Best Talk Consensually To Me Podcasts (2024)

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#65 Helping our children follow their joy, with Melissa Miles McCarter in Missouri, US 44:49

10d ago44:49

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Today, my guest is Melissa Miles McCarter, who lives in Missouri with her husband and her 8-year-old daughter Willakate. Melissa worked as a college professor and chose not to put her daughter in school, realising that it wasn’t a system she would thrive in. She talks about what her own deschooling looked like and how she partners with her daughter…

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#64 Living, learning and healing, with Linsey, in the East Midlands, UK 49:22

24d ago49:22

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My guest today is Linsey, who lives in the UK with her partner and three children who are 10, 6 and 1 and a half. Her family’s journey to unschooling started when they decided to take their eldest son out of school after two years extremely difficult years. Linsey soon realised that a schooled approach wouldn’t work at home either, so began to lean…

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#63 Finding our balance, embracing rest, and lots of self-compassion, with Claire Windmill in Devon, UK 52:20

2M ago52:20

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Today I’m chatting with Claire Windmill who lives in Devon in the UK with her husband and two children, who are seven and nine. Claire was a social worker and early years teacher and is now a parenting mentor and coach. She shares how her family came to unschooling after taking some time out to travel and they realised how much happier and less str…

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#62 Trusting our children, and learning to value rest and play, with Robyn Tamlin-Lea in New Zealand 46:45

2M ago46:45

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My guest today is Robyn Tamlin-Lea. Robyn is South African but now lives in the Bay of Plenty in New Zealand, with her husband and two children who are seven and three and a half. Robyn took her daughter out of school when she saw that already at a very early age, there was a strong narrative around academic expectations and her daughter not doing …

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#61 Honouring our children and learning to let go, with Danii Oliver in Texas 46:45

3M ago46:45

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This episode, I’m chatting with Danii Oliver, who lives in Texas with her husband and two children who are almost 6 and 11. Danii shares her story of leaving New York City behind in search of something new for and her and family, and to live a more gentle and connected life, which they now do on their permaculture farm in Texas. We talk about the d…

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#60 Unschooling and playful living, with Heidi Steel in West Sussex, UK 44:50

3M ago44:50

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In this episode. I’m delighted to chat with Heidi Steel who was first on the podcast in 2021. Heidi is a former teacher and has four children who are 16, 15, 12 and 9 and who have never been to school. Heidi shares what unschooling looks like for her family and we talk about the enormous value of play in children’s learning and development. And, am…

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#59 Four of the most-asked questions I get about unschooling, with Esther Jones 28:38

4M ago28:38

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Once in a while it felt like it could be helpful to take a moment to answer some of the most common questions that I get. Of course, every family is completely different, so if any of these questions or worries are relevant to you, you might want to take my thoughts as a hopefully useful starting point for your own reflections. Let me know if this …

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#58 Unravelling our own stories to raise empowered children, with Adrienne Miller in Vancouver 53:17

4M ago53:17

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My guest today is Adrienne Miller who lives in Vancouver with her husband and three children who are 10, 7 and 4. Adrienne was a teacher, and realised when her oldest child turned school age that it wasn’t a choice they wanted for him. After growing up in a strict, religious home, Adrienne also shares her journey of unravelling her deep conditionin…

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#57 Embracing the ease of natural learning, with Julie Walter in Ontario, Canada 52:43

5M ago52:43

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In this episode, I’m chatting with Julie Walter from Ontario, Canada. Julie has three children who are 9, 11 and 13 and have never been to school. As a former teacher, Julie talks about how impacted she was by the differences between the resistant nature of learning in a classroom and the kind of natural learning she was seeing unfolding happily at…

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#56 Older unschoolers and the value of practising being yourself, with Missy Willis in North Carolina 52:39

5M ago52:39

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My guest today is Missy Willis from Charlotte, North Carolina. Missy is a former teacher who lives with her husband and two children, who are now 21 and 16. They chose to unschool when their eldest child reached school age as it felt like a better fit for their family. Missy’s experience in the classroom as a teacher had also made her question a mo…

