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Send us a text So many people say they are anxious and afraid but there is a difference. I find that many people say they have anxiety and are struggling with focus when it is sometimes just fear. In coaching I deal with a lot of fear of failure and fear of success. The perceived anxiety feels so real, but I want to look at fear vs anxiety. When we are able to figure out the fear and address it and break it down then we are able to move forward without the anxiety. Anxiety and fear are often confused, but anxiety is more about anticipating potential future threats rather than responding to immediate danger. It's like fear's forward-looking cousin. Things that seem like fear but are not: 1. Excitement/anticipation 2. Awe 3. Intense surprise 4. Phobic disgust – like fear of snakes Distinguish between fear and anxiety: 1. Time orientation: Fear is about the present, anxiety is often about the future or past. 2. Specificity: Fear has a clear trigger or object, anxiety may be triggered without a tangible threat present. 3. Duration: Fear typically subsides once the threat is gone. Anxiety lasts longer. 4. Physical response: Fear triggers an intense, immediate fight-or-flight response (racing heart, sweating, tunnel vision) 5. Anxiety often produces more gradual physical symptoms like muscle tension, fatigue, and difficulty concentrating. 6. Rationality: Fear is usually proportional Control: With fear, taking action (like running from danger) typically helps resolve the feeling. Anxiety can feel less controllable and may not be relieved by direct action to a real threat. For example, being startled by a snake on a hiking trail is fear, while worrying about possibly encountering snakes on future hikes is anxiety. Here are some key approaches to help you prepare and manage fear before it arises: 1. Understand Your Triggers – Identify what specifically makes you anxious in tense situations so you can prepare for those moments. 2. Visualize Success – Picture yourself handling the situation confidently. This mental rehearsal reduces anxiety and increases preparedness. 3. Practice Controlled Breathing – Techniques like box breathing (inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4, exhale for 4, hold for 4) can help calm your nervous system. 4. Develop a Plan – Have a clear strategy for how you will navigate the situation. Knowing your next steps can ease uncertainty. 5. Use Positive Self-Talk – Replace negative thoughts with empowering ones, such as "I am prepared" or "I can handle this." 6. Physical Preparation – Engage in activities that reduce tension, such as stretching, light exercise, or relaxation techniques. 7. Reframe Fear as Excitement – Instead of seeing fear as a threat, view it as energy that can help you perform better. 8. Practice in Low-Stakes Environments – If possible, expose yourself to similar but lower-pressure situations to build confidence over time. For more on handling fear listen Episode 2 for handling change and planning for it and Episode 8 stress and anxiety. Rate & Review : If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration! Be a Guest : Want to share your story? We would love to hear from you at info@throwoffthelines.com .…

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EP 26 Executive Coach: Finding the Right One 32:40

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Send us a text When you first connect with a coach or coaching company, they should offer you a free discovery call. A great coach will assess where you are, pinpoint key areas for improvement, and give you actionable steps to take right away. What you don’t want is a coach or company that only pushes their system without considering your specific needs. They are not coaching, they are selling. First you should have a discovery call. Look for these things. 1. They Ask About You as a Whole Person: A great coach will ask about your balance, your long-term vision, and the challenges you face across your life. 2. They Assess Quickly and Effectively: They use their knowledge to craft a plan that fits YOU, not a cookie-cutter approach. 3. They Provide Immediate Value: If they’re holding back and only promising results once you pay, that’s a concern. 4. They Are Your Guide, Not Your Friend: A good coach isn’t there to be your buddy. They will push you, challenge you, and hold you accountable, but they will never belittle or threaten you. Red Flags of bad coaching: · If they don’t take the time to understand you, they’re not the right fit. · If they’re trying to upsell you without providing real value first, walk away. · If the person selling you coaching isn’t the one coaching you, be cautious. · If they rely on fear, guilt, or pressure tactics to get you to commit, that’s a problem. The Cost of Bad Coaching: I’ve had clients come to me after working with other coaching companies that did more harm than good. I had one client who was charged double what I charge, and all they got were two short calls a month, where they were berated for not meeting unrealistic expectations. They were threatened with statements like “I’m going to have to tell the head coach to give you a call now, you didn’t do your work.” That’s not coaching. That’s just threats, aggressive ways to force you to change instead of understanding you as a person and working with your strengths, weaknesses and specific needs. Bad coaching costs you time, momentum and often can alter your behaviors in negative ways even leaving you with more self-doubt and loss of confidence. A great coach understands your journey, your struggles, and what’s really holding you back. They help you create a sustainable plan that works for your life and business, not just a system that worked for someone else. What to look for in a coach. 1. Schedule a Discovery Call: See how they listen and respond to you. 2. Ask the Right Questions: How will they help you? What specific steps will they have you take? 3. Trust Your Gut: You should feel heard, understood, and motivated after that first conversation. 4. Look for a Whole-Person Approach: The best coaches consider your business, personal life, strengths, and weaknesses. 5. Avoid the Hard Sell: If they’re pushing a program without listening to you first, that’s a red flag. If you’re ready to take the next step in finding the right coach, visit www.descoaching.com and reach out. Even if we don’t work together, I’d love to help you with a one-on-one conversation to point you in the right direction. Coaching is about real change, real accountability, and real growth. Reach out at coaching@descoaching.com.…

