This podcast explores the inner workings, struggles, challenges, and beauty of being in a relationship. It goes deep in uncovering how people have overcome challenges to become engaged and then married. It intentionally focuses on getting perspective from married men of color, especially married Black men, while providing a platform where people can learn from their stories. This podcast also highlights the mental burdens that stem from societal pressures, generational curses, gender related ...
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S03.E15 - Darrin Part 1: Selflessly Selfish
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In this episode (Selflessly Selfish), I discuss with Darrin how he navigated obstacles such as long distance, being an entrepreneur, and infidelity prior to getting married as well as how those lessons learned has helped him become a good husband. We focus on the challenges that come with trying to satisfy your passions as well as your partner. I t…
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S03.E14 - Carlton Part 3: The benefit of truly learning somebody
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In this episode (The benefit of truly learning somebody), I wrap up my conversation with Carlton as we talk through the benefit of truly learning someone and having a healthy sex life in a marriage. We discuss the challenge that men have listening instead of problem-solving. We highlight the intentionality required to develop organic and strong rel…
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S03.E13 - Carlton Part 2: The unfortunate part of dating
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In this episode (The unfortunate part of dating), I discuss the value of knowing your person’s heart with Carlton as he shares more of his journey in marriage and in fatherhood. We talk about why guys are okay dating more than one person at the same time and the tradeoffs you make while dating multiple people. We discuss how harder it becomes to da…
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S03.E12 - Carlton Part 1: Am I really willing to do the work?
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In this episode (Am I really willing to do the work?), I discuss the feeling of knowing when you know and how they led to Carlton dating someone he randomly met prior to graduating college as well as their journey in marriage. We discuss the importance of being intentional when getting to know someone. We break down the process of knowing that you …
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S03.E11 - Courtney Part 3: I could have went off the rails
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In this episode (I could have went off the rails), I wrap up my conversation with Courtney discussing critical moments that challenged his marriage early onsuch as dealing with a miscarriage and overcoming a severe covid experience. We emphasize the need to find time and space for yourself in the midst of internal and external chaos so you can show…
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S03.E10 - Courtney Part 2: From supporting myself to supporting three
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In this episode (From supporting myself to supporting three), I talk to Courtney about his journey of becoming a stepfather. We discuss the importance of creating boundaries and relationship norms while learning to be a stepfather. We dive into the conversations required to engage as a parental figure while dating. We highlight why you should break…
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S03.E09 - Courtney Part 1: Shoutout to Bumble!
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In this episode (Shoutout to Bumble!), I discuss how Courtney’s match on Bumble turned from a casual dating scenario to a marriage. We talk about dating a woman with a child and navigating how to build individual relationships with both. We highlight his doubts and misconceptions. We also examine the natural progression men go through in their jour…
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S03.E08 - Jourdan Part 2: I don't want a cheerleader
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In this episode (I don’t want a cheerleader), I wrap up my conversation with Jourdan as he explains his need to have a partner he can trust and that can hold their own as he navigates his marriage with someone of a different ethic, cultural, and religious background. We run back their decision to not live with each other, despite moving to a new ci…
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S03.E07 - Jourdan Part 1: We never look at anybody’s Ls
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In this episode (We never look at anybody’s Ls), I talk to Jourdan about his reluctance in participating in the dating game and how being honest with himself and what he wanted led to him finding his wife. We examine the world of dating today and thematic problems that people face. We discuss taking a different approach to dating and the importance…
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S03.E06 - Julian Part 3: We took the first baby for granted
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In this episode (We took the first baby for granted), I wrap up my conversation with Julian, reflecting on an emotionally tough period in his marriage, dealing with pregnancy issues, and having a rainbow baby We talk about how it was supporting a pregnant wife while living long distance. We discuss the difficulty of having to terminate a pregnancy.…
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S03.E05 - Julian Part 2: Titles and definitions have to be the same
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In this episode (Titles and definitions have to be the same), I continue my conversation with Julian as we reflect on dating apps and attributes he saw in his wife leading to his proposal. We highlight important attributes to look for in a partner. We discuss swiping with intentions on the dating apps. We examine the importance of supporting your p…
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S03.E04 - Julian Part 1: You have to let yourself heal first
