Franklin Veaux Podcasts

In part 1 of another 2-parter, we explore the wide whacky world of pervertibles! What are pervertibles? They’re anything with an ordinary, innocuous purpose that can be pressed into service as sex toys. Wooden spoons? Great for paddling! Chip clips? They reseal plastic bags to keep your potato chips (crisps for you Brits) fresh, but also make excel…

It's been a while, but we're back, with a new episode about asexuality! Well, a sort of new episode. This episode was up briefly, but the audio was garbled, so we've fixed the problem and it's back. Anyway, in this episode, we talk about the many flavors of asexuality. We chat with Kitty about the broad range of attitudes, drives, and behaviors tha…

We're diving into a reader question on creating effective community spaces. This episode we discuss safer spaces, braver spaces and creative interventions. Is the ban hammer the way to go or are there compassionate ways to manage safety concerns? What does success look like for a harms process? References:chrome-extension://efaidnbmnnnibpcajpcglcle…

In this episode, we’re doing something new. Eunice and Franklin have never read or seen 50 Shades of Grey, so Joreth reads it to us as we record our reactions in real time. Specifically, Joreth reads us the scene where Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele negotiate their BDSM relationship, noteworthy in the annals of erotic fiction because Christian…

How is sex work like that guy in Mad Max: Fury Road who rode into combat playing a flamethrowing guitar? We talk about that in this episode of The Skeptical Pervert! This episode was delayed by a misadventure with COVID-19 and a hard drive crash. but it takes more than that to keep us down. In this episode, we examine how the concept of 'sex work' …

Welcome, fans! After delays caused by a hard drive crash and COVID, we're back (at last!) with the second of the two-part look at sex work through history. In this episode, we chat about the Winchester Geese, a group of sex workers managed by the Bishop of Winchester, and muse about several historical sex worker philanthropists who seemed a lot mor…

Sex work: Mankind's oldest profession, right? Today we continue our series on sex work by looking at sex work (and some of the common myths and misperceptions about sex work) throughout recorded history. The history of sex as a profession is complex, and many of the things you might believe about it turn out not to have much of a historical basis. …

What "counts" as sex work? When you hear the words "sex work," what image does that bring up in your mind? In this episode, we discuss forms of sex work that most people don't think about when they think "sex work," and we talk to "Andrew," a former male sex worker. Andrew (not his real name) has some insights to offer about the differences between…

In this episode, we talk about online sex work, the weird OnlyFans bump in the road where they threatened to ban sex workers and then backed down, and we interview Mistress Ivy, one of the top OnlyFans earners, about online sex work. Along the way, we talk about everything from NFTs to the unexpected effects of laws that try to "protect" sex worker…

This episode brings you the second of the two-part interview with sex educator and activist Ms. Ashley about evidence-based, factual sex education. In this far-ranging conversation, we talk about sexual health, being the person your kids feel safe talking to, myths about sex, how to handle questions about sex, and values-based vs. evidence-based ed…

In this episode, we bring you the first part of a two-part interview with sex educator and sex-positive activist Ms. Ashley, as we talk about the value of evidence-based, scientifically accurate sexual education. Ms. Ashley is a sex educator who teaches an adaptation of the Our Whole Lives curriculum. In part 1 of our interview, we discuss the vari…

Episode 69 (Over Rated Sex Acts) is now live!Join us as we discuss how to navigate common events in polyamory communities. What difficulties do attendees experience engaging in new spaces? Get a better understanding of how community leaders approach community events. Learn ways to become more involved and how to create a space that fits you best. D…

In this episode, we look at the book Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, and discuss the idea that libido isn't a simple drive toward sex, but rather a combination of "accelerators" and "brakes" that either drive us toward sexual engagement or inhibit sexual desire. We also take the accele…

Laugh with us as we giggle and guffaw in our 69th episode discussing overrated sex acts. We normally bring you heavy topics, but this episode is all about fun. We would like to caveat that the information presented is based on our own experiences and opinions. C*m and celebrate with us getting to number 69. Don’t forget to subscribe if you want not…

In this episode, part of our mini-series of sex during a global plague, we take a skeptical look at a paper published in the journal Leisure Sciences called “Less Sex, but More Sexual Diversity: Changes in Sexual Behavior during the COVID-19 Coronavirus Pandemic.” Along the way, we talk about the null hypothesis, the scientific method, and evaluati…

In part 2 of our Sex in a Pandemic miniseries, we take a look at...sex tech! How does it change sexual connections in an era of social distancing? What does it mean going forward?