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EP 25 Dopamine: Understanding How It Affects You 51:02

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Send us a text Dopamine acts as a chemical messenger in the brain, primarily responsible for feelings of pleasure and reward, and motivation, signals to the brain when and encourages us to repeat that behavior. Companies use this against us and as a society we are addicted to it. Key points: · Function: Dopamine acts as a neurotransmitter, sending signals between nerve cells, primarily within the "reward pathway" which is activated by fun experiences. · Release mechanism: When a rewarding activity occurs, dopamine is released from neurons in the midbrain and travels to through the brain. · Impact on behavior: This release of dopamine reinforces the behavior that led to the reward, making us more likely to repeat it. · Role in movement: Dopamine also plays a crucial role in motor control, and low levels are associated with conditions like Parkinson's disease which affects movement. · Receptors: Dopamine interacts with different types of dopamine receptors (D1, D2, D3, D4, D5) on target neurons, leading to various effects depending on which receptor is activated. Algorithms leverage the brain's dopamine system by mimicking the "reward" mechanism, essentially providing intermittent positive feedback to keep users engaged and coming back for more, similar to how a slot machine works, by delivering unexpected small rewards like notifications, likes, or interesting content, which triggers a dopamine surge, making users feel good and encouraging continued interaction with the platform. Key points about how algorithms use dopamine: · Reinforcement Learning · Variable Reward Schedule · "Likes" and Social Validation · Personalized Content · Infinite Scroll Examples of how algorithms manipulate dopamine: · "Like" button on social media · "New notification" alert · Personalized recommendations Concerns related to dopamine manipulation: · Addiction-like behavior · Mental health impacts · Real addiction because your body needs dopamine from somewhere Things to do to reduce dopamine addiction: 1. Consume foods high in tyrosine. 2. Try a balanced diet that’s higher in protein-rich foods and lower in carbohydrates. 3. Make physical exercise a habit. 4. Say “om.”Meditiate 5. Get a massage. 6. Get adequate sleep. 7. Listen to calming music. 8. Go outside. 9. Take nutritional supplements. Set boundaries · Set boundaries with technology · Create microenvironments Limit access to problematic devices by keeping them out of certain rooms or times of day. Engage in authentic pleasure Seek out meaningful experiences Step outside of your comfort zone Be honest with yourself Give yourself grace Set realistic goals Find social support Resources: Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke: https://www.annalembke.com/dopamine-nation Very Powerful Podcast Episode on Diary of a CEO with Dr. Lembke: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA…

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EP 24 Shame: Holding Us Back 38:37