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In this episode (You have to let yourself heal first), I discuss finding love after a serious breakup with Julian and talk about his journey towards marriage and the road to fatherhood. We talk about recovering from a breakup after a long-term relationship. We discuss the importance of listening to your gut. We examine the scary part of giving up c…
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S03.E03 - Nkem Part 3: You're supposed to be the rock
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In this episode (You’re supposed to be the rock), I conclude my conversation with Nkem discussing key aspects he considered in getting married and that he values in his marriage. We investigate the importance of marrying someone in the same culture. We discuss why for some guys it’s important for a woman to take their last name. We highlight how it…
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S03.E02 - Nkem Part 2: The streets retired me
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In this episode (The streets retired me), Nkem and I examine some of the issues he had to overcome in his long distance relationship and marriage. We talk about when guys start looking for marriage in a relationship. We highlight how moving in with someone is a big step and some of the considerations to factor if doing it before marriage. We agree …
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S03.E01 - Nkem Part 1: Seeing more cons than pros
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In this episode (Seeing more cons than pros), I discuss with Nkem how he transformed a long distance relationship into a marriage. We talk about doing things out of obligation and provide our thoughts on whether love and logic go together in a relationship. He explains how understanding love languages are even more essential when in a long distance…
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In this episode (Not a fan of the term dating), I provide a recap of what has been going on within me, share why there has been so much time between seasons, and express why I am not a fan of the term dating. Major theme from this episode include: Life lifes at times and there’s nothing wrong with focusing on the things you choose to prioritize Som…
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B02.E03 - Mosiac Matchmaking Part 3: Get your no's out of the way early
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In this episode (Get your no’s out of the way early), I wrap up my conversation with Brooke Fitzpatrick, the founder of Mosaic Matchmaking and l get her thoughts as a dating coach. We talk about the costs of dating and some of the thoughts that go into asking a woman out on a date. We examine what’s a reasonable amount of time to chat before you mo…
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B02.E02 - Mosiac Matchmaking Part 2: Women should participate in courtship
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In this episode (Woman should participate in courtship), I learn more about Mosaic Matchmaking with its founder Brooke Fitzpatrick We learn how she sets expectations for client’s and the potential matches and how she goes about matching them. We spend a great deal of time talking about how important it is to invest in your dating app profile. She h…
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B02.E01 - Mosiac Matchmaking Part 1: Matchmaking as a Service
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In this episode (Matchmaking as a Service), I discuss with Brooke Fitzpatrick, the founder of Mosaic Matchmaking, and learn about her business, how she got started, and how she coaches singles as well as matches them with viable candidates. We talk about what she’s hearing from both men and women who are trying to find love. She highlights the impo…
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S02.E16 - DJ Part 3: Marriage is extremely dynamic
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In this episode (Marriage is extremely dynamic), I wrap up my conversation with a guy who’s met his partner in Vegas while visiting from another country and examine his journey to marriage and fatherhood. We talk about the importance of making space and time for yourself, especially in a relationship. We discuss finances and allocating money for yo…
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S02.E15 - DJ Part 2: Stick to your guns
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In this episode (Stick to your guns), I continue my conversation with a guy who’s met his partner in Vegas while visiting from another country and examine his journey to marriage and fatherhood. We talk about the male ego and when we need to check it. We discuss the attractiveness of women who can take charge and the importance of seeing your partn…
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S02.E14 - DJ Part 1: It’s about opportunity and access
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In this episode (It’s about opportunity and access), I start my conversation with a guy who’s met his partner in Vegas, while visiting from another country and examine his journey to marriage and fatherhood. We talk about the adaptability required in a relationship, especially with long distance. We discuss women being risk averse and how expectati…
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S02.E13 - Trey Part 2: It wasn't a full court press
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In this episode (It wasn’t a full court press), I continue my conversation with a guy I’ve known for 20+ years, who’s been remarried, and examine his journey towards finding love with the right person. We talk about the mixed messages that “courting” can send a woman in certain situations and how it can look like a full court press when it’s not re…
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S02.E12 - Trey Part 1: I was definitely on her B team
