big disparity between the number of sex offenders in p…
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Episode 236 | Which Abuse Prevention Training Is Right for You?
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Believe it or not, there aren't that many training courses out there on abuse prevention. Perhaps that's why we have such an epidemic of abuse. In this episode, we talk about the pros and cons of in-person versus online content and look at a couple different training options that might be right for you! Jimmy and Clara's Training Videos (with more …
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Surprisingly, we get asked a lot if we still have faith in God after all that our family has been through. The answer is a resounding YES. We had plenty of faith struggles, but we came out stronger in our belief of God. There is a lot of ugliness in the world and, unfortunately, in the church too. When everything was stripped from us, all we had le…
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Episode 234 | Deception Detection Techniques from the FBI
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I once had the privilege to learn from former FBI agent Jim Clemente. His passion for profiling, the fact that he's a survivor of child sexual abuse, and his vast knowledge of abusers' techniques make him a leading expert. He really was a catalyst for getting me started on researching abuse techniques. Deception detection is a very important skill …
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Epsiode 233 | Helping People Find Safe Shelter
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In this episode we share dos and don'ts when helping people find safe shelter. Domestic violence is the leading cause of people needing to find safe shelter. But those people are very vulnerable and often fall prey to people who are waiting to take advantage of them, making them worse off than they were before they left their abuser. It's important…
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Epsiode 232 | Abuse Statistics and Predictions for 2023
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There are some troubling trends with sexual abuse, violence, and drug abuse in the US. Each year we read the Pennsylvania annual report on abuse to gauge what is happening with abuse in our state. Then we look at national statistics. Unfortunately, the numbers are not easing. There are a lot of compound traumas that families are facing. In this epi…
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Episode 231| Domestic Violence Is Rising Dramatically
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There has been a recent string of murder-suicides in the news since the new year. Domestic violence has been dubbed the "Shadow Pandemic" and is giving way to large numbers of calls to police. Many of the women who were murdered had a history of telling friends they felt unsafe, filing protective orders, and were making futile attempts to stay sepa…
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We're not even two weeks in and this year has already proven to be a monster. Just today (after this recording) I got news that a beloved friend passed away this morning. Millions of people are trying to learn how to cope with compound trauma. In this episode we talk about how grief grips us and how we have learned to embrace it. Jimmy’s book, The …
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Episode 229 | A Year In Review and BIG NEWS!!
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Well, 2022 came to a close and handed the baton to 2023! What a year 2022 was. There were lots of ups and downs. In this episode, we talk about the challenges we faced in 2022 and what we plan to do about it for 2023 (hint--I think anyone who is struggling will enjoy this news!)!! Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids…
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Episode 228 | Mary Byler Amish Misfit
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Mary Byler joins us to discuss her new book, "Reflections and Memories of an Amish Misfit: My Therapist Says That's Not True, But I Digress." This is one of the most important discussions we've had yet on abuse in Amish communities. Mary, who grew up Amish, suffered years of abuse at the hands of her father and brothers. Now freed from abuse, Mary …
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Episode 227 | Should the Church Die To Stop Abuse?
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Whether the church should completely crumble or continue to exist is a wildly hot topic right now. SO much abuse has taken place, and continues to take place, in the church. I often say that it's embarrassing at how terrible the church responds to abuse. And it's embarrassing at how many abusers are "restored" back to ministry positions. So does th…
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Episode 226 | What Does Forgive as the Lord Forgives Mean???
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We hear from people all the time that victims need to forgive their abusers no matter what. First of all, we disagree. Secondly, what does it mean to forgive as the Lord forgives? In an age when abusers are openly welcomed by the church, we really need to better understand what it means to forgive like God forgives. Article, A Perpetrator In the Pe…
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Episode 225 | Should My Church Allow Sex Offenders To Attend?
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Registered sex offender Dashawn Williams was charged with raping two women after serving only 3.5 years in prison for sex offenses against a 15 year old. According to the New York Post, Williams was released on parole 2 years ago. In addition to the case of the 15 year old girl, Williams had been arrested multiple times in the past for aggravated h…
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Episode 224: Should You Pay for Background Check Services?