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#55 Deschooling and moving beyond our limiting beliefs, with Lucy Aitkenread in New Zealand 51:10

6M ago51:10

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In this episode, I'm chatting with Lucy Aitkenread. Lucy is originally from the UK, but 10 years ago, set off travelling with her partner Tim, and their two young daughters. They settled in New Zealand, which is where they live now. Their daughters are now 10 and 13 and haven’t been to school. So, today we talk about the culture of school and what …

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#54 Nature, freedom and slowing down, with Ruth Macallan in Zambia 53:45

6M ago53:45

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Today, my guest is Ruth Macallan. Originally from Edinburgh, Ruth now lives for most of the year in Zambia with her husband and her two children, who are 2 and 5. We talk about what Ruth’s child-led days look like, what it means to allow a child the freedom to go at their own pace, and how living in rural Zambia has helped Ruth to learn how to slow…

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#53 Living, learning and thriving as a family, with Claire Gillespie in Hertfordshire, UK 52:15

7M ago52:15

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My guest today is Claire Gillespie from Hertfordshire in the UK. Claire lives with her husband and two sons, who are 15 and 13, and they’ve been unschooling for four years, after their oldest son asked to leave school. Amongst other things, we talk about the fascinating learning journeys children embark on when they’re in charge, how different we a…

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Consensual Non-consent, Negotiation, and the Classics with Tina Horn 54:54

7M ago54:54

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Support the Show. Connect with us on IG and more: Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxes Effy Blue @coacheffyblue Jacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com Join the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxesBy Effy Blue, Tina Horn

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#polyproblems with Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla 1:00:42

7M ago1:00:42

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What are some of the most common pitfalls when couples are opening up? Which conversations are essential when discussion non monoamy? What are some of the common myths when it comes to open relationships? And what about jealousy? Open relationships have a unique set of challenges and it’s often hard to know how to resolve them as open relationships…

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#52 Intentional deschooling and lining up with our values, with Daniel Moeller in Pennsylvania 55:32

7M ago55:32

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Today I’m chatting with Daniel Moeller from Pennsylvania. Daniel is a former teacher and has a 10-year old son, called Kai who has been unschooling for four years. Daniel came across unschooling whilst struggling himself to reconcile many parts of the school system, and in particular the power over dynamic that he was expected to conform to as a te…

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Queer Eye for Pleasure, Women and those who Love Them with Allison Moon 48:53

8M ago48:53

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In a world where discussions about sexuality often default to a heteronormative framework, what insights can we gain when we shift our focus to a queer perspective? How does queer sex challenge and expand our understanding of pleasure, consent, and sexual expression? What can individuals of all genders and orientations learn from queer sexuality? I…

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How to Support Queer, Trans, and Non-binary Young People with Cory Silverberg 1:00:36

8M ago1:00:36

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How can parents and caregivers create a safe and open environment where young individuals navigating their own identities feel comfortable exploring and expressing their evolving identities? What are the most common misconceptions or misunderstandings that parents and caregivers have about supporting queer, trans, and non-binary young people? How c…

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#51 A place of possibility - living, learning and healing beyond school, with Donna in East Sussex 48:38

8M ago48:38

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My guest today is Donna, from East Sussex in the UK. Donna has two daughters, who are 13 and 11. Her eldest daughter had always struggled with school, and it wasn’t until Covid that Donna realised just how deep the school stress was embedded in the whole family. Eventually feeling that there was no alternative but to try something different, she to…

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Mixed Desires: Navigating Misaligned Wants with Our Partners with Dr Joli Hamilton (Interview) 1:05:19

8M ago1:05:19

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In the intricate dance of relationships, what happens when our desires diverge from those of our partners? What common patterns emerge when partners want differently? And how can we skillfully bridge these gaps without losing ourselves in the process? In this episode, Effy invites Dr. Joli Hamilton back on the show for a candid conversation about t…