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In this episode (I was definitely on her B-Team), I start my conversation with a guy I’ve known for 20+ years, who’s been remarried, and examine his journey towards finding love with the right person. We talk about the desire to hedge even though we have something good right in front of us. We discuss how some people get married and not know the re…
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S02.E11 - Todd Part 2: She taught me how to love
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In this episode (She taught me how to love), I continue my conversation with the father of a friend, who's been married for almost 30 years, and examine his journey towards getting married at a young age and his personal growth over time. We discuss the importance of developing a solid relationship with the in-laws. We talk about the perspective of…
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In this episode (Marriage is a job), I start a conversation with the father of a friend, who's been married for almost 30 years, and examine his journey towards getting married at a young age and his personal growth over time. We share thoughts on how your perspective on relationships can change when a child is on the way. We talk about dating vers…
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S02.E09 - Bryan Part 3: It's a constant recalibration
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In this episode (It’s a constant recalibration), I wrap my conversation with a friend, who's been married for 17 years, and examine his journey towards marriage with his high school “crush” and the obstacles and challenges they have faced while dating and in marriage. We talk about the role money plays in their relationship and how they do finances…
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S02.E08 - Bryan Part 2: Men are mad emotional
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In this episode (Men are mad emotional), I continue my conversation with a friend, who's been married for 17 years, and examine his journey towards marriage with his high school “crush” and the obstacles and challenges they have faced while dating and in marriage. We talk about dating versus courting and recognizing red flags. We discuss navigating…
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S02.E07 - Bryan Part 1: I'm a friend zone survivor
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In this episode (I’m a friend zone survivor), I start a conversation with a friend, who's been married for 17 years, and examine his journey towards marriage with his high school "crush” and the obstacles and challenges they have faced while dating and in marriage. We talk about falling in love with your best friend and the importance of having a p…
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S02.E06 - Jomar Part 3: Putting my feelings aside
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In this episode (Putting my feelings aside), I wrap up my conversation exploring love and relationship as I talk to a friend, who's been married for 7 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have handled various challenges and adventures. We talk about the role money can have in a relationship. We discuss what the vo…
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S02.E05 - Jomar Part 2: Casting unnecessary blame
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In this episode (Casting unnecessary blame), I continue my conversation exploring love and relationship as I talk to a friend, who's been married for 7 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have handled various challenges and adventures. We talk about contemplating divorce and the things that led to that like commu…
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S02.E04 - Jomar Part 1: We tend to proceed before acknowledging
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In this episode (We tend to proceed before acknowledging), I explore navigating a relationship through marriage, tough career decisions, and intentions to grow a family. I talk to a friend, who's been married for 7 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have handled various challenges and adventures. We discuss the …
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S02.E03 - Mik Part 3: How do I out serve her
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In this episode (How do I out serve her), I wrap my conversation with a friend, who's been married for 5 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have navigated challenging times. We discuss service leadership in a relationship and the mentality to out serve your partner. We talk about the roles and responsibilities i…
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S02.E02 - Mik Part 2: The little things add up
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In this episode (The little things add up), I continue my conversation with a friend, who's been married for 5 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have navigated challenging times. We discuss evaluating someone as a wife versus a girlfriend and the difference between dating and courting. We talk about how he made…
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S02.E01 - Mik Part 1: You wasted her time
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In this episode (You wasted her time), I explore the feelings that stem from trying to be strong amidst a pandemic and after the #GeorgeFloyd murder. I talk to a friend, who's been married for 5 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have navigated challenging times. We discuss the pressure that men feel to be stron…
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B01.E10 - Part 10: They trade in height for honesty
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In this episode (They trade in height for honesty), I wrap up this bonus 10-part mini series and my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We discuss the trade-offs people make as they get older. We talk about dating people with children and the factors you must consider. I also highlight some of the maj…
