45: *Trigger Warning* Relationships - Do I Stay Or Go?

I AM soft Podcast

Trigger Warning - Today's episode we spoke directly about "do I stay or do I go" in a relationship? Now this can be any type of relationship whether a friendship, intimate partner, boss or coworker, or even your relationship with money/material possessions/where you live.

This topic can be triggering for people, especially once we start to see the difference between attachments and love. We often believe we are loving our partner or being loving, yet it's our attachment (or comfort) and holding onto that attachment that starts to appear when we become aware of our inner repeating loops.

When we choose the front door - new expansive experiences as opposed to repeating loops, we start to see, feel, sense and experience love at an authentic love frequency as opposed to gripping onto people and situations.

So what's the front door?

We introduced the front door analogy as a visual we can hold in our mind when we are at the same crossroads again. The crossroad is the point we loop back to. We often, at this exact point, choose a known familiar like the back or side door such as empty promises, unchanged behaviour, repeating patterns, empty future promises, apologies that were just empty words just because we know that route so well.

Once we no longer wish to repeat the pattern, we find ourselves back at the same crossroads either with the same partner or a different partner, but same pattern. This awareness is everything! It's a big transition and celebration point.

The relationship itself at this crossroad is a symptom...not the problem yet we often try to mend the relationship, work on the relationship, blame communication or other issues, or go to therapy to try to make it "work". However, the real core wound is sitting at the crossroad to guide us WITHIN to ourselves. Not the other person. The cross road is a call to focus within. Most times, we choose the other person at this exact point or we go to well meaning friends or family to ask "what do you think".

The greatest gift at this point is YOU! Your own voice. You can't hear your inner voice when you ask your friends...you only get their inner voice.

This crossroad changes everything going forward when we can build the muscle of listening to our own inner voice (no matter how scary that sounds) and no longer open the back and side doors to misalignment. Your whole energy field changes, so only vibrational matches to you start to come through the front door.

The Front Door analogy allows us to see how important alignment is to us. Misaligned people, situations and relationships will drop away as they only keep you in the repeating loop vibration...the one you closed the door to.

From this space, we can trust and know within that the partner you are meant to be with will walk through the front door. Even if it's the same partner you repeated loops with in the past, they will ONLY stay in your field if they come through the front door vibration. You'll know it because of your alignment within (not by focusing on them. If we only count on looking for red flags, we've missed our alignment/inner voice).

So when we ask ourselves "should I stay or go in the relationship" or question whether this relationship is working?...what we are really asking is "should I stay or go to myself. Is the relationship with myself working?".

This crossroad brought you to back into your aligned self. Welcome yourself back with a smile and hug. Now with awareness and clarity, we get to make different choices to change the repeating pattern and we get to walk along our life pathway with our tool belt of wisdom and discernment.

Can you hear the knocking? The authentic love frequency is at the front door. Will you answer it?

Stay soft, stay gentle, stay kind.

With and open and grateful heart,

Melissa