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There are a lot of sites that will conduct all background checks for you in one click of a button, searching databases like the sex offender registry, criminal records, court records, and so on. Lots of people ask me what paid background check service I'd recommend. In this episode, we talk about a recent live demonstration we did, putting paid ser…
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Episode 223: Decency Will Win the Battle Against Abuse
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In a wildly divided and politically charged world, we believe that decency will win the day in the end! When people are treated with decency it completely changes their outlook on life. We can help improve the mental health of others by treating them with decency. In this episode we talk about the need for the advocacy community to lead the way in …
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Episode 222: Number of Female Pedophiles DOUBLES In Four Years
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A very recent article in the UK shows the dramatic uptick in female pedophile offenders. Experts in criminal justice are now recognizing that there are FAR more female pedophiles than we ever imagined. Virtually every study that exists on female predators is outdated. The world is constantly changing and we are officially a hyper-sexual culture. Ki…
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Episode 221: School Teachers 100 Times More Likely To Abuse Kids than Catholic Priests
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In this episode, we discuss the sharp rise in women teachers as abusers and how this has a major impact on our schools. The statistics for sexual predators as teachers is on the rise, and so is the number of female abusers. What in the world is going on in our schools and what can we do about it? Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Fath…
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Episode 220: We Did Our First Live Abuse Prevention Training!
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In this episode, we talk about our newest endeavor for our patrons. We just began a monthly live Zoom session where we do specialized abuse prevention training. These trainings come from over 10 years of research and experience traveling the country, training the military, police departments, corrections officers, schools, and churches. As you can …
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Episode 219: Why Are Registered Sex Offenders Allowed on Facebook?
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Did you know that it's perfectly legal for registered sex offenders to be on social media? That's right, as long as they're not on supervision even sexually violent predators can have as many social media accounts as they want. This means they are on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and any popular social media platforms your children and grandchildr…
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Episode 218: What To Expect When Reporting Abuse
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Lots of people wonder what to expect when reporting abuse. Heck, we did too. There are so many unknown variables that it's impossible to predict the future, but we hope to ease some concerns in this episode. We share why we reported and what some things are that people can expect when they make a report. Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minis…
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Episode 217: When Kids Display Signs of Abuse
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We get asked by many parents what to do when their kids are displaying signs of abuse. In this episode, we talk about what those signs are and how parents should intervene. Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm…
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Episode 216: Middle School Boys Create "Pedo Database" for Creepy Teacher and He's Now On Leave
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If ever there is reason for hope, it is this! After witnessing female classmates being sexually harassed by their teacher, a group of middle school boys in Rhode Island reported to higher-ups. When the administration failed to report or take action, the boys took matters into their own hands. They started a Discord channel, documenting the creepy b…
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Episode 215: Our Top 5 Components of Good Abuse Prevention Training
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Child abuse prevention training is inadequate at best. In this episode, we share our top 5 components that are necessary for a good training. Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dp Support us on Patreon…
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Episode 214: Our Abuse Training Is All Wrong
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Nobody in their right mind would lock themselves inside a burning building. The same should be true for active shooters. Nobody should willingly lock themselves inside a building with a shooter. Yet many outdated trainings teach people to do exactly that. Uvalde, TX is a case-in-point of everything gone wrong. Many innocent lives were lost because …
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Episode 213: Children of the Underground - People Living In Fear
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FX has a new docu-series called Children of the Underground. There is a real crisis of victims of abuse whom the system has failed. Our laws cannot protect everyone and often abused children are put right back into the homes of their abusers. In this episode we talk about this crisis and how people can get involved on a local level to help catch so…
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Episode 212: Proof the SBC STILL Doesn't Get It!