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In this episode (Do you not trust me), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We discuss some of the important tough conversations that people should have in a relationship. We dive deep into how certain specific actions can be misinterpreted. We talk about having grace for the unknown. We …
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In this episode (Guy always want sex), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We talk about sex and celibacy - being adjusting to your partner’s preferences and how it might be weighted differently for different people. We discuss dating multiple people until you’re in an official relations…
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B01.E07 - Part 7: I have courting potential
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In this episode (I have courting potential), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We discuss situationships, how it can be defined as well as how people view them. We talk about what progress looks like in the dating stage before a relationship becomes official. We dissect how some men ar…
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B01.E06 - Part 6: Sometimes you just have to listen
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In this episode (Sometimes you just have to listen), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We discuss vulnerability and the importance of listening. We examine the psyche of a black man and how compartmentalizing is a survival tool. We talk about the pressure men feel to solve and fix, whi…
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In this episode (So ready to be washed), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We spend some time on the need to have trust in a relationship and discuss the value of companionship. We talk about the struggles of dating especially as it pertains to using the dating apps. We go deep on why …
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B01.E04 - Part 4: You're going to take some Ls
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In this episode (You’re going to take some Ls), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We talk about daddy issues versus abandonment issues. We discuss knowing to pick your battles and the importance of valuing the process as much as the results. We take a look at the phrase “happy wife, ha…
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B01.E03 - Part 3: Let's just learn each other
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In this episode (Let’s just learn each other), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We talk about the boundaries and bets that people make in order to secure a relationship. We discuss the data points that men and women acquire as indicators. We highlight the ways that men and women think…
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B01.E02 - Part 2: You can't microwave a relationship
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In this episode (You can’t microwave a relationship), I chat with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. I sit on the other side of the microphone as I answer her questions. We talk about the importance of protecting your tank and the responsibility we have with other people’s feelings. She pushes me to learn about the ti…
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B01.E01 - Part 1: It's not just what you say
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In this episode (It’s not just what you say), I chat with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. I sit on the other side of the microphone as I answer her questions. I describe my story in starting the podcast and share more of my personal background as well as my relationship history - highlighting ways they are intertwi…
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In this episode (You are enough), I wrap up season 1 by completing my conversation with Anthony, Dorian, and Paul where we discuss more topics and questions from the listeners. We talk about spirituality and religion – navigating the right time to bring that into the relationship as well as who should take the lead in that space. We discuss the dec…
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S01.E16 - Reunion Part 4: That's the dilemma
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In this episode (That’s the dilemma), I continue the conversation with Anthony, Dorian, and Paul from season one and we discuss topics and questions from the listeners. We talk about how to determine someone’s value and when the relationship is worth it. They give me a hard time about some specific dating stories and try to school me on the appropr…
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S01.E15 - Reunion Part 3: Everyone has a past
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In this episode (Everyone has a past), I bring Anthony, Dorian, and Paul back from season one and we discuss more topics and questions from the listeners. We also get their perspective after being on the podcast and what they have learned since we last spoke on air. We answer questions about dating someone who has had sex with a friend. We give our…
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S01.E14 - Reunion Part 2: It's okay to be scared
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In this episode (It’s okay to be scared), I continue my recap with Brandon and Justin from season one and we discuss topics and questions from the listeners. We talk about how women exclude guys from consideration who have dated their friends. We provide some insight as to why guys hesitate to approach women. We discuss the difference between datin…
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S01.E13 - Reunion Part 1: Get over yourself
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In this episode (Get over yourself), I bring Brandon and Justin back from season one and we discuss topics and questions from the listeners. We also get their perspective after being on the podcast and what they have learned since we last spoke on air. We answer questions about how someone’s upbringing can impact the relationship and the way they s…
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