So you may have noticed there's a global plague happening right now. In the first part of a series on sex in the time of a pandemic, we look at how the age of COVID can affect people's sex lives.

Aphrodisiacs! What are they? Are they real? Is there, in fact, something you can take to make you horny? In this episode, we explore aphrodisiacs, the mythology around them, the scientific evidence (spoiler: every food or supplement that's been tested in double-blind studies has failed), and the new class of melanocortin-agonist aphrodisiac drugs.…

Good day, and welcome to our show, eh? In this episode, we introduce the Skeptical Pervert podcast. Who are we, and what is this all about? What do we mean when we say we take a rational approach to human sexuality? In this episode, meet your hosts Franklin, Joreth, and Eunice, and find out a little bit about what we're trying to do!…

You asked for an episode on the ethics of Unicorn Hunting and we gave it to you! Listen to Michael, Mandee, and Sarah discuss the defining factors for Unicorn Hunting. What are the red flags and prep work needed if you are considering this relationship style or being approached to join a couple? We also discuss how to address Unicorn Hunting as a g…

Join us as we welcome back Sarah and introduce a method of creating durable, modular, and ethical agreements to help you meet your safer sex goals. Once a much talked about concept fluid bonding agreements have fallen out of favor in ethical non-monogamy for being often problematic and hierarchal, and we can’t help but agree. However, there were so…

In this episode we look at building up trust and open honest communication, especially how to build trust with people who have experienced betrayals in the past, from yourself or others. We also look at the power of gratitude and communication tools to make it all work.By Probably Poly

Episode 65 (Crystal Byrd Farmer on The Token) is now live!We are very lucky to have Crystal Byrd Farmer drop by this week to talk about her book. “The Token” is a practical guide, including workshops, on how to look critically at majority communities wishing to increase diversity across any axis as well as common mistakes, how well meaning people a…

We have the amazing honor this week of interviewing five of the people who spoke up about their experiences with Franklin Veaux, who have gone collectively by the name "the Franklin Veaux survivors" (although they don't all individually identify as survivors) — Melanie, Rose, Celeste, Eve and Marissa. We talk about what went right and what went wro…

In this episode explore the ethics of closed relationships. This includes explicitly non-monogamous closed relationships (often called poly-fidelitous) as well as how unintentionally closed relationships that represent or see themselves as open form.Visual Resource for Boundaries, Wants & Needs Visualization: probablypoly.com/resources…

In this episode we invite therapist Dr. Daniel Stillwell on the show to discuss the difference between the ways in which he applies the theories of boundaries, needs, and wants in his practice and common ways these theories are discussed or talked about in relationship help texts and the poly community at large. We separate multiple functioning way…

Episode 61 (Couples Privilege) is now live!If you have at least one relationship then you have couples privilege. In this episode we look at what causes couples privilege, why it is so hard to see in yourself, and what we can do to help alleviate the sorts of harms that couples privilege is likely to cause. Join Our Next Chat tomorrow Saturday Nove…

We attempt to provide both theory and application advise in relationship ethics. One of the best ways to do that is to take information from one or more of our theory episodes and apply them to a detailed case provided by a listener. This is the first of our case study series and it looks at a very difficult and intertwined situation of a person re…

One of the most common confusions we hear in Ethical Non-Monogamy is, what exactly are boundaries, needs, and wants. How can you tell them apart? How can you tell if your partner really has a need or if it’s just a want? In this episode we tackle these questions and more as we attempt to clearly explain boundaries, needs, and wants.Join Our Next Ch…

Consent is one of the most difficult and important topics in interpersonal ethics. Join us as we try and work out some of the more difficult questions associated with this tangled topic. What exactly do we mean when we say “consent”. What sort of consent can we give? When is consent alone not enough to guarantee that an interaction is ethical.Citat…

Sharing emotions with the people around you is a cornerstone of authenticity but its easier said than done (especially in a culture which unfairly praises apparent objectivity), and much easier said than done to do it ethically. This week we look at all the benefits of that emotional content, the myth of the neutral “logical” position, and how to e…

This week we look at the origins of shame and other judgmental moral emotions. What role they played evolutionarily and the ethical problems they present and how these harmful emotions are bound up in the desire and problems with gatekeeping the term polyamory itself.By Probably Poly

While everyone deals with mourning, as non-monogamous individuals we also need to be able and willing to support our partners through the loss of other partners. In this episode we deal with loss and how to mourn losses and integrate those adjustments into your own life as well as some of the best ways to support others do the same. All forms of lo…