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Send us a text Shame: Holding Us Back Shame is something I’ve struggled with—and I know I’m not alone. It’s that awful feeling that makes us believe we’re fundamentally flawed, not just that we’ve made a mistake, but that we are the mistake. It isolates us, eats away at our confidence, and can even impact our mental health. I wanted to dive into this topic because shame is powerful, but it doesn’t have to control us. Let’s talk about why it’s so toxic and, more importantly, how we can break free from it. Why Shame Is So Damaging 🔹 It Warps How We See Ourselves – Instead of thinking, “I messed up,” shame makes us believe, “I am messed up.” It’s like carrying around a label that says “not good enough.” 🔹 It Pushes Us into Isolation – When we’re ashamed, we fear judgment, so we withdraw. 🔹 It Comes from Internalized Criticism – Sometimes, shame doesn’t even start with us. It comes from voices in our past 🔹 It’s Harder to Process Than Guilt 🔹 It Can Have Serious Mental Health Consequences – Chronic shame is linked to depression, anxiety, addiction, eating disorders, and even suicidal thoughts. Is There a Shame Epidemic? I’ve noticed that shame feels more intense than ever, and I think a lot of it has to do with how our world operates today: 📱 Social Media Magnifies It – Everything we do feels public, and mistakes aren’t just personal anymore—they’re out there for the world to judge. ⚖️ We’re Constantly Comparing Ourselves – The pressure to have a perfect life, body, career, or relationship is overwhelming. 💬 There’s a Stigma Around Mental Health – So many of us feel ashamed for struggling when, in reality, we all go through difficult times. 🌎 Cultural & Societal Pressures Are Huge – Expectations around success, appearance, and behavior can make us feel like we’re never measuring up. 🔥 Cancel Culture & Public Shaming Are Everywhere – The fear of saying or doing the wrong thing can make people feel like they’re walking on eggshells. How I’m Learning to Overcome Shame (And You Can Too) I won’t pretend it’s easy, but I’ve found some things that help: ✅ Identifying the Source ✅ Challenging Negative Self-Talk ✅ Practicing Self-Compassion ✅ Mindfulness & Meditation ✅ Talking to Someone I Trust ✅ Seeking Professional Help ✅ Prioritizing Self-Care ✅ Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations Resources That Have Helped Me 📌 Therapies & Support Groups: Cognitive therapy, 12-step meetings, online communities like Women for Sobriety , journaling, and volunteering have been great tools for healing. 📺 Must-Watch: 15 Minutes of Shame (HBO/MAX) – A documentary that dives deep into public shaming. Watch here . 🎙️ Brené Brown Podcast: Vulnerability, Shame, and Bravery with Koren. Listen here . 📖 Dr. Kristin Neff on Self-Compassion: Her work has changed how I see myself. Learn more at self-compassion.org or watch her talk here . Connect with Us: ● Website: Throw Off the Lines ● Follow us on: Instagram | Facebook Be a Guest: Want to share your story, go to info@throwoffthelines.com.…

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EP 23 The Power of Self Talk: Transforming Your Inner Dialogue 44:43

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Send us a text The Power of Self-Talk: Transforming Your Inner Dialogue In this podcast episode, I dive deep into the power of self-talk and how it can transform your inner dialogue. We'll explore the impact of negative self-talk on our mental health, relationships, and professional life, as well as the benefits of cultivating positive self-talk. I share practical strategies for identifying and reframing negative thoughts, using affirmations, and surrounding yourself with positivity. By the end of this episode, you'll have actionable insights to improve your self-talk and, ultimately, your overall well-being and success. Self-talk is the internal dialogue we have with ourselves throughout the day. It’s the stream of thoughts that runs through our minds, influencing how we perceive ourselves, others, and the world around us. Self-talk can be conscious or subconscious, and it plays a significant role in shaping our emotions, behaviors, and overall mindset. The Impact of Negative Self-Talk Negative self-talk manifests as self-criticism, catastrophizing, and pessimism. Common phrases include: ● "I’m not good enough." ● "I’ll never succeed." Effects on Mental Health: ● Increased anxiety, stress, and depression. Effects on Relationships: ● Reduced confidence, feelings of unworthiness, and inadequacy. Effects on Work and Professional Life: ● Performance suffers due to procrastination, lack of motivation, and burnout from fear of failure. ● Career growth stalls as risks are avoided and opportunities for advancement are missed. The Power of Positive Self-Talk Positive self-talk is encouraging, solution-focused, and self-compassionate. It involves an empowering inner dialogue. Common phrases include: ● "I can learn and grow from this." ● "I’ve handled tough situations before; I can do it again." ● "Mistakes are part of the journey." Benefits for Personal Life: ● Reduced stress, increased resilience, and improved overall well-being. ● Enhanced self-esteem leads to healthier and more authentic connections. ● Greater ability to handle challenges and appreciate relationships. Benefits for Work and Professional Life: ● Enhanced creativity, productivity, and problem-solving abilities. ● Willingness to embrace challenges and learn from feedback. Strategies for Cultivating Positive Self-Talk - We offer ways to combat it. Takeaways Negative self-talk can severely impact our mental health, relationships, and professional life. Start small—make a list of positive affirmations and read them frequently throughout the day. Borrow mantras like “All is Well” to help relax and derail negativity. Remember, “Your inner dialogue is one of the most important conversations you’ll ever have—make it kind, empowering, and inspiring.” Check out our episodes on habits, shame, and change. Little by little, you can build the life you want. Resources: ● What to Say When You Talk to Yourself by Shad Helmstetter ● Podcast with Dr. Helmstetter ● Podcast Episodes on Change, Effort, Shame, and More ● Sign up for Updates and Bonus Material: Throw Off the Lines…

