Ep. 32: How's Your Ego Holds You From Your True Purpose

Career Design Podcast

Ep. 32: How's Your Ego Holds You From Your True Success

Lindsay 00:00

I'm Lindsay Mustain and this is the career design podcast made for driven ambitious square pegs and round holes type professionals who see things differently and challenge the status quo. We obliterate obstacles and unlock hidden pathways to overcome and succeed where others have not stagnation feels like death. And we are unwilling to compromise our integrity and settle for being average in any way. We are the backbone of any successful business and those who overlook our potential are doomed to a slow demise. We do work that truly matters aligns with our purpose, and in turn, we make our lasting mark on the world. We are the dreamers, doers, legends, and visionaries who are called to make our most meaningful contribution and love what we do.

Lindsay 00:43

I've spent a lot of time reflecting this week, because this day, four years ago, I actually am at the very last moment of me taking a pause after deciding to leave Amazon. And before I officially dove into my business talent paradigm, let me take you to this moment.

Lindsay 01:04
I walked away from everything, I walked away from everything. When I left Amazon, I left all security and safety, I left being the breadwinner. But I had reached that point in my career in my existence, in my experience, where I could no longer be willing to put my purpose on hold to appease my ego is the best way to describe it. And what I mean by that is the ego has its own place, the ego is here to help you survive. But the ego doesn't always keep you expanded. And what I mean by that is its kind of like your family, your ego is the family that you have your family's job is not to provide for you but to protect you. And the ego does that same thing where it says, Hey, play safe, play small because then you're valued, then you know, you're okay. And you're not risking anything. And we can continue to live in this world where everything is just fine, and you're doing the best you can. And then there is your higher self. And your higher self says, Yeah, you're playing small, you have a light inside of you that is meant to be not just this flicker, but it's a bonfire. And you're extinguishing it because you believe in the ego. And the ego keeps you safe, and therefore small. So at this moment, I'm in this break between I left Amazon, and I gave myself two days, because I'm Type A, I want to drive. I want to get things done. Hello, ego Hello, humanity. I spent two days getting my time together. So I could go all into the talent paradigm. Here's where I was at this moment. I knew I couldn't do it anymore. Because at some point your body is in physical health, your mental health, your emotional health, your universal abundance, health will be sacrificed because of the ego. And I spent time now realizing I had no idea what I was doing. I had no idea what I was doing. I had no idea what I was doing. But I knew I couldn't do what I was doing anymore. I was at the point where whether it looked like it from the outside or not, I was hemorrhaging. I was bleeding my purpose. And it was going nowhere. It was going nowhere. Because I kept going into work. And I was selling my soul for a paycheck. I was selling myself for a paycheck. And that's when things when I reached that point where I got so angry that I realized I had given myself permission to walk away from safety. I'd given myself permission to walk away from safety. And you have done this in your life, you have abandoned the old to create the new, the greatest change engine your life. While it may sometimes have come from the external, typically, we're the ones who invite that change in we choose to make a change even though we want the ego, in particular, wants stability and security and consistency but as a human, you have a core mean for variety, for change for expansion. And so we tend to whether or not we want to admit it to burn things up and choose to do something different. And I had done that I had decided now and stuck with my decision to walk away from safety and security. So at this moment, four years ago, I want to go back to what I was feeling what I was thinking, and then I want to take you on a timeline of where I'm at today. I was thinking I have no idea what I'm doing. But I know I can't do this anymore. And you may have reached that in your job in your relationships, you may have reached out with your financial stability. These tend to be the three areas where I see that. And you may have said, Enough is enough. Enough is enough. How long am I willing to tolerate it? How long am I willing to tolerate this reality. And the only way for me to do something about it is no longer to flow by but to change. And we are in that passenger status of believing that this vehicle of your life is driven by somebody else. And the only thing you have to do is get out of the car and get in the driver's seat. That's what I was in. And so I had no idea what I would do, except I knew that I could help people find their ideal career opportunity. I knew it, I knew it, I knew it.

Lindsay 05:53

And I didn't know the how I didn't know the how. But I trusted myself enough to believe that I could figure it out that I had enough resources, enough drive enough belief in myself that I was capable, more than anybody else. And that's the person who you're really looking for the approval of is really you. Because you might look for it externally. But the truth is all the answers that you need are inside of you right now, whether or not you know it, there's going to be a seed of you. Let's go. So yeah, that's actually accurate, stop looking for external validation, you just need to look inside a little bit more. And that was what had changed for me. So in a snap, I changed my mind. And I decided to go head into the talent paradigm. Now I'm not gonna say again, it's sunshine and rainbows It was not always easy. But when you start tapping into your purpose, my favorite book is called the alchemist. It says all the universe conspires for your success. And in that month, I did more than I would make in three months, even though I had no idea what I was doing. I had no idea what I was doing. And here's the deal. When you start to stand in your power, when you start to stand in your purpose, when you start to combine what I talked about in career power, passion, purpose, pursuit, and profitability, those things happen, it becomes this virtuous cycle where I stand in what I'm supposed to do. I put it out into the world, I'd be off, I'm authentically me. I'm exactly who I am today and in turn, we magnetize opportunities, people, we bring in wealth, and that happens through you standing in your purpose. So when I'm talking about dream jobs, and yes, I want you to have that most of the time that people I'm talking about, this is a destination, a temporary one, it's not the final destination, it's not the point where they're supposed to end up. It's one of the many pathways. And what I mean by that is that all roads will take you to your future. It's whether or not you choose to make the climb, whether or not you choose to float along, or you choose to do the work to create the future that you really want, the end is always going to be the end. And that's the end when your body no longer has another breath in it. Okay, so we're all going towards that destination. So you have a journey here, and you get to choose what you do now. So the message for you today is what journey are you choosing? What journey Do you want for yourself? Are you okay tolerating, are you okay treating your purpose? Like it doesn't matter? Are you okay with the ego keeping you small, because those things have to be realized in order for you to burn what you believe to the ground, you have to be willing to do something anew to become who you were meant to be? And it's like the idea of a Phoenix, you're going to combust, you are going to burn to ashes, and you will rise again. But the thing they don't know about the Phoenix is that that flame is because the Phoenix wants it. And inside of you, the same thing happens. So it is your turn now to choose to be the light to choose your future to choose a timeline, where you get to be everything that you ever wanted. And that's in every capacity of your life. And the way you do that is by intentionally designing your life and it begins with your occupation. It begins with your purpose begins by tapping into your reason for being on this planet. If this makes sense to you, then I want to hear from you. Let me know I want to hear from you. Just send me a message and I want to find out what is your purpose. What is your reason for being? What do you know and even if it's not, I don't have this clear picture. Neither did I that's perfect. Just tell me here's what I want to create in my life, and I can help you get there. I'll see you on the other side.