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Haunted House of Relationship Horrors Listeners Edition 48:45

8M ago48:45

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What relationship fears lurk in the shadows of our minds, sending chills down our spines? Can the art of storytelling serve as both an outlet for our deepest relationship anxieties and a means of processing them? Might the eerie embrace of Halloween be the unlikely balm to soothe these fears? In this special Halloween episode, Effy and Jacqueline d…

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#50 Unravelling our stories, with Dr Emma Svanberg 52:57

8M ago52:57

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Today, I’m chatting with Dr Emma Svanberg. Emma is a clinical psychologist, author of Parenting For Humans and mother of two children. As well as exploring unschooling with her family, Emma helps other parents on their own parenting journeys. We talk about how the deeply held narratives we all have about ourselves often don’t serve us as parents, a…

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Trauma, Sense of Safety and the Somatic Connection with Rida Kirasi (Interview) 1:13:38

8M ago1:13:38

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How deeply does our perception of safety influence our behavior in relationships? What internal shifts transpire within our nervous system when we oscillate between feelings of security and threat? And, how can we nurture an environment that fosters safety and wellbeing? In the third installment of our four-part series on trauma, we revisit a poign…

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Psychedelics, Sexual Trauma and Pleasure as a Healing Modality with Dee Dee Goldpaugh (Interview) 58:06

9M ago58:06

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How might we challenge and expand upon the established medical definitions of trauma? Can our understanding of healing evolve to encompass not just the alleviation of symptoms but also the reclamation of joy and pleasure? What are the recent shifts in utilizing psychedelics as tools for trauma treatment? In this episode, Effy sits down with Dee Dee…

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Trauma from a New Lens with Dr MaryCatherine "MC" McDonald (Interview) 1:09:14

9M ago1:09:14

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How do we navigate the multifaceted nature of trauma beyond the often reductive parameters set by the medical system? How is memory formation and storage impacted by trauma and how does that impact the trauma experience? Can our journey towards healing be supported by those other than professionals? In this episode, Effy talks with trauma researche…

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#49 Putting the relationship first, with Hayley in Derbyshire, UK 47:09

9M ago47:09

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My guest today is Hayley from Derbyshire in the UK. Hayley has four children, who are now 25, 22, 18 and 10, and her journey to unschooling started 14 years ago when her eldest child was 11. We talk about how unschooling is so much more than education. It’s about the importance of relationships, and of living in a way that feels coherent to us, and…

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Relationship Fears, Creative Healing and Halloween Pregame 12:47

9M ago12:47

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline talk about some scary stories and beliefs they hold about relationships, share how these stories can manifest and how they can get in the way of connection and intimacy in their relationships. They reflect back on a previous Halloween episode where they approached these stories with creativity and humor and invi…

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Tolerating Disconnection in Relationships 55:09

9M ago55:09

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What exactly is connection, and what happens when we encounter disconnection in our relationships? Is there any value in temporary disconnection? How can we improve our tolerance to disconnection? In this week's episode, Effy and Jacqueline delve deep into the intricate dynamics of connection and disconnection within relationships. Effy and Jacquel…

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#48 Unschooling our children and our own lives, with Holly from South Wales 42:11

10M ago42:11

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In this episode, I’m chatting with Holly from South Wales. Holly has three children, aged 9, 7, 5 and began unschooling three years ago, when her eldest started to struggle at school. Holly worked as a teacher, and shares her experience of transitioning from a schooled way of thinking about learning to unschooling. We chat about how this way of lif…

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Age, Affinity and Dating with Ashton Applewhite (Interview) 37:54

10M ago37:54

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What impact does a significant age gap between partners have on relationships? Are there common misconceptions surrounding women dating considerably younger men? Does age alone determine affinity, and should we limit ourselves to dating within our age group In this episode, Effy engages in a candid conversation with author and ageism activist, Asht…

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Forks in the Road, Greener Grasses, and Subscribing to the Sucky 1:11:09