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EP 22: Self Perception and Other's Perspectives 44:43

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Send us a text EP 22: Self Perspective and Other’s Perspectives In this episode looking at contrast between self-perception and others' perspectives. This episode pairs well with Critical Thinking and Self Talk episodes. Self-Perception Definition: How you see, evaluate, and understand yourself. Someone Else's Perspective Definition: How others view, evaluate, and interpret you. How You Can Leverage This Concept Recognize Subjectivity: Action: Pause and remind yourself that their perspective is valid to them, even if it conflicts with yours. Ask Open-Ended Questions Separate Intent from Impact Put Yourself in Their Shoes Be Open to Feedback Reflect on Similarities Avoid Assumptions Steps to Take Pause and Reflect Ask Questions Listen Summarize to Them Respond Thoughtfully Practicing these skills will allow you to foster an emotional connection and break down judgments and assumptions. It also promotes patience and understanding, increases compassion, and builds trust. Additionally, it expands your own understanding, encourages acts of kindness, and helps you see things from their point of view—all foundational parts of healthy relationships and communication. Steps Using Perspective for Empathy Be Curious Listen Actively Acknowledge Their Emotions Imagine Their Experience Respond Thoughtfully Using Perception/Perspective in Business - Deeper customer/client understanding - Uncover underlying needs - Provide better-informed insight - Better frame the conversation for the listener - Build storytelling to fit the situation - Challenge assumptions you may have - Increased customer engagement - Higher perceived value added - Stronger customer conversion/relationships By understanding someone else’s perspective, you strengthen your ability to connect emotionally, reduce conflict, and build stronger, more empathetic relationships. Resources: ● YouTube Ted Talk with Heather Hansen about How Perspective Trumps Empathy ● Leaders Developing Empathy Podcast Episodes on Critical Thinking, Empathy, and Leadership are partners to this episode. Join the Journey: If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey. Connect with Us: ● Website: Throw Off the Lines ● Follow us on: Instagram | Facebook Rate & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration! Be a Guest: Want to share your story? We would love to hear from you at info@throwoffthelines.com.…

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EP 21 Critical Thinking: A Skill We May Be Losing 35:58

