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Episode #4: Control and Criticism Leads to Disappointment & Disconnection
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In this solo episode of Caitlin's Couch, I am breaking down how a partnership is NOT about two people doing things the same way. A partnership is about two people showing up, supporting each other and accepting each other in their differences.
Your partner does not have to do everything your way. They are human with their own quirks and habits. It’s important to loosen your grip on control, judgment and criticism.
If your partner doesn’t do something your way, even after asking them to, it doesn’t mean that they don't care for you.
A relationship is built on communication and it’s important to learn to give criticism from a loving and respectful place, and, to receive criticism in a way that makes it useful to you.
Chew on that criticism and think to yourself “how much, if any, can I take from this and grow from?”
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT
- How being controlling is actually keeping you from getting your needs met
- Why taking ownership of your judgements is key to being less controlling and critical
- How to get your needs met without using criticism
- How to receive criticism in a useful way
SOCIAL MEDIA + QUOTES
- “You don’t feel good when you’re in a state of being critical”
- “Your right way is not EVERYBODY’s right way”
- “Take ownership of your anger”
- “The person who is more critical and controlling, feels like in some ways, they are the victim in the relationship”
- “Maybe I think that my way is better, but really it's just better for me”
- “With control comes criticism and judgement”
- “Essentially, you can say anything in a relationship if you say it from a place of love and respect”
- “I like things to be done my way and that is not my partners problem, it is my problem”
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