For more than five years, New Zealand investigative journalist Aaron Smale has been digging into the injustices - and crimes - of the state welfare system of Aotearoa New Zealand. Of all the unbelievable stories he has investigated, none is more shocking than what happened to children and adolescents at Lake Alice Psychiatric Hospital in the 1970s under the supervision of head psychiatrist Selwyn Leeks. This podcast contains descriptions of physical, sexual and psychological abuse perpetrate ...
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A podcast about good sex, good relationships and how to have them. Follow creator and host Melody Thomas as she meets everyday New Zealanders, who speak with striking openness and vulnerability about real issues in their sex and love lives. Meet internationally renowned experts with practical advice that you can use in your own life. The Good Sex Project is an internationally-award winning sexual revolution in podcast form. Get listening now! The Good Sex Project is made with the support of ...
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BONUS: Aging well with Dr Olivia Smart + Nic Beets
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Gynaecologist Dr Olivia Smart and Clinical Psychologist Nic Beets talk about some of the physical, sexual, and mental health effects of ageing, including in depth discussion of peri, post, and menopause, and how to support your partner through these changes. They also touch on changes in the male body, and explain why getting older doesn't have to …
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Sex and ageing, we explore the intersection of sexuality, ageing, and personal transformation. Host Melody Thomas delves into stories from those experiencing newfound freedoms and adventures in their later years. From touching accounts of midlife crises to the joy of rediscovery, this episode sheds light on navigating sexual health, menopause, and …
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Journalist and author Anke Richter shares her personal journey through the world of neo-tantra and reveals how easy it can be to become entangled in high-demand groups. Tune into this bonus episode for an eye-opening conversation that spans personal diary, investigative journalism, and critical advice on how to navigate these complex dynamics. Let'…
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Is it possible to have sexual joy and spiritual faith? This episode of The Good Sex Project delves into the impact of purity culture. Phil and Lavinia share their journey from conservative Christian upbringings to embracing a different path for their family. We'll also hear from Chrissy and Mark, whose lives are intertwined with profound lessons ab…
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Inspired by Lisa Taddeo’s book, 'Three Women,' this episode follows the intimate journeys of Tracey, Leah, and Naomi through their experiences of love, desire, and identity. Navigating the deep waters of sexuality, societal expectations, and personal transformations across different generations, tune in for candid conversations that challenge norms…
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Introducing: The Trial - Philip Polkinghorne
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On Easter Monday 2021, police were called to the home of a successful professional couple in the affluent Auckland suburb of Remuera. They found the body of Pauline Hanna. In his emergency call, her husband, Philip Polkinghorne, said she killed herself. Sixteen months later he was charged with her murder. As this podcast is released, he's currently…
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What if we took it slow? In this episode we join one woman on her search for profound love and mind-blowing, soul-melding sex, travelling from scepticism to a deep, fulfilling relationship built on respect, patience, and divine slow-sex. You’ll hear about real techniques to slow it down and up the pleasure from Alissa Resnick of OMGYes. If you're c…
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BONUS: Emily Nagoski on the gender mirage, emotional floor plans and magic tricks
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In this extended interview, Melody Thomas talks with renowned sex educator and author Emily Nagoski. They explore the neuroscience behind desire and pleasure, debunk cultural myths, and discuss Emily's latest insights on creating lasting sexual connections. Tune in for actionable wisdom and transformative advice that could elevate your intimate lif…
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Come with us and explore the myths and truths of maintaining a satisfying sexual connection long-term. From dealing with mismatched libidos to sex after babies, we explore what it takes to sustain meaningful relationships and thriving sexual connections, with real stories from real couples and expert advice from world-renowned author and researcher…
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Are you unsure how to address sensitive topics like sex and pornography with your kids? Join host Melody Thomas in this special bonus episode, where experts Yumi Stynes and Dr Jane Cherrington share practical advice, personal anecdotes and crucial insights to help parents navigate these challenging conversations. Learn why it's essential to maintai…
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What happens when sex education falls short? From finger-blasting to pick-up artists, this episode follows three people who took learning into their own hands, including return guest and disability advocate Etta Bollinger's experience with sex workers and a young man's near-miss with incel culture. There's plenty of trial and error, as well as joyf…
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Would you like some pleasure with your politics? In this episode of The Good Sex Project, we explore how societal structures and cultural narratives impact sexual joy and freedom. We discuss the impact of ableism on sexuality with writer and disability activist Etta Bollinger, and chat to founders of a Māori ecosexuality kink zine (PARU) about recl…
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Episode 1 of The Good Sex Project Season 2 embarks on a journey through different decades, unearthing diverse personal experiences that shaped people's relationship to pleasure. Featuring heartfelt conversations, painful confessions, and joyful revelations from the stories of Sophia, Porte, and Mary - no one's journey has been a straight line. Tune…
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Buckle in and get ready for a fresh new season of The Good Sex Project! Hosted by Melody Thomas, this series delves deeper into the heart of what makes sex and relationships thrive. The first two episodes, ‘It’s My Pleasure’ and ‘Pleasure is Political,’ are out July 9! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices…
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Sometimes, relationships are better off ending. We figure out when it’s time to call it quits, how to break up amicably, and how endings make way for new beginnings. We also consider how aging plays into a person’s sexuality and how it’s never too late to find pleasure. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices…
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Pop culture and religion have told us that our soulmate - ‘the one’ - is out there. That our life partner should be our best friend, co-parent, confidant, intellectual sparring partner, sexual muse and all the things in between. But what if it works better when there’s more than two in a relationship? We speak to people who are engaging in ethical …