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Send us a text EP 21 Critical Thinking: A Skill We May Be Losing In today's world, critical thinking is more essential than ever. It's what makes us exceptional problem solvers. However, factors such as our current political climate, the lasting impact of the pandemic, and the overwhelming use of social media for information have eroded this vital skill. We often don't take the time to fact-check for ourselves, and the lack of open conversations has become the new norm. Our attention is scattered by countless distractions, making it challenging to seek “important” information in bite-sized pieces, which ultimately undermines our ability to think critically. Critical Thinking Skills Include: ● Analysis ● Evaluation ● Problem-solving ● Logical Reasoning ● Creativity ● Reflection ● Open-mindedness ● Decision Making ● Communication Building Critical Thinking Skills: ● Ask Questions: Cultivate curiosity by asking open-ended questions and listening to the speaker. ● Analyze and Evaluate Information: Fact-check information from several sources and remain open to learning. ● Challenge Assumptions: Reflect on your beliefs and assumptions. Explore differing viewpoints to broaden your understanding of a topic. ● Practice Logical Reasoning: Engage in puzzle games, brainteasers, and logic puzzles to build these skills. ● Engage in Reflection: Reflect on your decisions and thought processes. Ask: “What worked well, and why?” “What could I have done differently?” Keep a journal to document your reflections and lessons learned. ● Seek Feedback: Share your thought processes or decisions with trusted individuals. Ask for constructive feedback and be open to criticism to refine your approach. ● Stay Open-Minded: Practice empathy by trying to understand other perspectives and their reasoning. When presented with new information, ask: “Could this change how I see things?” ● Improve Communication Skills: Learn to articulate your thoughts clearly and listen actively. Engage in discussions or debates to practice presenting and defending your ideas. ● Build a Reading and Learning Habit: Read widely across disciplines to expose yourself to different ideas and perspectives. Focus on materials that challenge your thinking, like essays, opinion pieces, or books on philosophy and science. ● Engage in Real-Life Practice: Use your critical thinking in everyday situations: Evaluate news stories for credibility, analyze advertisements for hidden messages, and make well-reasoned decisions about personal or professional challenges. ● Use Tools and Techniques: Leverage tools like mind maps and Socratic questioning. ● Practice Patience: Building critical thinking skills takes time. Be consistent and practice daily, even in small ways. Why Critical Thinking Skills Are Important: ● Improved Decision-Making: They help in making informed, logical choices. ● Problem-Solving Ability: They enable you to tackle challenges effectively. ● Avoiding Biases: They reduce the influence of emotions, assumptions, and stereotypes. ● Lifelong Learning: They foster adaptability and the ability to learn and grow. Thinking Fast<…

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EP 20: Habits - Almost Half of What We Do! 48:50

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Send us a text EP 20: Habits - Almost Half of What We Do! Hey everyone! In this episode, I'm diving into the fascinating world of habits. Did you know that almost half of what we do daily is driven by habits? Let's break it down. What Are Habits? Habits are automatic behaviours triggered by specific cues, requiring minimal thought. Our brains love habits because they save energy and help us move through life efficiently. The Habit Loop (from Atomic Habits by James Clear): Cue – The trigger that starts a habit. Craving – The desire for a specific outcome. Response – The actual habit or behaviour. Reward – The benefit that reinforces the habit. If one step is missing, the habit won't stick. Today, I’ll focus on the habits we already have and how to work on changing them. Why Are Habits Hard to Break? ● They happen automatically, often without us noticing. ● Dopamine reinforces habits by linking them to pleasure. ● Stress can make us fall back on old habits ("I need my coffee!" sound familiar?). ● Environmental triggers, like watching TV and snacking, can reinforce bad habits. The Four Laws of Behaviour Change (James Clear's Approach): Make it Obvious – Adjust your environment to highlight good habits. Make it Attractive – Use rewards or social support to stay motivated. Make it Easy – Remove friction and simplify your goals. Make it Satisfying – Celebrate small wins to keep going. Creating Positive Habits ● Start with a list and set SMART goals. ● Plan ahead and track your progress. ● Stay patient and consistent—habit change takes time. Breaking Bad Habits ● Identify triggers and replace bad habits with healthier ones. ● Use positive reinforcement. ● Seek support from friends or a coach. ● Take small, gradual steps toward change. Mindset Matters True habit change comes from shifting your identity. Instead of saying, "I want to lose weight," say, "I am a healthy person." Embracing discomfort and focusing on progress, not perfection, is key. Neuroplasticity and Habits Our brains are wired for repetition, making habits automatic. The good news? We can rewire these patterns with effort and consistency. Thanks for tuning in today! Keep working on your habits, and as always, have a TOTL day! Resources Mentioned: ● Atomic Habits by James Clear ● Good Habits, Bad Habits by Wendy Wood ● The Science of Making and Breaking Habits by Andrew Huberman: Watch Here ● TOTL EP 2: Embracing Change: Navigating Life’s Transitions Join the Journey: Connect with Us : Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | Facebook Rate & Review : If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration! Be a Guest : Want to share your story? We would love to hear from you at info@throwoffthelines.com .…

