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Brewing Reflections

I was recently talking to a good friend of mine who was sharing something personal with me and I was so engrossed in what she was saying When she completed the story and looked at me I just shook my head, and said everything will be fine. No opinion or advice and I left the conversation at that. A little later I found myself wondering why I didn’t say anything? Usually I expect myself to be someone giving extraordinary advice or some fresh perspective and I had nothing to say. I was almost feeling bad that I could not keep up with my expectations.
She called me just a little while later saying it felt nice talking to you I feel like I have offloaded something. Feels lighter and thanks so much for listening to me. Ah now I understand, that’s truly listening to someone without trying to draw parallels in the head.
That struck me. Active listening is not merely hearing people talk, it is being present, being involved feeling all the things they are saying heartfully and also like a sponge absorbing everything quietly.
This has been a journey of personal growth, allowing me to be wholly present for someone else without immediately injecting my perspective. Understanding that everyone has a unique journey, I have come to appreciate that not every conversation requires my input.
It is about building connections grounded in understanding, free from the constant comparison of experiences. Let us make an effort to be active listeners, radiate positive energy, and nurture an environment where everyone feels heard and valued. Sometimes, a quiet listen can be more powerful than spoken words.
I leave you with your cup of coffee and this though to ponder over today. You never know what door it might open for you!
Music: Memory
Musician: Xuxiao