Continuing to Learn

F*CK'N AUTHENTIC

In this episode, Nancy I got into how fast time flies as you get older. Seems like just yesterday we were kids, now the holidays are already here again. The years go by quicker when you're stuck in repetition instead of learning and experiencing new things. I need to start doing more exciting stuff if I want to slow down Father Time.

That led into how we get aggravated at people not meeting our expectations. But our expectations are just something we made up in our heads. People are not going to understand where we're coming from if we don't take the time to understand them. We're all going through our own sh*t every minute of the day. I can't expect someone to just automatically know what I want them to do. Gotta be more specific in my communication if I want different results.
My perspective and experiences aren’t universal. If I keep treating people based on my expectations instead of who they really are, I'm just going to end up pissed off and pushing them away. Time to rethink this egocentric nonsense.

One example is how I thought I was raising my son to be happy and healthy, the opposite of my childhood. But then we were told he's traumatized and I couldn't understand it. Had to realize he's his own person who went through things I'm not aware of. My expectations of being a good dad didn't match up with his reality. That was a tough pill to swallow but it helped me become more open-minded.

Overall, we got to stop assuming everyone should inherently understand us and do things our way. They’re on their own path. Best thing is to share, listen and try to understand each other's perspectives. Easier said than done when you been through real shit and had to figure life out on your own. But staying closed off with expectations, assumptions and ego will just lead to more pain. Time to peel back the layers and connect as human beings.

Timeline Summary:

[00:50] How time passes quicker when you get older.

[02:22] Backing cars into each other shows being on autopilot.

[04:02] Our expectations have alienated people.

[07:13] Getting aggravated at people not meeting expectations at work.

[13:19] Building walls to avoid dealing with emotions.

[15:37] Expectations lead to disappointment.

[18:58] Can't expect people to inherently understand us.

[20:24] Didn't see my strictness as expectations.

[22:33] Really noticing these patterns now.

[27:08] Importance of human connection.

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