#78 - 👩‍✈️🚢🛤👤 How to get away from being a people pleaser? - Maddi Dethlefsen

Joseph Wieduwilt - What's YOUR perspective?

👥🙏➡️🤗❌👤💡Todays interview partner Maddi, has been a people pleaser for a very long time, and chose what ever made other people happy over my own actual interests.
Why would someone do that? Well, it can sometimes be very tought to dismantle that behaviour, as it became like an automated mechanism, especially during highschool.

👣🛤🤔📹🗣🧐Having gone through that journey, she decided to start a Video project facing that urge, to please others, rather than doing things, that would please her. As a result it has brought attention to a lot of people, who spoke up to her and started to relate to her story and position, which was surprising, as she thought it was only something she was concerned with.

🤬➡️👥🌎She quickly realized, that this seems to be an issue that is very deeply anchored in our society. Just to give a few examples for Maddi that way of people pleasing in highshcool meant:

👗👁👍/🎵/👩‍⚖️"The way she dressed, the way she was acting, the interests she had, the music she was listening to, the carrier choices that she was aiming for" --> none of the ways she was following actually represented what she was feeling, and what choices she would have taken if she just followed her own ideas.

🥱➡️😬🤕It sounds easy, but it takes a lot of currage to live up to your own dreams, as you expose a lot of voulnerabilaty.

👥🤏📲-->🤯As this matter of following societies expectations seems to be a big issue, especially paired up with social media exposure, we dove into the following quetions which might be very interesting.
They will help you especially if you sometimes have the feeling that you are not sure if you are following what you want, or if you are following what others are expecting from you:

⏳🔀How and when did you realize that you needed to change?

🤔➡️👥👍➡️✅How people seem to get into this thinking of external approval?

🔎👤💎How to analyse and set you own values?

🏫➡️🤼‍♀️🏃‍♂️The effect, of social tiers in highschool, and how students seem to chase for their place.

😧➡️🔀The influences which made her reconsider herself.

🤔📭🧠How to keep an open mind towards growth.

🗣❓🤔The main question everybody should ask themselves, if they did not do it already.

✖️💥➡️👤What can be initiating factors for going on that journey of getting closer to yourself?

💡🔥🎙👱‍♀️💗👱‍♀️This inspiring interview from Maddi is a very nice and personal report on that journey towards finding herself, selflove, and the inner strength. It is definitely something everyone who currently is in highschool, or who just left it, should listen to.

🙏👏👌➡️📈Thank you for your support, and all the best for overcoming your current challenges and reching your goals.

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