185: Repairing Trust After Infidelity + Rebuilding Love With Master Coach Dee Tozer
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Dee Tozer is a psychologist turned couples coach with over 33 years of experience. Dee shares her wisdom on the "disapproval effect" in relationships, highlighting key pivot points where breakdowns occur due to people's unawareness and lack of knowledge. Tune in to gain insights on navigating disapproval and creating a deeper love in your own life.
Golden Nuggets From This Episode:
✨ “A relationship can't thrive with disapproval.”
✨ ”The secret of a good relationship is asking the right questions.”
✨ ”In the moment of crisis, do the best to soothe and settle it.”
✨ ”Men are on the receiving end of the majority of criticism in couples.”
✨ ”You will never, ever go wrong by allowing the other person to be right, unless it's life or death.”
✨ ”Be patient and tolerant, this day and age doesn't give us a lot of.”
✨ ”It's a really good lead in to start with shame because shame, we feel shame because we are rejected.”
✨ "I think we all can take responsibility in some way, even if we weren't the one doing the act."
✨ "It's a long lifetime ahead of shaping, reshaping men, boys to men to be able to say what they want to say."
✨ "Remember that every single person just wants to be loved."
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IG: @couples_master_coach
LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/dee-tozer-couples-master-coach
Facebook: www.Facebook.com/couplestransformationcoach
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@DeeTozer-Couples-Master-
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Timestamps from episode:
- 01:59 The effect of disapproval
- 05:32 Disapproval and rejection
- 09:25 Wedding night gone wrong
- 12:25 Nipping disapproval in the bud
- 15:32 Communication and conflict resolution
- 19:38 Framing up effective communication
- 23:41 Giving up on relationships
- 26:49 Conscious coupling and relationship dynamics
- 30:57 Rebuilding trust after betrayal
- 35:06 Couples repairing after infidelity
- 35:15 Retreat Ad
- 38:07 A crazy story during lockdowns
- 42:57 Changing perception in relationships
- 45:18 Shifting perspectives in communication
- 49:02 Toothbrush storage solutions
- 52:40 Seaweed for a ring
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