10M ago1:11:09

1:11:09

How often have you second-guessed a decision, wondering if the other option would have spared you the heartache? How do we navigate life's dilemmas when every path seems to have its own set of thorns? Can we ever truly escape the consequences of our choices, or is it about finding peace in the decisions we make? Effy and Jacqueline return from thei…

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#47 Consent-based parenting around the globe, with Fran Liberatore 52:32

10M ago52:32

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My guest today is Fran Liberatore. Fran is Italian but lives with her family between Bangkok, Maine and Sicily. Her children are now aged 10 and 12 and If you’d like to hear more from Fran you can also hear her in episode 12 of the podcast a couple of years ago. Today we talk about how Fran and her family have found community in the different cultu…

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The Self, Parts and the Highway of Life 1:00:34

12M ago1:00:34

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Why do we react in ways that seem counterproductive or self-defeating? Are our minds made up of distinct "parts" that influence our behavior? How can we understand and integrate these internal parts to create personal growth and harmony? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline explore “parts work” and share their personal therapeutic journeys understa…

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Navigating Mismatched Kinks with Partners: Finding Common Playgrounds with Miss Shayla (Interview) 55:51

12M ago55:51

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We are curious: How can we explore mismatched kinks with our partners? How do we find common ground and understand where the resistance is without creating pressure or being coercive? And what can be done if there's no common ground? In this episode, Effy enlists the expertise of a seasoned pro Dom, kink educator and a longtime foxy friend of the s…

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#46 Unschooling and shifting our parenting paradigms, with Chelsea in LA 57:47

12M ago57:47

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Today, I’m chatting with Chelsea, who lives in LA with her husband and two sons, who are 10 and 6. Chelsea had never planned to unschool, and in fact her older son was very happy at a project-based school in his earlier years. She tells us about why they made this choice and what it has meant for her family. We talk in particular about how the pare…

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Highly Sensitive Man: Navigating Sensitivity, Masculinity, and Relationships with Tom Falkenstein (Interview) 53:25

12M ago53:25

53:25

What does it mean to be a highly sensitive person (HSP)? How does high sensitivity differ between individuals socialized as men versus women? What are the unique advantages and obstacles faced by highly sensitive men in their relationships and daily lives? In this episode, Effy and cognitive behavioral psychotherapist and author of "The Highly Sens…

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Release The Rainbow, Coming Out in Adulthood 1:03:15

1y ago1:03:15

1:03:15

What happens when you discover your sexual orientation later in life? How can you embrace a new identity when you have already established one? What does it mean to be queer? In this revisited oldie, Jacqueline goes galavanting through the NY lesbian bar scene for her birthday with her partner, making up for some classic lesbian experiences that sh…

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#45 Healing from school and holding our children's journeys lightly, with Rhonda Ziman in East Sussex 46:14

1y ago46:14

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My guest today is Rhonda Ziman. Rhonda lives in East Sussex with her husband, 14-year-old stepdaughter and 11-year-old daughter. I’ve known Rhonda and her daughter Martha since last year, when her daughter finally left school after struggling to attend for a long time. Today, Rhonda talks about that time and how difficult it was. And she talks abou…

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Queering Up Wedding Season and Celebrating All Relationships with Ambyr D'Amato (Interview) 54:59

1y ago54:59

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How can wedding ceremonies be updated to honor queer and polyamorous relationships? What can we do to celebrate a relationship when marriage and a wedding is not an option? What would it be like to celebrate an uncoupling, or the end of a relationship? Just in time for wedding season, Effy and Jacqueline revisit their conversation with queer weddin…

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Hot and Healthy Hookups and Sexual Citizenship with Allison Moon (Interview) 42:13

1y ago42:13

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What exactly is a "hookup"? How can we create hot, healthy, shame free hookups? Is there such a thing as good etiquette for casual sex? In this week’s episode, Effy is joined by sex educator and author Allison Moon to discuss casual sex. They discuss hookup culture and how we can and should “be excellent to each other” as members of a sexual commun…

