Parenting teens? Take it from two people who have been there, done that and came out on the other side with trusting relationships with their now-adult children. Prior to even considering coaching and podcasting, they got their most valuable certification - the approval of their now adult children. Join parenting coach duo, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison, every week as they share both their personal and professional experiences on building healthy relationships with preteens, teens and young ...
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The Power of Positive Speaking In this episode we chat about The Power of Positive Speaking. We discuss using words that focus on what we want to achieve or encourage, rather than what we want to avoid or eliminate. This subtle shift can make a big difference in how the message is received. By practicing positivity, we can foster an environment of …
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Perspective on Reliability and Regulation
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Episode 47: Reliability and Regulation in Parenting In this episode of Plan P: Parents Helping Parents Pivot Perspectives we deep dive into the concepts of reliability and regulation, focusing on how they impact our relationships, especially with adolescents. We'll break down these terms, explore their significance, and discuss how they shape effec…
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Personalize Your Plan Parenting adolescents can be challenging emotionally as we navigate their development. Humans, and human parents, can take things personally, especially when it comes to our children's behaviors and reactions. When parenting through the preteen, teen and young adult years a crucial question is HOW do we want to personalize, HO…
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Yes You CAN There are many actionable steps which parents CAN take to mitigate the negative effects of social media. Introducing three healthy C’s: Compassion, Communication, Collaboration which when used consistently can have positive effects. We’re back, and so is the Surgeon General who is considering placing warnings on social media due to addi…
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What You Permit You Promote In this episode we discuss the permission slips we give when we allow behaviors. Parents get accustomed to doing something for their child when the child could actually do it themselves as they age. We parents, all parents we would dare to say, sometimes allow our children to wear us down until we give them what they wan…
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Care of Self Self-Care reminders are ev-er-y-where!! We like to take things apart and putting care in front of self is something that we talk about all the time with parents. We have met many parents who reassure us that they have a lot of self-care practices, and they are still struggling. Putting care first can be harder than we think. What it fi…
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Producing and Practicing Can we all agree, parenting anxious adolescents can be anxiety producing! This week we’re talking about Jonathan Haidt’s latest book, The Anxious Generation. Parents are afraid, schools are stressed, and no surprise, trickle down anxiety, there’s an entire generation awash in anxiety...and the cycle goes around again. It ma…
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What is a belief? Beliefs are personal, not right or wrong. To believe that there are things we will never understand can be a challenge. Our beliefs about things outside our control inform our attitudes, they can cause us pain and despair, and also joy and release. What we humans can do is shift our attitude. Understanding that we do not hold all …
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Plugging into the Power (of Pausing) Pausing is a great way to invite an adolescent (or, okay, anyone!) into a conversation. Pausing when you are interacting with a preteen, teen or young adult can be hard, they move fast! How do you plug into the pause depends upon the situation and the individuals. Feeling like a Pushmi-Pullyu, pushing and pullin…
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Professionals often call us to consult and ask if a particular family falls under the scope of what we do here as coaches. Generally, the answer is yes, because what we do is help parents make a plan, and often work with them as that plan is implemented. Each family’s plan is completely unique based on what they want. In this episode we just chat a…
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Parenting is a relationship. A relationship which parents do not want to detach from! Letting a child hit “rock bottom”, “suffer the consequences” or many of the other “tough love” practices (which have been debunked but are very much still out there and are often suggested by friends and family who feel at a loss as to how to help and who often fe…
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How to Care, not coddle. In this episode we discuss what is no secret- there is a generation who are struggling, and parents are concerned. It makes total sense that conscious parents and educators who were aware of the significant spike in poor mental health starting to be observed in 2012 and continuing upward wanted to protect their children fro…
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Social Media We talk with parents A LOT about social media. How do you navigate this social media world? How do you navigate your relationship with your children’s relationship with social media? It’s a lot! Social Media is…..social! We all want to belong and feel significant, at every age, and this is an even more intense yearning during adolescen…
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In this episode we discuss Kim Scott’s book Radical Candor. Her book will not be found in the family section, because it’s a business book, but stay with us here, radical candor is basically being honest. Doesn’t sound radical, but being honest isn’t always easy. Caring is easy, as parents we care. What Scott talks about is challenging ourselves to…
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Resilience support How good are you at moving on after being disappointed or hurt or making a mistake? Resilience is not always easy. It is learned. When our children were younger, they built resilience when they were learning to ride a bike and they fell. Some kids got right back on, some kids cried and wanted to be held while they cried. We met t…
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Everyone knows that practice makes perfect, right? Yeahhhh. And, no! What if you could get away from the pressure of that illusion that perfection is possible? How does this notion of perfection impact our beloved preteen, teen and young adult children, because everywhere you look, they are feeling the pressure. How can we as individuals get away f…
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Personal Care Taking care of yourself when parenting preteens, teens and young adults can be challenging. We talk honestly about how hard it can be to take care of yourself from the very beginning of the parenting journey, and just when you think you might catch a break-and take a bath or read a book, get a mani-pedi or a massage….” just kidding” s…
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Planning Party Planning The luck of the Irish? Yeahhh, St. Patrick’s Day, as the parent of a teen? Doesn’t always make parents feel so lucky. The kids are growing up and the wearing of the green is oft accompanied by the drinking of the green beer, the green jello shots and well, goodness knows what else they’ve figured out to dye green besides the…
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Paradoxes Tap into the wisdom of Socrates, the Tao, Rumi and Erykah among others, as we help parents understand how to accept and apply the paradoxes presented by these wise people to parenting teens! If we know that we know nothing about anything, then what could we possibly teach our children? Ah, the wisdom of the ages is here to help and we are…
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The Power of Pollyanna Perspective There is much power to be found in positivity WHEN used properly! Pollyana can get a bad rap. We understand why. The ability to genuinely understand how to use, and not abuse or misuse, positivity is complicated. The reason we talk about it in this episode is because it can change interpersonal relationships for t…