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EP 19: Brain Neuroplasticity: My Future Hope 46:55

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Send us a text Brain Neuroplasticity: My Future Hope Why This Topic Matters Neuroplasticity has profound implications for personal growth and health. For me, it’s a powerful tool to overcome the inherited risk of dementia and combat degenerative diseases. Understanding and leveraging neuroplasticity can lead to healthier habits and a more adaptable brain. What is Neuroplasticity? Neuroplasticity is the brain's remarkable ability to form and reorganize synaptic connections, especially in response to learning, experience, or recovery from injury. Key Takeaways on Neuroplasticity & Habit Formation 1. Neural Pathways & Habit Formation ● Repeated actions strengthen neural pathways, making behaviors more automatic over time. ● Habits, whether positive or negative, are formed through repetition. 2. Breaking and Creating Habits ● Breaking bad habits requires consciously weakening old neural connections while building new, positive ones. ● Decision-making areas of the brain, like the prefrontal cortex, play a critical role early in habit formation but become less active as behaviors turn automatic. 3. Factors Influencing Neuroplasticity ● Environment: Diet, stress, sensory input, and hormones shape the brain. ● Practice: Regularly practicing skills helps retain neural changes. Practical Exercises to Enhance Neuroplasticity ● Learn a new language or play an instrument. ● Engage in physical exercise or mindfulness practices. ● Explore puzzles, brain-training games, or creative writing. ● Use your non-dominant hand for daily tasks. Your Action Plan Identify Changes: Reflect on habits or skills you want to improve. Make a Plan: Set clear steps and goals. Revisit & Adjust: Regularly review your progress and refine your approach. Additional Resources ● Podcasts on Neuroplasticity : ○ Podcast on Spotify ○ Podcast on YouTube ● Books by Norman Doige, MD : The Brain That Changes Itself For more insights, check out episodes 10, 12, and 14 of our podcast series. Join the Journey: Connect with Us : Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | Facebook Rate & Review : If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration! Be a Guest : Want to share your story? We would love to hear from you at info@throwoffthelines.com .…

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EP 18 Dating: Be More Successful at Dating 48:16

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Send us a text Dating: How to be More Successful at Dating In today’s episode we cover dating, are you ready and we focus on things to work on. Host Stephanie York shares her experiences and offers tips on how to apply these to your own dating life Key aspects of being ready for dating: ● Self-awareness: Reflect on your past relationships, identify your dealbreakers, and understand what qualities you're looking for in a partner. ● Positive self-esteem: Appreciate your strengths and work on self-improvement where needed. ● Healthy lifestyle: Prioritize your physical and mental well-being through exercise, good nutrition, and stress management. ● Independent life: Have hobbies and social activities outside of dating that bring you joy. ● Open communication: Be able to express your needs and feelings honestly and directly with potential partners. ● Emotional intelligence: Understand your own emotions and be able to navigate the emotions of others. ● Respectful boundaries: Know what you are comfortable with and be able to set clear boundaries in dating interactions. Signs you might not be ready for dating: ● Rebounding from a breakup: Need time to heal and process emotions before starting to date again. ● Using dating to escape loneliness: Seeking validation or a quick fix instead of genuine connection. ● Unresolved baggage: Carrying significant unresolved issues from past relationships. ● Fear of commitment: Avoiding serious relationships or being hesitant to open up. Steps to Prepare for Dating ● Reflect on your goals ● Practice self-care ● Develop healthy coping mechanisms ● Consider therapy ● Be open to new experiences The Four Attachment Styles: Use these to research better ways to heal: Anxious (also referred to as Preoccupied) Avoidant (also referred to as Dismissive) Disorganized (also referred to as Fearful-Avoidant) Secure Key strategies to address an anxious attachment style. Use these as guidelines to research and work on yourself. ● Therapy ● Self-reflection and awareness ● Communication skills ● Self-esteem building ● Mindfulness and relaxation techniques ● Boundary setting ● Challenge negative thoughts ● Seek supportive relationships Join the Journey: If you're ready to manifest a life that is more fulfilling and living your purpose then listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your very own customized life. Connect with Us : Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on…