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Stability vs. Freedom: Craving Roots & Wings 54:10

1y ago54:10

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Why is it that when we feel comfy and settled, we suddenly long for passion and freedom? And conversely, why do a string of spontaneous adventures have us longing for stability? Is it possible for us to be both planted and to fly? Jacqueline revisits a conversation with Effy about how to balance the comfort of being rooted and settled with the desi…

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#44 From high school teaching to unschooling, with Angela Harders in Maryland 39:46

1y ago39:46

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Today I'm chatting with Angela Harders who lives in Maryland with her two children, who are now 9 and 4. Angela was a public high school teacher for 12 years. And although she took her daughter out of school four years ago when her daughter was five, she continued to work as a public school teacher for three more years, until it felt too at odds wi…

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Compartmentalization: Friend or Foe 1:03:06

1y ago1:03:06

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How important is compartmentalization when you are in multiple relationships? Can we go too far with "don't ask, don't tell"? Are there consequences to keeping parts of our lives separate? In this week's episode, we take a trip into the multiple worlds within Jacqueline's mind and explore the reasons for compartmentalization and integration. Effy a…

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Relationship Evolution and Communication Tools for Modern Relationships with Multiamory's Dedeker, Emily and Jase (Interview) 1:01:42

1y ago1:01:42

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How can relationship structures evolve over time? How can we thrive as our relationships change? What are some essential communication tools that can support our relationships and those in it? In this week’s episode Effy is joined by fellow podcasters Dedeker, Emily and Jase of Multiamory. Dedeker, Emily and Jase share how their relationship evolve…

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#43 Creating a self-directed learning community, with Lorna Norton in North Yorkshire 47:13

1y ago47:13

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In this episode, I'm chatting with Lorna Norton. Lorna has a 5-year-old son and, together with her husband, founded a learning community called Kith Homestead in North Yorkshire. Lorna came to alternative education through her studies of psychology and education and then her many years of working with children. We talk about her own deschooling pro…

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Yoni Gazing, Self Discovery and Letters to Your Vulva and with Jocelyn Silva (Interview) 48:15

1y ago48:15

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What is Yoni gazing? Why would you want to look “down there”? How do you ask your partner to help? This week Effy is joined by long time friend of the Fox, sex and pleasure coach, Jocelyn Silva to talk about Yoni gazing. They discuss how simple yet powerful it is to intentionally look at your vulva with a mirror, and Jocelyn shares a Yoni gazing ce…

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Polyamorous While Asian with Michelle Hy (Interview) 49:01

1y ago49:01

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What is intersectional polyamory and how to find meaningful representation in the community? What is the impact of prescribed cultural identity on our relationships? How can we find and connect with online communities for support? In honor of Asian Pacific American Heritage Month, Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Michelle Hy of Polyamorous While A…

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#42 Why self-directed learning is a natural fit for our children, with Naomi Fisher 59:51

1y ago59:51

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My guest this episode is Naomi Fisher, who I am delighted to have back for a second conversation (see #5 for our previous chat). Naomi is a clinical psychologist, mother of two children who are at a self-directed learning centre, and author of the book Changing our Minds, which is about the importance of choice, autonomy and self-direction in educa…

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Masturbation Month, Self Care and Political Subversion 49:15

1y ago49:15

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Can masturbation be an act of self care and political subversion? What are all the benefits of masturbation? If there are so many benefits of masturbation, why don’t we do it more? In this week’s episode Effy and Jacqueline have a lighthearted and wisdom packed conversation about masturbation in honor of Masturbation Month. They share their persona…

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The Sexual Shadow, Self Discovery, Shame and Pleasure with Dr Joli Hamilton (Interview) 59:17

1y ago59:17

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What is the sexual Shadow? How does it affect our individual and collective sexual expression? What are some of the ways we can get to know our Shadow material and work towards integrating it? In this week’s episode Effy explores the crossroads of Jungian psychology and sex with Dr Joli Hamilton. They take a deep dive into the sexual Shadow, the re…

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