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Understanding how to find balance while transitioning from boss of a child, to staying on as the trusted consultant to a young adult deserves a transition team! Sarah and Quin have got you! Parenting adolescents is for many the hardest part of the parenting journey. Staying positive can feel like a challenge but knowing that you have something posi…
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Pondering our part is parenting pertinent and also entirely possible. Accountability is the tune this week on the podcast and is a central tenant of secure parenting. Listen to Sarah and Quinn as they discuss listening and understanding where your part begins and ends. How do you find a place to hear different points of view, which your adolescent …
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Episode 26 Prioritize Understanding Others
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Parents understand the importance of paying attention to and listening to their children. This is a vital part of any healthy relationship. Listening is hard! In this episode Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison discuss and dial into how to take listening to the next level. Listening to understand is next-level listening. One step forward is repeating bac…
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The Prison of Perception: Coming Face to Face with Reality
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In this episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve deep into the intricate world of parental perception and its impact on our roles as caregivers. They shine a light on the common tendency to jump to conclusions about our teens' intentions, whether positive or negative, and how this perception can sometimes lead us astray. It becomes evident that…
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Planning & Pivoting: Redefining Our Goals
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What if success was failure and failure was success? In this thought-provoking episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve into the concept of setting and achieving goals, inspired by a compelling Ted Talk by former NFL player Emmanuel Acho. The discussion challenges conventional wisdom surrounding goals, emphasizing the importance of flexibility …
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Pillars of Trust: Presence, Engagement and Reliability
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Happy New Year! In the first episode of 2024, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison dive deep into the topic of trust, the cornerstone of strong parent-teen relationships. After a refreshing break over the holidays, they return to explore the dynamics of trust between parents and their teens. Trust is a two-way street, and the hosts discuss how it involves…
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Putting Care First: 2023 Recap & Reflections (Bonus)
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In this special bonus episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison bid farewell to 2023 with a heartfelt reflection on the growth and stretching they've experienced throughout the year, marked by new ventures, challenges, and the launch of this very podcast, Plan P! Sarah and Quinn also unveil exciting plans for 2024, offering listeners a sneak peek into…
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In this final episode of the year, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison guide parents through the unique challenges of the holiday season's grand finale: New Year's Eve. While Christmas often leans towards family-focused tranquility, New Year's Eve, particularly with teenage and young adult children, requires a different approach. Sarah and Quinn em…
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In this heartfelt episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison dive into the importance of being truly present, both emotionally and mentally, during the holiday season. Beyond the physical presence, they advocate for intentional mindfulness amidst the hustle and bustle that often engulfs this time of year. As the rush of holiday preparat…
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In this insightful follow-up to their discussion on holiday pressures, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison explore the essential concept of having a family plan in place for a festive, stress-free season. As families evolve and traditions shift with the passing years, it's crucial to engage in open discussions about how you'll spend the holidays. Sarah a…
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Pushing Through the Holidays: Check Your Pressure
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In this episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison kick off the holiday season with a candid conversation about pushing through the pressures that often accompany this time of year. While the holidays bring joy for many, they can also weigh heavily on those experiencing loss, such as Quinn, who has navigated the absence of a parent. Sar…
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Pressing Pause: The Truth About Wilderness Programs & Boarding Schools
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In this timely episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve into a significant and often debated topic: therapeutic wilderness programs and boarding schools for troubled teens. Drawing from their own personal journey, where they made the challenging decision to send their son to a wilderness program over a decade ago, Sarah and Quin…
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Passing the Baton: The Transfer of Responsibility
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In this episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison explore the profound shift in parenting dynamics as teens transition into adults. The discussion centers on the crucial difference between being a caregiver and a caretaker. Caretaking, as they emphasize, involves providing care with an expectation of something in return, often tied to …
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Preparing for the Fall: How to Avoid Helicopter Parenting
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In this episode of Plan P, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison shed light on the delicate balance of parenting: knowing when to step back. While it's natural to want to help our pre-teens, teens, and young adults navigate life, it's equally crucial to resist the urge to be a helicopter parent. The hosts emphasize the importance of allowing children the s…
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Pathways to Understanding: The Power of “I” in Emotion
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In this enlightening episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve into the intricate world of emotions, exploring the depth and complexity beyond the typical happy-sad-mad spectrum. They emphasize the importance of parents doing the necessary inner work to identify their own feelings and reasons behind them. Recognizing that if expr…
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Piercings, Tattoos, and Teens: Conversations Beyond the Needle
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In this episode of Plan P, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison tackle the age-old topic of how to talk to your teenager about getting piercings and tattoos. Let's face it, every generation has its "thing" that shapes their identity, and in 2023, tattoos and piercings are far less taboo than they might have been decades ago. Many parents worry about job p…
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A Permanent Commitment: Relentless Devotion to Hope and Truth
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Join us for a heartwarming and insightful episode of Plan P as hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison unveil the deeply personal stories behind their tattoos, each symbolizing profound parenting principles they hold dear. Sarah's tattoo, etched in Spanish, embodies her unwavering commitment to "Relentless Devotion to Hope and Truth." Quinn's ink, a co…
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Parental Guidance: How Much Freedom is Too Much Freedom?
