MTS#16, Jane Tor, on values, healing and why the fabric of our consciousness is love

Mr. Tok Show

Jane is a digital nomad, working on a full time job on the go, at various countries.
After going through a divorce, she decided to prioritise her mental well-being, healing and finding herself again. She needed space to heal from her trauma, and started traveling in the initial stages of the pandemic.
Jane and I discussed the concept of love, what it means to be Chinese, ego, her parents' parenting style, marriage, and what my biggest worry in life is. It was nearly a therapy session for me.
She is inviting anyone who can resonate with her to get in touch. She has set out to be of service to others, by sharing her experiences and thoughts. If you would like to get in touch with her, please do so!
Write to Jane!
DM her & follow her journey on IG: https://www.instagram.com/janetoryl/
Connect on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/janetor/
Watch her on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@janetoryl?lang=en
Timestamps
0:00 Next Destination
1:11 Does Singapore feel Different with Eased COVID-19 Restrictions?
2:42 Countries she Traveled to the 2 Years/What's Society?
5:52 Society vs. Community
7:23 On Conflict, Misunderstandings, & Ego/The Truth Hurts
9:14 Tech in Communication/Different Communication Modes
10:00 Views on Asian Expectations/How do we Identify as Chinese?
15:31 Jane's Upbringing & Family's Culture
17:35 On Filial Piety/The Various Identities we Hold
19:27 Ego Standing in the Way of Communication
21:03 Dealing with Stubborn People
21:33 Biggest "Disagreement" with Parents; Religious Faith
24:51 What is Love? What does it Mean we are all Made of Love?
29:18 Taking Calculated Risk during her Travels
30:59 First Traveling to Mexico in 2020 and Finding a Place to Heal
33:55 JJ's Backpacking Experience
36:30 Expectations Leaving Singapore
38:00 Mental Health/State Initially
39:21 The Pain Jane was Suffering
42:00 Knowing Someone Before Marriage
45:55 On Hurt
47:00 Marriage Advice/Is there a Common Vision & Future?
48:00 On Marriage
52:30 On Interpersonal Relationships
56:35 On Truth
57:10 Jane's Change in the last 2 Years/Being our Authentic Self
59:26 How do we not "Hurt" People?
1:01:08 Dealing with Criticisms
1:03:47 Digital Nomad vs. Getting Posted Overseas as CEO of a Big Bank
1:06:17 Do her Parents Worry about her Lifestyle as a Digital Nomad?
1:11:11 Are her Parents Unique in their Thinking?
1:13:20 How do we Change our Parents' Perspective of Us?
1:14:45 Her Blog/Her Thinking Process/On Intentions
1:17:32 Jane's Intention to be of Service to People/What's Troubling JJ
1:23:28 On Indulging in Durians
1:29:26 Meeting Expectations in Life & On Disappointment
1:32:14 Be Aware & Pick your Emotions
1:32:57 On Stress & Retirement
1:35:35 Relationship with Singapore
1:38:30 Enjoying the Ocean/Favourite City
1:41:43 How does she Intend to be of Service to Others?
1:42:45 How to Heal?/The Benefits of Therapy
1:46:01 It's in our Capacity to Change & Learn & Improve
1:49:22 On being of Service to Others
1:50:59 Is it Difficult for Jane to Find & Accept Romance Again?
1:55:23 How does Jane Sets her Intentions?
1:57:16 "We Pick the Battles we Think we can Win"/On Regrets
1:59:41 On being Woke
2:01:00 Jane's Open Invitation to get in Touch
2:03:28 Outro