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EP 17 Emotional Hoarding: Holding Onto Things and Emotions 58:15

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Send us a text EP 17 Emotional Hoarding: Holding Onto Things and Emotions Welcome to this episode, where we dive deep into emotional hoarding—a topic close to my heart. You might be familiar with physical hoarding, where clutter takes over spaces like kitchens or bedrooms. Emotional hoarding works in much the same way but with our feelings. It’s about stockpiling emotions, especially the negative ones, and struggling to let them go. I’ve seen this time and time again in my work with clients. It’s not an easy challenge to overcome, but with patience and the right tools, it’s absolutely possible—and worth the effort. What is Emotional Hoarding? Emotional hoarding is a defense mechanism. It’s about holding onto painful memories, negative self-judgments, or perfectionistic standards that weigh you down. You might even find yourself saving random items—papers, rubber bands, or empty bottles—because they represent something emotional you just can’t release. This can be unconscious but incredibly impactful, leading to anxiety, depression, or strained relationships. I want to share some signs of emotional hoarding with you: ● Prioritizing sorrow over joy. ● Using past pain as a shield from present-day dangers. ● Struggling with discarding anything, even when it doesn’t serve you. ● Forming intense emotional attachments to objects. If any of these resonate with you, know you’re not alone. How Do We Address Emotional Hoarding? Here’s what I know: We can’t tackle external challenges effectively if we don’t first take care of what’s happening inside. I’ve learned this for myself and seen it in the lives of my clients. Let’s focus on taking small, manageable steps: Seek professional help if you’re feeling overwhelmed. Start small—declutter one drawer, one corner, or one thought. Set realistic goals and use a timer to stay focused. Categorize items and reflect on why you’re holding onto them. Practice mindfulness and decision-making strategies. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem. Change is hard, but it’s not impossible. Trust me when I say this—it’s about working with the flow of change, not resisting it. What’s Next? As we step into a new year, it’s natural to feel overwhelmed by everything happening in the world. But remember, the most important work starts within. Let’s make a plan to jump into any big piles—physical or emotional—and tackle them, one step at a time. Make it a habit to set an intention for your day and follow through. It’s comforting to stick to old habits, but true growth comes from stepping out of that comfort zone. This work isn’t easy, but it’s the foundation for real, lasting change. If you’re looking for more inspiration, I recommend revisiting these episodes: ● Ep 2: Change ● Ep 10: Resilience ● Ep 11: Dr. Lisa Smith – Meaningful Life You can do this. Let’s work together to release the weight of emotional hoarding and embrace the freedom and joy that comes with letting go. Join the Journey: If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey. Connect with Us : Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | Facebook Rate & Review : If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration! Be a Guest :…

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EP 16 Making Friends: Get Meaningful Connections In Your Life 36:49

