How to Reverse Parental Alienation Without Court Intervention

Divorce Matters

Ginger Gentile. I'm the Erase child whisperer and I discuss parental alienation

Mark Fidelman and Ginger discussed strategies for dealing with parental alienation, including understanding love languages and acknowledging past trauma.

Ginger shared her personal experience of estrangement from their father and the impact it had on their life. The group also discussed the prevalence of narcissistic abuse and alienation in divorce cases, emphasizing the importance of identifying narcissistic traits early on and taking steps to protect oneself.

Ginger also highlighted the importance of learning how to communicate effectively with high conflict people in personal and professional settings, including identifying triggers, healing inner child wounds, and developing a new skill set for communicating with empathy, firmness, and informativeness.

Outline Parental alienation and high conflict divorce with a personal story.

• Ginger Gentile shares her experience with parental alienation and high conflict divorce.
• Speaker estranged from father after parents' divorce and subsequent parental alienation.

Intergenerational trauma and alienation in families.

• Ginger revealed that their parents had 50/50 custody, but their mother accused their father of domestic violence and sought more child support.
• Ginger believes that their parents' behavior was informed by their own love languages, with abuse being one of them.
• Reconciling with estranged parents can be challenging, but it's possible with effort and support.

Parental alienation and its impact on children.

• Ginger reflects on their parents' divorce and alienation, recognizing the nuanced complexity of the situation.
• Ginger made a film about parental alienation, realizing it was about their own life after hanging up on their dad multiple times during filmmaking.
• Ginger researched the topic by talking to parents and kids, including those on social media, to understand the impact of alienation on families.

Parental alienation documentary and its impact on kids.

• Ginger raised half a million dollars for their documentary by changing their fundraising pitch from "thank you for coming" to "give me money or the film won't happen and you'll never see your kids again."
• Mark Fidelman and Ginger agree that the documentary has raised awareness about parental alienation and its impact on children.
• They suggest strategically showing the film to judges, lawyers, and psychologists to bring about change.

How to reconnect with alienated children without court involvement.

• Ginger jokes about doing anything to see their kids, including hosting a free screening of a film in a library, but acknowledges that parents who are serious about reunification may not be willing to take such actions.
• Ginger and Mark Fidelman discuss the challenges of getting back into a child's life when the child has been alienated by a parent, with Ginger emphasizing the importance of taking a proactive approach to reunification.
• Ginger worked with a father to approach a court case non-confrontationally, resulting in overnights with his daughter without going to court.
• Ginger helped the father see an opportunity to connect with his daughter instead of viewing it as a right, leading to a peaceful resolution.

Strategies for dealing with parental alienation in court.

• Mark Fidelman suggests detaching from the alienator's reactions and using new communication methods to address the issue.
• Ginger advises parents to act quickly if they suspect alienation, as courts can take years to resolve the issue.
• Ginger warns that lawyers may give false odds of winning, and some outcomes may be impossible to achieve in family court.

Strategies for coping with alienation in children.

• Ginger suggests that instead of trying to change the alienator, parents should focus on changing their own behavior to stop the alienation.
• The speaker advises parents to use sweet talking and attention-seeking tactics to manipulate the alienator into changing their behavior.
• Ginger helps parents who are alienated from their children by teaching them how to communicate effectively and rebuild their relationships.
• Ginger's approach involves understanding the root cause of the alienation, letting go of anger and trauma, and learning how to message and communicate clearly.

How to identify and avoid narcissistic partners in relationships.

• Mark Fidelman expresses frustration with family court system and its handling of parental alienation.
• Ginger advises against marrying someone who is likely to alienate you due to their narcissistic tendencies.
• Heal inner child, identify triggers, and develop communication skills to prevent alienation.
• Learn to communicate with high conflict people using friendly, firm, and informative language.

Parental alienation and how to reunite with alienated kids.

• Speaker provides free resources, including a film and training course, to help parents reunite with their alienated kids.
• Speaker offers personalized coaching and a community forum for ongoing support.
• Mark Fidelman and Ginger discuss the challenges of alienation in divorce and the importance of staying out of court.
• Ginger shares her personal experience of being alienated and offers advice on how to reunite with one's children.