Join us this week for a lighter, but still socially responsible, discussion of how to use relationship games to improve your long distance relationships by adding depth and allowing emotional bonding on par with in person relationships. This episode is of course a little more explicit than our regular content. This episode both introduces these con…

I do not have a pithy teaser for you this week. This episode was difficult to record and difficult to edit. We explain why all of us who want to lay a claim to being ethical must participate in the Black Lives Matter movement to the best of our ability, why all oppression must be fought everywhere and every time we find it, and why ENM and Polyamor…

This week we made our first episode in a new series we are calling Probably Poly Particulars. This is basically a zoomed in topic done as a video and we were so fortunate to have Ash Williams of Charlotte Uprising, a local organizer working in the BLM movement on the show to talk about the amazing work they are doing in charlotte. The only problem …

Join us as we look at common claims against autonomy inside of relationships and expose how we are likely not talking about autonomy and even if we are it may not be the most helpful lens to use. Along the way we troubleshoot what you are most likely dealing with and approaches to resolving those sorts of issues.Join us again next Saturday, June, 6…

In this episode we break down the perceived barrier between doing and being and examine how what we do makes up who we are and how even those things that we might think of as being intrinsic are still projects whether we realize it or not. Join us again this Saturday, May, 23rd from 5 to 7 EST live on Zoom using the following https://us02web.zoom.u…

In this episode we look at the final update from the FV survivor pod and an update directly from the survivors, including the updated public survivor asks. We look at the process trajectory and think about take aways and say thanks for all the hard work. In polyamory we know transitions and partial endings are as important as beginnings so we hope …

We are very lucky to have polyamorous relationship coach and author Robin Beatch join us this week. We discuss a wide range of topic, including but not limited too, how proper sleep manages stress., how to reconcile various communication styles, and special gifts to help touch your partners from a distance.Join us again this Saturday, April, 25th f…

This week we dive into how large life changes outside of our control effect our sense of self and how we can reclaim that to the best of our abilities. We utilize the current events as a lens sharing how our lives have personally been affected and what our new normals look like, the difficulties, the profound causes for hope, as well as how to make…

We recorded this episode about togetherness and celebrations before the Corona Virus decended on us, sorry about that, but its still full of good content about how to handle birthdays with partners, friends and metamores, as well as a celebration of Mandee Conant’s actual birthday (Happy Birthday Mandee).…

This week we talk about the difficult but ever-present issue of sharing social spaces with ex partners, as well as navigating how to handle the possibility of getting back together with an ex years later.By Probably Poly

This week Chanee Jackson Kendall cofounder of Black Poly Pride drops by to tell us about their Black Poly History push for Black History Month as well as tell us all about Black Poly Pride and discuss other issues about being black and poly. Please check them out on whatever digital engagement works best for you and support them if you can. Website…

As Valentines approaches we discuss internet dating options, how to set up your profile to maximize matches, and why you probably don’t want to, as well as how to manage NRE for a safer more consistent ride at the beginning of those new relationships.By Probably Poly

This week we had two wonderful listener questions but they were both too long to be an intro and not long enough to be full episodes so we paired them together to get one full episode. What do you say when someone asks you to tell them if they are poly or not? For that matter how do you know you are poly? Thats the meat of the first half of the epi…

In this episode we discuss, well basically every facet of effort and reviving effort, or gratitude. We look at why we might be resentful of how our effort is received, how receiving too much effort might be difficult, how it’s likely that everyone in the relationship is working much harder than you realize and much more. So join us for a deep dive …

In this episode we use the holidays as a framing device to do a pretty deep dive into when and how it is morally acceptable to lie. We hit the whole range from big potentially life saving lies down to little white lies and even if lies meant to improve the wonder of children like Santa Clause are really super helpful. We hope you are having a wonde…

This week Angel Kalafatis-Russell aka Professor Sex of ProfessorSex.com joins us to discuss the ethics of STI testing, treatment, and disclosure. As well as best safe practices for safer sex and STi testing. This super long pre-holiday episode features our new sound software made possible by the generous donations of our listeners. Thank you so muc…

However, I finished this episode after working at 15 hour shift installing tile, that is how much I love all of you. But if there are any mistakes or glitches please let me know and I will fix them ASAP because I need sleep far more than I need to review this episode right now. This week one of the other cofounders of Young Poly Carolina’s drops by…