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The SBC is being investigated by the Department of Justice. This would be enough to make anyone shake in their boots. But not the SBC. Instead they chose to minimize DECADES of harassing victims, putting known pedophiles back in the pulpit, and threatening victims with their top attorneys. Since the DOJ announced that they are investigating the SBC…
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Episode 211: Pedophiles Among Us - How Do We Respond? (Part 2)
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Pedophiles are all around us. Registered sex offenders are everywhere. Other known sex offenders are in our circle of friends and family. Then there are all the predators who are abusing children but are have not been found out yet. There are three basic schools of thought: (1) put all child sexual predators on an island somewhere, (2) welcome them…
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Episode 210: Pedophiles Among Us - How Do We Respond? (Part 1)
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Pedophiles are all around us. Registered sex offenders are everywhere. Other known sex offenders are in our circle of friends and family. Then there are all the predators who are abusing children but are have not been found out yet. There are three basic schools of thought: (1) put all child sexual predators on an island somewhere, (2) welcome them…
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Episode 209: Easiest Way to Spot a Child Abuser (Part 5)
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There's a reason why people keep getting fooled by child abusers. They blend in really well with the rest of us. The fruits they produce look just like the fruits you and I produce. It's not until we inspect those fruits that we realize how rotten it is on the inside. We developed a tool to help identify and inspect the fruits that abusers produce.…
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Episode 208: Easiest Way to Spot a Child Abuser (Part 4)
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There's a reason why people keep getting fooled by child abusers. They blend in really well with the rest of us. The fruits they produce look just like the fruits you and I produce. It's not until we inspect those fruits that we realize how rotten it is on the inside. We developed a tool to help identify and inspect the fruits that abusers produce.…
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Episode 207: Easiest Way to Spot a Child Abuser (Part 3)
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There's a reason why people keep getting fooled by child abusers. They blend in really well with the rest of us. The fruits they produce look just like the fruits you and I produce. It's not until we inspect those fruits that we realize how rotten it is on the inside. We developed a tool to help identify and inspect the fruits that abusers produce.…
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Episode 206: Easiest Way to Spot a Child Abuser (Part 2)
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There's a reason why people keep getting fooled by child abusers. They blend in really well with the rest of us. The fruits they produce look just like the fruits you and I produce. It's not until we inspect those fruits that we realize how rotten it is on the inside. We developed a tool to help identify and inspect the fruits that abusers produce.…
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Episode 205 Easiest Way to Spot a Child Abuser (Part 1)
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There's a reason why people keep getting fooled by child abusers. They blend in really well with the rest of us. The fruits they produce look just like the fruits you and I produce. It's not until we inspect those fruits that we realize how rotten it is on the inside. We developed a tool to help identify and inspect the fruits that abusers produce.…
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Episode 204: How the Bible Describes Wolves (and It's Not Nice)
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The Bible describes a class of people who have not, do not, and will not ever change. It's an impossibility. Their hearts have been so hardened that they have zero desire to change. Jesus says that a bad tree CANNOT produce good fruit. In this episode, we share scriptures that speak to this. And there are many of them. Wolves are not sheep, plain a…
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Episode 203: Abusers Don't Change (The Bible Says So)
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Abusers will never change. A person who oppresses innocent people for their own pleasure is warped. The Bible repeatedly refers to them as wolves. Wolves don't change, because they can't change. This episode kicks off a series on how to positively recognize and identify a wolf in sheep's clothing. Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Fat…
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Episode 202: Pastor John Lowe II Confronted By Woman He Raped When She Was 16
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"I was just 16 when you took my virginity on your office floor. Do you remember that?" Those are the words from Bobbi Gephart, who confronted her abuser in front of his congregation after he gave a "confession" of an "affair" some 20 years ago. John Lowe II lied on stage, telling his church that he had an "affair," leaving out an important detail--…
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Episode 201: SBC Secret Database Proves Leaders Never Cared About Victims
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It keeps getting worse and worse for the SBC. The more we learn, the more we realize it is reckless at best and, at worst, completely incapable of change. After publicly claiming that it was impossible to create a database, we now know that it had it's own secret list of predator pastors all along. The SBC has a long road ahead, but honestly we're …
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Episode 200: Top 20 Lessons We Learned Podcasting
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This marks our 200th episode! This is a huge milestone for us, so we decided to share our top 20 lessons we've learned from podcasting over the past few years. We've cried and laughed a lot over the course of 200 episodes. But most importantly, we've met many people who have taught us so much. We wanted to share those lessons with you! Jimmy’s book…
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