The Futility of Fixing Stupid - Navigating Toxic Relationships

I4L, Tips to Greatness: Navigating Life with Insightful Information (T2G Series)

Join us in 'Information for Life - Insights and Ideas to Navigate Your World' as we delve into 'The Futility of Fixing Stupid: Navigating Toxic Relationships.' Host Daniel Boyd guides us through the perplexing world of toxic relationships, exploring why some repeatedly find themselves in these harmful dynamics. We examine attachment styles, self-esteem issues, learned helplessness, and repetition compulsion, offering insights into recognizing and breaking free from these cycles. This episode is not just about identifying problems but also about finding pathways to healthier emotional connections.
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Festinger, L. (1957). A theory of cognitive dissonance. (pp. xi, 291). Stanford University Press.
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M.D, D. J. S., & Ph.D, M. F. S. (Eds.). (2003). Healing Trauma: Attachment, Mind, Body and Brain (1st edition). W. W. Norton & Company.
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Rice, J., McTernan, M., & Cordova, J. (2023). The influence of relationship pattern labeling on intimacy, acceptance, and relationship satisfaction. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 49(2), 317–332. https://doi.org/10.1111/jmft.12623
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Chapters

1. The Futility of Fixing Toxic Relationships (00:00:12)

2. Recognizing and Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns (00:07:44)

3. Transforming Relationships (00:20:11)