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Join us for an engaging and thought-provoking episode of Plan P where hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison dive headfirst into the age-old parenting question: "How much freedom is too much freedom for your teens?" The resounding answer? It depends. In this candid discussion, Sarah and Quinn explore the delicate balance of giving and limiting freedom…
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Parenting without Perseverating (Part 2): ACE Your Worries
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In this highly anticipated follow-up episode of Plan P, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison extend their insightful conversation on conquering the persistent worry that can often dominate the parenting journey. Building upon their previous discussion, they delve deeper into strategies for putting an end to worry as a knee-jerk reaction and instead foster…
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Parenting without Perseverating: Overcoming Fear of the Unknown
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*Trigger Warning: This episode discusses suicide. Listener discretion advised. We understand that these type of conversations can be emotionally challenging and may evoke a range of feelings for our listeners. If you are personally struggling with thoughts of self-harm or suicide, please reach out to a mental health professional or a crisis hotline…
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Pulling the (Heart) Strings: How to Detach with Love
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As your child blossoms into a full-fledged teenager, the art of parenting takes on new dimensions. In this episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison, delve into the delicate dance of "detaching with love." Navigating the path from active parenting to fostering independence requires finesse, and Sarah and Quinn have the insights you need. Drawing from …
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Peeling Back the Layers of Mental Health & Recovery from Drug Abuse
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It's September, which means it's National Recovery Month!! In honor of this month, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison are on a mission to break the stigma and get real about the intersection of mental health and substance abuse. Let's face it – life's a rollercoaster, and sometimes, we all need a little help to navigate the ups and downs. That's where t…
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Producing Trust: Let Others Voluntarily Evolve
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Dive into this week's episode of Plan P as hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison lead the way into a discussion that's all about nurturing trust in your parent-child relationship. In this thought-provoking episode, Sarah and Quinn serve as your expert guides on the journey to foster deep connections and unwavering trust with your child (and yourself!…
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Parenting with Parameters: Pushing, Pulling & Prodding Boundaries
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Get ready for an eye-opening episode of the Plan P Podcast that dives deep into the art of parenting with boundaries. Join hosts Sarah Pollak & Quinn Faison as they uncover the secrets to establishing effective boundaries for both kids and parents alike. In "Parenting with Parameters," Sarah and Quinn unveil the key to setting boundaries that truly…
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Prepping the Kids (and Parents) for Back to School
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Hey parents! Ready to tackle the upcoming school year like a pro? Our newest episode on the Plan P Podcast has your back. We're diving into all things "back to school" and sharing some nifty tips to make the transition a breeze for your kiddos (and you, too!). Join us as we explore the art of effective communication and setting clear expectations. …
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Potty Training to Pot Training: Managing Transitions From Toddlers to Teenagers
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Join us in this week's captivating episode of Plan P, where Sarah Pollak & Quinn Faison delve into the art of managing transitions from a parent's perspective. From the adorable toddler stage to the tumultuous teenage years and beyond, parenting is a series of transformative experiences for both kids and parents. In this episode, Sarah and Quinn em…
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Welcome back to the Plan P Podcast! In our second episode, "Overcoming Parental Peer Pressure," parenting coaches Sarah Pollak & Quinn Faison tackle a topic often overlooked—the pressure parents face to make the right decisions on their journey of raising their children. Just like teenagers, parents can feel the weight of peers' expectations and ju…
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Welcome to the Plan P Podcast! Join certified parenting coaches Sarah Pollak & Quinn Faison as they delve into the transformative power of PRACTICE in parenting. In this episode, they share their personal story of sending their troubled teenage son to a wilderness therapy program when they felt like they were at the end of their rope. Discover thei…
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