15 weeks ago36:49

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Send us a text Making Friends: Get Meaningful Connections In Your Life This episode covers something important to all of us, friends. So many people today are struggling with loneliness, lack of connection, and feeling stuck when it comes to making friends. This episode is intended to help you create a plan to find new connections and live a more fulfilling life through having other people to connect with. So let’s jump in and see how we do it. Time Stamps: ● 01:13 – "We need to have more connection and less isolation. Not just finding someone to love but beyond." ● 04:40 – "You need to put some effort into it to make any relationship work, both personally and professionally." ● 10:05 – "When you make new friends, you can then make additional friends from their circles." ● 15:30 – "I don’t want you to be afraid of not knowing what to do. I want you to have steps, tips, and ideas." ● 20:32 – "Start to set up scenarios. You can start a conversation. Think before you go to an event: What are three things about yourself you want to share with somebody else?" ● 28:25 – "Exchanging that contact information sets you up to be able to develop that relationship." ● 30:47 – "People are attracted to happy people." Here are some tips for making friends : ● Start a conversation: Share something about yourself, and ask open-ended questions to encourage the other person to open up. ● Be a good listener: Make eye contact, smile, and show interest in what the other person has to say. ● Be open: Share small, personal things about yourself to give the other person permission to be open with you. ● Do a small favor: Small acts of kindness can lead to intimacy and connection. ● Stay in touch: Exchange numbers and call or message the other person later. Ask if they'd like to get together again. ● Join a club: Clubs are a great way to meet people with similar interests. ● Join a Meetup group: Attend Meetup events for your hobbies to meet like-minded people. ● Accept invitations: If someone invites you to do something, try to make it happen. ● Volunteer: Helping others can make people feel good and more open and positive. ● Build confidence: Wear something that makes you feel comfortable in your own skin. Join the Journey: If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey. Connect with Us : Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | Facebook Rate & Review : If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration! Be a Guest : Want to share your story with us? Email at info@throwoffthelines.com…

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EP 15 SAD: Seasonal Affective Disorder and Managing it's Effects 34:25

16 weeks ago34:25

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Send us a text (SAD) Seasonal Affective Disorder In this episode, we explore Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and practical strategies to manage it during the winter months. SAD can impact mood, energy, and motivation, but with the right approaches, it can be managed effectively. Takeaways: ● Light Therapy: Using a sunlight-mimicking lamp can help alleviate symptoms of SAD by compensating for the lack of natural sunlight. ● Exercise: Aim for at least 30 minutes of physical activity three times a week to boost mood and energy. ● Nutrition: A balanced diet rich in vegetables, lean protein, and healthy fats supports mental health and overall well-being. ● Socializing: Stay connected with friends and family. Regular social interaction, even virtually, can help reduce feelings of isolation. ● Professional Help: If symptoms worsen, seek therapy or medication with the guidance of a healthcare provider. ● St. John’s Wort: This natural supplement can be helpful for mild depression. However, consult a doctor before use to ensure it's right for you. Actionable Tips: ● Begin light therapy and establish a regular exercise routine before winter hits. ● Focus on healthy nutrition and reduce sugar intake to help manage energy levels. ● Commit to regular social activities, even virtually, to stay connected. ● If needed, consult a mental health professional for therapy or medication. Take control of your mental health this winter by applying these strategies to manage SAD and improve your well-being. Join the Journey: If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey. Connect with Us : Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | Facebook Rate & Review : If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration! Be a Guest : Want to share your story? Email us at info@throwoffthelines.com…

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EP 14: Thriving: Having a Growth Mindset in Changing Times 43:20

17 weeks ago43:20

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Send us a text Thriving: Having a growth Mindset in Challenging times Episode Summary: In this episode, we explore how to move from surviving life’s challenges to thriving. We discuss practical steps for embracing resilience, emotional regulation, and mindfulness, along with the importance of self-care, adaptability, and community. Learn how to shift your mindset and create a life of growth and fulfillment. Key Takeaways: ● Surviving vs. Thriving: Surviving is about getting by; thriving is about growing through challenges. ● Resilience & Adaptability: Learn to bounce back and adapt to change, seeing adversity as an opportunity for growth. ● Self-Care & Routine: Regular routines, self-care, and saying "no" to things that drain you help you thrive. ● Overcoming Uncertainty: Embrace change and focus on solutions rather than fear or stress. ● Goal Setting: Set SMART goals and celebrate your progress to stay motivated. Listen to our episode on Effort to learn how to use SMART goals in your life and work. ● Gratitude & Empathy: Practice gratitude daily and build strong connections with others. Actionable Tips: ● Practice mindfulness and emotional regulation. ● Set SMART goals to stay focused and motivated. ● Maintain a healthy routine for physical and mental well-being. ● Celebrate small wins and practice gratitude to shift your mindset. Join the Journey: If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey. Connect with Us : Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | Facebook Rate & Review : If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration! Be a Guest : Want to share us? Send a message to info@throwoffthelines.com…

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EP 13: Amanda York: Eliminate Self Doubt One Step at a Time 37:03

18 weeks ago37:03