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BONUS: Live Q&A - Sex, Love & Relationship Masterclass
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In this bonus episode, Melody Thomas held a live 'Masterclass' with clinical psychologist and family therapist Nic Beets and together they took questions from our listeners. This episode is packed with expert advice on relationships, why some of them work and why some of them struggle, as well as practical tips and tools. Have you got something you…
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Extra listening for the extra interested! In this bonus episode, Melody speaks with renowned American sex educator and researcher Emily Nagoski, who's mission in life is to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesBy Stuff | Popsock Media
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Extra listening for the extra interested! In this bonus episode, Melody speaks with Wanaka-based somatic sexologist Sonia Waters about topics ranging from desire and libido in long term relationships, to recovering from trauma, to managing jealousy and watching pornography. Sonia is certified with the Somatic Sex Educators Association of Australasi…
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Long term love can be hard. We speak to couples who’ve got insight into how they make it through the tougher periods of their relationships, including having young children. We also get some guidance from experts including Dan Savage and somatic sexologist Sonia Waters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices…
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We delve into the biochemistry of those first tingly feelings for someone, and how all those raging chemicals can cloud our better judgment and lead to some toxic relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesBy Stuff | Popsock Media
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What does good, healthy & happy casual sex look and feel like in the age of dating apps? We speak to people who’ve negotiated their way into some pretty sexy situations using their open and honest communication skills. We also look at how mainstream porn has infiltrated our sex practices, and at what we can learn from the world of kink and BDSM. Le…
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What's the point in sex positivity if the sex we're having is bad? We speak with South Auckland musician Pati AF, who grew up a "holy girl" in the church before kicking off her "hoe phase" - by claiming her own body and sexuality back with explicit Instagram posts and random dating app hook-ups. She was empowered. So why wasn’t she having a great t…
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In this bonus episode, we meet the two Alices who share their later-in-life coming out stories. There's Alice Soper, one of New Zealand’s foremost voices on women’s rugby. She’d always told herself she was super straight - that is, until her OE to London changed everything she thought she knew. And comedian and writer Alice Snedden, funny, irrevere…
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In this episode, we explore how feelings about our own bodies can get in the way of our love lives. We follow three people on their journeys to self-love, self-acceptance and self-worth. Also feat. expert advice from psycho-sexologist Chantelle Otten Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices…
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New Zealanders have a lot of sex, but a lot of it is average. We meet three people who’ve had a lot of pretty average sex and not-so-healthy relationships. Also feat. Australian feminist writer and broadcaster Clementine Ford, and Emily Nagoski, the award-winning author of Come as You Are. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoi…
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Welcome to The Good Sex Project. Hosted by Melody Thomas, this is a podcast about good sex, good relationships, and how to have them. Out Now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesBy Stuff | Popsock Media
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Bonus episode: The police have made a decision about whether charges will be laid over what happened at Lake Alice - there's good news and bad news. And the Royal Commission releases findings which finally vindicate what the kids have been saying for decades. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices…
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Finally the kids of Lake Alice will have their chance to be heard at the Royal Commission of Inquiry. We follow the survivors to Auckland, where they reunite with old friends and take their truth to the stand. Will the Crown take accountability for harm perpetrated to children in its care? Will Dr Selwyn Leeks show? Expect emotional testimony, damn…
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There are so many outrageous stories about Lake Alice it can be hard to sort truth from conspiracy. Often something that starts out feeling far-fetched turns out to be true. In this episode: Scientologists, deep sleep experiments & the CIA, and how NZ was found guilty of torture by the United Nations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megapho…
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Kids could only stay at the Lake Alice Child & Adolescent for so long, and at 16 they were packed up and sent on. We follow the Lake Alice kids as they try to get on with their lives through the 80s and 90s, and meet Kevin Banks, who’s been fighting for justice for more than 40 years. Plus, Leoni decides to take on the Crown. Learn more about your …
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While the NZ public has some idea of what happened to the kids of Lake Alice, the true horror of it lies in unfiltered accounts of the day-to-day. For these children, things like eating dinner, going to bed or watching a movie all came with the possibility of assault, or even torture. In this episode, survivors take us inside the Lake Alice child a…
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A 13 Year old Niuean boy named Hake Halo smuggles a secret message to his family, written in the speech bubble of a smiling cartoon figure. It says: “fakesoka he fowa au tagi au” or, “I have been given electric shock by the people, Mum. The pain is very bad.” After he’s released, Hake finds an unlikely ally in a pākeha bug-scientist-turned-anti-rac…
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Rangi and Tyrone are in an institution unlike any they’ve been in before. There’s no other children, for a start, only mentally unwell and dangerous adult patients. But in 1972 they are joined by other kids, when the Lake Alice Child & Adolescent Unit officially opens its doors. Leoni McInroe is 14 when she arrives at Lake Alice, becoming one of th…
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As Rangi Wickliffe and Tyrone Marks go through the hell of New Zealand’s state welfare system, the boys form a powerful bond of friendship. Their journey is one of neglect and mistreatment, but also adventure and skulduggery, on the road to the notorious Lake Alice Psychiatric Facility. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices…
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For more than five years, New Zealand investigative journalist Aaron Smale has been digging into the injustices - and crimes - of the state welfare system of Aotearoa New Zealand. Of all the unbelievable events he has investigated, none is more shocking than what happened at Lake Alice. In this new seven-part podcast by Stuff and Popsock Media, Sma…
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